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Good Partner: Episodes 8-9

We continue with custody cases this week, now focusing on relationships between parents and children. There’s anxiety to go around for our ace attorney and her family as they begin navigating what their new family life could look like. Both parents try not to put extra pressure on their daughter, but all three know their future will be decided by her testimony. As if adolescence isn’t stressful enough.

 
EPISODES 8-9

The custody battle is in full swing with both Eun-kyung and Ji-sang growing more anxious and desperate as the investigator’s interview with Jae-hee looms. The parental interview leaves Ji-sang in the stronger position – his (true) stories of being the one to buy Jae-hee her first period products and watching her cry nightly over her mom’s absence don’t paint Eun-kyung in a good light. And Eun-kyung is too honest to try to deny it.

The bias toward giving custody to mothers gives Eun-kyung more of a chance, especially since there’s a belief that a same-sex parent is better for a child in adolescence. But society also judges mothers more harshly than fathers, so while an absent father who financially supports his family might be given a pass, a mother who does the same is seen as neglectful (though I’d argue it’s neglectful in both cases).

In these more contentious cases, it’s often down to the child’s testimony to decide custody. As Ji-sang and Eun-kyung wait on pins and needles for Jae-hee’s decision, we get another case of parents fighting for custody of a teenage boy. His statement that he wants to live with his dad about seals the deal, but then the mom throws a grenade: a DNA test showing her husband is not the kid’s biological father.

The father is devastated, but his love for his son remains unchanged. Unfortunately for him, there’s a strong emphasis on biological parenthood, so there’s no way he’ll get custody now. Still, he refuses to file a suit that would require him to relinquish parental status and begs the mother to let him continue to be a father to their son.

Witnessing how frequently birth parents abandon their children, Woo-jin and Eun-ho are both crying by the end of the arbitration. For Woo-jin in particular, seeing the loving relationship between the father and son is bittersweet. He’s got some major daddy issues, given that his supposed uncle – the law firm’s CEO – is actually his birth father, so… that’s messed up.

You know what else is messed up? Sara. As if she hasn’t done enough damage, she takes matters into her own hands after finding out she’s pregnant. Ji-sang makes it clear that Jae-hee still matters more to him than Sara and their future baby, so she decides to hide a photo of her sonogram for Jae-hee to find. Then, she meets with the child and has the gall to ask her to be a good big sister.

She has this delusional idea that if she can ensure Jae-hee goes to her mom, she’ll be able to convince Ji-sang to live with her – a happy little family. When her subterfuge comes out in Jae-hee’s custody interview, both Ji-sang and Eun-kyung are livid. Ji-sang yells at Sara to get lost and never contact him again, his selfishness once again on display like he shares no responsibility here. (The baby didn’t make itself.) Eun-kyung assaults Sara in full mom rage mode; she’ll be lucky if Sara doesn’t press charges, and this time she’d have a legitimate reason.

Not only did the secret baby come up in the interview, but it turns out Jae-hee has long known about the affair. She witnessed it with her own eyes because Ji-sang and Sara had no problem being all over each other while she was sleeping in the other room. Jae-hee’s trust in her dad has been slowly eroding the longer he continues to lie to her to protect himself. Although Eun-kyung has been lying too, Jae-hee knows her mom’s lies were to protect her. That’s why she wants to protect her mom too and asks the investigator not to tell her mom about the baby.

For a kid of Jae-hee’s age, trust in a parent is vital. And it looks like Eun-kyung has indeed earned her daughter’s trust with her actions of late. Ji-sang may be better (and have more practice) at the day-to-day parenting stuff, but Eun-kyung’s integrity seems to have won Jae-hee over.

All of this has Eun-kyung so out of sorts it’s affecting her work, especially when they get a client who plays the victim after having an affair with a married, soon-to-be father (who is also playing victim). The case helps Eun-kyung break down her walls and honestly assess what she needs: a sincere apology.

