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Open Thread #888

Happy Friday everyone!

Here is your Open Thread, which is here for you to chat about anything you want, whether it be drama-related or not. Nothing’s off-topic here! Spoilers may be rife, so proceed accordingly.

 
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huh so Im preparing for some folklore presentation, Estonia + Korea
but just hi

placeholder. c u later

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sooo we talked about demons and monsters and there were quite many people but our star power is not as great as some others so only 13 people ( but an appropriate number) and it was book related sooo... next time I hope to share a clip we made, you won´t understand the language but you can see me getting hit by a book.

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Oh no! Is there a book-throwing demon in Estonian folklore?

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I see this is OT #888. An auspicious number!

If the DB founders and minions have put one of these up every week...that makes for 17 years of OT.

What was life even like 17 years ago?

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17 years ago I hadn't discovered K anything.

And it was all U.S. and UK entertainment for me.

Glad I discovered K stuff now.

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Given the option to go back to visit 17 years ago, I would run as far as possible in the other direction! Not at all a time in my life I would care to revisit.

But occasionally I hear people started blogs that became communities that are still relevant 17 years later 😁

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I don't know. I have only been here since Open Thread #129.

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I meant "life." You know, "life in the world and with you," not life-as-Dramabeans. 😘

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I know! I was just low-key bragging about being here since #129! 😂

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I'm having tremendous emoji difficulties today. I'll use my words.

**respect for your longevity** ;)

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@attiton 😂🫰

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You just blew my mind 🤯
I don’t mean this in a boastful/bragging manner, but I’ve been with Dramabeans since it first started (give or take a few months after its initial launch, but definitely within a 6 month window).

OH MY KITTEN HAS IT REALLY BEEN THAT LONG???? Ahhhh 🤯🤯🤯

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Also, kudos to you for doing math on a Friday (Saturday ?? Depending on which part of the world you’re in 😂)

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I was like, getting ready to start elementary school. LMAO No kdramas on sight back then. It took me another three years to discover them. And at that time my sis would read all these blogs and share all the info/gossip with me.
Then I got here like a decade later when my English was less crappy.

I will never forget my sis translating all the comments from Cheese in the Trap, and talking about the theories about the title and the BTS drama with the actors and PD...

DB thanks for everything! For another 17 years? 🥂 🙈

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NOTES FROM 9TAILEDVIXEN'S 3RD WEEK OF OCTOBER 2024:

What the heck?! How is the year flying past so quickly?

Nothing new on the life front as Domestic Violence Awareness Month is marching onwards and work is just busy, busy, busy.

Aerial Yoga is just progressing as always - we did some hilarious Halloween poses as ghosts using the silk hammocks and I did a little fairy pose during which my teacher rushed off to help another classmate who was dangling and left me sitting halfway to the ceiling with just the silks locked around both my thighs to support me. Needless to say I had no feeling in them for a while...

This Week in Korean Women's News:

1. Pioneering Korean women embrace Web3 opportunities

Web3 businesses are companies that leverage blockchain technology to create decentralized applications and services. 6 Korean women interviewed by The Korea Times found advantages in Web3. Some appreciated working in a cutting-edge industry or the merit-based recognition after struggling with rigid hierarchies, while others valued the flexibility it offers.

The industry’s male-dominated, developer-centric culture poses challenges. According to a Cointelegraph report in 2023, women comprised 26 percent of jobs in the crypto sector and held only 6 percent of leadership roles. According to interviewees, the language used in online forums can sometimes feel harsh and exclusive, making it challenging for women to feel welcomed. Others highlighted that meetups and community events, often held in nightclubs, serve as additional barriers.

https://www.koreatimes.co.kr/www/nation/2024/10/602_384482.html

2. Korea’s patriarchal capitalism has treated women’s care work as a ‘public good,’ says expert

International Association for Feminist Economics President Nancy Folbre, professor emeritus at the University of Massachusetts Amherst and pioneer of care economics remarked that the introduction and development of policies to alleviate the low birth rate in South Korea will be ineffective unless the society’s basic institutional structure is revamped. When inspecting various policies that, despite substantial public investment, failed to make the fertility rate rebound, Folbre commented, “The basic institutional structure linking production and reproduction remains largely unchanged, enforcing strict forms of gender specialization that are not socially sustainable.” A vital change should be made in the basic institutional structure: women’s care should no longer be treated as dispensable public goods.

https://english.hani.co.kr/arti/english_edition/e_national/1164357.html

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I feel like this last point seems so obvious to us on the outside and I wonder if it is as clear to those in power. Do they have no idea what would help the birth rate, or do they know the kinds of changes they could make and just don’t want them?

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Oh, it's clear.

