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Will You Have Dinner With Me: Episodes 29-30

Everyone has to deal with the aftermath of a traumatic accident. The road to recovery may take some time, but with our wacky PD glued to our hero’s side, things are looking pretty bright. Meanwhile, the exes begin to take responsibility for their actions.

 
EPISODE 29 RECAP


Thinking about Do-hee takes Jae-hyuk back to when he’d asked her not to hate him too much. She’d told him to leave and declared, “From now on, I’m only going to care about the most important thing in my life,” before heading back to the funeral.

Jae-hyuk now visits her place hoping to talk, crouching outside to wait for her return. He eventually gives up and it pains him to remember how happy they used to be – Do-hee literally came into his life like a ray of sunshine.

Meanwhile, Do-hee asks Hae-kyung, “How could you so casually say that you would die for me?” Hae-kyung insists that it’s true and as they walk home, their laughter catches Jae-hyuk’s attention.

He imagines himself in Hae-kyung’s shoes, but the reality is that he’s no longer the one that Do-hee’s looking at so lovingly. “I’m not the most important person to Do-hee,” he finally realizes.

By now, the couple has noticed Jae-hyuk, and Do-hee’s face falls. Jae-hyuk no longer has the courage to face the world because Do-hee is still the most important person to him.

Hae-kyung gets off a call and approaches Jae-hyuk carefully while Do-hee hangs back and watches with concern. Jae-hyuk blankly states, “Do-hee seems disgusted by me.” Hae-kyung assures him that’s not the case and that she actually wants him to overcome this.

Hae-kyung tries his best to diffuse the situation but Jae-hyuk thinks she’ll be happy if he disappears. “I’ll do anything for Do-hee,” he tells Hae-kyung. After taking one final look at his former lover, Jae-hyuk runs into traffic.

However, Hae-kyung reacts quickly and pushes him to safety, though he doesn’t have time to save himself. The impact of the car knocks Hae-kyung off his feet, and his body shatters the windshield before he’s flung onto the road. Do-hee screams, holding him tight as she calls for help.

Within ten minutes, both men are wheeled to the hospital. Keanu is also there and hesitates before choosing to follow Jae-hyuk’s gurney, since Do-hee is by Hae-kyung’s side. She’s left alone when Hae-kyung is taken into the operating room.


Similar to when Hae-kyung was worried for her, Do-hee can barely breathe now. She can’t help but think about how Hae-kyung wasn’t able to tell his mother “I love you” before she passed – I don’t think Do-hee has said the words out loud yet.

The surgery is over by the time Geon-woo arrives at the hospital. Byung-jin’s near tears explaining the situation to him, and he squeaks that Hae-kyung must think he’s Iron Man, jumping in front of a car like that. He tells Geon-woo that Jae-hyuk wasn’t hurt badly and will be discharged the next day.

Do-hee sits by an unconscious Hae-kyung and tells him that he didn’t have to prove that he was willing to die for her. “I’ll believe you, so please wake up now,” she cries, scared. She clutches his hand but doesn’t notice when his finger twitches.

Geon-woo pays Jae-hyuk a visit and tells him that Hae-kyung still hasn’t woken up from his surgery. During the incident, Jae-hyuk hit his head and before falling unconscious, he saw Do-hee running towards Hae-kyung without even sparing him a glance.

“I don’t think I can forgive you this time,” Geon-woo coldly tells his cousin. Jae-hyuk understands, because he can’t forgive himself either. He thought that disappearing would solve everything, and Geon-woo angrily tells him that he’s really gone mad.


The next day, Do-hee speaks to Hae-kyung as if everything were fine. She jokes through her tears, “If you lie there like that, I might have my way with you. So you should wake up now.”

As if answering her prayers, his hand wraps around hers and she cries in relief, collapsing on top of him. Hae-kyung comforts her and says that as a doctor, he couldn’t lose Jae-hyuk in front of her.

He groans and realizes he fractured his ribs, but he’s more concerned about Do-hee. She whines that he should’ve been next to her to explain the difficult terminology they used to describe his condition. Hae-kyung chuckles, “As long as you’re okay, I’m okay.” While being wheeled into surgery, he’d seen how terrified she was.

No-eul declines Geon-woo’s invite to visit the hospital with him. She realized that it’s not her place to go and tell Hae-kyung how sad she is. She also doesn’t deserve to get mad at Jae-hyuk, because she once wished that he’d do anything in his power to take Do-hee from Hae-kyung. Geon-woo tells her it’s still okay to be sad.

