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Dear Hyeri: Episodes 1-2 (First Impressions)

It’s a packed set of premiere episodes as we’re introduced to our offbeat heroine Shin Hye-sun’s two lives and everyone in them. There’s a lot going on in this drama, which at times leaves everything feeling a bit chaotic and rushed. The fast pacing and odd tone makes it hard to settle into the story and turns our heroine’s serious situation due to a mental health condition into a farcical issue that feels skirted over and mined for dramatic (or comedic) effect. Not the start I was hoping for, but it’s early yet.

Editor’s note: This is an opening review only. For a place to chat about the entire drama, visit the coming Drama Hangout.
 
EPISODES 1-2

Like many, I came into this drama primarily excited by the cast, director, and screenwriter trifecta that promised skill a plenty. However, when I realized the main character has Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), I got concerned. Dramaland doesn’t have the best track record of handling mental illness in a sensitive, accurate way – and when it comes to DID, neither does most any media. Still, I wanted to give it a try. Unfortunately, the handling of DID was as I feared. However, the rest of the drama was not quite what I expected, and I don’t know how to feel about it.

We’re first introduced to an exuberant and playful JOO EUN-HO (Shin Hye-sun) in 2015 when she and her boyfriend JUNG HYUN-OH (Lee Jin-wook) are happy and in love. Fast forward to now, and they’re barely civil to each other at work, a broadcast station, where they’re both announcers. He’s considered the more talented one with a future as an anchor, while she has remains largely in the shadows. Despite their constant sniping, they end up hosting a program together, much to Eun-ho’s chagrin.

That said, it’s clear to everyone that the exes are not over each other. Eun-ho talks about how much she hates Hyun-oh a little too much, and he somehow always has a reasonable excuse to throw jobs her way that could help boost her career. While insisting he can’t stand her, of course.

Eun-ho is a wild card, which doesn’t endear her to everyone. She’s brash, hotheaded, and can be petty if she feels slighted. But her spiritedness and unpredictability have earned her a fan in her younger colleague MOON JI-ON (Kang Sang-joon) who has been chasing after her for a while. He’s stunned when she, rather apathetically, agrees to go on a date that turns into a work excursion.

Since Eun-ho isn’t the type to exploit someone’s feelings for her, she tells him outright that she only “hates” Hyun-oh because she can’t have him. They dated for eight years, and she wanted to get married. He had no interest in marriage. Hating him is the only way she can handle interacting with him.

Even knowing Eun-ho’s feelings for Hyun-oh remain, Ji-on wants to give a relationship with her a shot. He kisses her one night… and we’re suddenly transported. It’s now daytime, and we meet eccentric JOO HYERI as her parking attendant colleague asks if she fell asleep and was dreaming again. Hyeri has been having dreams of being this announcer named Eun-ho who has her same face.

Hyeri shakes her weird dream off in favor of dealing with more pressing matters, like her crush on news announcer KANG JOO-YEON (Kang Hoon) who she sees regularly in the broadcast station’s parking lot where she works. She’s bored and in desperate need of excitement, but she’s also timid and unable to talk to Joo-yeon directly. Despite her gloomy demeanor – likely due to quite literally hiding behind her hair most of the time – she takes an optimistic approach to life.

Soon, Hyeri gets the chance to make an impression on Joo-yeon. And oh, does she make an impression. She sees a protestor in the station’s lobby attacking her beloved Joo-yeon with a freaking pickax and springs into action. She slaps a box over the assailant’s head and drags Joo-yeon out of the lobby to hide until the woman is apprehended.

All that adrenaline must go to the girl’s head because instead of finally talking to Joo-yeon, she adds to the poor man’s shock by kissing him with no warning. Then she turns and walks away without a word. Suffice it to say, Joo-yeon has had a day.

Amidst these shenanigans, Hyeri has been seeing a therapist regularly. She talks of her memory loss (she can’t remember anything about her past) and vivid dreams of this Eun-ho’s life. Her therapist breaks it to her that she is Eun-ho and has been diagnosed with DID. And here’s where we start to go off the rails.