But the intensely patriarchal (and currently Incel-led) South Korean government (and also the Japanese and Chinese governments) don't want to do anything that might jeopardise the patriarchy... except that if the birth rate keeps falling, the patriarchy is hurtling towards literal extinction anyway as the Old Guard die off and younger and more progressive generations replace them.*

*Maybe except for Korea since the angry pitchfork-wavers who put the incel president in power are young men in their 20s to mid-30s who hate feminism and feminists and women so much that one of them brutally attacked a female convenience store employee just because she had short hair because of their stupid belief that short hair is an indicator of feminism. My eyes - they are a-rolling. He's in prison now, though a 3-year sentence is not nearly enough since his attack was so brutal the young woman whom he victimised is now deaf in one ear

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I hear you. Loud and clear. When this kind of stuff starts getting to me, here's what I try to remember:

Nancy Pelosi

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Does it help you, just the fact that she exists? I mean, it's nice that cook women exist. But I still get angry, TBH.

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Of course it helps. She cleaned the clock of a misogynist, in full view of the public, and she's still going at 84. She didn't do this overnight, she had years of practice doing the heavy lifting of local politics, childrearing, running for office, serving on committees, patiently listening to mansplaining along the way. She's not everyone's cup of tea, but she's undeniably a force of nature all in herself.

Everything you do in life where you are walking away having learned something, it pays off. Stay engaged, make a difference. That's the lesson of Nancy Pelosi.

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I've been meaning to read the book she wrote recently. Something about art of power or something. I could use some of that!

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Ugh. These "birthrate" discussions drive me round the bend. I guess other folks can look around the elephant in the room to discuss important issues related to misogynist policies, but I always run smack into the elephant of xenophobia and cannot see anything else. There are plenty of people in the world. We don't need more. 

To me its at a Mel Brooks level of absurdity, this absurd lack of an under-population problem.

There was an interesting segment on a recent You Quiz on the Block episode with "foreigners" who lived in Korea all their lives, one was born in Seoul and had never even visited another country. There were alot of gee-you-sound-and-act-just-like-real-Koreans comments from the hosts. A comment depressingly familiar to my Western ears.

South Korea is hardly the only place in the world tripping over xenophobia and misogyny in their efforts to solve economic issues.

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I read an article about this “Yoo Quiz on the Block” episode and was so grossed out and sad over what the guests had to go through. Like, they JUST told you that they were born AND raised in Korea all their life and have never ever gone anywhere else. How much more clearer can they make it sound to you that they’re NOT foreigners??

Reading that article was the very first time I think I’ve ever been disappointed with something that Yoo Hae Suk has ever done and said 😢

If the Korean people are that surprised about born and raised Koreans-by-nationality but are ethnically different, I wonder not really how they would react and what they would think about ethnically different but Koreans-by-nationality kids who were/are born and raised in Korea with parents whom are in the army and live on a Korean army base. Would the peoples’ attitudes be as problematic towards people whom are serving and protecting their country? 🤔

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I am fairly ignorant on S. Korea's immigration rules. I don't know what is considered a foreigner or a citizen. And I think my own background informs my reaction to some of the words used in that segment.  Overall, I think it was a good discussion to host by such a well-loved personality. It brought all these issues to the fore.

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I thought SK's birthrate was up this year

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I read that somewhere as well.

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I think you’re totally right, Margo, that’s definitely another layer to this problem. I just wish people had the ability to choose whether or not to have children. Right now their choices are being limited by a patriarchal society and misogynist policies (and freaking climate change, but that’s a whole other conversation) and I wish politicians cared about removing the barriers to choice.

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Yeah, I found that kinda when I heard about the Yoo Quiz segment. It made me wonder do I not understand the difference between nationality or ethnicity or do they not haha? Also it made those distinctions seem kinda pointless especially in the case of the person born and raised in SK, hadn't been out of the country, and didn't even speak the other country's language. I think they were identified as Nigerian

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When I first went to South Korea in 2018, I observed its "couple culture" where people went out in pairs or groups. This was in stark contrast of office workers going to work. The pandemic accelerated a change to isolation from social distancing. Six years later, couple culture is not mentioned very often as dating, marriages and birth rates continue to fall.

The Seoul Metropolitan Government this week released a comprehensive plan to support a growing number of Seoul residents struggling with loneliness and social isolation. The initiative, called “Loneliness-Free Seoul,” aims to intervene early to tackle loneliness at its root and prevent people from dying alone, known as “lonely deaths,” which have been rapidly increasing in the city. Over the next five years, the city plans to invest a total of 451.3 billion won ($326 million) to ensure no resident feels alone, according to the city including foreign national residents -- can seek assistance and counseling.

A highlight of this platform is the “Goodbye Loneliness 120” helpline, a dedicated 24-hour hotline for those struggling with being lonely. Set to begin operations in April next year, callers dialing through the 120 Dasan Call Center can connect directly with trained counselors by pressing a specific number. Additionally, there will be follow-up support, such as counseling, on-site visits and emergency interventions, Seoul city officials said.

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Happy Friday, Beanies! Sorry if this entry feels a bit disjointed – it's cold here and my brain doesn't function properly at low temperatures.

