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Good Partner: Episodes 3-4

Trying divorce cases has a different feel when your own marriage is fraying at the seams. Our ace attorney’s marital issues take center stage as she struggles to take her own advice and remain rational. She may hate relying on others, but she’s coming to realize she might not be able to do it all on her own. And as luck would have it, she’s got a hoobae frenemy who isn’t good at staying on the sidelines while women are wronged.

 
EPISODES 3-4

I liked the premiere episodes, but this week hooked me. There was a stronger balance of personal and professional, which made it feel a bit less generic and more engaging. We get more existential this week, exploring what marriage truly is. What does it mean to be a spouse and what do you owe each other? What’s your line in the sand? As we see in these episodes, there’s no single answer that satisfies everyone.

We learn a lot more about Eun-kyung’s marriage this week, and it’s clear their troubles have been brewing for years. At this point, she and Ji-sang are barely speaking, and even calling them roommates seems a stretch. He’s the primary parent, and Eun-kyung’s work keeps her so busy he argues she’s barely a part of the family. Things are so bad he’s been asking her for a divorce. Despite their internal relationship issues and the affair, Eun-kyung refuses – how would that look publicly, the renowned divorce lawyer with the perfect life getting a divorce?

While Ji-sang’s affair is inexcusable, his grievances are legitimate. It seems like Eun-kyung has put career before family and hasn’t been a present mother or wife. Her anger at his affair might be impacting her response, but I wouldn’t be surprised if this dynamic of him saying how he feels and her coldly dismissing his concerns is a pattern. (She is allergic to feelings, after all.) Their marriage issues go beyond an affair, and there’s clearly hurt to go around.

Yuri, unsurprisingly, is terrible at keeping a secret, so she lets slip to Eun-ho about Eun-kyung’s cheating husband. Not that it makes much difference; if you cheat at the office, people are bound to see something. Woo-jin has spotted Ji-sang and assistant CHOI SARA (Han Jae-yi) together looking lovey-dovey, and he is tormented over whether to tell Eun-kyung. He tentatively asks if they’ve been having marriage issues, but he doesn’t reveal what he saw. Eun-kyung, stoic as ever, pretends everything is fine.

So we’ve got Eun-kyung who refuses to acknowledge she has emotions, and Yuri who is nothing but emotions. Gotta love those drama opposites. While Eun-kyung has remained cordial with Sara at work for months, Yuri almost explodes when she realizes that not only does Sara (who she treats as a mortal enemy now) live in her building, but she’s chummy with Yuri’s mom.

Yuri can’t imagine what’s holding Eun-kyung back from divorce, but what looks straightforward from the outside can be anything but for those involved. There’s a generational divide with younger women, like Yuri, all for divorce and not letting a man hold you back from your best life. But although the stigma for divorcees has lessened, it’s not gone, particularly for women of older generations. Some women would rather stick out a terrible, even abusive, marriage rather than face the criticism they’d get for divorcing and guilt for not doing their supposed duty.

In one such case, a woman being abused by her husband can’t bring herself to divorce him, even when her daughter begs her. She argues that this full-grown man doesn’t know how to cook for himself and can’t survive without her help. He’s the type of manipulative person who uses self-harm to trap his wife in the marriage, and it works. She’s so beaten down she thinks suffering is her lot in life and accepts it.

Yuri is shaken by the case, but it’s commonplace to Eun-kyung who assures her it’s not her fault. She encourages Yuri to separate her normal self from her lawyer self, something that’s easier said than done. The idea of continuously fighting her conscience at work is too much for Yuri, so she resigns. Before she leaves, she gives Sara’s address to Eun-kyung and reveals Ji-sang practically lives with Sara.

Eun-kyung may act unfazed by the affair, but she can’t help going to see for herself. She watches their domestic bliss from a distance and cries alone. Something in her snaps – even Eun-kyung has a limit. She then makes a surprising move: she files her divorce papers with Yuri and asks her to use her “pathetic sense of justice” to punish her husband. Eun-kyung could represent herself, but she acknowledges that Yuri balances her out since their approaches are completely different. Resignation not accepted. Well, this should be fun.

If Yuri thought her boss inescapable before, it’s worse now that she’s her lawyer. She even gets roped into chauffeuring Eun-kyung’s daughter KIM JAE-HEE (Yoo-na) who is her mother’s daughter what with her attention to detail and no-nonsense manner. From the way Jae-hee vehemently denies being like her mom and insists she resembles her dad, it’s clear who she’s closer to. And that might be a problem for Eun-kyung because Ji-sang is determined to get custody. He may not be able to deny the airtight evidence of his affair that Eun-kyung submits to the court, but he isn’t willing to give up Jae-hee to a mother he sees as negligent.

