Beanie level: Candy

I must be one of the few that still likes LND. I like that the leads have a different sort of chemistry. And the part where trauma changing you as a person really resonated with me.

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    My family had a problem with me changing after a (non-illness) trauma also.

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    After I saw a beanie’s post I went to watch the scenes with the ex-fiance, and I enjoyed what I saw.
    I’ve also been there, done that (more like done worse), so the fight scene really broke my heart.
    I wouldn’t have minded if the drama was about them and their journey. I’m sad they broke up after everything they went through. It’s evident that they loved each other.

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      I actually don’t disagree with their breaking up. He was in love with a version of her that doesn’t exist anymore. These things have a way of building up resentment over the years

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        From the little I’ve seen, it is possible for couples to work through that. There’s obviously hurt feelings in the process, and resentment can grow but it doesn’t mean that’s the end of it. Resentment can also go away.
        It isn’t a short and fast process, but since they’re becoming a family, I would expect them to at least try.

        I’m very biased since I ignore/forget all the bad stuff when things get better, and my POV if different from my family’s, but it’s a good thing that we couldn’t simply “break up” everytime we changed. Especially since pushing people away is more of a symptom/defence than something real. At least that’s for me.

        Obviously, families and couples are different, and even between family all cases are unique. But I would like at least one drama where we actually see people fighting for their relationship and supporting their depressed partner till the end (obviously a fated-love type of ML/FL, who comes at the right time with the right attitude, doesn’t count).

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          LOL I think I had too many thoughts so I started with one idea and ended up with another topic, sorry. 😭😆🥲

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            I do agree that relationships can work even if one or both people change. But that tends to be true if both have their priorities aligned. Both the ex and FL’s mom seem to want her to go back to how she was. The ex is very committed to how their life was before (in the US). However, for the FL, this is her new normal. Like the moment when her ex handed her the file for the cooking school in the US and said she should take the proper path to succeed. It’s like he’s trying to steer the relationship to how it was before. The ML, for all his faults (though I don’t find them to be that glaring than some beanies do), never really interferes in how she goes about achieving her dreams.
            This doesn’t really make the ex the bad guy, though. They are just not suited to being with each other at this point in their lives.

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            In a reply your comment about having too many thoughts – not at all. I enjoy reading about your perspective on things.

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          I wonder if this has something to do with the concept of “love languages” or something, because I see it totally differently.

          I didn’t watch any scene with SH in this episode, but in the past 8 episodes, I always felt like he had little to no interest in what she was doing. I felt like he was too absorbed in his personal little drama/feelings to be supportive of Seok Ryu.
          And tbh, the last thing I want is to see how he would’ve treated her during her worst days in the US. Nope.
          Meanwhile, I appreciated how the ex would try to help her. He would ask to taste her food, he would say he would give honest feedback, and he would search a good school for her.
          The fight they had in the flashback we saw is something totally understandable, and I actually think they’re an amazing couple for fighting against cancer she then depression without any psychological help. SR was going to therapy specifically for her depression, but in situations like that, both of them could use the help.

          Anyway, going back to the US isn’t what she really wants. So maybe he doesn’t understand that YET, maybe he will NEVER understand, I’m not sure of that, but I do like that he tries to show her that he has her back, and that she has options, and that she has a future, and that he wants to be part of it.

          I don’t know if he’s as inflexible as mom, and he wouldn’t support SR no matter what, and I don’t know if he would never understand that she has changed and there’s no going back. But I would’ve liked to see how that goes.

          I get your point about both having to be on the same page. But at the same time I think it’s fair to give the other person time to adjust to the situation. Him having to lose the person that he knew, is difficult. And maybe, he’s on the denial for now. But I also think that he could’ve healed from it. Obviously, that would only work if he really wants to fight for their relationship and SK can “wait” for him. Meaning, that she also understands him and this doesn’t become a deal breaker.
          I feel like there’s the point where both of them have to be on the same page, in the understanding part and light of change.

          After a long time you’re like “how did we get here? I thought we wouldn’t make it” and the process is low-key dirty, hahaha, but not impossible. But there’s also the unfixable situations when the understanding is not really possible and the change is never gonna happen.

          Now that I said all this, I think that instead of just watching them have happy ending or wtv, what I really wanted to see if the whole process.
          Even if the conclusion is the same break up, I just wanted to see how they fought for each other until they realized it worked out or not.

          …Another mix of thoughts not sure even I understand. LOL

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        It is true SR’s Ex found her depression exhausting. It really is understandable. It is hard being a care giver (esp after already taking care of her during her cancer treatment). At the same time, she is living with a disease that could return at any time and could very well impact her mental health. So I understand why she would shy from staying with someone who already found the first round too hard to handle. Honestly, your heart goes out to both of them.

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    I still enjoy LND and find Ep 9 the best episode so far with the story finally get to the plots that matter. The back story with the ex turns out to be a lovely chapter that meant much to both – but you are spot on that their circumstances are no longer the same. It is one of those things in life that can work according to plan.

    I reckon we will have an episode or two on more redemption for our main characters before finally crossing to the ‘com’ territory.

    Ep 9 is virtually without fillers – like all the scenes with the second couple and the little girl becoming a community treasure child, the ML’s parents are moving their ‘steps’ forward. The best scene to me is mom’s deep hug without saying anything in the last scene – Asian parenting!

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      I’ve had mixed reactions so far myself, but I agree with you: Episode 9 was solid. I was legit teary eyed by the mom hug. As for SR’s decision, you can agree or disagree with her decision, but it was done well and could generate a good discussion. Tho I wish the show hadn’t made us think the Ex was cheating by only showing the half truth. The actual reasoning was more interesting than the usual cheating.

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    I love these characters.

    I think the ex did a mistake by letting her to hide her sickness to her family and friends. Even if she said she didn’t want them to know, it’s just she didn’t realize she needed them beside her to face her cancer. As her fiancee, he should have understand it and overall, he couldn’t handle it alone.

    There was a sad study that showed that the women had three times more likely to be abandoned by their husband during their illness.

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      Agreed. It was SR’s choice but ultimately family support far outweighs her other worries.

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