We're starting with LYN's appearance on prestigious 15th Golden Eagle TV Art Festival as a guest singer for closing stage – huge honor, you've made it, boy! He attended the event in what fandom dubbed as “mafia boss suit”. There seem to be some hot tea behind it we weren't privy to: he was all smiles during rehearsal, then went back to hotel to get dressed and returned not only styled full gangsta, but also looking like he's about to order someone get beaten up in the back alley lol, to the point of not even bothering to fix his expression, which is a rare sight. Idk who got their head(s) rolling there, but I wouldn't dare to plead for them to THAT face for sure... Spot the “before and after” difference:
https://x.com/Bigsislilred/status/1847915510463418644
https://x.com/bluebailyn/status/1848136051371507777

Performance itself was... okay. This song, “Ideal/Aspiration”, is not bad and probably has nice, uplifting lyrics, but I'm naturally allergic to heavy handed pathos. Him having to sing with a bunch of idol trainees? is not thrilling either. Not to mention I hoped he'll debut one of his OSTs – or at least reprise ADOS one since it was among winners, but nope. Still, we've got some pretty out of it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nxQcNjN8MP8

Turns out he already sang this track before nearly 3 years ago and oh my goodness, that was even worse in terms of “dictatorship propaganda parade” vibes, yikes! When crowd of muggles appeared and started giving speeches we, thankfully, don't have translation of I felt like needing a drink to stomach that – at 5am, mind you... Also lol at his hair and styling – moody triad hottie is such an upgrade, honestly, let's never go back in time again, pls!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PQDucX0OI4Q

Also the same Sunday we had another episode of MELODY JOURNEY, where he sang again to wash away all unpleasant vibes. The track, called “Falling”, is written by composer Sun Wei, author of Yuning's famous LBFAD and YOU ARE MY GLORY OSTs. So, ofc, it was a love song again – not so happy one this time, but mellow and nice as usual. Lyrics are heavily metaphorical – talking about falling leaves seemingly (composer majored in botanics) – but actually having this underlying motive of confusion and helplessness, making the actual meaning being lovers slowly falling apart. Well, give Ning-ge angst, and he'll deliver! Contrast between his rock and pop voices in the same song made an interesting sound. His description of song's mood being “boy standing in the rain under girl's balcony all ignored” sounded oddly specific tho... I live for these fiery red hair highlights, although wtf is this jacket, he's not 8 year old girl lmao!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o-DY8rx2p4M

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Fancam:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fGfVncP2x1s

Spotify link to official audio:
https://open.spotify.com/track/0Y6y8uLxBCNMWJYZ1MsHoH?si=0cad3c6c56df41d5

Last time I promised yall more music, meaning we have to go back to his old covers. Thankfully, these can fill out this playlist for a lifetime))) For example, his take on Wang Tongyu's “Girl”, which sounds nice, but for the life of me I couldn't grasp what its lyrics are about, even with a decent translation. It appears to be sweet serenade to one's girlfriend, but man, such chaotic stream of consciousness would've make James Joyce proud!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_AlMKxVmIoA

Speaking of vague love ballads, there's more of them! Unlike the previous track, this cover of Yoga Lin's “Cruel moonlight”, supposedly from the same day/livestream years ago, is not happy or even hopeful – seems like a particularly painful case of unrequited love where hero is desperate for any crumbs he can get, price or pride be damned... Borderline villainous SML serenade drama OST with that vibe^^
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4zLZYIAaNPQ

And since love angst mood is a highly infectious thing, have one more with Ren Ran's “Empty”. At least this text knows what it's trying to say with hero lamenting over still hurting even a year after breakup. Ning-ge's delivery sounds oddly cheerful for me, idk why – maybe he's embarrassed on protagonist's behalf or just was in too good mood that day. No comments on what he's wearing here – everyone has bad days once in a while, OK?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=slisdcaqggM

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Bonus: not a fan of this photoshoot – awkward poses and he's overly edited, not sure what went wrong here, we've been doing so well in that regard lately. Too bad – the look was fire and deserved proper showcase. Also, what's with piles of books? I love the boy with my whole heart, but he ain't no bookworm))) Give him more fitting props next time and get his fine ass off the tomes – it's disrespectful to literature and makes me feel weird envying paper.
https://www.tumblr.com/stellarflex/764876053259911168

Bonus2: well, based on its vlog model's sour mood certainly was not to blame for mediocre pics above – even annoyed glare couldn't conceal the hotness. In fact, I'd say it only added more spice... Pls, dramagods, let his dream thriller cool villain role happen asap, he's 200% ready for it! And so is my lizard brain
https://x.com/fandoestrans/status/1848340654411100373

Bonus3: and another, longer one! Apparently Yuning himself called this look “security guard” - uhm, babe, where did you see such hot and fashionable guards outside of kdramas?))) Not to mention massive rich bitch vibes. Or was he talking once again about his famous “love bodyguard” nickname? That one's still in repair until someone, not gonna point fingers, finally stops dying in every single drama...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Lgvo3f6nJM

Bonus4: screencaps thread from yesterday's jewelry brand livestream - I just couldn't skip it, the hand etc fetish vibe was too strong! If they put a bit more gold on him, he'd surpass even pharaoh's fave concubine level))) Tho why did they dress him to blend in with the walls...
https://x.com/LYNThailandFC/status/1849480109990048088

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If I was Queen for the Day, I'd fire the dresser who put LYN in red. Just no. Same for white, sanitizes him.

Brown, on the other hand, is a really hard color to pull off. Washes everybody out. Gotta have presence to carry brown, and here we have a rich mink brown on LYN and it's sensational. Kudos to that dresser.

