[Happily never after] Together in the next life
by Guest Beanie
By fanitha
Editor’s note: This post contains spoilers.
When I read this month’s theme, I really liked it as happiness is usually the focus of attention, but sad endings are also a big part of love and romance. I have to admit that I’m not a huge fan of sad endings but sometimes they work perfectly for the story and also leave a greater impact. That was the case for me with I’m Sorry, I Love You. Even though this drama is an old one from 2004, it’s a classic show with a very engaging story.
The two leads, Moo-hyuk and Eun-chae, had a beautiful romance that built slowly and achieved a great depth by the drama’s denouement. Moo-hyuk started out as a positive character, especially considering his circumstances as an abandoned orphan. But as the story developed he went through his fair share torment before ultimately finding a measure of peace. Through his journey he found a light of hope and happiness in his life in the form of his love, Eun-chae. It really pained my heart when he asked God to let him spend his last days with her and in return he would forget his revenge and leave everything behind.
Eun-chae on the other hand started out as a weak character, but through her interactions with Moo-hyuk she became stronger. She discovered what love truly was and how happiness could be found in the little things, like making kimchi for Moo-hyuk or selling kimbap in the streets with his sister and nephew. Eun-chae endured hardships as well, in part due to her family and friend’s disapproval of her relationship with Moo-hyuk.
At the beginning of the drama, we were told that Moo-hyuk had a death sentence due to a bullet in his brain and there was no way he could feasibly end with a happily ever after. I’m Sorry, I Love You offered Moo-hyuk no last-minute reprieve. He did indeed die, and after his death Eun-chae made the decision to visit Australia where Moo-hyuk was buried.
She went to Australia and revisited all the places where she spent time with Moo-hyuk before she finally reached his grave and committed suicide there. It was shocking, and some might feel like it was a futile death (like Romeo and Juliet), but for me, Eun-chae’s death closed the tragic story of Moo-hyuk’s life and their ill-fated love perfectly. The suicide was terrible but it imparted a sense of gravity and finality. She had spent all of her life doing what others expected of her and abiding by everyone else’s wishes. With Moo-hyuk gone, she ended up choosing a path to follow her loved one.
There’s one scene in particular that I remember vividly from the drama and it was key for making sense of the ending: Eun-chae says to Moo-hyuk that they were not meant to be in this lifetime, but that she promised in the next life she wouldn’t let go of him. I would like to think that even though they got a happily never after in this lifetime they will have a happily ever after in the next one.
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1 Lord Cobol (Kdramas, like water, flow downhill)
February 15, 2019 at 8:05 PM
So was he like reincarnated as Na Wang-Sik just in time for Last Empress?
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2 WishfulToki
February 15, 2019 at 9:02 PM
Nice write-up. 👌
I haven’t seen this drama but overall it’s hard for me to buy the “we’ll be lovers in our next life” because I don’t believe in reincarnation. In most dramas it just seems like a cop out to wring lots of tears and then poof, give viewers a happy ending, kinda. GOBLIN had me almost swearing at the screen when they pulled something like this.
The only drama where I felt reincarnation was done well was CHICAGO TYPEWRITER, because they made it clear that the past and present characters were different people, and that they were not predetermined to act as their past selves had.
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javinne
February 15, 2019 at 9:47 PM
Agree with you in every word. But the trope "see you in my next life", etc, which is common in Asian mentality... I think it is a way the need to have hope. Humans need hope.
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🍙 kimbap noona
February 16, 2019 at 3:40 AM
I wouldn't characterize it as mere "mentality" since cyclic existence is a core philosophical concept shared by Buddhism, Hinduism, and Taoism. If idea of reincarnation is only a way to give hopes, then one might argue that the concept of heaven in Christianity serve the same function.
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sph_7
February 16, 2019 at 7:37 AM
But Christians do have the same mentality. Eulogies are filled with words like “gone to a better place” “til we meet again”. It is all about having hope to reunite.
