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Oh My Baby: Episode 14

Our main couple’s relationship continues to speed along. Overjoyed, they face their future with hope and optimism but life soon brings them back to earth with a thud. Our heroine is forced to deal with a father that she hasn’t seen in years and just when that’s resolved, medical setbacks turn our couple’s lives upside down. Our resilient heroine may just be facing the one challenge that she won’t be able to overcome.

  
EPISODE 14: “Grown-ups only cry for real”

After Yi-sang proposes, Ha-ri doesn’t answer and he nervously adds, “You don’t need to give me an answer right now.” Finding her voice, Ha-ri stammers that she’s just in shock but when she tells Yi-sang, “I’m sorry,” he thinks that she’s turned him down. Ha-ri is just sorry because she’s being so hesitant and she explains that she’s anxious because they could still break up in the future.

While Yi-sang remains on one knee, Ha-ri realizes that her worrying keeps her from fully enjoying life. Ha-ri finally tells Yi-sang, “Okay. Let’s get married,” and he can’t wait to slip her ring onto her finger. After Ha-ri places Yi-sang’s ring on his finger, they clasp hands and Yi-sang expresses his heartfelt wish, “Let’s try our best to be happy,” and she agrees, “Yes, let’s be happy.”

At Ha-ri’s house, Jae-young comes across a photo of him and Do-ah as he packs his things. Before he leaves, Jae-young pauses to look around the house that was a home for the two of them.

When Ha-ri returns to her desk, she gives Hyo-joo some advice on an article and then offers her a compliment, “Other than that, you did a great job.” Hyo-joo squeals when she sees the ring on Ha-ri’s finger and when Yeon-ho and So-yoon join her to congratulate Ha-ri, they let her know that they helped Yi-sang with his proposal.

Mom finally returns home and sees that Jae-young has already moved out. It’s late by the time Mom leaves for the hospital and it’s even later when Ha-ri comes home to an empty house.

The next day, Ha-ri calls her mother from outside of Dachae Media and offers to pay for a caregiver so that Mom can come home. Yi-sang walks by and overhears Ha-ri telling Mom, “I hate that you’re caring for him like this. Resent him instead and stay away from him.”

After seeing Yi-sang, Ha-ri turns and shares her concern that her mother will get sick before hanging up. When Yi-sang asks if Mom is still at the hospital, Ha-ri confirms that she is before running back to work.

That evening, Yi-sang brings Ha-ri’s mother some dinner and asks if he should meet Ha-ri’s father. Mom knows that would infuriate Ha-ri even more and she shares that Ha-ri hasn’t seen her father since her elementary school graduation. In a flashback to that day, Mom had asked Ha-ri if she would be fine without her dad and she had answered, “Sure.” Mom reports that from that point on, Ha-ri rarely mentioned her father, but Mom believes losing him is the reason her daughter wants a family of her own so desperately.

Yi-sang leaves the hospital just as Jae-young arrives and Jae-young uses the opportunity to ask, “…is there a chance for you to overcome your infertility?” When Yi-sang admits that he’s hoping for a miracle because there’s only a 1% chance, Jae-young tells him, “I truly wish that it’s not false hope.”

Jae-young finds the room where Ha-ri’s father is recovering and enters just after dad thanks Mom for her help. After reacquainting himself with Ha-ri’s father, Jae-young offers to stay all night so that Mom can go home and rest. When Mom asks about his living situation, Jae-young explains that he’s staying in a serviced apartment and that Do-ah is with her mother for a few days. After urging Ha-ri’s mother to think of her own health, she agrees to go home.

When Jae-young sits down, Ha-ri’s father asks about Ha-ri and learns that she waited for him the day of her elementary school graduation, hoping that he would bring her a bouquet of flowers. Jae-young then fondly lists Ha-ri’s many school accomplishments after that day and when he concludes, “Ha-ri grew up to be a kind, sweet person,” her dad asks about their relationship.

Jae-young explains, “We’re just friends who are like siblings,” and that they fell in love with other people. In a flashback to their college days, Jae-young found a drunk Ha-ri, who had just been dumped, and when she worried about finding a man who liked her, he confessed, “I like you.”

After Ha-ri rejected him, Jae-young demanded, “Why, am I not good enough?” Ha-ri explained that if things didn’t work out between them, it would be like losing another family member, a risk she wasn’t willing to take. In the present, Jae-young explains to Ha-ri’s father that if he’d confessed his feelings, they wouldn’t have been able to remain friends.

Yi-sang walks Ha-ri to her empty house and when she complains, “It feels like someone else’s home,” he offers to stay with her until she falls asleep. Realizing how that sounds, Yi-sang protests, “I’m not a jerk who would bother my girlfriend who’s tired and depressed,” surprised when Ha-ri responds, “You could be a little bit of a jerk.”

Inside, Ha-ri prepares ramyun, which is about all she can cook, and when Yi-sang tells himself, “I cook well,” she quips that she’s not that good at housework either. When they sit down to eat, Yi-sang confesses that he went to the hospital and saw her mother but he didn’t see her father.

After Ha-ri makes it clear that she doesn’t want Yi-sang to meet her father, he opens up about his own father. Yi-sang shares that his dad was a great father who worked hard for his family, but at the expense of a life of his own. After he passed away, all of his belongings fit into one box and two trash bags and Yi-sang resolved not to live like that.