"Falling", given some time and the right arrangement, he can do something with that song. And, he will. Slightly calypso beat of "Empty," like that too.

Next year if he does come out with a live concert schedule, I think he'll regain his mojo. All these "controlled" song appearances like "Golden Eagle" are good exposure but not necessarily characteristic, and somehow he looks like he knows that.

I have been looking forward to this week's postings, Gikata. Thank you for keeping up my spirits! Grateful. Very.

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@cliosservant1846 I still like him the most in blue - he wears it better than anyone I've ever known - but the red itself wasn't bad, just the shape of that jacket (and probably a shade or two darker would've work better - leather shines in richer colors). The singers gang even joked about how he was all tomato - from head to mic)))

Idk about his mojo, but his mood was back to sunshine mode the very next morning. I assume that dagger-like glare did reach its target(s) successfully... or he just needed to sleep it out.

He said he's now just 1 song away from his album release - it was like 3-4 before, progress is being made - so I think we are getting that tour he's been talking so much about somewhere in early 2025 for sure. This is gonna be FUN! Sadly, before that we also surely will have to endure more of those bland obligatory stages for super formal events, esp around New Year period. He's already invited to at least 1 of them - from the same channel that airs MELODY JOURNEY (and his 2 upcoming dramas), so perhaps it won't be too bad after all^^

Btw, show's grand finale is this Sunday and he changes clothes there 3 times, for each performance! I'm hella interested in what you're gonna say about one of these looks^^

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Already adding Falling to my Chinese playlist in Spotify 🤩.

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First time listening to "Falling". This is a beautiful song, imo. Of course also a great performance.

I agree with you about the red hair highlights, they suit him.

Thanks as always!

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All his picks on the show were beautiful so far. Tho half of them was also strongly implied to be written FOR him, but that doesn't make his taste any less great.

It's been a while since he did something this bold to his hair, let alone for TV with its ultra conservative guidelines for male celebs. I mean, I like the overall upgrade of his image lately, but it's gotten a little too proper...

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Totally love that you have so much joy in all of this, from the Melody Journey appearances to the wardrobe hits and misses, album updates, live show schedules, drama premiers etc. Stay fresh, Gikata. We all benefit from your overflowing creative spirit!

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It may be a "when life gives you lemons" situation in my case, but thankfully, I've always loved citruses^^

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One of the youtube reactors I watched said how folks keep recommending him older kdramas, like from the early 2010s I think, and he's like "I welcome and appreciate that but I also want current or newer shows so I'm not just stuck in this 2010s bubble funnel" (or something like that)

And this is the same thing I'm always mentioning cause it always comes to mind; how people act like no kdramas nowadays are good or worthy especially when compared to the past. Folks here have said it was purer time or something. An unregistered poster wrote a whole bunch of comments about it. I still don't get it, to me kdramas are basically the same except the men are a bit more tolerable and the women are stronger, and to each their own but it's just always something when folks act like NOTHING good has come from kdramas changing or evolving in recent years.

Though it is interesting how it's hard to think of modern "iconic" dramas nowadays and I wonder why that is. Like as much as I liked Twinking Watermelon or No Gain No Love, would those shows stand the test of time? Well, maybe Twinkling Watermelon haha

I named No Gain No Love not only because I liked it but because it was fairly different in terms of how it approached family, interpersonal relationships, and its frankness about female sexuality.

I guess this bring me to my next thought of what makes something iconic or withstanding the rest of time?

Oh, Lovely Runner is probably considered a modern soon to be classic (even though it was only alright to me but I digress) along with Business Proposal.

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I do feel like older dramas were more creative with showing meaningful romantic development (examples that come to mind are Greatest Love's use of potatoes, or Master's Sun's use of a necklace). I haven't seen that as much in modern dramas. But, also, these are dramas that have stood the test of time so maybe they're unique.

I also feel like older dramas have more of a slow burn, but that might also come from my place of frustration that modern dramas just aren't showing me romantic development as much as a whole (so many recent ones they either go from 0 to 100 really quickly, or they start out in love with each other).

There are a lot of things that I prefer about newer dramas, though, and my top favorites are all from the past five years.

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This is an interesting question you pose, Britney. In thinking about 2024 kdramas, I'd have to say the one standout as moving the needle would be LOVELY RUNNER. By episode 6, I knew I was seeing not just a kdrama, but a phenomenon. I agree with you that it lost steam along the way, but it still had a propulsion that was unmissable. So the question is, what's different here?

For me, if I'm correct, it was the long delay in getting the story/script to production. I'm recalling that it took three years or more to cast the drama, meanwhile it was kicking around and a bunch of name kdrama stars passed on the ML. That three years gave the writer time to really fine tune the script, as writers do. No slapdash putting together a story here (leaning on tired trope after trope), this was a mature screenplay. The kismet was pairing Byeon Woo-Seok with the story. Without him, there wouldn't have been "Sudden Shower" which was in itself a phenomenon.