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Peony
February 18, 2019 at 4:28 AM
Mm hm. I think I have to disagree. I'm Asia, and a Theravada Buddhist, we believe reincarnation, but we don't approve one bit of suicide and "meeting in next life". Because a person who suicides won't be granted a second human life for CENTURIES to come, let alone being able to re-conciliate with his/her partner. Heck, there's no guarantee whether you would be able to to do that EVEN if you two lived this life all loving and caring and good. That's why I have the mentality of; "Heck, I don't care even if I don't meet you in the next life, because I don't have the memories anyway. Too much hopes and bonding will only bring more pain. Let's live this life to the full, be good and loving to each other and everybody, and let go at the death and wish and bless for my partner's next life to be a good one just like this one."
I think Mahayana Buddhists too think something similar. We NEVER hope against hope to be meet again in the next life, and we absolutely don't choose suicide as the method to accomplish that.
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Peony
February 18, 2019 at 4:31 AM
Omg so much mistakes. *Asian, *to be met
Zestileigh
February 16, 2019 at 11:09 PM
I don't really feel ya on the Goblin thing. Considering that one had grim reapers and multiple reincarnated characters right off the bat, it seemed perfectly in line with the world as we got to see it.
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3 13infamyss
February 15, 2019 at 11:24 PM
Ahhhhh! Reading this reminded me of a very old Rain drama - Sangdoo, let’s go to school. Full house was my first Korean drama, and because I wanted to see more of Rain in a drama, that lead me to Sangdoo - my very first melo kdrama which had me crying buckets....
Anyways, that drama ended tragically too, I give shoutout to Truck of Doom’s cameo in this and for being the solely reposible for their untimely death. (sobs, Lol) Sangdoo’s daughter listens to her uncle’s story that her dad and the love of his life are both happy now in the afterlife. One memorable quote from this drama - “Sangdoo, lets just love each other little, so that people won’t get jealous and pull us apart”. Like damn. That had me sobbing ugly at that time that’s why I can’t forget that line, and now I don’t know, 🤷♀️ it sounds cheesy and how they died just like that in the middle of the road has me now 🙄🙃🙄.
Good old classic dramas and their afterlife HEA 🙃
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13infamyss
February 15, 2019 at 11:35 PM
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13infamyss
February 15, 2019 at 11:39 PM
Anyways I watched MiSa years later after it aired, and I had seen several makjang dramas since then that when I finally got the chance to check this drama out, it didn't really give me that same punch in the gut like it did for others. I mean it was still a good drama, but I don't think it had me sobbing ugly. I just felt sorry to their tragic fate. Anyways this was my first So Ji Sub drama, and glad I had seen him in this. Thanks for writing up on this drama and for bringing up classics like this! We need to talk more about them on DB!
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bbstl 🧹
February 16, 2019 at 8:27 AM
I'm thinking that "Good old classic dramas and their afterlife" could be a good monthly topic. Like, whenever I think of MISA I think of SJS skulking around in that terrible mustache (non) disguise and the other characters seriously being fooled. Then I start giggling, and the whole tragedy goes poof! in my mind.
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4 Moonbean
February 16, 2019 at 1:27 AM
The ending of this drama was a shock to my system. It was my first ever Kdrama, my friends have been harassing me to watch one for at least a couple of years, I hate sad endings and somehow of all the funny romcoms etc. this is the one I had to start with!
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Tizzy
February 16, 2019 at 11:22 AM
Me too, I hate tragic endings. I was traumatized with Autumn Tale and What Happened in Bali. Both were so good and really addicting but the ending really affected me.
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5 missjb
February 16, 2019 at 3:25 AM
The ending of this drama really shock me. I torture myself to rewatch the ending countless times, and always success makes me cry.... Omg you Im Soo Jung. Your grief is my grief.
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6 Kairoskat 💐
February 16, 2019 at 3:33 AM
I'm sorry i love you was one weird drama. I sat through it for JKH.
And TLE reminds me of ISILY. NWS is So Ji Sub or the guy with the bullet in his head. Hyuk is Jung Kyung Ho or the guy with a bad heart that is delusional about the female lead affection.