Yuri is desperate to do her best for Eun-kyung and has finally learned to put her client’s needs above her own. But she’s still new and worries that she’s not qualified enough and will fail Eun-kyung. She proves more capable than she thinks, though, because she does the seemingly impossible. Sara shows up at Eun-kyung’s office and sincerely apologizes on her knees. Maybe motherhood is giving her some sense of shame at last.

With all the secrets out, Jae-hee is much lighter. Even so, she does feel guilty toward her mom and apologizes. Jae-hee’s feelings of guilt versus Sara and Ji-sang’s (along with other cheating couples’) justifications for their wrongdoings is used to highlight the insight we get at the end of the episode: kids blame themselves for others’ mistakes while adults blame others for their own mistakes.

I appreciate the empathy of this drama, digging below the surface to examine the pain behind people’s questionable actions. That said, it doesn’t try to excuse or redeem everyone and acknowledges that some people are just selfish. We started out with Sara being the primary villain in the relationship, but Ji-sang’s true colors have slowly been revealed. With every episode, he becomes less sympathetic. It mirrors the way the other woman typically bears the brunt of the ire for cheating and becomes a public target, while the man slips under the radar. Still, he can only hide behind the longsuffering, good-guy mask for so long.

Often, legal dramas can feel so over the top or glamorized that it’s hard to take them seriously, so I appreciate how grounded Good Partner has been. Not to say that there’s no added flair for dramatic purposes, but just that the situations and general procedures feel more realistic than usual. I imagine that’s in large part due to the writer, Choi Yuna, being a divorce lawyer.

 
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Jang Na-ra's performance is pretty much carrying this entire drama, this is her best role in years and the story has clearly struck a chord with viewers.

Despite the heavy storylines i find it to be a suprisingly "easy" show to watch.

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Yes, I couldn't remember anything I had watched with her before this. I'm so impressed at her ability to show the camera her feelings with just her eyes.

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please watch Sell Your Haunted House and Go Back Couple. those 2 drama are her best

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Ah! The reason I never watched Go Back Couple was that I watched Familiar Wife, a clear copycat drama that came out the following year.

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The case with that father was heartbreaking. His love for his son was inspiring and I felt so bad for him. I still don't understand why the mom wanted full custody, why not share. I guess ultimately she did allow him to see hm though, but what a mess.

Jae Hee, when she apologized to her mom, I felt so bad for her. Her father was incredibly irresponsible fooling around with Sa Ra. He is really reaping what he sowed. That being said he still seems to be a good father, so I hope the writer continues their nuanced take on divorce. Awful man.

As for Sa Ra, she too is getting her just desserts. I feel bad for the baby though, what a mess.

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Agreed!
I felt so badly for the father in the divorce/ custody/ DNA case!
I could feel the pit in his stomach when he learned of that betrayal!

I did find it refreshing that the father didn’t care that the son wasn’t biologically his son.
Too often in kdramas “blood lines” are all that seem to matter.
At least in the majority of shows I’ve watched.

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Thank you so much for the speedy recap! I've been dying to discuss these most recent episodes. Your insight into the screenwriter's background is very helpful.

These episodes had so many wonderful moments of sincere, emotional acting. I cried every time Choi Duk-moon was on the screen, pretty much, playing the devoted father. Jang Na-ra has also been amazing. I don't know how the character is meant to have persuaded all these people of her toughness when she looks so vulnerable. The young actress, Yu-na, playing Jae-hee has been amazing. All of the insights and brilliance that a 12 or 13 year old can show, she's nailing. I believe that this is a young kid, not a little grownup.

As Ji-sang looks worse and worse, I feel increasing pity for him and Sa-ra. They are so weak and there is so much for them to lose. His anger is obvious but the reason for it isn't. It is, as you say, a drama where we get to dig beneath the surface and see more motivations. The actors are definitely making the most of that! I love it.

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The young actress, Jeon Yu-na, was awesome in "The Kidnapping Day", too!