So, to circle back to your question. Without a great screenplay, you got nothing. And, great screenplays take seasoning. If you look backwards at shows like COFFEE PRINCE (2007), they had such cool screenplays. Original, intuitive, cunning. In the hands of a gifted cast, you have a moment when you can feel the kdrama needle moving. LOVELY RUNNER had the luxury of time, and the results showed.

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Lovely Runner is definitely going to be a modern classic, especially for younger generations. With No Gain No Love, I can see Hae-young becoming a kind of exemplar of modern well-written women, similar to the ladies from Be Melodramatic (which is already kind of a modern classic).

But yh the idea that modern dramas are worse now is a little silly. I for one don't miss those obnoxious male leads.

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1. People will ALWAYS say "old is always better".
Go to any fandom, go to any place, it's always there. People will always complain when things change and see the past with nostalgic charm.

It's not that kdramas were brilliant a couple decades ago and now they're trash, no. They're just different in some ways. Good and bad dramas can be found in anytime.

Also, it can depend on people's preferences. What genre you're focused on, and what you expect from those trips of shows.

For ex romcoms. Some people like the rude and arrogant MLs who needed a special girl to teach them how to be decent, from the past; others like the fantasy obsessive first love guys without a personality from nowadays.
By the way I describe them, it's obvious I hate both. So I don't really care about those changes. I've dislike MLs ten years ago and today too.

The same way Secret Garden didn't work for me, is the same way Lovely Runner didn't work for me. Both are very famous, instant classics. But it's not like "classic" ever meant "masterpiece". No one will deny that Heirs or BOF are classics, but no one thinks of them as masterpieces.

I think kdramaland was definitely on slump recently. As a weekender/family dramas fan. I haven't been able to watch one in YEARS. But Unpredictable Family and now Iron Family are bringing my faith back in this land.
But that doesn't mean that all the good weekenders are from decades ago either.

I think people are just feeling nostalgia, in this slump era. Because there's no way that the good kdramas are all from early 10's. Before and AFTER that era many good dramas happened.

Coffee Prince is 2007 and Reply 88 is 2015-6, for ex. W is 2017... So what are people talking about exactly.

2. I don't believe that things need to "age well" or "be ahead of their time". All content reflects its time (even as an opposition to the notions of its time), so I don't know why something from 30 years ago needs to work nowdays. Unless we're trying to say that we haven't change as a society?

It's good when something doesn't age well. It means that we are changing. Idk if for the better, but at least we're not stuck in the past. That means we have a future.

Or do we expected PDs to travel in time to see what's going to be politically incorrect in ten years from now? It's not like we even care that much about what's correct these days (kdramaland isn't the most progressive land, is it?), so why care about what we didn't care about ten years ago?
I never watch old shows or movies expecting them to feel recent. Then what's the point? What I want from them is the charm of their times. I want to go back to that era of my life. And I was very ignorant and political incorrect ten years ago, too. Not sure if I'm that better these days, so how can I blame an old tv show?

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I also think it depends on why you watch K dramas. I love it when a drama rises above the rest, but I watch them because I enjoy them. I’m not always concerned if I’ll be thinking about the show in two years, but whether I laughed after a hard day. I know a lot of people didn’t like love next-door, but I really love the leads and I enjoyed it plenty. I don’t know if it will go on my top 10 list, but it helped me pass the time when work was difficult. I also don’t like to rewatch dramas or reread books much. I enjoy new stories even when they’re not perfect.

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I've been thinking a lot about that recent data showing that younger, western audiences don't want sex scenes in media. A lot of the comments are like "why not just watch pornography instead?" and people equating depictions of physical intimacy in stories to that makes me sooo sad. As well as the comments that it's not necessary to the plot.

If you haven't seen this yet, here's an article about it: https://www.avclub.com/teens-study-not-interested-in-sex-or-twitter

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Americans are interesting in our hypocrisy or maybe a nicer phrasing is duality. There are folks who consider America a very sexual place and open about sex & sexuality but it's really quite prudish.

And I think younger people are also influenced by Korean or Asian media that isn't as overtly sexual or sexual at all.

I swear it's like people or maybe it's the people making the calls don't know what it means to *BALANCE*. Sex or physical intimacy can be used for storytelling purposes. For good or bad.

For example, the 1st season of Outlander had their wedding episode have 3 sex scenes and each moment was supposed to convey something different. It was filmed differently, lit differently, etc.

It's been a long while since I watched Outlander but from what I remember, all the sex scenes, especially in S1, served a purpose for showing the relationship's development.

Sidenote: S1 of Outlander is really good in my opinion haha. Again, the beauty of a story being given enough time and space to develop.

Also with the employment of intimacy coordinators, the scenes are supposedly shot in a more respectful and meaningful matter.

"Just watch porn"🙄😒
Seems like the words of people who don't actually watch it.

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Seems like society moved from bitter old puritans to bitter young ones... Just the other day saw someone raging on reddit about how cdrama censorship is "a great thing actually" because it limits "nauseating" skinship. Oh, and according to that anonymous little killjoy, everyone who thinks otherwise is a voyeur. Is it just me or world is really half-step away from bringing holy crusades and other utterly medieval fun back into vogue?