All the stress has Yuri venting to her work buddy Eun-ho over drinks. A few too many drinks, it would seem, because she wakes up beside him in a hotel the next morning. They’re both super awkward the morning after, but they don’t have long to worry about it. Eun-kyung’s divorce hits the tabloids, and the CEO makes a huge scene in the office, worrying how it’ll affect the law firm. But the ever confident Eun-kyung isn’t worried – she plans to use her divorce to put on a show and boost the firm.

Both Eun-kyung and Ji-sang are out for blood, so this promises to be an ugly divorce. And if our final scene is anything to go by, it’s about to get uglier. Yuri sees Eun-kyung in what appears to be a compromising position with a man, possibly lending credence to the complaint submitted from Ji-sang’s lawyer that Eun-kyung also had an affair.

What a mess! Not that I’m happy about how the marriage has thoroughly broken down, but I do like that we get to see Eun-kyung reacting emotionally for the first time. It’s obvious she uses her stoicism and superwoman image to cover any vulnerabilities, and the veneer is already cracking. As the case progresses, I’m looking forward to seeing more of what’s underneath.

Eun-kyung has her faults and has contributed to the state of her marriage, but I do hesitate to believe she’s having an affair. Given some comments by Ji-sang, it sounds like he suspects her of being a little too close to Woo-jin. I’m betting that’s who they’ve accused her of having an affair with, but they don’t give off that vibe to me. True or not, this could make Eun-kyung’s case murkier. I just hope both parties remember there’s a very real child between them who deserves better than to be collateral damage in their fight.

 
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While I 100% agree his feelings about her absence are valid, along with his feelings about wanting custody of their daughter. He was the primary parent, it makes sense he gets custody. However, he should have requested a divorce before he decided to be messy pants and get with her secretary. Who will naturally bear the brunt of the affair. They are both gross and I have to ultimately side with Eun Kyung because he could have ended the marriage before he got so deep into an affair that he is taking marriage photos with his girlfriend. That being said they need to ask the daughter what she wants, other than that go off.

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Or, novel idea, he could have talked with her about his issues with her as a mother and wife and perhaps gone to counseling...but no, he uses them to justify his affair. What a coward!

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Hot take: I don't think his feelings about her absence are valid EITHER. She literally got him a job in her office in order to have more time with him. She definitely didn't realize he was boning her secretary *before* he started to work with her--she looked totally shocked when he made that comment about CCTV. (Like she needs CCTV, dude, you took fake wedding photos with your girlfriend, holy shit!)

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I mean this is fair too. I can see why you would feel that way honestly.

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Just speaking emotionally, not analytically, I have no sympathy with the cheating jerk of a husband if the only problem is that she has prioritized her career. That's the kind of thing that could be talked out, or, if he insisted, divorced out without saying things like "you aren't even human to me." The venom with which he talks with her seems totally unjustified just because she was working or even if she wasn't responsive to his needs--and of course, that itself is the stereotype excuse of the male adulterer "my wife doesn't understand me." There could be other things revealed that will complicate the story, although I agree with @quirkycase I don't think she had an affair or is engaged in anything compromising in the cliffhanger.

Also, if I could be shallow and catty, the way men often are to each other, why is such a beautiful and charismatic young woman as Yuri stuck with such a smirky dough boy as Eun-ho? I can understand her embarrassment about her drunken mistake, because he has no physical or intellectual appeal whatsoever. Could the show be setting her up for a quickie marriage and a divorce? I hope not, but if the romance between them is supposed to be taken seriously, they made a serious casting mistake, at least for this viewer!

Stepping away from the characters for second, if Eun-kyung's marriage foundered just on her time spent working away from the family, then that would be the reversal of the traditional spousal roles, with the man as career oriented bread winner, and there would be an interesting question of just how much a woman should be blamed if she didn't automatically assume a central role in child rearing. I almost wish the affair hadn't been so central, and the husband wasn’t so unappealing, and that instead the issue was what should be expected of a working woman, because so far the show's cases are sort of cliched--abusive drunken husband, affair with the best friend, wife trying to take her husband's income, etc. I did like the discussions that occurred about the remaining stigma of divorce, and then the ambivalence of the women who had been married a long time and the rationales they invented to avoid a wrenching change such as divorce, no matter how necessary and beneficial it would be in the long run.