The therapist (and drama) acts like Hyeri and Eun-ho are two entirely separate people who live in one body, hinting that Hyeri is a fictitious identity created by Eun-ho. We don’t get the whole story yet, but we do see flashbacks of what seems to be Eun-ho and her sister Hyeri, so I’m assuming Hyeri died and Eun-ho supposedly adopted her sister’s identity due to grief which… is not what DID is. *sigh*

Honestly, why even call her condition DID? Just make up a fake condition or leave it unnamed rather than misrepresenting a real disorder to fit the premise. I won’t go into all the questionable details about how DID is portrayed, but some things are too unrealistic to even make sense. You see, Eun-ho and Hyeri switch at exactly 4:00pm and 4:00am every day. I guess having her DID work on a convenient schedule is the only way her two lives wouldn’t intersect. I don’t see how that’s even possible when she was dating, and seemingly living with, Hyun-oh for eight years. Maybe the drama is suggesting she didn’t have DID then, which again, is not how that works. Either that, or Hyun-oh is ridiculously oblivious.

Back to Hyeri, she tries to avoid Joo-yeon after her attack kiss, but he manages to confront her. He’s pretty calm about the whole situation, but he does demand to know why she kissed him. All Hyeri can do is burst into tears. She’s so distraught she can’t even form words. Somehow, his justifiable anger surprised her. At least she does now understand that what she did was disrespectful and could even get her sued for assault.

She folds him a bunch of paper stars and writes him a letter to answer his question by confessing her feelings. He once again seeks her out, and this time she apologizes. For some reason, he also apologizes for being too angry. He doesn’t seem particularly upset that she kissed him and instead finds her intriguing.

Not only does Joo-yeon forgive her, but he invites her to his home to chat more. (WHAT.) This man is notorious for being cold and stoic, yet he trusts this random woman who assaulted him enough to let her into his house and tell her about his dead brother and his ensuing survivor’s guilt. It’s only their second conversation and he’s already opening up about his family trauma. Then, he lets her sleep at his house because it’s late. I have no idea what is happening.

Adding to the already confusing situation, the switch happens like clockwork at 4:00am. Eun-ho wakes in a strange place and sees a man she’s never met sleeping on the couch. She hightails it out of there but does manage to glimpse his work badge and get his name on the way out.

Rather than dwell on her mysterious situation, Eun-ho dives into work by agreeing to do an expose on a fishing transport operation. It’s a crappy gig, but she’s willing to take anything at this point to help her climb up the career ladder. Including secretly taking photos of fish in a refrigerated truck.

When she enters the freezer container with a camera, she finds a dead man on the floor. (We’ve really got a lot going on in this drama.) She ends up locked in with the body and her colleague on site isn’t answering the phone. She does, however, receive Eun-ho’s hilariously matter-of-fact text about being locked in the truck alongside a photo of the dead man. However, it’s Hyun-oh who shows up to save the day, and we get a long staring sequence from the two exes who absolutely, most definitely, hate each other.

I should never be surprised when a murder mystery enters the chat anymore in a drama. At this point, I’m not clear on what this drama is trying to be. A romcom? A workplace drama? A melo tale of a woman’s trauma? There’s a lot going on, and it’s not managing to fully come together for me yet. I don’t know if even this strong of a creative team can wrangle all these pieces and turn them into a cohesive story.

My main issue, besides the problematic DID portrayal, is that I don’t care about any of the characters. Shin Hye-sun is great, as usual, but I find both Eun-ho and Hyeri rather unlikeable. It’s hard to care about what’s going on when I’m not attached to anyone. And things just didn’t make much sense, including the bizarre, lightning speed relationship between Hyeri and Joo-yeon. I can’t get over how creepy she came off – like almost stalker level – yet he acted like it’s cute somehow? If she weren’t a woman, no one would find that behavior cute.

What really threw me was how fantastical everything felt. I expected a more grounded story or at least a more serious vibe. This almost felt… zany at times. I wish they had gone all in on the unbelievability and made Eun-ho/Hyeri’s situation some mysterious scenario a la the body switches in The Beauty Inside. Then, the dual identities could’ve been played up for laughs or drama without feeling insensitive or tonally jarring.