The ending was unique and one of a kind. She ended up killing herself. I didnt like the ending. Actually i had a hard time trying to connect with the female lead. She was slightly cray2 too.
But this suddenly reminds me of Life in Mars, when Taejoo made the decision to join his 1988 squad. I'm not sure if Taejoo actually woke up from his coma or not, if all of this is just a mind trick or he actually did jump. But I did smile when he was smiling back in 1988, reunited with his friends. Him being happy was the end of his long journey in LoM.
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lemoncello
February 17, 2019 at 5:00 AM
A good friend of mine just finished watching "Life on Mars", and she wanted to smash her monitor because of the ending.... She said it's quite unfair for Tae-joo's mother when he decided to go back to 1988 to save his team. She said that he's still selfish... And I said, "it's just a drama", LoL.
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larelle79
February 17, 2019 at 8:14 AM
I do not understand why people are in denial about him killing himself. It was clear as day he woke up, rehab, and became a captain of his own squad. After he found present day Min-suk's brother from the cold case file, he jumped off the roof and did not survive this time around.
The mental gymnastics that was done instead of just accepting that he did indeed commit suicide.
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7 ladyjaye
February 16, 2019 at 3:43 AM
This is me every time I think of NiHuang and Lin Shu from Nirvana in Fire. Or Jingyan, Lin Shu and Prince Qi.
I hope they find each other in the next life and are happy in the bonds of romantic and brotherly love.
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8 mano
February 16, 2019 at 4:13 AM
I rarely 'see see you in the next life' in kdrama, but I always see it in c drama. Even the one with modern setting like Meteor Garden 2018 also have it, remember when Dao Ming-si and Shancai bid farewell on the bridge in London, Ahsi told Shancai something like, we can't be together but I hope we met again and we will be lovers in our next life.
I don't mind if it happens, the OTP realize they can't be together because one have to save the country or can't oppose his/her evil mother/in-laws, but what happened in I'm Sorry I love is sucks imo.
I believe during their 16 episodes as couple they had conversation and shared what they want to do as couple (maybe traveling or open a small shop near the beach or whatever) why didn't she stay live and fulfill his dreams. What did the writer want to say with that ending?
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9 sph_7
February 16, 2019 at 7:33 AM
I started watching this because of Jung Kyung Ho. Sorry to say I didn’t see the OTP’s chemistry. I liked the female lead a lot in Chicago Typewriter but she was much greener in this drama that had somewhat disappointed me. Not her fault. Had I watched this back when it was released and didn’t know the ending, I’ll probably love it. I’m a sucker for romantic tragedies.
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10 Diana Hansen
February 16, 2019 at 7:58 AM
i am chicken for sad endings cause i want them to be happy at the end. my brain won't let go of the sad ending for a long time. but, I'm Sorry I Love You was the BEST sad ever. the ending fit for me somehow and it left a big impact on my heart. sad but i understood her actions. not wanting it to happen but accepting that it did sort of thing. and SJS did not and does not disappoint me ever.never.
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11 owl 🦉 🫰
February 16, 2019 at 11:55 AM
I'm Sorry I Love You is the ultimate happy never after drama if there ever was one. I can't count how many times I've watched this drama - it's captured me in a way that I can't explain. I love your explanation, fanitha, of why the ending makes sense. Thanks for that.
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fanitha
February 20, 2019 at 6:34 PM
Thank you, you can't get enough of this drama. I also like rewatching it.
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12 Molly
February 17, 2019 at 6:31 AM
This and Rain's old drama "A Love to Kill" where he was paired up with Shin Min Ah. After sooo many strugles and diversions of their love, they ended up laying to freeze together (suicide??) in a random snow field??? The ending really baffled me. It was just hard to digest and took me so long to forgive the d$#n writer.
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cherry 🍒
February 18, 2019 at 7:27 AM
A Love to Kill was the second k-drama I watched (after Full House) and it left me traumatised for years...