When Yi-sang falls silent, Ha-ri speaks ups, “My mom didn’t tell me about my dad because she didn’t want me to hate him, but I heard her and my aunt talking about the day my mom went to see my dad.” In a flashback, we see Mom and Ha-ri’s dad standing outside of a house and when she asked for money, he insisted that he had nothing to give her. After Mom shouted that dad should at least pay for Ha-ri’s tuition, he told her, “Wait here,” and returned inside.

Ha-ri tells Yi-sang, “I remember that day when my mom was hurt more than the day my dad left us.” Ha-ri’s dad played Go-Stop all day long while her mother waited outside in the heat. The moon was shining when he emerged to shove some money at Mom with the explanation, “This is all I have.” After Mom reminded Ha-ri’s dad that she needed enough money for tuition, he exploded, “I ran away from home because I couldn’t breathe, but now you come here to ask me for money?”

In the end Mom took the money but on the bus ride home, she couldn’t keep from crying. In the present, Ha-ri explains to Yi-sang, “…that was enough money to last us three months without having to worry about food…She (Mom) became furious every time she thought of that day, and it motivated her to work hard and make money.”

After Ha-ri concludes, “that’s why I can’t forgive my dad,” they return to their meal. Yi-sang tells Ha-ri that her mother is convinced that her desire for a family is connected to the loss of her father. Yi-sang wants Ha-ri to focus on building a happy future together and to let go of the past, but when he recommends, “…you should meet him. You might not hate him so much if you meet him in person,” she asks to change the subject.

Yi-sang decides that it’s time to be a little bit of a jerk but as he leans across the table to kiss Ha-ri, his ramyun falls into his lap. Returning from the hospital, Mom sees that Ha-ri’s light is on and she walks in to find Yi-sang taking off his shirt. Ha-ri makes things worse when she explains that they were only having ramyun.

Once Yi-sang leaves, Ha-ri finds her mother and assures her that nothing happened but Mom argues, “If you weren’t going to do anything, why did you invite him over?” Ha-ri shares the news of her engagement and is disappointed by Mom’s matter-of-fact response, “That’s great.”

Upset, Ha-ri complains that Mom doesn’t have the energy to be excited because she’s been taking care of her dad. Ha-ri doesn’t look convinced when Mom explains, “Your dad is getting discharged tomorrow. You and I will never have to see him again.”

At Dachae Media, Hyo-joo hides as she stalks Eu-tteum but she runs to his side when he gets a paper cut. As Hyo-joo applies a bandage to his finger, Eu-tteum finally realizes how kindness can cause a misunderstanding.

Eu-tteum decides that he needs to be careful and Hyo-joo advises, “just be nice to me since I know you very well.” Hyo-joo sulks away after Eu-tteum agrees, “Because you know that I don’t like you? I guess you’ll never get the wrong idea.”

As the girls in the office are about to leave for the weekend, Ha-ri announces that Manager Kim needs someone to assist Eu-tteum at a store opening. Ha-ri is surprised when Hyo-joo’s arm shoots into the air and after she leaves, Yeon-ho mutters, “She couldn’t be more transparent.”

When Ha-ri’s father leaves the hospital, Mom hands him a cooler with bone soup and advises him to save up for a nursing home so that he doesn’t burden their daughter. As she leaves, Mom informs her ex-husband, “…this’ll be the last time we meet.”

As she nears the hospital, Ha-ri finds her father sitting outside. She takes him to a restaurant and during lunch she delivers a message, “Never show yourself again and stay away from my mom.” Dad explains that he could have died during surgery, which is why he was hoping to see Ha-ri, and that he only borrowed enough money to pay for his operation. After he promises that he won’t bother Ha-ri or her mother again, she asks, “Were you fine without us?” Her father admits, “I was lonely.”

Following their meal, father and daughter go their separate ways. As Ha-ri turns a corner, her father returns with a huge bouquet and explains, “I heard that you were upset about not receiving this.” When Ha-ri hesitates, dad puts the bouquet in Ha-ri’s hands and then walks out of her life once again.

Eu-tteum and Hyo-joo meet with a store manager to convince him to run an ad in The Baby. Eut-tteum proposes a short video to promote the top selling baby leggings as Hyo-joo energetically stretches a tiny pair. After Eu-tteum successfully sells the ad thanks to Hyo-joo’s help, she asks him to repay her by taking her to the beach.

Soon, Eu-tteum and Hyo-joo are sitting together at the beach and she asks if he plans to stay at the magazine or leave to pursue something else. Eu-tteum shares that he wanted to be a saxophonist but he wasn’t talented enough. After getting hired by Dachae Media, Eu-tteum was surprised to learn that he likes advertising and he’s flattered when Hyo-joo insists that he’ll be successful thanks to his intelligence and bright personality.

When Hyo-joo asks Eu-tteum, “What do you think about me,” he tells her, “I’d say that you’re one to bounce unexpectedly.” Hyo-joo bounces down to the water where a tide catches her by surprise, ruining her new shoes. Hyo-joo loses her balance while shaking the water from her shoes but Eu-tteum is close enough to steady her.