Keanu visits Hae-kyung to apologize, but Hae-kyung says that doctors can’t be responsible for every patient. He’s just glad that nothing happened to Jae-hyuk but reveals that he feels like he’s deceiving everyone.

He only saved Jae-hyuk so that he wouldn’t have any real estate in Do-hee’s heart. If he’d died, Do-hee would have to suffer and remember him forever. Keanu tells Hae-kyung that no matter who it was for, it was a very altruistic decision.

Jae-hyuk is visited by his father, who doesn’t even show an ounce of compassion for his son. He tells Jae-hyuk that he should’ve kept a low profile after he covered for him once. We see that after Jae-hyuk reported on Keanu, he’d kneeled and asked Dad for help.

Dad snidely said, “You were so confident about being a proud son to me. How dare you bring shame to your name by writing a bogus article?” Jae-hyuk explained that he just wanted to be recognized by Dad, but became too greedy. Although he’d wanted to revise the article, Dad told him that it’d just make things worse and ordered him to fly to the States the very next day.


In the present, Dad snarls that he should’ve cut ties earlier but surprisingly, Jae-hyuk agrees. “If I had cut ties with you early on, I wouldn’t have turned out this way.” This earns him a slap but he doesn’t back down – Jae-hyuk tells Dad that he believed he would’ve been appreciated as a son one day.

It looks painful to say, but Jae-hyuk knows that Dad will never love him. He was only foolish enough to realize this after going through so much pain. He wipes his tears and states, “You don’t have to see me again. I won’t be your son anymore.”

“Let’s see how far you can go like that,” Dad challenges before leaving. Keanu has been waiting outside and tells Dad that he needs counselling, suggesting that he drop by some day. Keanu finds Jae-hyuk completely heartbroken, silently comforting him as Jae-hyuk’s wails echo throughout the room.

Our sickly psychiatrist is so mesmerized by his own girlfriend that he refuses to be nursed back to health by Byung-jin, an actual nurse. The moment Do-hee finishes peeling her fruit, Hae-kyung pretends that he totally wasn’t staring, pfft.

Do-hee assures Byung-jin that she’ll work hard to take care of Hae-kyung but when her boyfriend grunts in pain trying to get his nurse to leave, Do-hee barks at Byung-jin to go away. She sweetly feeds Hae-kyung an apple once they’re alone, and he has never looked happier.


Jae-hyuk decides to get hospitalized to treat his illness – it’s the right thing to do, since his mistakes caused many people to be uncomfortable. He tells Keanu that he lived with regret and anxiety for so many years after destroying his career, and never should’ve run away. Keanu’s totally impressed by his mature thinking and truly believes that he’ll get better this time.

Jae-hyuk sincerely apologizes and promises not to run away, asking for help. As he leaves the hospital, he doesn’t even glance over at Do-hee and just walks past her. He just smiles to himself and it really seems like he’s going to be okay.


Ah-young finds Do-hee sitting outside the hospital looking sad despite Hae-kyung being discharged soon. Do-hee hopes that both she and Jae-hyuk will forget everything as time goes by and wonders if she really was unable to recognize his pain, or if she ignored it for her own happiness.

If Jae-hyuk died, Do-hee’s not so sure she would’ve been able to live her life to its fullest, and Ah-young says that’s precisely why Hae-kyung intervened. He didn’t save Jae-hyuk, he saved Do-hee.

Geon-woo stops Jae-hyuk just before he leaves the hospital and learns that he’s being admitted to a psych ward in the suburbs. Geon-woo says Jae-hyuk shouldn’t be driving in his condition and hops into the driver’s seat of his car.


When Do-hee returns, Hae-kyung (perceptive as ever) can tell that something’s bothering her. He leans in and encourages her to share her feelings, knowing that she must be pretty anxious about everything right now.

She says that her heart is beating fast and she’s having trouble breathing freely. The thoughts running through her mind right now range from “Did he have lunch?” to “Why is he so handsome?”

He agrees that she’s pretty weird, and gives her a peck. Hae-kyung realizes this is why counselling family doesn’t work and puckers up for another smooch, which Do-hee purposely ignores, leaving him pouting.

 
EPISODE 30 RECAP

Jae-hyuk apologizes to Geon-woo. He says that in order for others to be happy, he has to put everything behind and live a good life. Keanu had told him that finding happiness was the only way for him to be forgiven.