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Careful, you might *summon demons!* 🤣😲

Yeah, I've seen a lot of puritan backlash to more frank and realistic and downright sexy depictions of sexuality in kdramas, too - mostly elsewhere, but also here. I'm pretty tired of people telling me what I shouldn't enjoy, or suggesting - or saying outright - that certain kinds of dramas shouldn't exist because they personally don't like them. There was an unregistered commenter here for a while going on about how dramas are utterly corrupted and there are no good old-fashioned shows (by which he meant, exclusively with dominant MLs and sweet, spunky FLs) anymore. I don't yearn for the good old days, because they weren't.

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Or, that's because, as a wise musical from the olden days once said, "the internet is for p0rn." There's enough of it around that we don't need it to be everywhere right?? 🤷‍♂️😉

This comment will show up twice, I bet. The first time I submitted it, I forgot that I couldn't use the word p0rn. The word is just as bad as the thing.

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My comment is stuck in moderation but I agree that it does seem like a shift towards crusades & purtians may be slowly on the horizon sometimes.

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Aigoo. This world doesn't know middle ground.

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Physical intimacy—sex— is a beautiful thing that brings two people together in a very sacred way in a very sacred time and in a very sacred space. When people are now asking for less and less of it, it shows the devastating impact—frankly, perversion and damage imho— that the media has had on displaying and treating something (sex) so casually by (over) using it as a tool for the sake of shock value, and using it as a tool in the first place. It’s so, so, so sad that something so beautiful is now diminished and ruined

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I don't know but Titanic would have been less awkward without the nudity and love scenes. I made my family watch it with me because I loved it so much but forgot about the those scenes. They didn't end up even liking the movie, saying that the original black and white version was better lol~~~

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my point is that a lot of those scenes are not necessary to the story and could have been a great family friendly movie without the gratuitous scenes. I have to agree that I don't enjoy intimate scenes that much in movies and dramas just because they never really seem necessary. And for actors, I just think it messes with their minds and personal relationships to have to act in intimate scenes with other actors. I really feel sorry for actors who have to kiss in dramas after dramas with people they don't love. I got sick of watching Gong Yoo after watching him lock lips with different co-stars in dramas.

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I think family-friendly is relative ( haha - pun totally intended ). I don't mind watching physical affection, to me its far more family-friendly than violence on screen.

And I wouldn't make assumptions about actors personal feelings toward their work. I wouldn't assume one way or the other. To me, enacting hate and being covered in gore, day after day - could really mess with someone's mind. And I have read articles where actors have indicated just that, just as I have read articles about actors being uncomfortable with initimate scenes (or not being uncomfortable). So again, I wouldn't make assumptions.

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yes I agree excessive violence is not healthy either. I always think if the writer wants to introduce physical intimacy/nudity or violence on the screen, they'd better earn it and make it worthwhile. but often they do it just for the heck of it, especially in the West.

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like, if I were the screenwriter, I would make sure my story deserves the actress taking off her clothes for all to see. You know?

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I just want to re-iterate my phrase "to me".

I find the body-horror genre repulsive, but one of my dearest friends loves it. She's totally fine watching a body getting chopped to bits but gets too embarrassed to watch a love scene. My nephews love their hair rock; in my house we sometimes listen to - gasp - folk music.

The wondrous beauty of the arts - whether its music, theatre, visual art, literature or even television - is that there is something for everyone. And long may that be so.

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What we define as "family friendly" is interesting.
People go to the movies to watch films about killing "bad guys" while making many mean (or just a straight up offensive) jokes, as a casual Sunday plan for the family. But one sex scene is another whole deal.

I wonder how many of the offensive jokes and kills are truly important for the plot and not just gratuitous.

I don't know what message anyone in the family is supposed to learn from those movies, but I know that a good film with something actually important to say won't stop being something valuable to show to your family just because of one or two bed scenes. The same way people seem to think that a little death doesn't get in the way, right? Or at least that's how I see things.

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@vienibenmio I don't know that one year's result is definitive of a trend--the number of survey participants ( around 1000, probably enough to be statistically significant, but not exactly the majority of teenagers) who thought sexual content was not needed jumped from a minority (47.5%) to a majority (62.4%) over the course of the year. But if it is, its more depressing to me that is, a lover of romance stories with a lot of physical intimacy. The majority surveyed don't want to see any romance at all. They don't want to see any sexual attraction either. What do they want to see? Cartoon characters and fantasy, with uplifting stories, but a lot of violence and fighting. In other words, Harry Potter. Or more generally, video game quality story telling.

So I don't necessarily think what is being reflected is some sort of new puritanism, or a "puriteen" as the trendy term goes, that sees the depiction of intimacy and kissing unnecessary. Rather, its a dismissing of romance as a valid topic for movies or dramas. Fortunately, so far this trend hasn't hit kdramas!

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I know they *are* good western shows but I can't think of any since I've just been watching kdramas for the past couple of years. The thing that's frustrating about the current landscape of tv shows is shows not having a chance to find their footing anymore. I think Cheers (I could be wrong) was initally under performing or wasn't a smash hit when it first started, yet it was given time and eventually became an iconic part of tv history. If I'm wrong about Cheers, I know I'm right about Parks & Rec. That show was a PRIME example of the writers and cast adjusting and figuring out what works & what doesn't to the betterment of the overall show. Amy Poehler said some throwaway adlib that changed her character moving forward. Aubrey Plaza created a loveline with Chris Pratt's character with some glances.