Later, while Hyo-joo cleans his sandy shoes, Eu-tteum guesses that she likes him and he carefully explains, “I want to be with someone I like too instead of someone who doesn’t like me back…” Stopping himself, Eu-tteum realizes that he probably shouldn’t apologize and a disappointed Hyo-joo advises, “Please don’t.”

At home, Ha-ri is overcome by pain and stumbles to her kitchen to take her medication. After dropping into a chair, Ha-ri recalls her doctor’s warning that her condition had worsened.

Yi-sang visits his doctor and the news isn’t good — Yi-sang’s sperm count is still below the minimum level, which means that his treatment didn’t work. When he returns to Jambi Studio, Yi-sang stares at the past issues of The Baby and when Soo-chul finds him, he confesses, “I don’t know what to do.” Wiping away a tear, Yi-sang admits, “I may not be able to become a dad,” and sadly realizes, “This must be how Ha-ri felt.”

Ha-ri’s mother greets Jae-young when he returns to pack the last of Do-ah’s toys. Upstairs, Ha-ri is still in pain and when Yi-sang calls, she struggles to reach her phone and knocks over the vase with the flowers that her father gave her.

Yi-sang can hear Ha-ri crying in pain while Jae-young investigates the crash that came from her room. While Yi-sang runs out of his apartment in alarm, Jae-young breaks the lock on Ha-ri’s door and after finding Ha-ri on the floor, he takes her to the hospital with Mom’s help.

At the hospital, Ha-ri sleeps while Jae-young sits by her side. Mom is in the hallway when Yi-sang arrives and she reports that Ha-ri is resting comfortably after being given stronger pain medication.

When Jae-young exits Ha-ri’s room, Mom thanks him for his help. Just as Yi-sang is about to enter, Jae-young quietly warns, “Ha-ri wouldn’t be suffering that much if she were with me. Don’t make me think things like that again. Please.”

Yi-sang joins Ha-ri, who’s now awake, just as her doctor arrives to recommend immediate surgery. When Ha-ri asks if the surgery will threaten her chances of getting pregnant, the doctor admits that after a year of recovery, Ha-ri’s fertility will have decreased even more.

Mom asks if the surgery will make it impossible for Ha-ri to have a child of her own and the doctor explains that her best chance is to have a fertility treatment right away. After the doctor leaves, Mom gives Ha-ri and Yi-sang some time alone.

Taking Ha-ri’s hand, Yi-sang reminds her, “I told you to focus on yourself if my test results don’t come out that great.” Yi-sang has to tell Ha-ri that his treatment wasn’t successful and that even if he continues, he can’t guarantee that he’ll improve. Yi-sang gently advises, “If you’re enduring your pain because you want to wait until I’m ready, just don’t.”

When Yi-sang suggests that Ha-ri should have the surgery and look for a way to get pregnant after that, she asks, “Are you okay? I’m sure you’re having a hard time as well.” Yi-sang answers, “I’m okay,” as Ha-ri squeezes his hand.

After leaving Ha-ri, Yi-sang takes Mom to a café and she worries that he wants to postpone the wedding but what he wants is for her to convince Ha-ri to have the surgery. Concerned that Ha-ri is delaying it because of him, Yi-sang overcomes his anxiety to confess, “I’m also subfertile.” After Yi-sang explains that he underwent treatment that wasn’t successful, Mom exits the café deep in thought, leaving behind a heartbroken Yi-sang.

Back at home, Ha-ri lies in bed and stares at the ceiling while Mom prepares dinner. When they sit down to eat, Mom urges Ha-ri, “You should get the surgery.” Mom explains how sorry she was that Ha-ri grew up without a father and her worry that Ha-ri would share that same regret when she decided to have a child by herself.

Mom advises, “You finally found someone nice, so I’m no longer worried about that. But you can’t force things to happen. You just need to do what you can.” Ha-ri confesses, “I did think about living without a child. But…If I give up, I’ll never get to be a mom.”

After some thought, Mom explains that when she was busy making a living, she hated her life. Looking back, Mom realizes that she couldn’t have been so miserable because she was able to do her best every day. Mom tells Ha-ri, “This might feel like a big deal to you right now, but…I know that you won’t become miserable.”

After nodding her understanding, Ha-ri forces herself to eat while Mom offers her daughter a small smile. When Ha-ri returns upstairs, she clutches the leather keychain that Yi-sang made for her with the words, “You’re right.”

The next time we see Ha-ri, she’s being wheeled into surgery. It’s not long before Ha-ri returns to work, and when she meets Yi-sang, who’s waiting for her by his car, he asks if she’s okay. With a smile, Ha-ri insists, “I feel a lot better than I expected,” but before Yi-sang can voice any concerns, she suggests, “Let’s eat something nice for dinner.”

Ha-ri surprises her staff with her early return and when Hyo-joo begs, “Please don’t immerse yourself in your work to take your mind off things.You wouldn’t be able to focus, anyway,” Yeon-ho is ready to hit her. After Ha-ri asks what she can do, Yeon-ho hands her a stack of recommended children’s books and her attention falls on the top title, My Mom.

Over at Jambi Studio, Yi-sang seems bothered as he recalls Ha-ri’s cheerful mood that morning. When Soo-chul calls the magazine and offers to drop off some photos, Yi-sang grabs them so that he can check on Ha-ri.