 

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This was WEIRD. Also she assaulted that poor man, by kissing him. I wish they hadn't gone that route. I am not sure I understand what is happening in this drama. While she is Hyeri, the filming and her demeanor are almost whimsical. While she Eun Ho, she is struggling. The shows seems to be implying she adopted some of her "sisters" identity, but the two episodes were so odd, that I don't know what to think. hmmmm

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The first two episodes were ... interesting, although I liked episode 2 much better than the first. It made sure that I will definitely keep watching.
I even found the last scene of the second episode quite impressive and touching. I actually had a lump in my throat.

Hye-ri reminds me of a child with her direct, literal manner. I was surprised that she is supposed to be 25 years old. I wonder if that was her sister's age when she disappeared. I suspect that Hye-ri was "created" as a "replacement" for the missing sister.

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Thank you for the recap! I agree with your assessment of the portrayal of DID. I was under the impression that DID is the result of extreme trauma in childhood. Though I do think the writers could be setting up something like that. For one thing, Hyeri is 9 years younger than Eun-ho, which makes me think something bad could have happened when Eun-ho was 9.

We did hear, in those early scenes set in 2015, that Hyun-oh found Eun-oh's house a mess. (Which it isn't now.) She was playful in a way that he described as crazy. She also grilled him, in the guise of flirting, about whether he would save her if she were drowning. I immediately thought both, "oh, she saw someone drowning," and "oh, she feels like she's drowning."

But if all this is true, why didn't she dissociate in the freezer truck? Or did she?

I also have a lot of suspicions about this Joo-Yeon guy. He has a brother who died and his mom calls him up to tell him she wishes he had died. Is this a legit real separate person, or is it one of Eun-ho's personalities? Or are they destined to be together because the same things happened to both of them? Or is he just open to the ways she's a weirdo because they fit with the ways that he's traumatized?

I cannot decide whether I'm reading more into these episodes than what was intended. One thing is for sure though: DID is not suited to a light romantic comedy. It's suited to a detective story.

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Silverlining: We get an MLa, a 2MLa, and an MLb.
That's nice, innit?

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I think Kang Hoon looking super handsome in this role will be my main reason to watch it. I liked Hyeri, she's a complete weirdo but she's fun. At least, she realized that kissing him was wrong.

The "logistic" of this drama isn't really clear. Why Eun-Ho doesn't know her condition? How it happened? For a moment, I thought Moon Ji-On's kiss was very impactful to give her a new life.

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+ 1 for Kang Hoon being the main reason for me to continue

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I wasn’t sure how to feel about the drama. At times it was engaging and at times quite unbelievable. It’s intriguing enough to continue if I set aside all logic. Also I don’t particularly like any of the leads. Especially the main leads. Ji On seems ok but I still don’t understand why he picked up a creepy lady and took her home.
The chirpy SFL seems like the only sane person.

How does Eun Ho go to the second persona Hyeri’s den and keep an alarm for 4pm? Why would she do that especially after coming back from work that afternoon. Which means she should know she has another identity but the show implies that she is confused.
She has a major chuck of her time she can’t account for and yet the show hasn’t given us an insights into this.

I will continue for now.

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I don't like that they use an actual diagnosis to depict this ... let's be honest ... device plot illness.
BUT apart from that, a lot of things are possible with the human mind, including dying from a believed curse, or being a "horse" for a god and get their deep voice and even be able to do things that human being don't normally do, like smoking cigars without coughing, just because they believe the god wouldn't cough.
And having a certain time incoded in your unconscious is very common - most of all, of course, the time we need to wake up, especially if it's regularly.
And that she won't make appointments that overlap Hye-ri's time of the day, that she don't know and yet does know that she is someone else after 4PM, that fits with the way a lot of people shape the universe in their heads around more and more curly, strange lies. People can have two "truths" in their heads, if they feel compelled to.
But well, what is happening to her is not DID.