Ah-young visits Keanu at the clinic to hear the rest of his stories, starting with how he knows Jae-hyuk. She’s angry to learn that Keanu knew the state Jae-hyuk was in from the beginning, and repeatedly hits him with her purse – what if Hae-kyung died or something happened to Do-hee? She exhausts herself and says that things wouldn’t have gotten this out of hand if he told her earlier.

Keanu finally shares his story about how Jae-hyuk was not only his patient, but also his worst enemy. The one who framed him as a murderer and caused his life to fall apart. He tells Ah-young that if Hae-kyung and Do-hee weren’t involved, he probably would’ve killed him.

She asks, “How have you been holding up with that?” Keanu just says that it’s something nobody was able to prevent. He himself failed as a doctor and as a human.


The next day, Byung-jin brings Hae-kyung home and they both fall onto the couch, causing Hae-kyung to yelp in pain. Byung-jin is confident that he’s the perfect man to nurse Hae-kyung back to health but Hae-kyung stops him right there.

He tells Byung-jin that he lacks the gift of taking hints. Byung-jin always says that he knows what Hae-kyung’s thinking just by looking into his eyes, so Hae-kyung gives him a chance. “What do my eyes say?” Byung-jin draws closer and gets shy, finally understanding Hae-kyung’s needs (Do-hee) and leaves immediately.

Do-hee’s mom cooks up a sweat and snaps at Do-hee for ordering her around without telling her what all this food is for. It’s obvious that Do-hee’s lying that it’s for her hardworking team, and Mom’s afraid she’ll end up with someone like Young-dong or Jae-hyuk.

When Mom fumes that she spent so much effort feeding them, Do-hee meekly claims that this time will be different. Mom yells, “If you’re seeing a weirdo again, I’ll go find him and pull out all his hair.”

Hae-kyung’s suspicious of all the food Do-hee brought, but she reassures him that it’s made by her mom, with 32 years of cooking expertise. She claims that he’ll heal up in no time with this medication.

Knowing that Mom would do “whatever it takes” to keep her daughter away from him, Hae-kyung hesitantly asks if she knew who she was cooking for. LOL, Do-hee purposely gives him an ambiguous answer.

Meanwhile, Mom finally gets a moment to herself and receives a text from Do-hee’s dad. He regrets what he did and apologizes, promising to never do it again. Dad asks for forgiveness for being an idiot, and Mom just sighs.


No-eul arrives at 2N Box with Geon-woo with plans to quit the show. Geon-woo’s angry to hear that her mom caused trouble again, but is glad that No-eul doesn’t plan to pay a cent towards the debt. He assures her that she doesn’t look pathetic before heading inside.

She apologizes to Ah-young for mixing up personal problems with her professional life, but Ah-young blames herself for letting No-eul and Jae-hyuk do whatever they want just to make some money.

Despite everything, she enjoyed shooting the show with No-eul and is confident she’ll receive offers from other companies. When Ah-young learns that No-eul plans to do a fashion-related show with Geon-woo, she momentarily jumps into CEO-mode and asks her a bunch of questions before calming herself down and wishing her luck with a smile.

Hae-kyung is pretty impressed by the spread and says it’s his first time having homemade beef bone stew. Do-hee lies that restaurants make it better, but he disagrees. She knows that he’s been cooking for himself since he was ten, which is why he’s so affected by a home-cooked meal.

“The more I get to know you, the more flaws I find,” she tells him. He seems like the perfect guy, but is out here being sad over a regular bowl of stew. Hae-kyung replies that it’s not good to be perfect, so he’s gotta have some flaws. She’s glad he’s eating well and Hae-kyung jokes that she can be a food therapist at the clinic.

When he asks when she’ll introduce him to Mom, she avoids the topic by piling food onto his bowl, and he wonders if her hearing’s gone bad, hah.

There’s a new cast for Have My Heart and today’s topic is about drinks that you can order on a blind date. Everyone’s pretty bored so Jin-kyu calls for a break. He sighs that the screen looks lifeless without No-eul, and Jung-hwan says that it’s dull without Do-hee.

That night, Keanu treats Ah-young to mandoo. She lovingly places a dumpling on his plate, which reminds Keanu of how proactive she’s always been in pursuing the relationship.

