I did not have a good start to the year and there was a huge fight at home. I managed to cope with it but my brother had a hard time but i realised that not every start needs to be perfect.

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    Oh no sorry to hear this. The start of a new years is a social construct so treating it as any other day in your life will hopefully mean that it won’t have any more significance than any other bad day. I hope that your brother can find and use the coping skills he needs to get through these bad events as these are skills he will be using regularly for life whether he is living with family or alone or dealing with study or work issues etc.

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    I’m so sorry 😔
    I hope everything is better today. Virtual hugs.

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    I’m so sorry, Mani, sending hugs 🫂
    I agree with Tess— lots of events, dates, milestones, etc.— are social constructs or things the general public make up and place emphasis on, and a lot of times, it’s used as coverups or to put on a face (superficiality), and it all comes down to ego. More often than not, it seems like creating things to be these huge deals— dates— creates more conflict and tensions because so much emphasis is placed on keeping up appearances, —even if to oneself, because sometimes we even feel the need to be prim and proper for ourselves— but going about the day and your own business like any other day will help to mitigate that.

    Take a moment to gather yourself, and maybe you can just go do something with your brother, just the 2 of you?

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      Hi Bebe, it was one of those times where we just needed to let time pass. It made us sad but we need to move on

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    There is tomorrow. 😘
    And maybe the fight brings something positive as well? Some sort of cleansing? New start?
    Hugs. 😘

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    Warning: ⚠️ Sickness description ahead.⚠️
    Sounds about as much fun as mine. I had gone out the night before to a nightclub. Yesterday I felt a little off , a mild headache and some sore muscles. I attributed that to the two beers I had and standing all night at the club. I ate dinner and fell asleep watching movies. I woke up, oddly enough ‘round Midnight. Sweating, pounding head ache, the top of my head was hot. I went to stand up and I was dizzy, and had to sit down . I grabbed my cat bashing cane*, I don’t really bash them , (*local thrift store purchase,carved and painted somewhere other than here) , hobbled to the bath room and threw up. Just like a Christmas Carol, I was visited three times that night by a trip to go puke . 🤢 I went outside it, it felt so good,the cool winter air, I was cold though, my shirt was soaked with sweat.
    Woke up this morning and I’m fine . Whatever it was is gone . Happy New Year !! I actually see it as a purging of 2023 . 🤔

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      Glad that you are feeling better and have been able to reframe the experience 😊

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        I have done a couple rounds of qigong today and feel much better.

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      I am so sorry you had to experience that. I was down with a very nasty cold for a week with an entrance exam around the corner and it was awful

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    I hope things get better with time. And I hope your brother feels better soon.

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    I’m so sorry, Mani-chan. As the others have said, the a new year is of course just any other day – but it’s normal that we often have thoughts or feelings attached to what that means. Tomorrow is another day, and I hope it will be a better one for you. I also hope you feel proud that you handled the situation as best you could, and also had a warm heart for your brother. May the new sun bring new opportunities for ease and grace for you both!

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