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So much of what we are seeing rings so true to me. While the laws in the US are different people are not. I could actually relate to much of these episodes from what I have seen in my professional experience. In a sense I have met all of these people, and it is always a mess. I have met both the selfish ones and the beautifully selfless ones like the father in episode 8. None of these characters is a stereotype- they all exist even if I have met them under different names.

It is small wonder indeed that this show is doing so well.

I have always loved Jang Nara but some of her shows have not been the best. This is probably her greatest performance. She should get a Daesang for this.

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Yes, somehow you feel that these stories come from real life experiences because they're just as messy as life is. I love the drama for showing all these stories and mostly veering away from easy answers and stereotypes.

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"I have always loved Jang Nara but some of her shows have not been the best"

Agree. I watch almost all her dramas, and the ones that reaally touch me and very good to me are Go back Couple and Sell Your Haunted House (You should try to see both) and then come this drama, I'm so glad she finally play in good script again.

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Both Eun-Kyung and Ji-Sang failed their daughter. Ji-Sang had the right to be disapointed in Eun-Kyung as a mother, but he should have divorced instead his lies hurt his family. Eun-Kyung was too absent to be a good mother and her efforts were at the beginning more to win against Ji-Sang than spending time with her daughter. Both could be good parents if they put their daughter first.

Ji-Sang reaction about Sa-ra's pregnancy was quite harsh. I understand he was angry but he's a doctor, he just had to take precautions.

Sa-Ra is selfish. She acts only if she can get something. Being a mother? She hurt Jae-Hee for her own happiness. She wants a baby to force Ji-Sang to stay with her, not really the baby itself, more the idea of it.

The cases always are so extrem... The dad's story was sad. But I was surprised, in Switzerland, the well-being of the child goes first. So the father could have kept a place in his son's life if it was the best for the child.

Then, the stupid mistress... I don't understand the wife who wants to stay with her husband. It's like to have 2 kids at home. Let him go with his mistress and ask for money instead.

My favorite scenes are Jang Nara and Nam Ji-Hyun's ones. They are really good in their role.

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Why does it seem that even doctors and nurses in Korea have never heard of contraception? At least, if you go by every k-drama, they haven't. I don't know about reality! I must use Google and find out whether any websites in English have data on contraceptive use in different countries. (Why must I do that though? That's a different question.)

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I was wondering that as well, unless Sa-ra "tricked" him into unprotected sex, which I guess could happen if she told him "I'm on the pill, don't worry." But presumably she would not do that until she was sure he was committed to her. That's why I think either Yuri or Eun-Kyung is going to eventually represent Sa-ra in some sort of breach of promise suit.

Off topic but related, not just one but two male doctors in my family have told me that older male doctors had warned them, when they were single and just out of med school, to be careful of deceptive women who would use sex and presumably pregnancy to "entrap" them into financial support, because doctors were supposed to be rich. And this was only 35 years ago or so, in the U.S.! I am so glad that the medical profession has been at least partially feminized so that this type of sexist thinking is a lot less common.

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Maybe she did, but I guess she didn't even have to trick him. They were just oblivious. Happens more often than you think. People tend to think "oh, this will only happen to others, not to me" when it comes to consequences of their actions. Stupid, but human. 🤷

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I did check the internet for data about Korean contraceptive use. The most commonly known and most used contraceptive is the condom. If you are a married male partner, and you are a doctor, what should you wear? A condom. I had the same thought about Doctor Cha--how ridiculous that a doctor could accidentally impregnate TWO colleagues, both of whom were med students or doctors themselves.

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I suspect 'nice boys' do not carry condoms around

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@hacja This is on point: "Of course, I also think that a truly good Dad would be a good Dad to all of his children, whether conceived in wedlock or not, which makes me wonder why he is so eager to get custody of one child and give up on the other." He is doing all of it--the affair, the divorce, and the desire to be the sole parent--to prove that he is as good or better than Eun-kyung. He's deeply angry with her. I wonder if it's because he lost out professionally through the marriage with her? I don't know, we did see one flashback in which he was scolded as a doctor-employee in a clinic. Somehow he wants to show her. I think that's also why he had an affair with her administrator (paralegal? secretary? her role is a little unclear.) This was someone who admired Eun-kyung and he stole her. Now he doesn't need Sa-ra anymore because he is in open warfare with Eun-kyung.