The other reason I would have preferred to see a more subtle presentation of Eun Kyung’s marriage problems is that this is now about the 20th show in the last few years that has a beautiful successful married professional whose life crumbles when she discovers her husband is cheating scum (or a head of a criminal enterprise; or had compromised the family in some sort of stupid financial deal, etc. etc.) In fact Jang Nura was in exactly one of those shows recently. Is every Korean man married to a beautiful, successful career woman a degenerate a**hole?

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I am hoping, without much hope, the writer drops the romance plot with dough boy -love that description btw!! The show should focus on Yuri's developing her lawyering skills and being mentored by our legal maven, Eun Kyung.

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Is every Korean man married to a beautiful, successful career woman a degenerate a**hole?

One has to wonder if these shows are funded by K-govt. to encourage woman to stay-at-home and care for their husband/children to avoid any kind of marriage troubles. No surprise in the young generation of korean women refraining from marriage.

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I've thought about this, wondering whether this show and the others have conservative intent--don't get so high and mighty that you neglect your duties as a wife and mother; or whether they are designed to appeal to professional women who have felt, at best, undersupported; or whether they are just melodramatic plots about scandalous affairs and cheating husbands that have always been a part of popular culture.

From what I've read and then what I've learned from the discussion on DB, Korean career women were about a generation behind the U.S. in winning legitimacy for their career aspirations while being married, but of course both in the U.S. and Korea career women are still supposed to do it all, and despite the awfulness of the husbands in these shows, I'm sure in real life Korean men's behavior, just like U.S. husbands, ranges from eager and proud support of their wife's career success to angry dismissal of her rights (leading to divorce). I’m also sure that like the U.S. most marriages that last have husbands who are generally supportive but who are overly willing to have the wife do the after-work household work.

As far as divorce, I think Korea has followed exactly the trajectory of the U.S. just a generation later—divorce rates shooting up as unhappily married women gained more rights, and then beginning a slow decline reflecting the fact that fewer people are getting married, and the marriages that do occur are between slightly older adults, who are more financially settled, and mature enough to know what they are getting into; also of course (again like the middle class/upper class U.S. cohort) birthrates are declining rapidly, so the strain child raising puts on a marriage is lessoned. Obviously, who knows the circumstances of the divorces that are still occurring—is it because of infidelity? Husbands continued assumption of preeminence, and backlash to women’s success? Or just emotional/personal incompatibility?

Anyway, back to these shows—whether or not the plethora of shows where successful women have scum husbands is intended to send a message or not, its a bit dispiriting as a husband to see what the kdrama writers, most of whom are women, think of husbands. It does help to put rom-com couples in perspective, though. Sure, Sun Jae might be devoted to Im Sol at the end of Lovely Runner, but a few more episodes would have shown the additional forward time skip, where Sun Jae has abandoned Sol to sleep with her brother’s wife!

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At first glance this might seem like a fun, little divorce show, but in reality, it's pretty darn messy (in a good way). It doesn't feel like the show is here to give easy answers, and is instead far more interested in the (sometimes very ugly) messiness of everything.

The 4th case is the only case that actually feels like it has a happy ending that doesn't come with a "but", though it's also arguably the least complicated or personal case.

I'm not particularly here for a romance between Yuri and Eun-ho, but I like the chaos and messiness of the one-night stand. It's fun to watch that whole thing unfold.

The husband is trash, though I don't think Eun-kyung was the easiest person to be married too. Now, obviously, I'm on her side in all of this, but she's far from perfect, and I don't think her husband suddenly got up one day and decided "and now I'm gonna have an affair". Their marriage most likely had serious problems before the affair, and that's arguably on both of them. Now, as I said, he's trash, and he's the one that decided to have an affair, and he doesn't even feel the slightest bit of guilt over it (like, seriously, wedding photos while you're still married?). But they did seem genuinly happy in that flashback, and it's honestly kinda sad to see how bad things have gotten.

I'm pretty sure she's not having an affair (though it wouldn't surprise me if Woo-jin ends up having certain feelings for her), but regardless, this is gonna be a messy divorce. And the daughter is only gonna make it more difficult, and sadly, the chance of her becoming collateral damage is very real. I'm not sure what she'd want, but it wouldn't surprise me if her initial preference would lie with her father. Still, I'm hopeful that Eun-kyung's relationship with her daughter will develop in a positive way.

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Interesting how the husband's mistress seems surprised when he said he wanted sole custody of the child and how he seemed to squirm when she told the attorney that he hadn't been sleeping with his wife...

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I picked up on that, too! I think he's a sleaze and talked her into doing something she knew was disloyal and wrong. When the big confrontation of episode 4 happened, she asked her boss why she called her by her first name at work. Oho! K-dramas have so many instances of people getting in trouble by using the wrong level of formality.