While walking through the dark street, he takes her hand and asks if she remembers how he needed to find closure for his resentful heart before moving in with her. He failed, so he can no longer be with her. What?! Keanu tells her to take care of herself and meet someone good, but Ah-young insists that she’ll wait for him, leaving with tears streaming down her face.

The next day, So-ra visits Do-hee at home and notes that she looks pretty depressed. She tells Do-hee that No-eul quit, begrudgingly admitting that she’s not only pretty but also cool. Do-hee will be resting today since Byung-jin will take care of Hae-kyung.

Keanu walks the street alone while Ah-young wallows in her sadness at work. They both think back to the night when Keanu had asked to hear her story. Ah-young told him about being set up with many men with fancy jobs.

The guys had condescendingly dumped her, thinking she was a pretty girl trying to marry rich for an easy life. It’s why she hates arrogant men. Keanu called them idiots and told her that she’s still beautiful. Feeling unsettled, Ah-young heads to the pharmacy and purchases ten boxes of digestive drinks.


Do-hee dreams about the accident, feeling distressed when she sees Hae-kyung leaving her to speak to Jae-hyuk. She tosses in her sleep while reliving the horrific scene of holding her boyfriend’s bloodied body.

She now dreams that Hae-kyung’s asleep at home, unresponsive no matter how hard she tries to wake him up. She wakes up in a cold sweat and immediately calls him, but he doesn’t answer. She runs all the way to his house and collapses into his arms once he opens the door.

Hae-kyung holds her and reassures her that it was just a dream, and he’s right here. He calls himself a terrible doctor for not noticing his own girlfriend’s condition, but she didn’t realize it either.


Hae-kyung explains that she suppressed her feelings because she was so shocked, which is natural. He makes her laugh by joking that the prescription is her boyfriend’s love. Now that she’s calmer, Do-hee is exhausted after running for thirty minutes.

She changes into his clothes since she’s all sweaty, while he thinks about how she didn’t know about her own condition. Do-hee pouts that he should’ve called her over if Byung-jin left in the morning, but he says that he’s pretty much recovered by now.

Do-hee confidently insists on helping him dress his wound, but cringes when she actually sees the scar that the surgery left behind. As Do-hee concentrates, he zones in on her lips and warns, “I definitely told you I was fine.” Without holding back, he initiates a deep kiss and tells Do-hee to have breakfast with him tomorrow morning.

 
COMMENTS

THIS! This is what I’ve wanted all along, and I can’t believe it took a life-threatening accident to get to this point. I feel like the show purposefully uses death/the potential of death to bring our couple closer, which I don’t find to be necessary. It just seems like a convenient plot point to throw in there to explain the sudden changes in behavior in No-eul, Jae-hyuk, and even Do-hee (Writer Lee’s passing is what allowed her to finally take down her walls and put her all into the relationship). It almost seems like they’re cheating, but to be honest, I guess I don’t really care either way because it got us where we needed to be.

I once again just really appreciate Lee Ji-hoon as an actor. Despite hating Jae-hyuk for a good chunk of the show, I’m somehow able to now sympathize with him and really root for him to grow and heal. He was really well written in the sense that before we knew his backstory, he always seemed a little off, though we couldn’t quite put our finger on it. In retrospect, his behavior makes a lot of sense and it’s pretty clear why he acts the way he does. It’s kind of ironic how everyone in his life shunned him, but Keanu stayed by his side to support and comfort him.

Speaking of Keanu, I don’t really understand his decision to leave Ah-young. He’s no longer as resentful towards Jae-hyuk, so I’m not sure what sparked this? Is it just because his name is not cleared yet, and he knows that it won’t be until Jae-hyuk decides to write a correction article? Saving Ah-young from the scrutiny of dating a “murderer” is the only reason I can come up with. It’s clear he loves her, and despite his best efforts, I know she will never give up on him.

As for our favorite couple, I truly enjoyed seeing them interact so freely. Hae-kyung’s advances in the last episode felt a bit pushier (?) than he would normally be, probably because he was fueled by intense emotions. Somehow, it seemed like he reset after his accident and everything he did in this episode felt very him. It’s such a Hae-kyung thing to do, to ask Do-hee to breakfast as a way of telling her to stay the night. It’s been so fun watching these two flirting on-screen. Regardless of how I feel about the plot, Hae-kyung and Do-hee remain one of my favorite couples of the year. Their chemistry is out of this world and there are some moments that feel very genuine and unscripted, as if Song Seung-heon were adlibbing and Seo Ji-hye finds him genuinely hilarious. I am happy to have been witness to such a respectful and mature relationship.