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frekenznork
February 18, 2019 at 7:38 AM
same here :(((
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13 Peony
February 18, 2019 at 4:30 AM
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14 solangelvp
February 18, 2019 at 6:37 AM
MISA is one of the best dramas ever, it does a Romeo and Juliet vibe with the ill fated lovers ending yet it is so unique and perfect, I have watched it several times despite it being so heartbreaking but So Ji Sub is amazing here and the story is so great. This drama had a lot of "what ifs" that showed that if people stopped acting as if they knew better then Mo-hyuk and Eun-chae would have had a happy ending.
*spoilers ahead*
If Moo-hyuk and his sister were not taken away when they were born they would have had a perfect life, her sister would have never been in an accident and he would never have ended up with a death sentence, at the end it was Eun-chae's father who collaborated to all of that and ultimately he lost his own daughter, they do not show the after of what happens when everyone finds out what Eun-chae did but it would surely be a kind of punishment to all who had a hand on what happened to Moo-hyuk and his sister. He spent his whole life being abandoned, neglected and left behind and still thought of wanting to go and help his mom, hoping that he was left because they couldn't take care of him and instead at the end found that everyone was living a happy life while he and his sister only faced pain so he decides on revenge but Eun-chae changed him, made him want something just for him, made him want to be happy at least on the last moments of his life, and again those who caused him pain ended up taking even her away from him. When Eun-chae realized everything it was too late because so many things had happened that it was impossible for them to be together and even at his last moment he made more sacrifices for others as always and ended up being alone, he didn't want his mother to lose a son again and he didn't want Eun-chae to see his painful last moments and see him leave her. It was sad to see Eun-chae put a front for so long so she made sure that everything was fine before deciding to go to Moo-hyuk so he wasn't alone anymore, and even if she had her family and friends it was not the same without Moo-hyuk, he changed her life, her suicide was kinda extreme but wasn't because she couldn't exactly live without him, it was because she didn't want him to be alone anymore, and she during the drama everything that happened might have made her go a bit crazy for a bit but she somehow overcame it for what is shown before her death, it is just that it was her way of not letting him be alone anymore and as I said before a way of making all the people that hurt Moo-hyuk, specially Eun-chae's father, know that there are consequences for their actions, if Moo-hyuk just died and Eun-chae kept leaving it was as if his existence and what happened to him was just a bad dream that they could forget, but with her gone as well, they wouldn't be able to forget their sins and how much pain they caused others because of their lies and selfish acts. Eun-chae and Moo-hyuk end up not only as ill fated lovers but also as the most...
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fanitha
February 20, 2019 at 6:36 PM
I love your insight, and as you said it was all about Eun-chae not wanting Moo-hyuk being alone ever again. Because she saw how much he suffered and also how much he sacrified in the end.
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technicat
February 23, 2019 at 12:19 AM
This is right on the money. This was one of my early kdramas and the ending really bothered me, but after a recent rewatching, I realized the same thing, that just about everyone had suffered (a lot!) in this drama except her father, who, of those remaining, was more responsible than anyone for what happened. Losing his daughter is a (k)dramatically fitting punishment for taking Moo-hyuk and his sister away from their mother. So, the ending still bothers me, but not as much as in some other dramas where it seems to me an almost gratuitous ending. Here, I think it's very clever the way it closes the narrative structure.
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15 redzoro92
February 19, 2019 at 5:30 PM
For next month's Theme how about Second Couples who out-shined the OTP. Because while I initially want to choose a couple for this month's theme, I realized they weren't really tragic as I initially thought. Especially when compared the these couples.
Anyway, the couple I am talking about is In-Ah and Major Ryu from Spy Myung Wol. The two were always more interesting and charming than the OTP. And while they never really ended up together the writers left it open enough so that you can at least be satisfied with the way it ended.
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16 another woodalchi nicole recruit
February 20, 2019 at 1:53 PM
I hadn't heard of this drama, and I have a super low tolerance (read: none) for tragedies, so I think I have to skip this one. But I enjoyed reading your write-up and just wanted to say so <3.
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