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I liked these episodes which were so very real in so many ways. If it tourns out that Jang Nara's character really did have an affair, then that would actually make the story better, because it provides balance. But I do not yet now if that is really the case or did we maybe just get a head fake instead?

Still, our newbie has still not yet wrapped her head around the idea that a lawyer is an advocate and not a judge or jury- I hope that she gets that message soon.

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What I've found most interesting in the different cases is what is marriage beyond romance, sex, or companionship. Caring for someone that doesn't deserve your care, because no one else will care for them, or providing for someone as it's your responsibility for their care for your children, are really interesting ideas about the relationship.
Newbie still mostly grates on me. Jang Nara isn't uncaring with clients; she's just experienced.
I loved when the husband's lawyer told Nam Ji-hyun she looked like a baby, she told him he looked like a retiring principal. That actor has been a principal at some point, right?

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If this were a J-drama Yuri and Eun-ho would have had drunken sex in the motel room. But this is a K-drama and viewers don't even consider the possibility they did it. Because this is a K-drama. How many times have we seen a 'she thought they did it but he was a gentleman' trope in K-dramas? The one exception? Business Proposal.

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Nah I'm glad they keep it clean. Too many dramas and shows around now that show unnecessary scenes. And this trope isn't exactly unrealistic for viewers from certain societies.

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Thank you @quirkycase for the recap. Although I agree with you on most points, I don't think Eun Kyung is having an affair. She seems like she hasn't entertained any thoughts with a man apart from her husband because her hurt over his affair looked genuine. Her meltdown after confronting the secretary was hard to watch.

I also think the daughter loves her mom, but since she has the same demeanour like her mom, the viewers are made to believe that she will side with her cheating dad.

Yuri and Eun Kyung's developing bond seems to be the highlight of the show and I am all for it. These two are intelligent, sassy and quick to learn from the other.

I don't mind the romance of Yuri with the other guy because it seems to be played for fun and seems harmless. If it goes melo, then yes, I would much rather the show stick with the women centric plot.

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I want this to be m-e-s-s-y!
I actually wouldn’t mind if Eun-kyung and Woo-jin had an affair. Do you see the way he LOOOKS AT HER?? *fans self*

Tho the show might go with emotional cheating vs physical cheating, with perhaps more nuance than the usual binary. Her husband seems already committed to the assistant and Yu-na already calls her Aunt Sa-ra. That said, we are told the husband Ji-sang is the primary care-giver but aren’t shown this and then we have the scene where we see Yu-na behaving like a mini Eun-kyung. Ji-sang might be an easier parent for Yu-na and given Eun-kyung’s personality I can see why she would initially choose her father, but I’m not convinced Ji-sang should be the primary caregiver, we haven’t had many scenes with them interacting together. I’m thinking after all the ugly divorce proceedings they might come to a mutual agreement of joint custody

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Eun-kyung has a role in the debacle of her marriage. It doesn't give her husband the right to cheat but I can understand he wanted more in a relationship. But his new relationship already showed signs of weaknes with Chief Choi who didn't expect the daughter in the package, it's quite stupid because he was the one who mostly took care of her.

Eun-kyung needs to talk with her daughter and be more in her life. I'm kinda tired by this kind of teenagers in Kdrama who acts like miniadult. I hope to see more of their relationship.

Yuri is really fun to watch, she's so serious trying to understand people.

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Yes, I also noticed the way Chief Choi flinched during the conversation about custody.

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Honestly, I don't see a divorce happening here.

Both parties have a full share in the blame party. Marital neglect and cheating respectively, both carrying heavy weight.

Their kid? This one is interesting. I didn't expect her pragmatic approach to the impending divorce. She has the mini-Eun-kyung in her which gives her objectivity in this case. I'd like to express, contrary to the opinion here that Jae-hee's mini-mom personality isn't helping Eun-kyung in any way if the divorce proceedings begin and she's asked to choose which parent to raise her.

I perfectly understand Ji-sang. However, his boldness about the affair erases my understanding so I'm back to a stalemate on his case. And, using their daughter as a bargaining chip. I don't like Ji-sang or Eun-kyung for doing so. Their battles are between them. They should sort out their tussle before deciding who keeps the girl. Eun-kyung doesn't have any moral responsibility right to demand Jae-hee's custody. And I find it absurd that Ji-sang rubs the former statement in Eun-kyung's face after the fact that he cheated, even though he has the moral right to take custody of Jae-hee. The fact that he cheated doesn't wipe off his sincere love and devotion to the care of his daughter. Both are distinctly separate things.

