Watching Hwayugi ep 1 and it is fun, reminds too much of The Goblin, bromance and all and Lee El, lol, but looks like fun to watch, plus I love Lee Hong Ki and Starship\’s artists cameos.
yeah, I read it too,
I just can’t lie on how it’s affecting me, letting go or believe is not something that happens in an instant.
I respected his wish but the reality is my heart still sunk, not his fault, it’s me who still needs time to manage my heart.
He worked hard all this time and I am grateful for everything he showed to us.
I did not cry, I know Shinee , but I am not a fan, I was more shocked than sad to hear the news, but then I watched this and I cried, rest in peace, you had love of thousands, but you were still alone
Jonghyun: ‘Everyone lives like that. You’re not the only one having a hard time.’ This saying. For me, this is the worst way to comfort someone. Comparing situations with other people… pic.twitter.com/K3zUbyMKXH
but isn’t it actually better to tell them that you are not alone..there were others who faced it and won over it..
rather than telling them you are what you are…and letting them continue with that feeling of being the only one grappling with this (because no matter how much of a comforting environment you give.. if you aren’t going through the same thing.. the patient isn’t gonna confide in you 100%)
this is pretty much in line with the concept of all those help groups we hear about .. no?
idk, I am just sad, I do not even know most of what he is saying apart from that translation given in the comment to the vid, but I assume he meant that sometimes instead of being with you those people just brush you off saying that you are not the only one suffering and there are people who have it worse, when you just need them to say something like ” I know how you feel, have strength and you have me to lean on”
There’s two ways of understanding that –
1. The nice one, “You are not alone in feeling like this.”; or
2. The not so nice one where it can sound like one’s pain is being trivialised in comparison to others. Like being told, “There’re so many others going through this. Why do you act as if you’re the only one?”
I think Jonghyun words were probably referring to the second sense. And what he says is beautiful. The best thing to say is the third option (provided one means it/is in a position to) – “You’re not alone. I’m here for you. Lets talk about this.”
“I think, when comforting someone, it’s important to consider that something that may be invisible to me can still exist.”
This is so important to remember. Just because something is outside our realm of experience, just because we can’t see it with our eyes, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. Isn’t realizing that the definition of true empathy and understanding of other humans?
but the challenge there is.. for a depressed person.. your empathy (your as in someone who is seemingly well sorted and not going through the same thing) can come across as just fake..
and you telling him/her that all will be well etc.. can on the other hand be super detrimental.. because all of that may mount to being seen as fake.. saying for the heck of it kinds..
Hello drama slump, after BTLIOF ended I am probably done with dramas for a while, good thing Kim Sunggyu joined Outrageous Roommates, plus I am loving Master Key
I just can\’t contain my feelingssssssssssss, the end og ep 12, I am shook, flustered, excited and frustrated, that\’s how I feel, if i were Ji Ho I would not hesitate, such a specimen.
The things is, i always suspect LMH and SZ as a “fake” couple (like chajumma’s and yoo inna’s characters did on the greatest love) they might be an item for some time, but they were long broke up.
HA! I didn’t know I wasn’t the only one to suspect that! I was reminded of Cha SeungWon and Yoo InNa in Best Love the moment I heard about LMH and Suzy dating.
LOL at Seungwoo’s aegyo-imitation and Minhyun’s “He made us all into liars” 😂 Teamkills ftw.
(Tbh hasn’t it always been obvious that Jihoon does aegyo to gain fans? He’s even said so himself and well, it’s called fanservice for a reason. Can’t see why him being a normal guy behind all that would be surprising :P)
Nutini
December 27, 2017 at 8:54 AM
Kim Sunggyu is looking so good on his teaser pic, what is air?
Nutini
December 27, 2017 at 8:43 AM
💜🍍☠ Sicarius The Queen of Melonia ☠🍍💜
December 27, 2017 at 12:01 PM
“I don’t like things that have more than 7 legs” pfahahaha
Nutini
December 27, 2017 at 8:04 AM
Watching Hwayugi ep 1 and it is fun, reminds too much of The Goblin, bromance and all and Lee El, lol, but looks like fun to watch, plus I love Lee Hong Ki and Starship\’s artists cameos.