I hate how shows aren't given a chance to grow nowadays. I also hate how shows are cancelled without giving conclusions. I feel like creatives should put it in their contracts that planned arcs should be completed; like if the pitch is 5 seasons, 10 episodes then it should be 5 seasons, 10 episodes.
Yeah yeah yeah, money & business stuff but it's so messed up when creatives and audiences get short changed out of stories they were invested in because of a "change in direction" or the audience wasn't there.

That's one of the appealing things about kdramas, the stories were always complete. I don't mind multiple seasons of kdramas as long as the story is complete for that season such as with Taxi Driver. (Sidenote: I hope they don't have a loveline between Dogi and the hacker and yet, I think they will😔)

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Gift to you: MOZART IN THE JUNGLE (2014). When I told my adult children what a great show this is, they started the snoring noise that signals, Mom...we are never going to watch a show about classical music. Snore snore.

It's NOT about classical music, and it is. It's about human nature and the gifted performers who make up a team called an orchestra. It's funny, endearing, surprising, upbeat and in my book, a series classic. WARNING: it's addictive. Give it a whirl.

Amazon made a huge mistake cancelling this show before the advent of limited series really took off. It was before its time.

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Even if I spend a lot of time kdramaland, I always catch up with the rest of my world. So here are some recent shows:

-The Bear (dark and stressful comedy).
-Severance (drama... Thriller...).
-Abbott Elementary (sitcom).
-I May Destroy You (drama. This one is kinda old but underrated)
-We Are Lady Parts (comedy, music)
-Ghosts UK (comedy)
-Heartbreak High (teen)
-This Town (music, drama)
-Gangs of London S1 (action)
-The Midnight Gospel (animation)

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Talking about cancelled shows, I really loved the first (and only) season of "As we see it" (2022).
I still highly recommend it.

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Adding ... PEAKY BLINDERS. Tommy. Role of a lifetime.

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Two points:
1. Yes there are some excellent "western" shows with multiple seasons. I'm enjoying the latest season of "Only Murders in the Building" right now and earlier this year I watched the latest season of "The Bear" and I've watched a few funny episodes of "Abbot Elementary." These shows are far more satisfying to me than mediocre kdramas, and I've watched a lot of these this year. (Although also some good kdramas as well!)

2. Taxi Driver NEEDS a love interest between Do-gi and Go-eun, because otherwise, it will be way too boring. That show should not have been renewed for a third season, because the concept is way too tired.

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Went on a trip with my family to see the redwood forest in northern California. This was the first trip we took together since my dad passed away during the pandemic. It was to celebrate my mom's big milestone birthday. We flew from all over the country and made a big deal of it because there was a sense of regret that my dad died before he could reach this milestone age. Well I wish I could say it was all puppies and rainbows but of course after having not seen each other for years, and now having to step into dad's role, naturally siblings bickered and yelled at each other. And even though it was mom's birthday, she had to play peacemaker at times. Poor mom. There was a magical moment in the redwoods forest when the leaves began raining down in a gust of wind. We stopped the car to stand in the middle of the road and take pictures. And as quickly as it started, it ended. I looked all over the internet for the name for this phenomenon, but the closest I could get was the Japanese term "hana fubuki" or "sakura fubuki" meaning like a flower blizzard. "Fubuki" can also be used to describe falling leaves. Sadly there is no term for this specifically for redwood trees. I think Japanese tourists would love to see this. It was beautiful. But I have to say, taking family trips in the US are pretty harsh on the wallet. We spent hundreds of dollars per day on rental car, restaurants, and accomodations. Thankfully the parks themselves were free. I wish seeing the splendour of nature wasn't so expensive. I know we wouldn't have been able to afford a trip like this when we were younger. Everyone should have a chance to visit the redwoods forest. I thought it was overrated but they are a once in a lifetime experience.

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agree 200%! one cannot imagine the magnanimity of the redwoods unless you stand and try to see the tops of the trees... you can't, btw. it makes you feel so tiny, and we are, in the world of such ancient trees. imagine the world the trees have lived within, the people and cultures milling around their roots, how sad that the environment has deteriorated around them...

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they've seen so many changes and so many comings and goings and they'll be around longer than we have. it's kind of like looking at the stars in the night sky. it's humbling and makes you forget about your troubles in the moment.

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I mean I thought the redwoods were overrated prior to the trip based on photos and videos I saw previously online but they were very very impressive in person, not overrated at all, especially in the right season (autumn, spring?) and time of day (afternoon) and without too many other cars and tourists around (weekday)

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Unpopular opinion maybe but for some reason the current crop of Korean actors and actresses in their 20s are highly unimpressive and disappointing. Maybe I'm judging too early and everyone is still too young to truly shine but everything about the current generation feels all style and no substance. With the exception of Lee Do Hyun I'm still waiting to be truly wowed by someone, anyone a this point. It translates to their dramas as well. Unless its stars someone in the 30s or 40s I find myself un-engaged and bored. Somehow this doesn't happen with Japanese and Chinese actors and actresses in their 20s where I find myself impressed by many of the young stars even when the drama itself doesn't impress me. Does anyone else feel something is lacking in the current generation? This is not to offend anyone but just a thought.