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And here I am, warning a very young distant relative to not trust her husband of 3 months to *not* tamper with his condoms, and to use her own contraception even if she has to hide it. (she was low-key coerced into the marriage by her parents, despite my mum's and my misgivings 😞) He, I think, married her with citizenship in mind, and has pressuring her to conceive soon. Such are the ways of the world, and though I hope I'm proved wrong, I want her to be aware of stuff and learn to say no. Fingers crossed.

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Oh no! That's a very tough situation for a young person.

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That is not exclusive to Koreans, of any profession. People have a selective brain. And feel different from others. Hence the thought " oh, this won't happen to me!" is a very international one. I have witnessed several of these instances around me (I live in Germany, a country well provided with contraceptives and knowledge about how babies come into existence). No need to google. I habe no idea why, but people tend to ignore facts when they stand in the way of fun.

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I just don't know that many people in my real life who have gotten pregnant accidentally. One friend in high school, I think that was it. On the other hand I do know a lot of single moms by choice, same sex couples and adoptive parents. My life experience definitely skews toward people who became parents on purpose, sometimes after going to a lot of trouble.

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It isn't that things can't happen in the heat of the moment wherever in the world men and women are coupling. But mature adults engaged in a long term affair would certainly be aware of the possible consequences of repeated relations. Accidents could still happen-- both partners could be drunk for example, as we already saw even in this show! Or contraception can fail or be used incorrectly.

But I think the real issue is why Ji-sang would show no curiosity about how or when it happened, let alone take some responsibility for it happening. I know this is a kdrama, so we are not going to get any discussion of even the failure of contraception such "I thought we were protected."

But if he was indeed a "good Dad," he certainly would recognize that this half-sibling was a really big deal for his daughter, regardless of when she learned about it. Of course, I also think that a truly good Dad would be a good Dad to all of his children, whether conceived in wedlock or not, which makes me wonder why he is so eager to get custody of one child and give up on the other.

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In many states in the US the court would not even have allowed the genetic test into the evidence- not at this stage in the child's life. The father is the father in this situation despite mere biology. A separate case would have to be built first as to why it would be in the best interests of the child to even look at the question and only if the answer was "yes" would it become a part of the evidence. In looking into the issue, the court would appoint a separate representative for the child, someone known as guardian ad litem, whose sole function is to represent the best interests of the child and not be a representative for the parents. Much of what the GAL does is very similar to what we see happening with the 'court investigator' in these episodes but their legal status is significantly different.

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Yes, I was really hoping that they would proceed this way with the best interests of the child analysis. And I was a little confused because earlier, in the case involving the cheating spouses of the best friends (I still feel bad for that dad and wished they'd showed him with visitation), the cheating male spouse was allowed custody of the son to whom he had no biological relation. Maybe because it was by settlement?

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I watched 5-9 this weekend, and I'm so glad I caught up! I love Jang Nara's growth as a mother. She mentions at one point that divorce makes some parents better parents, and she seems to be doing this herself. While at first the daughter was being treated as a pawn, I'm so glad the show ended up showing that the daughter deserves to be the one most cared for in this situation.

I also never thought Jang Nara was cold. She is experienced. When women are confident and experienced and give advice, they are sometimes labeled this when really they just are effective.

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I also love how grounded Good Partner is as it dealt with various divorce storylines. It did help a lot that the writer care so much for the characters despite how messy divorce can be she managed to pull at the audience heartstrings.
The dad fighting for custody of his son whom he raised for years only to be bamboozled with his ex-wife's treachery must be my fave storyline so far. The child's best interest should always come first and I am glad that storyline reached a satisfying conclusion.