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Yes, this is what I have been waiting for like for oh say 15 episodes, our lovey dovey couple being the cutest pair ever. Thank you Selena for your reap, it is like you were preaching to the choir!

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oops ..thanks for the recap, not reap.;) Now let's see a time jump with our couple having a ton of kids!

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That final screenshot, totally agree that it feels like it's Song Seung-heon & Seo Ji-hye instead of Hae-kyung & Do-hee! Do-hee was pretty much serving herself in a plate there at the end, like, coming late at night into the boyfriend's place, and forcing him to take his shirt off? ><

Feel bad that show is trying hard to give these exes beautiful endings but the FF button has been unleashed and it's just too late. If they are going to be redeemed then they shouldn't have been so hateful for so long...

About the despicable limpets, am wondering tho, do I hate them because I love the OTP much? Or do their existences actually made me root harder and love the OTP more? Why does show make me ponder about the philosophical questions of chicken and egg..?

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Yes, those exes were despicable and to tell the truth I don't care if Jae-hyuk gets better or not! I just want him gone!!! I think I would have loved the OTP much more if we were able to spend more time with their relationship rather than spend our time groaning every time the exes showed up.

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IMO, I think the exes' story lines helped showcase our leads' personalities.

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The master screenwriting teacher John Truby agrees with you. In The Anatomy of Story: 22 Steps to Becoming a Master Storyteller, he says of subplot characters:

The subplot character is one of the most misunderstood in fiction. Most writers think of this character as the lead in the second story line—for example, as the love interest in a detective story. But that is not a true subplot character.

The subplot character has a very precise function in a story, and again it involves the comparative method. The subplot is used to contrast how the hero and a second character deal with the same problem in slightly different ways. Through comparison, the subplot character highlights traits and dilemmas of the main character.

For me, the problem comes excessive time spent with these characters. While I didn't want to see Jae-hyuk's story here, I think his journey is worth its own drama. No-eul—eehhhhh, I would've given her three episodes tops.

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Thanks for the sharing that article. Yeah, their screen time should have been lessened by a minute or two. But overall, I still loved this drama!

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We love our beautiful and funny OTP.
We hate the exes because they add nothing to the show. Most needless characters ever.

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Totally agree. I understand the plot device the exes served, but it was just too heavy-handed. Had it been more balanced, while I wouldn't have loved them, I might have been able to better appreciate them vs just feeling like they were stealing too much time away from the OTP.

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Yes! The exes had a purpose but they sucked up too much oxygen!

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Hmmm... my love for our OTP was pretty much constant. 🤔 The Despicable Exes where just Despicable that if it weren't for Lee Ji-hoon, I'd go full power on the FF.

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I loved this episode. He was so cute and handsome (and funny) when he puckered his lips for a kiss then joked that he drinks his water that way after he was rejected, ha! I think SSH acted very well in this drama! One of my faves of his. Thanks for the recap again. I'm sad this drama series is over.

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If only the whole show had been about these two together, being cute, teasing and bickering and asking the other to have dinner or breakfast together... Oh, the drama that could have been and never was...

I really don't understand Keanu. His name was in fact cleared only a few weeks after the incident. When HK asked another doctor (I can't remember in which episode) he told him the hospital had learned the whole article was fake and when they wanted to return Keanu to his position, they found out he had disappeared and could not possibly reach him.
So, instead of dealing with it, he sent his family abroad and never see them again, he didn't wait until the police investigation was over, and he decided to live in the streets. I'm quite used to nonsense in dramas, but this kind of nonsense is one of the biggest one I've seen lately.
And once again, please, give LJH a leading role, because he's just fantastic and drama gods, if you're listening, please don't let Son Na Eun do any other thing but singing because she just can't act.

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LOL, spot on as always!!

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Sadly I just watched what I wanted to watch from around ep.15 (meaning a lot of fast forwarding), but I totally agree with everything you said!
What a waste of Park Ho-san's talent....
And Son Na-eun... Ugh.
I hated her acting in Second 20s and it hasn't improved at all.
Why casting her? I don't get it....

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This show saved itself for me with this and the last episode. How wonderful it would have been to have had the chance to see more of the multi-faceted personalities of our OTP emerge over the course of a longer arc. I genuinely look forward to the next projects that SJH and SSH undertake.