My Mom begins with an illustration of a baby but Ha-ri’s focus is on the text, which simply reads, “Mom.” The book follows the baby as she grows up while the text continues to repeat “Mom,” and Ha-ri’s chin begins to quiver.

Ha-ri turns to a page that depicts the volatile teenage years and on the next page, she sees a young woman on her wedding day, crying as she stands before her mother. Tears fill Ha-ri’s eyes by the time she reaches the final pages and discovers that the baby from the book’s beginning now has a baby of her own. As the new baby tugs at her mother’s skirt, the book ends with the word, “Mom.”

Her face wet with tears, Ha-ri touches the picture of the crawling baby. Burying her face in her hands, Ha-ri breaks down and Yeon-ho, Hyo-joo and Soon-yo look up when they hear her sobs. Yi-sang walks in just then and is pained to see how much Ha-ri is grieving.

  
COMMENTS

This episode gives us enough back story to explain not only why Ha-ri and her mother are so close, but why she’s so determined to have a baby of her own. Some losses leave a huge void in a young girl’s heart and it seems that Ha-ri’s desire for a child is rooted in her father’s abandonment. It makes sense, Ha-ri longs for that forever kind of bond between a parent and a child that her father walked away from. However, since Ha-ri and Yi-sang are both infertile, that desire for a child of their own is a long shot that’s causing them both considerable distress.

I breathed a sigh of relief as soon as Ha-ri accepted Yi-sang’s proposal, never expecting that their relationship would be tested so soon. Almost immediately, Ha-ri had to confront her old wounds when her father walked back into her mother’s life, reminding Ha-ri of her painful past. Just as he leaves them again, as both Ha-ri and her mother requested, first Yi-sang, and then Ha-ri, are faced with medical reminders that they’re dealing with infertility issues that may not be able to be resolved.

Yi-sang was so focused on sharing Ha-ri’s dream of having a baby that he momentarily forgot that it would take a major miracle for them to become parents. Faced with his disappointing test results, Yi-sang is devastated because he finally allowed himself to dream of becoming a father. Unfortunately, Yi-sang knows that his inability to father a child means that he’s jeopardizing Ha-ri’s dream and I’m worried about how he’ll react to that realization.

I have to say, I was so impressed by Ha-ri’s mother as she confronted one challenge after another with calm strength. Mom took care of her ex-husband while dealing with her angry daughter. She handled the news of Yi-sang’s infertility and failed treatment by reminding her daughter that she can’t force things to happen. Mom has had a difficult life but it hasn’t defeated her, instead, she’s gained wisdom that could help Ha-ri as she deals with the aftermath of her surgery.

I was thankful that Ha-ri’s mother didn’t abandon Yi-sang once she learned about his infertility, and that she didn’t turn back to Jae-young as a potential partner for Ha-ri. Instead, Mom assured Ha-ri that she wasn’t worried about her anymore now that she’s with Yi-sang. No wonder Ha-ri was taken in by that book, My Mom, her mother is amazing. But both Ha-ri and Yi-sang have some serious grieving to do and that is one of the toughest challenges any couple must face, especially such a new couple. They’re going to need Mom’s levelheadedness to get through the tough days ahead as Ha-ri heals not only physically, but emotionally.

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My interest for this show has slowly been waning despite the fact that I do appreciate the drama for portraying the struggles of fertility and motherhood. I think the biggest problem I have with this show is it never should have been a rom-com but rather a slice of life/melodrama because my expectations for this drama and what it actually is different. Not to sound superficial but I enjoyed this drama a lot more at the start when it was a comedy and had swoony romance which made it an easy watch but now it just feels depressing and the romance has lost me. I obviously love that Jang Nara is the centre of this drama and her journey to motherhood but if that was all this drama had to offer from the beginning I might have found it more enjoyable like I did with ‘Go back couple’ whereby romance wasn’t the main story, but family was, and it was still interesting.

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That last scene was just 💔😭 Jang Nara’s acting was spot on.

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Thank you, @teriyaki for the recap! With the end coming, the problems become bigger. Ha-ri can't let go of her dream to become a mom while Yi-sang can't force his body to produce the necessary 'items' she needed. I feel her being stubborn (doesn't want to face the truth) about having a baby won't make her happy. Also, why am I hoping that their overnight trip had somehow 'made' something?

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I was really hoping that too, but sadly she had surgery after that, so no chance of a pregnancy. There has to be a different solution.

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I hate that a part of my brain is able to quote old 'Sex and the City' dialog but Hyo-joo and Eu-tteum reminds me of that famous line from the series "He's just not that into you." Eu-tteum's attitude towards Hyo-joo can best be described as 'benign indifference'. We're up to episode 14 and there's no spark of romantic feelings at all in him. Heck, you can hardly say there's affection beyond mere coworkerly friendliness.

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This is the third(?) K-drama that I recall a female character has complaining that a male character being 'nice' is sending confusing signals. Was it this series or another where a male character did the 'American' think of holding the door for a coworker? Which sent her into a tailspin of speculating about his motives.