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Thank you @quirkycase for the fast recap. So true about the writer, she has impressed me thus far for weaving the case of the week to match the forward movement of our main characters.

As a product of separated parents, the voiceover of NJH about forgiveness was gold, was crying that time. Then the breakfast omelette scene, so simple yet so powerful for mother & daughter, wahhhh... Kudos to JNR & Yuna, for showing their love & restraint with the I'm sorry scene. I was thinking why they got Yuna to play this role which sometimes is an afterthought for dramas about separation, but now I know. She played a pivotal part in her mother's growth, she really is a mini Eun-Kyung!

Looking forward to the next episodes!

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How about these two episodes! I sobbed my way through them 😭 They were beautifully executed and I just want to give the entire cast a a big hug.

They illuminated the saying/reality 'appearances are not everything'. Looking at Jisang and all his parenting 'actions', it can be easy to conclude he's a 'good' dad but as the layers have been peeled back we see just how awful he's been and. I'm not sure you can be a terrible human and a good parent at the same time. That's a whole other level of fragmentation and inauthenticity that falls apart in the end. Exhibit A.

I was intrigued and moved by the way the story/writers let us into Jae hui's emotional world. For the first time I feel like I know her a little better and it turns out she adores, admires, respects and wants to protect her mom 😭🥰 I loved how that was revealed. It felt true to the characters.

That father-son case 😭😭 The apology theme 😭😭

This show is reminding me why I love kdramas.

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Thank you @quirkycase for the poignant!

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Good Partner is showing itself to be a classic of tight writing and exceptional acting. Truly, truly cuts straight to the heart and also offers rational AND emotional ways in to see how each party thinks that they're doing the right thing--when that is definitely not how everyone sees what's going on.

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Exactly this. We can understand (as much as possible) and feel for *every* character even when we don't agree or like them. Exceptional writing and acting indeed 👌

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"I was there every evening for Jae Hui" falls apart when it is " I was there every evening for my mistress but I pretended it was for Jae Hui" I'd have to go back and look, but I think at the beginning of the drama he was doing things with both Sara and Jae Hui wasn't he? (I happened to be here while Sara was babysitting versus actually a date)

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I know, right?! He hid behind his 'good father' persona meanwhile he was busy doing something else in the presence of his daughter 🙄 He didn't even have the decency to do it somewhere else. Eish!

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Also, it seems he was putting down his wife even in those early interactions with Sara, so I am sure more will be revealed.

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I am just loving this one more with each episode. So well made and the actors are top notch.

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This week's episodes are so gooodddd, the writing, directing and acting are all top-notch, even the supporting and episodic cast, this show better get some awards.

- The case with the dad was heartbreaking, and profound because it really shows what divorce with children involved should be about - it's always the kids. it's not about the anger, blame or even the custody, but the kid's welfare should always come first. And I love that it was Woo Jin's case because he can relate the most.
- 2nd case and the parallels with Eun Kyung's own life, Jang Nara really is killing it here. The cases are so grounded they feel like real life, often life can be too messy and that's what draws viewers, there are so many parallels and moments that feel too real, what a great great show <3

- Jang Nara and Yuna (Jae Hee) got me wiping tears the entire episode. Jae Hee differentiates her mom's white lies that wanted to protect her and her dad's actual lies that are for his own benefit. Children are more perceptive than they're given credit for and I appreciated the insight into Jae Hee's feelings about the whole situation.

-Ji Sang remains an asshole and worse with Sara's pregnancy. I hope with coming episodes we get more insights with Ji sang and Sara. I need to know their motivations behind their actions, with this show, I'm not too worried about common sense.
-Nam ji hyun has been taking a backseat in this drama but the scene with Jang Nara in the tteokbokki place hit a chord.
-I find it telling that Ji Sang and Sara both took steps to initiate the affair but Eun Kyung and Woo Jin respected each other's boundaries so their relationship remains platonic. The contrast between the relationships and the directions it could've gone, I appreciate the show doesn't dumb it down for viewers and has these little moments.

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