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Oh I agree with this sentiment completely...except even Lee Do Hyun I don't find particularly impressive either heehee *runs away*... well I only saw him in The Glory so I guess that wasn't really his representative work. I'm not really taken with any Japanese actor in particular either these days, to be honest. The ones I used to like such as Takenouchi Yutaka, Fujiki Naohito, and Fukuyama Masaharu are now getting along in years and seeing them aging makes me feel sad. And I just don't like them as much as I used to, especially after discovering Korean oppas. The Japanese actors are not as expressive in my opinion. They're generally colder, more like Gong Yoo. I like tsunderes like Gong Yoo and Hyun Bin but sometimes I prefer warmer types as well. My favorites are the Korean actors in their late 30's-40's too!!!

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I haven't even had a chance to delve into the world of Chinese drama although I hear about so many excellent dramas being made because K-dramas have taken all my free time ever since I first watched Coffee Prince and My Name is Kim Sam Soon (my first K-dramas)

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I'm also curious how the rise of the internet has affected screenwriters and writers in general, if at all? Like, do screenwriters these days who grew up with internet, do they spend more time online than the previous generation of screenwriters, and how does that affect their writing?

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the old theory I have is that Korean actors don't get good until after military service and entering their 30's. before then, they are unwatchable and invisible to ajumma lol. I don't waste my time anymore with 20 something kids. at that age, you can see potential and their good looks but still lacking in flavor, which needs time to develop. haha I keep saying this. Actors need to develop flavor.

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yeah where did all the manly actors go? I remember Gong Yoo and Hyun Bin being in their 20's in the hits Coffee Prince and My Name is Kim Sam Soon and they made an impression even back then. does it seem like the new crop of actors are more pretty and delicate like boyband members?

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this reminds me of what a boomer screenwriting teacher once said to my class. he kept moaning about the lack of "virile" actors in Hollywood. at the time I thought he was being ridiculous but now I kinda feel the same about the newbie Korean actors. where are all the "virile" actors? haha

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Lee Do Hyun is from The [Good] Bad Mother? I like his projects and how his niche almost seems to be playing outside his age.

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Lee Jun Young is the most impressive actor under 30 I have seen for such a long time. He leaves me speechless sometimes.

Kwak Dong Yun might be even better, if only for the range of roles he has played. At this point, there is nothing he can't do.

Kim Do Wan is so so good too, but he has a distinct aura that might prevent him from getting very diverse roles.

Park Ji Bin. Wow. Talk about leaving me speechless.

Bae In Hyuk isn't as good as the others, but he can be great in the right setting.

And then there are Yeo Jin Gu and Nam Da Reum who are in a completely different category.

But I know what you're saying. It's not that none of the 20-somethings are as good as before. Lee Min Ho was never a geeat actor. But the spotlight, and the star-making roles seem to have shifted to more mature actors.

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You're right. I feel like the focus has changed. I have no idea who's still in their 20's.

It doesn't help that even for high school dramas they want to cast people in their 30's.
I can only think of the parents in Twinkling Watermelon.

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Heavens Kwak Dong Yun is only 27?!? I googled that in disbelief. Why does it feel like he's much older? I thought he was in his mid to late 30's by now. Wouldn't be surprised if you told me he was 40... wow how is he only 27??? yes I want to see him more and hope there's more roles for him in the future. I was actually thinking about him not too long ago and sad that he didn't get many lead roles even though he is super charismatic and capable. I was worried that he was soon going to be 40...

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Your praise for Lee Jun Young makes me so curious about him, it looks like he's been in a ton of dramas but they happen to be the ones I haven't watched for some reason. Which drama of his would you recommend to start with?

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I first saw him in a villain role in Class of Lies. He was mesmerizing.

I love him most in May I Help You and Please Don't Date Him.

Let Me Be Your Knight is also a cute little show very much reminiscent of older dramas.

I loved his acting both in Imitation, which was hard to watch, and Freaking Fairytale which was extremely boring.

And then to truly truly appreciate his range and talent you have to watch him in Brave Citizen too. I had nightmares for weeks!

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It's nice to see your appreciation of so many actors! I'm not familiar with them all tho Park Ji Bin was a cutie in BOF. Kwak Dong Yun and Nam Da Reum have both really impressed me. Great talents, look forward to seeing them in future roles.

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I was thinking about how people keeping saying that kdrama male leads are boring because they are too "good" or "perfect" and it's highly possible that I'm just not watching what they are but what exactly makes them so good & perfect?

I think in recent memory, the male lead of Marry My Husband was labled this. He wasn't particularly interesting to me but it also wasn't a story about him. He was always supposed to be more of supportive character.
Plus I'm just not into the actor on any level so he's not a draw for me regardless.

In romcoms, don't everyone, both men and women, end up acting like their love interest is their only reason for being?

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