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Ha-ri breaking down and crying was heartbreaking, I just hope that she and Yi-sang do not do something stupid. It is important to remember that she really had to have the surgery (although I am not convinced about the 'Now she has to wait a year' stuff- perhaps a doctor can fill me in on that). Hopefully they will simply go ahead with marriage and then look at their options.

Our main couple couldn't give us comedy this week so the only real relief we had was Eu-tteum and Hyo-joo. And it was actually gratifying to see just how far Eu-tteum has come. He has looked at their situation and seen it very clearly- and his words to Hyo-joo were full of truth. But he also realized that he did not have to hit her with blunt words and avoided saying something hurtful- but without leaving Hyo-joo in the dark. Hyo-joo now knows the score. We shall see what she does with that knowledge.

Hyo-joo has also grown during this show. In her time around Eu-tteum she has come to understand that a man's real worth is not measured by his bank account and income statement. Even if she cannot have Eu-tteum she now knows what a good man looks like. Eu-tteum gives her a model for what to look for in a man- and that is priceless.

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I’m not a doctor but I can tell you (because I’ve been there) that whenever you receive surgery on your uterus you are told that it’s better not to have a pregnancy in at last 6 to 13 months. The same happens when you have a Caesarian section. The reason is that the uterus walls may be too thin and you can have a tear and bleeding.
In very plain words.
Surely a doctor can explain it better.

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That makes sense.

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If I understand Hari's pain and where is from, I think this couple is kinda one-sided. Yi-sang is doing all he can for Hari when her role is to say yes or no... I'm afraid that he's sacrifice himself to let her have a baby after what he said about she should choose herself in first.

I love Hari's mother. She's really a strong and positive woman! She doesn't pity herself or plays the victim. She accepted her life the good and the bad and now she does all she wants to make her happy, even if it means to take care of her ex-husband.

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Just think of those two contrasting scenes: Mom waiting all day outside the gate to get money she was entitled to expect, and walking away with a fraction of that. Dad showing up after years of living for himself and asking to "borrow " hospital fees, and walking away with twice what he asked for, when he could expect to leave with nothing. If there's a hero in this story, it is Mom.

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I'm still wondering how she got married with him...

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Well said! Momma Lee is the adult we should all aspire to be.

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I understand HaRi. I get her pain. I also understand YiSang struggle. I get it. I’ve been there, but It was easier for me to let it go. I didn’t hung to the idea of becoming a mother. So I feel a bit tired of it. I can understand them, as I can understand the struggle infertile couples have, but it’s hard to me to go further. Life has many things to offer if you don’t become a mum or a dad. Of course, not everybody struggles the same way and many see it as a failure. I don’t.

JaeYoung keeps being annoying. I liked he told HaRi’d dad that she had grown well. It was really nice. Then he destroyed that feeling by telling YiSang not to let HaRi down, that she wouldn’t be going through this if she were with you. Stop. Please. Go and stay in the middle of a road until a white car hits you. Then YiSang and HaRi can raise sweet DoHa with real love and tell her lies about how fantastic their biological parents were 🙄

I have two questions now:
- why did JaeYoung break the door to get into HaRi’s apartment when entering through the main door would have been so easy.
- why is it that on every drama women step in the beach with their high heels on? The minute you decide to walk by the sand you always take your shoes of. Why in dramaland this never happens?

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So sorry to hear you had to go through the same thing. The Lord is your strength. I will just answer your two questions.
- at that moment your brain can only think of one thing, that is getting to the person in trouble. I have been there before. My cousin was locked in a room by a jammed door once. We were about to break the tiny window when we realised the latch of the door was all we need to release. It was quite stupid at the end of the day. We had destroyed the window halfway when all we needed to do was just a simple thing. At that moment you can only think of one thing while everyone panicking. Well that is how best I understood the emergency.
- their pretty feet cannot get sandy unless it is in the script. Either that or...I have no idea

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i would have to agree to this, your 1st point. once in panic mode, the thinking goes out the window at times.

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Your two questions... I was thinking the same! The front door wasn't far away. -_-
1. Probably to be more dramatic
2. To set up the scene of Hyo Joo losing her balance

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I know, I know...
But the beach and the shoes happens in so many dramas...

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As someone who has the same dreams and profession as Hari, this drama is special to me. I am in my late twenties with no man in my life but my dream to become a mother and start a family of my own is still ever present. Facing reality is not easy. I have been battling with the reality that I might not get married in my twenties, I might not have children in my twenties or get to show that young mother glow.
I have been battling with that and the depressing feeling is not easy to handle. It takes time. Which is what I know Hari needs just like her mother said. Time you will realise that things are not so bad. Then you will see the silver lining of things. I know Hari and Yisang will get through this. Fighting!

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It can be very hard when you have that longing and your friends and family are getting married all around you and having children with such ease, while for you there is no one in sight. Some of us live out of sync with the mainstream of life. It doesn't mean our time will never come. I have three daughters, all born after I turned 35. If only I could have known they would come in their own time, I could have enjoyed my twenties and early thirties so much more. Try to make the most of the time you have now, because maybe you will still be bringing up your children while others are already carefree empty-nesters. Fighting!

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The last 10 minutes of this episode were so well done, Jang Nara can teach a master class in gruef acting.

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Jang Nara cries so well! Her cries are always heartfelt, enough drama without being over the top. She's my fave actress when it comes to crying scenes.