I think abrupt Keanu dumping of YA may have been down to the show needing to provide a little cliffhanger tension as per the usual penultimate episode approach, but they knew they couldn't do it with the OTP or our collective viewership would have exploded in rage. :-)

On a sidenote, it's been really nice to be seeing more mature couples in recent dramas like our OTP: CLOY, My Unfamiliar Family, Graceful Friends, etc. It's nice to have more of a mix vs everyone thinking love ends at 29 or something.

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I too want to see SSH and SJH in another drama together. I really like their chemistry.💕

Seeing the OTP's relationship fleshed out more instead of being bogged down by their despicable exes' issues is an ideal scenario. I wouldve loved that drama more

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Thanks for another great recap, @selena!

Jeez! Seriously, we had *one* kiss in 28 episodes so that last scene was a HECK OF A LONG TIME COMING! 😍😍 (Erm.. excuse the outburst 😅). Even in our OTPs sweet and quiet moments there's that undeniable sizzle beneath the pink and fluttery things. And Do-hee innocently stoking those fires further by concentrating on something as banal as bandages, while her dear, hunky (albeit injured) Hae-kyeong is sitting there, shirt open, and just about ready to devour a midnight snack... 😋

I watched the BTS for this scene, and PDnim telling SSH, "Don't bend your head when you kiss her. Lift your head and kiss her full on!" (Sure, PDnim, whatever you say...! 😉)

Minor detail - Where that halmyeoni outfit at anyway? It would have been a hilarious throwback, but hey, Do-hee's now on "wearing my boyfriend's shirt" level!

I'm really glad for Jae-Hyuk. Honestly, I would have been much happier for his redemption arc if he wasn't too much in our faces during the entire series. His backstory is indeed quite compelling and does explain his behaviour. *sigh* I wish we were given more about "the other Jae-Hyuk" the person whom Do-hee liked in the past, and as Keanu described is more than just a victim of his painful past and mental illness.

I do wonder about Keanu's decision to hold things off with Ah-Young, but I also kinda get it that despite how things appear to be fine already, he's not ready for the kind of commitment Ah-Young deserves. I recall a scene where he said that he should have been a philosopher instead of a doctor. Perhaps his heart is no longer in the profession and he now wants to help Jae-Hyuk as a father figure, while he forges another path for himself as well.

What is also quite striking in this episode is Hae-kyeong's sense of guilt in risking his life to save Jae-Hyuk, but for Do-hee's sake. Again, we are given an insight into the culture of shame where an altruistic deed can be viewed negatively.

I care not about the other Despicable Ex. FF power activated. I'd rather we saw more about Ah-Young's story, as it was mentioned briefly that she, too, was almost homeless. It would have been a great narrative seeing someone who defied societal norms and the odds and still came out with both guns blazing.

I've watched the BTS for the series and yes, Song Seung-heon is a heck of an Ad-lib King, such as that cafe scene where he grabs Do-hee's chin so she faces him. Seo Ji-hye seems naturally shy and reserved, but she dissolves in laughter with SSH.

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about Jae Hyuk, I wouldve been more forgiving of his redemption if he has not done a few despicable things - NE's accident, HK's brush with TOD, breaking and entering plus stalking

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@jillian Frankly, I've been rather iffy on how everyone in the story seemed so be forgiving of Jae-Hyuk, given that he placed people's lives in danger. He may be deranged, but he seemed fully aware of what he was doing. Also, If Keanu already believed that Jae-Hyuk was likely to harm himself, why didn't he employ preventive measures? My guess is that the series went for the idea that the best solution for someone like Jae-Hyuk is voluntary treatment. Meanwhile, his actions would fall under forgiven but not forgotten category.

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I think they really mishandled Jae Hyuk's arc. He is fully aware of what he is doing. He knows the consequences of his actions and willing to go for it regardless who gets hurt. He is just lucky that people around him was willing to give him a free pass despite his dangerous tendencies. But there is no guarantee that he will not do the same to someone else. That is such a poor message IRL for women who may face similar situations and encounter exes that has similar tendencies. It is always safer to get authorities involved at the first sign of danger *ahem breaking and entering*.