Nutini
December 18, 2017 at 12:36 PM
“it was hard until now” (i suffered), tell them i did my best, tell them to let me go, its my last goodbye
https://twitter.com/zzangjoha/status/942755069786599425
xiao jingyan
December 18, 2017 at 1:17 PM
I listen to SHINee a lot and I still can’t process this news,
Nutini
December 18, 2017 at 4:30 PM
Read his last letter, he wanted to leave and it was his choice, he wanted us to let him go and say he did well, so let’s respect his last wish.
xiao jingyan
December 20, 2017 at 12:54 AM
yeah, I read it too,
I just can’t lie on how it’s affecting me, letting go or believe is not something that happens in an instant.
I respected his wish but the reality is my heart still sunk, not his fault, it’s me who still needs time to manage my heart.
He worked hard all this time and I am grateful for everything he showed to us.
korfan
December 18, 2017 at 1:35 PM
I’m just finding out what happened after reading your post.
This is devastating and truly sad news. I really don’t know what to say. I feel terrible for his family.
May he rest in peace.
Nutini
December 18, 2017 at 7:24 AM
I did not cry, I know Shinee , but I am not a fan, I was more shocked than sad to hear the news, but then I watched this and I cried, rest in peace, you had love of thousands, but you were still alone
alasecond
December 18, 2017 at 7:33 AM
but isn’t it actually better to tell them that you are not alone..there were others who faced it and won over it..
rather than telling them you are what you are…and letting them continue with that feeling of being the only one grappling with this (because no matter how much of a comforting environment you give.. if you aren’t going through the same thing.. the patient isn’t gonna confide in you 100%)
this is pretty much in line with the concept of all those help groups we hear about .. no?
Nutini
December 18, 2017 at 8:09 AM
idk, I am just sad, I do not even know most of what he is saying apart from that translation given in the comment to the vid, but I assume he meant that sometimes instead of being with you those people just brush you off saying that you are not the only one suffering and there are people who have it worse, when you just need them to say something like ” I know how you feel, have strength and you have me to lean on”
greenfields
December 18, 2017 at 8:18 AM
There’s two ways of understanding that –
1. The nice one, “You are not alone in feeling like this.”; or
2. The not so nice one where it can sound like one’s pain is being trivialised in comparison to others. Like being told, “There’re so many others going through this. Why do you act as if you’re the only one?”
I think Jonghyun words were probably referring to the second sense. And what he says is beautiful. The best thing to say is the third option (provided one means it/is in a position to) – “You’re not alone. I’m here for you. Lets talk about this.”
redfox
December 18, 2017 at 8:23 AM
knowing there are others doesn´t help at all, I am sorry. One thing is knowing others have won but that can make some people feel even more hopeless.
mindy
December 18, 2017 at 8:36 AM
“I think, when comforting someone, it’s important to consider that something that may be invisible to me can still exist.”
This is so important to remember. Just because something is outside our realm of experience, just because we can’t see it with our eyes, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. Isn’t realizing that the definition of true empathy and understanding of other humans?
alasecond
December 18, 2017 at 9:07 AM
but the challenge there is.. for a depressed person.. your empathy (your as in someone who is seemingly well sorted and not going through the same thing) can come across as just fake..
and you telling him/her that all will be well etc.. can on the other hand be super detrimental.. because all of that may mount to being seen as fake.. saying for the heck of it kinds..
but well i am no doctor..
Nutini
December 18, 2017 at 2:38 AM
I can\’t process, hope it is not true
Nutini
December 18, 2017 at 2:35 AM
https://twitter.com/OH_mes/status/942703645031845889
[Breaking] Gangnam Police say they have confirmed the death of SHINee Jonghyun
Gangnam police are currently investigating the death of Jonghyun a
mindy
December 18, 2017 at 2:47 AM
Please… this isn’t true is it?
I’m shaking. Is this a dream? Please tell me this is a dream. I just woke up. This can’t be real.
I can’t even cry I think I’m in shock.