My fave actor now for crying scenes is Lee Kyu-hyung. I got teary in all his crying scenes in Hi Bye Ma.

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Yi-Sang and Hari have the commonality of infertility and the hope for being parents together. The show has tried to show the struggles of infertile couples in a realistic way. I really don't want to see a "miracle" happy ending that unravels 14 episodes of story. As we commented early on, Yi-Sang and Hari can marry and adopt a baby to complete their family.

Jae-young's failed marriage has never really been explained, but at this point I really don't care. His wife abandoned him and his baby for her work? He crawled back to Hari's mother's house as a wreck to get back with Hari (which he abandoned to get married)? JY's problem is looking at him in the mirror.

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Rationally, I am with you that a miracle would probably undo the whole story but on the shallow side, a miracle is what I wish for this wonderful couple who deserve every happiness. I am wondering which path the drama will take us to its end.

Mom is the pillar of strength with a clear head and I wish I could be like her.

JY, one step forward and two steps back. Totally pissed at what he said to YS at the hospital and what right has he got to say that?

Last but not the least, I don't know if anyone can survive the last scene of Jang Nara with dry eyes. I couldn't and ugly cried with her uncontrollably in my first and second viewings. No superlative is enough to describe her master act here.

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Place your bets. I'll wager the 'miracle' occurs in the last scene of the series after a 1-2 year time jump, after the characters have given up trying.

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You might be right and no objection at all.

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I don't know why Yi-sang reminiscence of his father really bug me. He only saw the two trashbag and a box of belonging as all what's left of his father's life. Can't he see that him living well is part of his father legacy? What about the many other countless life that has been touched by his father? What about his father's take on his own life? Was he happy or sad? Was he grateful or resentful? None of that was mentioned except for the two trash bags and a box left at the end of his life. It's sad that is Ji-sang last take of his fathers life.

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I took Yi-sang talking about his dad was a way of explaining he didn't have much of a relationship with his father due to work. Maybe he meant that there was nothing personal in his belongings like photos of the two of them.
But that is how I understood what he was saying.

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You read stories of Korean work culture and it sounds like corporate-class dads are never home. Always working late, always attending company dinners, always getting drunk after work.
A side story in 'My Mister', the son ask his father to do a short video showing his 'special talent'. He complained that he's a Korean middle-class male. all he knows how to do is work and drink. Someone asked the actor Lee Sun-kyun's young son if he knew what it meant by his father being an 'actor'. The kid replied it means he comes home late every night drunk.

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While I truly sympathize with Ha-ri, I can't help feeling sad for Yi-sang. He is holding this relationship together by giving and giving, and is receiving very little in return. While I usually am disgusted with noble idiocy, I think a little dose of it may be in order to bring Ha-ri to her senses. Her preoccupation with becoming a mom is blinding her to the fact that she has something her mother never had -- a devoted and self-sacrificing partner, who would do almost anything to make her happy. If she could only be thankful for that and put some energy into loving Yi-sang, I think she could find her way to a happy life. Maybe not exactly the life she wanted so desperately, but a happy one.

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Well said. I'm hoping that at some point she realizes fully what a treasure Yi-sang is and holds onto him completely. Which in turn will help her understand where her true happiness comes from.

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I have also been increasingly uncomfortable with the imbalance in the relationship.GJ as YS is hella cute and we want Ha Ri and YS to work,coz they're both decent people and are well matched in most areas of life. However we have been told ad-nauseum how HR longs to be a mom but YS wanting to be a father has been given 1-2 cursory lines. Even in this EP, when he was sad at his next to nill chances of being a bio father, it was expressed in the context of how he's failing HR and that just doesn't sit well with me.
I feel for these characters in the moment coz of the actor's wonderful performance but truth be told, don't feel as engaged as the initial episodes.it's mainly because it feels like these 2 have had this struggle before. HR Nd YS both knew this is where they might be headed. I guess even if you might think you're ok with a situation, reality could still catch you off guard and that's what's happening here? With just 2 EPs left, feel like HR is left with very li'l time to come to terms with her possible new reality. Really hope this show sidesteps the tropes of idiocy(noble or otherwise) and finishes strong with a conclusion that feels real and fair for all the characters.

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What bothered me from the get-go in this story is that Ha-Ri wants - not "needs" - to conceive, deliver and raise a baby girl of her own blood, by herself, in order to basically experience the same joy/hardships as she did as her mother's daughter, because that's what she envisions motherhood - not parenthood - to be.

I would be delighted if the writer does not give us any "miracle baby" if Yi-Sang and Ha-Ri do get married and eventually choose to adopt instead. The cherry on top would be a cameo of Shin Ae-Ra being interviewed for the magazine as herself, to discuss the real extent of motherhood, as she and husband Cha In-Pyo have two adopted daughters and a biological son. There are so many orphaned children/preteens/teens out there in need of love, care, security and affection, that the Korean society in particular still frown upon, and it would be quite a powerful message sent to drama viewers.

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I don't think we've ever even heard Ha-ri thinking about her baby's life, only about how having a baby would fulfill her longing to be a mom. The baby is almost a prop in that dream.