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Omg at PD-nim's direction! Then I'm like, why can't you do that more often? ><

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The episode slowed down its pace after the drama of the previous episodes. I'm not complaining since it got me the OTP scenes I wanted. Even if I hated that they used a convenient accident to get there. This is what the show couldve shown more of - DH and HK interacting/ flirting, Byeongjin being his awesome self, AY and HU dealing with their issues. And the 2Nbox dealing with b-class shows and interpersonal relationships. I am content. Just sad it took hours of wading through circular meddling exes storyline to get here.

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The ending was so fabulous, I was like Yasssss!!! That kiss was yummm and the breakfast ask was perfect as well. I don't like the eyes, I have no empathy or sympathy for them, I just want them to leave and never ever return. Just go far far away.

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I’m conflicted about Jae-hyuk’s arc. He kind of got off scot-free for all the terrible things he’s done and is now moving towards the redemptive part of his story. But actions should have consequences. I guess the viewer is asked to sympathize him cuz of how pitiful his state is, but what’s the moral of his story? If ppl hate you, then go do something worse until you are to be pitied? It’s okay to do despicable things if your parent is a prick?
Personally, I don’t buy his reasoning, that he felt that it was to their benefit if he disappeared. Well, if he really believed that, he wouldn’t have tried to die in front of their eyes. Maybe I’m being harsh, but it’s not a Greek tragedy if the character doesn’t announce it to the audience and in his self destruction, Jae-hyuk wanted an audience. I just dislike that it almost cost someone else’s life, not even his own, for him to grow up, and we see this sudden self awareness after he was as irresponsible as he could be without consequence.

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I think we all feel sort of conflicted about JH because of the outstanding job LJH has done. He's made us feel JH's pain. But that's only for a minute, because then you remember he's a jerk. He's ill, but still he's a total jerk and a coward who could have solved his situation with DH back then in so many ways, but didn't. So no, he has to deal with the consequences and so have we, that have been suffering his character for much longer than needed.
I'd rather not talk about NoEul, because there's no redemption possible.

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argg I agree with that. I actually wanted him to do jail time for breaking and entering plus stalking. I am glad he is getting help but it did feel like a slap in the wrist. His actions has no excuse, he nearly killed someone else a couple of times in his quest for attention.

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His actions has consequences though, he lost Do Hee.

All his actions has stem from wanting her back and all he did is provocation. The false journalist report is with Keanu and they've talk it out. The want to die doesn't put for him because he is literally loosing his mind and want to disappear. He is lost and he try to let go by going therapy.

I think this drama depict mental illness in him better than moonyoung in its okay to not be okay.

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JH lost Do Hee a long time ago. That is hardly punishment for his recent actions. His problem was not accepting it when DH told him to leave her alone and acted out. He has repeatedly emotionally blackmailed her and was rather heavy handed in the "pity me" party. He has committed crimes such as breaking and entering, stalking, attempted murder (NE) and not even counting that false article on Hyun U. He got a slap on the wrist for those even if he fully knew what he is doing and actions were premeditated. That breaking and entering scene, he was dressed similarly to Keanu and he went out of his way to not be recognized on cctv. He hardly got any consequences for those. In the real world, he would get jail time if caught. By letting him go scot free is sending the wring message to viewers.

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*wrong.

I would not compare him with MY since they have different issues and MY has redeeming qualities despite the mental health issues depicted onscreen.

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The difference to me is that Jaehyuk should have been in a in-patient program as soon as he risked No-Eul’s life to manipulate Do-Hee into spending time with him. Mun-yeong needs therapy but Jaehyuk is actually the mentally ill one. I think IOTNBO is intentionally subversive in that labels don’t mean much.
“All he did is provocation” is an understatement in my opinion and @jillian described the many reasons why. The thing that bothers me is that Jaehyuk’s character is too real and everyone probably has a friend or first hand experience of an ex-boyfriend who wouldn’t leave them alone, stalked outside their apt etc. And the thing is, DH displayed a lot more courage than people in real life and even she couldn’t report him to the police.
“All his actions stem from wanting her back” - yes, but it’s nowhere near a valid reason. What he did out of just wanting her back should have led to the police station at minimum. It’s not okay for guys to do this. I’ve seen guys try to use their crummy situations at home to get a girl to take him back. Jaehyuk is a pitiful character. He is clearly not right. But what he did isn’t okay and he faced no repercussions, which I fear gives false signals to future crazy stalker exes that these things are permissible or even that these problems work themselves out on their own (as if he voluntarily decided to get therapy).