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I have so many questions, that I will keep watching in hopes that they will be answered. 😅

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LOL it seems like I'm the only one, but I liked this one. But then I found out the actor had a real life Judge From Hell case (but without Justitia setting thinks straight), so I'm out. 😭

But here are something interesting for the other beanies to think about: the title says 나의 해리에게 (To my Hae Ri) which isn't the other identity's name (she's 혜리 Hye Ri), but her disorder's name.
해리 (Hae Ri) means "disassociation", as in 해리성 정체성 장애: dissociative identity disorder.

Anyway, here are my thoughts about these two episodes: this show felt like four different dramas all at once, and I liked three of them.
I didn't like the ML because he has too much power over Eun Ho's career. It was just two episodes of him doing her "favors" as if he felt responsible/bad for her. And that makes him look like a saint or fool in love with his coworkers, but I just find it weird and unfair. So, Idc about him.

Now, the first drama-inside-the-drama that I liked is Eun Ho's story. Like, everyone dislikes her, and her preferences (career wise) seem a bit unusual. The only one who would talk to her was the guy who thought he had a chance, and her jealous ex who didn't want to marry her goes to her home whenever and controls her career however he likes... That's a lot. What's going on!

The other drama that I liked was the fantasy show we got with Hye Ri and Eun Ho, two girls in one body (yes, I will call it the fantasy plot, not DID).
The girls have rules apparently.
They only switch if Eun Ho goes to sleep before 4PM, right? Because she had those trips during the weekend with no problem... Or maybe they don't switch during the weekend?
Idk, this feels like an old Disney movie (the spell would be "one will own the day, and the other one will own the night..." Like Twitches but one body? 😂).
It seems like Eun Ho adapted/accepted it everything pretty fast, too. She went to a psychiatrist, she has a routine, and she doesn't seem too worried about what Hye Ri does or not.

I mean, Hye Ri's existence is very recent (2 months), but Eun Ho seemed to have everything "under control". Even when Hye Ri didn't know about it.
Also, even if this is a recent thing, I suspect some traumatic event from the past has something to do with it.
Hye Ri seems to be like a version of someone she knew (maybe dongsaeng?). That would explain why she's younger (28?) than Eun Ho, and why she behaves like a kid most of the time. If Eun Ho's last memories of the OG Hye Ri are from when she was a kid, that would explain that weird kiss (she was right, he should've sue her).

The final (and favorite) mini-drama here it's Hye Ri x Ju Yeon's dynamic. I was vibing with The Secret Romantic Guesthouse reunion (modern spin off? 🤣), but then Hye Ri had that confidence boost and became hilarious. I like that she's unpredictable (why would she follow a stranger to his home, tho???). And Ju Yeon's awkwardness complements her well, imo.

Anyway, enjoy...

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I like it too, even if I get a bit confused keeping up with the plots.
You are VERY welcome to keep separating them and nicely distribute the plot parts that belong to each of them. And tag me when yo udo it.

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Unfortunately, I'm not continuing this show. I'll just be spying on you guys in the drama hangout. Haha.

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It is an unconventional story which is far from perfect, but makes me curious.

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Who is the hairdresser who comes in at 4:00 am and reworks the hair, while the lead is asleep??? It can't be the new morning-person personality because when she woke up she was so surprised by everything.

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I'm telling you this is a fantasy show. It's all magic. 😂😂

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Am I the only one getting the sense that a lot of the humor and nuance are lost because of translation issues? There is a lot going on for 12 episodes. So, at least we won't be bored.

@enriquequierecagar I had the sense that the title of the drama is like the intro to a letter. So, is the FL writing a letter to herself? Is this how the two personalities will communicate in the drama?

With the amount of misunderstandings the watchers are having, I hope this doesn't turn out to be a simple love triangle, misunderstanding based humor romcom. But with two personalities, we could have our first double triangle romcom!

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Yes, you're right. That's it.

But, the title isn't "To my Hye Ri" (the identity), it's "To my Hae Ri" (the disorder). So maybe there's another hidden meaning to it that hasn't been exposed... Maybe they'll do the LND and change the title (to Hye Ri) in one episode after a big reveal?? 😆

Who knows. But I also think they could communicate that way. Letters could be a good beginning since videos or audios could feel kinda aggressive at first.