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She's imagined a child from each potential donor, imagined what their personalities would be, what their relationship would be. I'm not sure what she's supposed to think beyond that.

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I agree with you. An adoptive parent is a real parent- in my country we even change the adopted child's birth certificate. It would be a good message to send to have them adopt a child or even two. Ha-ri would be every bit as much a mother in this situation as if she had given birth to them.

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Yes, and remember how she was so touched by the little girl in the studio that called her "Mom"? I don't think it would take long for a child to win her heart.

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The show thus far has only showed us Ha-Ri projecting herself as a mother to a little girl but not once to a boy - or have I missed it? Thus I wonder how she would react in this latter case, because of course, it's complete unknown territory to her and much scarier than the "safe" girl/mother relationship she grew up with.

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When she was reviewing the three men as sperm donors, didn't she imagine what their sons would look and behave like?

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@lindag Ooh that's right! I completely forgot that part. So I shall modify my POV then. :-)

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Ha-Ri really qualifies as a mother and I'm pretty sure, that with time, effort and training, Yi-Sang would be a great father, which would be so beneficial to any kid.

I strongly dislike the sole idea of changing a child's birth date and name, because it is denying his/her circumstances, identity and story, however painful it might be. I have become so familiar with the topic of adoption that I am rather sensitive about such issue. A child is not a possession or a creation or the result of one's desire but a responsibility, a living being put into your care either by birth or adoption, in order to become "the best version" he/she can be, whatever hardships/blessings/trials come his/her way. So it pains me to see motherhood depicted so partially in this drama in particular, even though Ha-Ri's own mother is/has been awesome.

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I am not comfortable with that distinction between HR/YS potential of being wonderful parents. Sure HR desperately wants a child, but parenting, that is not so sure. There is a huge risk that she is in love with the idea of motherhood but the reality is a different kettle of fish. How many dream of the wedding but find the marriage can't live up to the dream. I am concerned that her overwhelming desire means that the responsibility of parenting can not mesh with fantasy of those desires she has built up in her mind.

You actually summed it up so well..."A child is not a possession or a creation or the result of one's desire but a responsibility"...

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Ha-ri has a fantastic mother to model herself after- and a lousy father to serve as an object lesson in how NOT to be a parent. She will be just fine.

And Yi-sang actually has a role model in his father also- but one that can also provide him with some cautionary lessons as well.

A baby adopted by this couple will do very well indeed.

And if this drama has a secondary lesson it is that birth parents are not necessarily better parents- look at what happened with Jae-young and his wife. While his ex is finally taking steps forward with her daughter it is fairly obvious that little Doha's situation is less than ideal.

And, speaking as the parent of grown son: You are right about a child being a responsibility. But that is only half the truth because a child is also a joy.

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@oldawyer
I agree with most of that...just not the: because X = role model then Y = X.

Not only is it a bad and very limited logic statement. It also infers that bad parenting is inherent from the role model (which starts a chicken/egg cycle back). We know that is not the case and our interactions/desires beyond the family are too complex to say limit one parent (out of the 2) as the all powerful determinate of one's decision. You could equally use that logic to argue that HR's father is her role model and she is doomed.

P.S. HR's mother is the most interesting character in the whole drama. Not only has she been there before, she both warns HR of the road ahead and is a powerful example of how we all take on social conditioning even though we know it is not true by our own experiences.

What could have been a cliche is totally not. She is warm and motherly yet never gives up her agency as a actual person.

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The birthdate is not changed, only the names of the parents.

And the law does not do this because the child is somehow made a possession. It is rather that in the eyes of the law the adoptive parent is the same as a birth parent and that the relationship between the child and the parent is identical.

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@karineonni,
When our son came from S Korea in 1984 all we had was his passport, but there was no birth certificate. When his adoption was final it meant to us that he now belonged legally to our family. Also we kept his Korean name as his middle name. We always respected his South Korean heritage. But he was never a possession - he has always been my son.
It is just another way of becoming a family.

Right now I'm opting to give Ha-Ri time to grieve over the loss of getting pregnant. She hasn't lost the ability to become a mother because there are other options. Now she needs to grieve and let go. But it takes time.
And unfortunately this is the one area that JY has really poisoned Yi-Sang's mind and now YS feels responsible for Ha-Ri's happiness. UGH...

I hope at least we get an ending where they move through their grief and can hold onto each other and be happy with what they have.

Please writer nim - please!!!

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I think in one episode, someone asked why Ha-Ri wants a baby and she said it was because it would make her happy. Can't she be happy with a husband (which she has also wanted for a long time) instead of a child?

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Thank you for the recap TeriYaki!

Mom continues to shine this episode, magnanimous person! she's a good example to Ha-Ri:)

i liked how Yi-sang encouraged Ha-ri to reach out to her dad atleast once, so she wouldn't have any regrets. and the following comedy sequence about ramyun was funny! of course they'll get caught:)

Eutteum, you're incredibly sweet! you won me over for being honest:)

seems like Jae-young & Ha-ri missed their timing, then Ha-ri just closed off the tap when she decided not to consider Jae-young in fear of losing him, she eventually did for another girl. i hope they keep their friendship, despite the confession.

let's hope there's no noble idiot scenario next week before the finale...