Nutini
December 18, 2017 at 6:38 AM
No, now definitely confirmed, it was so sudden, I think nobody could believe it for so long, Rest in peace, Kim Jonghyun, you will be missed.
greenfields
December 18, 2017 at 3:13 AM
This is incredibly sad. I’m so, so sad to hear this.
wakimary
December 18, 2017 at 3:16 AM
😭😭😭😭😭
gadis
December 18, 2017 at 3:21 AM
This is so sudden, I had a hard time believing this.
Nutini
December 16, 2017 at 1:14 PM
He looks weird, but he looks handsome, but he looks ugly, but why he flips his hair like that, damn, so sexy
Nutini
December 16, 2017 at 12:58 PM
Also, this happened in November
Nutini
December 16, 2017 at 12:50 PM
Hello drama slump, after BTLIOF ended I am probably done with dramas for a while, good thing Kim Sunggyu joined Outrageous Roommates, plus I am loving Master Key
mindy
December 16, 2017 at 1:05 PM
Understandable after the conclusion of such a beautiful show. Hope your slump isn’t too long! There’s some good stuff airing right now.
Nutini
November 16, 2017 at 12:54 PM
I just can\’t contain my feelingssssssssssss, the end og ep 12, I am shook, flustered, excited and frustrated, that\’s how I feel, if i were Ji Ho I would not hesitate, such a specimen.
Nutini
November 16, 2017 at 12:09 AM
Lee Min Ho and Suzy broke up??? Well, both are young, too young to settle
bogoshipda
November 16, 2017 at 12:33 AM
I hope Lee Jung Seok has nothing to do with this…
Nutini
November 16, 2017 at 1:57 AM
I thought immidiately if she and Lee Jong Suk are an item now, I meant that would have been a powerhouse couple like SongSong couple
nilsche
November 16, 2017 at 5:20 AM
The things is, i always suspect LMH and SZ as a “fake” couple (like chajumma’s and yoo inna’s characters did on the greatest love) they might be an item for some time, but they were long broke up.
Midnight
November 16, 2017 at 5:41 AM
HA! I didn’t know I wasn’t the only one to suspect that! I was reminded of Cha SeungWon and Yoo InNa in Best Love the moment I heard about LMH and Suzy dating.
Nutini
November 15, 2017 at 2:09 AM
Just cause I can
Nutini
November 14, 2017 at 11:27 AM
Will stay away from checking other beanie\’s fan walls cuz I have not watched last eps of BTLIOF
Nutini
November 14, 2017 at 8:02 AM
And part 2
Nutini
November 14, 2017 at 7:58 AM
This is old, but just in case, infinite’s SUFBB parody from 4-5 years ago,lol, subs start a bit late
Nutini
November 14, 2017 at 4:19 AM
Monsta X’s stage today on SBS The Show was exceptionally good and they won, what a day!
Nutini
November 14, 2017 at 3:32 AM
My babiesssssss won !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #MONSTAX1stWIN
wakimary
November 14, 2017 at 3:35 AM
🎉🎊congrats!🎊🎉
Nutini
November 14, 2017 at 3:42 AM
Thank you, i am so happyyyyyyyyy for them, it has been two years of hard work
Nutini
November 14, 2017 at 3:30 AM
ObsessedMuch
November 14, 2017 at 9:48 AM
Aww…. first wins are always so emotional for the members and fans alike! <3
Nutini
November 14, 2017 at 10:37 AM
I have been in kpop for 5 years but it is my first time when I witnessed my bias group winning their first prize
ObsessedMuch
November 14, 2017 at 10:48 AM
Congratulations! 🙂
Nutini
November 14, 2017 at 2:47 AM
kaybee
November 14, 2017 at 5:18 AM
LOL at Seungwoo’s aegyo-imitation and Minhyun’s “He made us all into liars” 😂 Teamkills ftw.
(Tbh hasn’t it always been obvious that Jihoon does aegyo to gain fans? He’s even said so himself and well, it’s called fanservice for a reason. Can’t see why him being a normal guy behind all that would be surprising :P)