The episode 3 case annoyed me. Episode 4 was more clear than complicated.

Yu-ri still grates my nerves even at episode 4. I don't know Eun-ho's purpose in this drama except comic relief, which hardly hits for me.

Woo-jin on the other hand, I reserve my comments for later. The man is growing on me. But I don't think I'm ready for another story of a love that could have been but didn't because of one roadblock or the other. He should have moved on by now. I'm guessing they've known each other before Eun-kyung met Ji-sang.

The million dollar question I need an answer to is: When did the affair begin?

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Viewers were much too hard on the divorce series 'Strangers Again' from a year and a half ago. The expected K-drama trope would have been the couple reunites but it said it right in the title - strangers again - that the drama was a story of final separation. I noticed early in that series the male lead was 'acting' up a storm as though it were a serious drama, not a fluffy rom-com, so I adjusted my expectations accordingly.
Good Partner gives off a similar vibes. Despite the courtroom hijinks I get the impression at it base its a serious drama touching on serious issues.

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They came close to reuniting! They basically got back together as lovers without getting remarried, but then broke up again.

But Strangers Again was relatively light and silly at the start. This one began with emotionally tough divorces, more along the lines of Divorce Attorney Shin. I also find the soon-to-be-ex-husband (I sure hope!) really horrendous. For most of Strangers Again I really thought the main couple shouldn't have divorced. The writers sprang all the husband's serious issues on us in the last episodes.
It's a tough set up for writers, isn't it?

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The scriptwriter behind Good Partner is a divorce specializes in divorce. So, one can forget about watching a rom-com.

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Nam jihyun is always a miss. Can't watch her dramas. Sorry nara

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I do not believe for one second that Eun Kyung was having an affair with her "work husband." I also doubt that the story that Choi Sa Ra keeps repeating about how the marriage was over and it was a "dead bedroom" before their affair is true. I think that's what the husband told her to get her into bed. I can't fathom how Eun Kyung could find those fake wedding photos and not act immediately. Even the criminal lawyer representing the husband in the divorce said, "you committed adultery under a lamp." (I sure hope that's a direct translation, because I loved it!)

I don't understand how Yuri could mistakenly believe that she had sex with Eun-ho. How would she not know?

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I don't have a good feeling about Jung Woo Jin. He is obsessed with her and he will do anything to get Cha Eun Kyung. So it's possible that he will join forces with Choi Sa Ra to destroy their marriage.

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I hope the whole show doesn't keep showing women as the victims and men as the bad guys.

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The devil wears Prada, it reminds me a lot of 'I have a lover'. She is cold absolutely no feelings for others. She is not interested in her husband or daughter. The most important thing for her is money and power. Simply put, she goes over corpses to achieve her goals and make a lot of money. Victims are absolutely worthless to her. She is the devil personally who knows no mercy. The worst wife and mother you can imagine. She is inhumane.
Her husband is really stupid that he started an affair with the secretary. I understand why he did it, unfortunately very stupid. He should simply divorce and get the provision for the daughter and give up her dirty money.

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A bit late to this show but here for Jang Nara! I'm against cheating no matter the cause and with kids involved, there is no clean break. They will be collateral damage either way but it's always better to be honest. Like how Eun Kyung knew about the affair, it's no surprise Jae Hee knows about the divorce. I hope Eun Kyung can break the news to Jae Hee before she knows it from Sera the snake. She have been absent from her family and Jae Hee most likely resents her for it, I wanna see their relationship grow, she's already a mini Eun Kyung, it's so cute. Eun Kyung has kept her feelings close to herself and doesn't allow herself to show anything. When she actually saw her husband adultering, it's heartbreaking, because now it's real. If you don't actually see it, you can still pretend it's not true.
From Eun Kyung's flashbacks, I thought there were happy times. But her husband seems to only remember the bad. And how low can you get to ask about the CCTV? you're the one who's cheating! the hurt on Eun Kyung's face oof.

Now Woo Jin, it's a good thing Yuri spoke to him first because if anyone else does, it's not going to do Eun Kyung's divorce case a lot of good. Anyone can see he's in love with her, I have Yuri's exact face after hearing him, it's like shitwhatamesswhydidntyouconfessnowwhatamigonnado all in one. Although Yuri still has some qualms about Eun Kyung, she's learning and I'm glad she's Eun Kyung's lawyer. They make a hell of a pair, now I need more of them instead of Yuri and Eun Ho , sorry PO but you aren't interesting enough in this show.

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