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The angst wasn’t unbearable, but it was still tough to sit through this episode. I felt bad for Ha Ri. It really seems like she will have to give up getting pregnant.

I wanted more time spent on Ha Ri and Yi Sang as a couple. I felt like they weren’t communicating as much as before. Yi Sang did share a bit about his father, but that part of his story felt very minimal. I wanted to hear more of his own thoughts and feelings. He’s crushed about his test results and he told Ha Ri about it, but she didn’t do much to console him. Yeah she was going through a huge ordeal and she had to face surgery sooner than she had planned.

I guess I wanted to see them comfort each other.
Hold on to each other fiercely.

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I still feel a bit sad that many times in their relationship it goes one way with Yi Sang putting so much effort,doing what Ha Ri wants or makes her happy while Ha Ri is too into her problem taking him for granted and not be there for him in his hard moments or doing stuff he likes...

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Thanks for the recap✌

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Thanks for the recap✌ @teriyaki

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I like the acting and the close-to-natural portrayal of characters in this show, but I still am not moved by the central issue here. The show is trying to portray the dilemma as two people who are in love cannot have biological children if they stay together - but why does it have to be so binary, black & white? Maybe it is a cultural thing, and I don't fully understand the Korean laws/culture regarding adoption and even surrogacy. But there are other options for Hari and Yisang if they truly want to be parents - adoption and as I mentioned, in an extreme case, even surrogacy (where the fertilization can be done outside of the body and they find someone willing to carry the baby to term. So, technically, that would even be their own biological child). So...I understand that giving up on the idea of a biological child of their own is very hard, but I am surprised that Hari's character has not been made to even look into those options at all (especially given that her character is supposed to be working in the industry and would be familiar with these developments/options). So, it just makes me feel the whole tension in the show is fake, and can be easily resolved that doesn't warrant this kind of "this is the end of everything for us" kind of melodrama.

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I don't know for Korea, but surrogacy is forbiden in some countries. In my country, Switzerland, you can't use a surrogate mother.

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So, assisted suicide is legal, but not surrogacy? Did not know this about Switzerland! And looked up the law in S. Korea...it looks like for surrogacy, SK recognizes the person giving birth as the legal parent rather than the genetic parents! So, guess that option is truly not realistic. Although.....that would make a wonderful "birth secret" scenario then for a sequel :P

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They think it's too complicated to protect the rights of surrogate mothers (psychological follow-up, payment, no exaggerated demand, etc.). It's about the filiation for the kid too.

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But some parents use surrogate mothers in other countries but I don't know how Switzerland accepts it.

But during COVID-19, some mothers were expecting their children but the frontiers were closed... So the parents couldn't go see their baby.

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I felt bad for Ha Ri but more for Yi Sang....in all of these Yi Sang is made to feel lacking over and over again. He doesn't deserve it. Ha Ri has to do some soul searching. If not having a baby of her own is going to scar her that way, she should let go of Yi Sung and resolve it or else it will later poison her relationship with him.

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@gem28
This has been stewing the entire drama and is a major unspoken current in the drama. However, the blinding effect of HR wanting a baby has given so many a huge blind spot.

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Thank you for the recap!

Hari might have accepted the proposal, but I am still holding my breath. I was in a good mood while watching and suddenly I was crying along with Hari at the end. I hope both she and Yi-Sang can stick to their promise to communicate and work through their issues, because I am not accepting noble idiocy!😤

Hari’s dad is an irresponsible piece of work and I understand how Hari feels. How dare he let Hari’s mom wait! Serves him right that he felt lonely in life, he left a wife that has quite the presence.😎

Stupid ramen! How dare you burn Yi-Sang and deprive me of smooches!😤

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I just want to say that I find some of the reactions to Ha-ri a little frustrating. She is allowed to grieve not being to have a biological child. Telling a person facing infertility that they should get over it and just adopt is kind an awful way to approach things. Her pain does not somehow make adoption a less valid road to motherhood so why try to minimize what she is going through? She wants to be pregnant and give birth and be bonded to her child in this specific way and she is allowed to want those things.

Also, just as it is a valid choice to want a partner and no child, it is also valid to want a child more than you want a partner. Ha-ri was fully committed to the possibility of doing this on her own. I think she will choose Yi-Sang in the end but if she were to not choose him, that isn't some hang-up, it is a valid choice she is allowed to make. She's been with Yi-Sang, what, a month, maybe 2. How could 2 months compare to a lifetime of longing? I feel awful for Yi-Sang because none of it is his fault, just crap circumstances, and she recognizes that but she is allowed to grieve without having to spend her energy on protecting his feelings. We saw her hold onto her pain for his sake until came gushing out of her. He knew who she was and what she wanted, I do feel for Y-Sang but he has held all the cards this entire time. He dictated when it started, he knew he had issues with fertility, he knew how she felt and how invested she was in finding a donor. Ha-ri, in contrast, has been on the receiving end of some very intense letdowns beyond her control. She has earned the right to grieve this without everyone making her out to be the problem.

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I understand with this episode Jae-young is supposed to on the road to self-reflection, growth and rehabilitation. But, man, its a tough sell. Perhaps if it had been another actor without such a hard edge to his character. Its quite an accomplishment to make a single father and childhood friend so thoroughly dislikable in a K-drama.

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