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Yeah, JH crossed too many lines. I do think the show should have seen DH at least let HK in on the situation, but ultimately she definitely should have reported him. I wished she had nipped that in the bud right after the scene in the conference room where he was physically menacing. The fact that she didn't was real life to me - I've known plenty of women (myself included) who didn't want to "make it worse" and so just chose to ignore that kind of behavior. But often, as we saw with JH, it just escalated. I agree that he should have faced more serious consequences.

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I swear that puckered scene ended in an adlib! They're so in sync when they act I'd love to see them gracey screen again.

I really liked how HK said he saved JH for DH's sake and for his sake. It was refreshing for a character to say they did it out of "selfishness." He was interested in DH's and his wellbeing. Also, props to AY for always helping DH make sense of her feelings and HK's feelings too.

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Hae Kyong is an amazing boyfriend. Also love that scene.. "I like to drink it like this" *with lips puckered* 😆😆😆 SJH giggled at that 😂

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I dropped the drama and then picked it up again due to the fan wall spazz. And am so glad I did. I ❤️ The OTP. They were mature yet cute and adorable.

And I loved Song Seung-heon in this role. He was just so perfect - biceps, eyelashes et al!!
I loved how natural he was in being mature yet swoony. Oh so swoony!!

The second leads were annoying to no end. But I feel they made out OTP much stronger.

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This episode was such a relief! No protracted coma and lots of flirting. I’m swooning with the rest of y'all (my gawed these two are so lovable!) but we can talk about Hae-kyung probably being a cyborg?

Our handsome shrink is 98% human with bionic joints and self-healing facial skin. The surgeon might even have told Do-hee about HK's cyborg parts but it can be a struggle to grasp what doctors communicate—especially under duress. Our girl is hip to the lingo the kids use but she needs her man to bust through the medical jargon. Remember the doctor's ridiculous word soup in Ep. 1?

I've thought a bit about why the writing has distressed me and—in the end—I might have only myself to blame. Since 2017, I’ve completed several hundred hours of dramas and films from all over Asia. I've dropped 41 shows and have paused 30 others indefinitely.

All this is to say that I've seen enough to know the deeply rewarding emotional highs come the cost of genre whiplash. That show that started as a charming romance? It's actually melodrama lurking behind the facade of a frothy rom-com. Even when I knowingly sign up for a melo, the show will still break my heart with irrational characters too stupid to live.

South Korean shows in particular are over-stuffed with characters and concepts. Let's give ourselves credit for all the mental labor we do to comprehend and correct these dramas as we watch them.

Regarding Dinner Mate, much of my frustration ironically stems from the OTP's chemistry being too good. Song Seung-heon and Seo Ji-hye are so charming together, that it's enraging to having anything else detract from their screen time.

Were I more ambitious, I’d write a fan fiction in the style of the film, The French Lieutenant’s Woman, which was adapted from John Fowles’s metafiction of the same name. Using Dinner Mate BTS and excerpts of the drama, one could flesh out a story about two actors who leave an indelible mark on each other while filming a romantic drama.

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I actually misspelled "gawd." Oh. My. Gawd.

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I thought that "gawed" was deliberate (portmanteau of gawd and awed) 😂. Yeah, I've been trying to ignore HK looking squeaky clean after a close encounter with a COD. Not that I want him to suffer, but IRL, I smack my knee on the coffee table and I'm black and blue for days. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Also, I clearly remember that you're NOT supposed to move a victim of a vehicular accident like that due to possible spinal injuries. 😓😓😓 Oh, well suspended reality indeed!

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Hahahahahaha ... I love your portmanteau. Also, "portmanteau" is one of my favorite words/concepts!

Coffee tables are my bane. I've self-identified as "shin-shy." If I could only figure out how to make shin guards look chic ...

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Cackled so bad about HK the cyborg ><
What you said is so true, thank you for a very coherent write up on the rollercoaster of romcom kdrama experience. It really feels like show is intent on forcing the subplot to be the main... You know, should've figured it out just by seeing the banner: them despicable duo are smiling while our OTP are looking sombre!

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I just have to say, of all things, the biggest pro for me watching this drama was the discovery of Lee Ji-hoon!!!! Man, I was totally amazed by his acting since like the episode he started walking towards DH in the meeting room, his facial expression and his aura, everything. Then in later episodes, he really showcased the range of his emotions and I am completely falling for him!! This is the type of acting I love seeing and I am so glad he really surprised me.

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