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Those of you who are good at Korean, couldn't you host a "Lost in Translation" recap panel, where the rest of us could read the details that we lost because of our lack of Korean language skills?

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Please and thank you?

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My Korean is terrible.

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That could be a lot depending on the show.

NGNL has many moments like that. And I don't catch all the references either. They're A LOT. Like, the writer really loves their wordplay. LMAO
My Korean and understanding of the culture is limited. So I just catch little moments or weird translations.

For this drama, I'm just throwing there something that I found suspicious, but I don't think there's something big missing. The show is confusing in itself and it feels like they're hiding a lot of information for now.
So, don't worry. I don't think we're missing anything in translation.

Something that I would recommend tho is to pay attention to the details. Like the date in which Hye Ri writes in her diary, which days the girls switch, things said in flashbacks, etc. I think those aspects are more relevant in this show.

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I think it's okay for this show to be strange and not so easy to understand. At least, it they will make the pieces fit as we move along.
But I very much agree that it sould have been so much better if they had called the thing that happens too her the "White Bear Syndrom" (After the fairytales about a prince who is a polar bear by day) or a kind of copy-cat-hypochondria (sounds good, too, like some claves rhythm) where patients cope with their traumas by imitating mental states they have read about. I mean, so like, she would have a mental illness, but that it worked like this was because of the books and films she had seen, a kind of placebo illness?

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Copy-Cat-HypoChondria-Coping 😉

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I'm all over the place with this one. I almost turned it off after the first 20 minutes because I I found Joo Eun-ho and Jung Hyun-oh pretty nauseating in their happy and in love phase (where 95% of their conversations were about the heroine's pathological need to force the ML to admit he loves her above everything and everyone, even as she hits and nags him or sabotages his ability to do chores, which is truly his only redeeming quality anyway), and intolerable in their enemies period (in which they insult, condescend, and gaslight their way through boring and redundant conversations that go nowhere). I don't see true love here; I see exes who should remain so and never, ever, EVER get back together.

Plus, I have to say that as amazed, impressed, and fangirly I was for Shin Hye-sun in "Mr. Queen," I find that she's much better in comedic roles than in this kind of heavy yet quirky melodrama. In parts, I feel like she's overacting or being precious rather than channeling a complicated character. I was also particularly confused and irritated by the way she's playing Hyeri as some kind of tween hobbit. I know we're supposed to get that this is a different identity or projection on the part of a damaged psyche, but what's with the constantly open mouth, jerky dancing, and stuttering? Honestly, it reminds me of past portrayals of neurotypical actors playing mentally retarded or autistic characters by relying on caricature that reads much the same as mockery, and as such, I find it both distracting and insulting.

But then, the twist at the end of episode one, and then most of episode two, pulled me in. Even with Shin Hye-sun's odd infantilizing of her character, I found Hyeri and Kang Joo-Yeon to be much sweeter and interesting to watch when things got going a little bit. Even with the sheer ridiculousness of a man with that face managing to make it to 35 without ever having been kissed, and that he suddenly shifted from cold and aloof to inviting this clearly unstable girl/woman to his home, I'd much rather they were the main couple here.

The show is definitely tonally weird. It's not going for the comedy in quite the way "Kill Me, Heal Me" did, but it's also not presenting a remotely realistic portrayal of DID or the blurring of fantasy and reality as a trauma response. I do think we're supposed to see the emergence of the DID as the result of both the sister's death and the breakup, so I wasn't too hung up on how her ex didn't witness the 4am/4pm split. But it is hard to believe that this woman can get up at 4am, be a news anchor until noon on some days, then go to bed, only to wake up at 4pm and work all night. Maybe this whole drama is just about how we all need to get more sleep.

I don't know. Kang Hoon is really good looking. So I'll watch another week.

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I thought about the infantilized "other", too, but then if you think it is like a character that come from Eun-ho's fantasy, it is not better than what she can imagine, so it could be her minds stereotype rather than a claim that this would be how a real person would be.
And/or maybe she can be defined as the "leftover product" when Eun-ho has kept her sharp professionalism up and the human inside her gives it her all at "err-ing". (Errare humanum est, kind of thing).

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