I like my enemies laying low... preferably 6 feet under. Does not bode well with a hot romance. While reverse harems, from what I've seen of this genre, are quite a chore for everyone involved - and often dangerous, if not outright deadly as well. Thus giant neon red NOPE to both, tyvm.

Enemies-to-lovers please and thank you! Of course, I'm assuming the enemy here is likeable enough to eventually move into the lover category 🥰!

Either way, reverse harem is just too much trouble. Even handling one is enough of a hassle, why would I want to deal with multiple?!

Be in an enemies-to-lovers romance.

The pathway to experience then overcome bad habits, personality quirks, irritating mannerisms and negatively seems to be the golden road to acceptance and happiness in a long term relationship.

Enemies to Lovers for sure!

First of all - adorable! And the people in enemies-to-lovers stories are rarely actual enemies; almost always it's a case of a terrible first (and second and third) impression, mistaken identity, or misunderstanding. Once you clear that up, learn to open up to one another, and discover things you have in common, it's as smooth sailing as any relationship (which is to say - your results may vary hahaha)!

Reverse harem seems like it inherently involves a lot of angst, and if I'm going to be dropped into any kdrama scenario, I want to make sure we're firmly in the comedy genre.

I wouldn't want to be *involved* in either (especially since I don't date) but I hands down prefer enemies to lovers.

I just love how enemies can't stand each other and can bicker & challenge each other but then there's just this undeniable attraction and/or begrudging respect for each other that draws them to each other. Ah! I love it so much! Haha
Especially if it's done well.

Harems are just too many people. I don't like love polygons. And there's bound to be hurt feelings and jealousy. Just fly by me with all that.

It's nice if the harem is just full of friends but is that ever a thing? Like a squad of friends? Is that a gang? Haha

Enemies to lovers for sure. It offers a happy ending (at least temporarily) by definition.

No amount of eye candy can outweigh the fact that being in a reverse harem sounds emotionally exhausting. Too many feelings, too much angst. I wouldn’t want to watch it, much less live it.

"Know" your enemies, so to speak.

Enemies to lovers gives one the opportunity and permission to indulge in witty barbs and petty sabotage, while feeling self-righteous. Childish, but satisfying, especially as all will be forgiven during the happy ending.

Happy to see that I wasn’t alone and that there are 13 other beanies (as of this moment) who chose a Harem!
Given how well I have managed fangirling multiple boys and Ahjuicy’s over years, managing a Harem is piece o cake. 😎

A reverse harem, ofc.

I like being the center of (cute boys’) attention.

If a kid has a tantrum, you can pick them up, cuddle/chide/send to room. Can't do that with an adult, especially a k-drama chaebol who undoubtedly has work-out strength and killer abs

I recently recounted in another post that several close, lifelong friends told me that they didn't like me when we first met. While it wasn't exactly a case of enemies-to-lovers, it still showed that you shouldn't always trust first impressions.

I don't really believe in "love at first sight"—at least in real life. I've heard of it happening, but it seems to me that committing yourself wholeheartedly to someone without first getting to know them is building a relationship on a shaky foundation.

Enemies-to-lovers is one of my fave tropes. But this would depend on the likeability potential of my enemy. He may just fall under the disliking an attractive guy for some small reason. But not in the psychopath category.

I pick swarmed with attentive, attractive men who only want the best for me in all the ways, because I have always found it to be amazing when this has happened to me in the past.

Have y'all be having different experiences with this real-world situation?

As a fantasy novel girlie, is it even enemies-to-lovers if they’re not rivals from warring kingdoms?

I love enemies-to-lovers—in fantasy, when the stakes are high and the characters have actual reasons to actually hate each other and it’s juicy with lives on the line.

In k-dramas it’s usually just some girl falling in love with her misogynistic bully. Yawn and ick.

One (eventually) great lover beats a dozen take em or leave em guys plus its only one guy to figure out how to get along with (thus the bickering start) instead of several possibly annoying "got their minds on the wrong thing) sort of mayhem. So its enemies to lovers for me!

It can be hard if there are several really nice men who wants you, and you actually have a conscience and don't like to see them sad and suffering.
But IRL I can't imagine how I would fall in love with someone I saw as an enemy. I mean, there are people I have come to like better when I got to know them better, but if there were no spark when I met them first ...
I'd definitely still prefer to be surrounded by ikemen wooing me. I'd prefer it if they are not trying to kill each other. But I once was at a party where I found out, because someone told me, that to men where having an argument about me ... and I was REALLY not prepared for that: I was in another country, in new surroundings, and it was as if I had gone through a magic wardrobe or something, I was seen as something way more fantastic than I was used to. To be honest, it was not a bad feeling. 😂 Though it was kind of alienating - I did not identify as "deadly beauty", but as "who, me?"

Enemies-to-lovers all the way! I don't think I have any enemies, and if I did, wouldn't it be nice to have one less? And if they were originally my enemy, then they would have already seen the crappier side of me already, right? And then still ending up falling for me.

Even if the reverse harem is not taking place surrounded by palace/succession politics, I would get self-conscious about being pursued by multiple guys. And I'm pretty sure I would stress out about hurting someone's feelings. I already get anxious in real life rethinking about something probably inconsequential that I said that could possibly be misconstrued as being insensitive or negative. I may just end up rejecting everyone and end up with no one.

Do I get to pick my harem? Because in that case, count me in . . .

since I will hardly ever experience a reverse harem then I choose that but I think I will be annoyed pretty quick. but at least I have plenty to annoy back. I do not believe in enemies to lovers, I only believe in lovers to enemies. life made me cynical already.

Definitely reverse harem. With so many people, there are chances for every trope - friends to lovers, enemies to lover, second chance and once for all I would be able to determine which trope reigns supreme.

Another thing is not all people involved in reverse harem are love interest and they could become your lifelong friends . At the end of it, it is always a love triangle, one of which could be enemies to lovers.

Enemies to lovers for me. To be enemies two individuals must harbour some sort of mutual hate feelings towards eachother. And we all know that there is such a fine line between love and hate. Or as some contemporary great thinker put it: "Hate is only a form of love that hasn’t found a way to express itself logically". And what a great challenge it is to subdue the one you love to hate. Or hate to love. Oh, the posibilies! Of course, he has to be just as smart, confident, gorgeous and having a slight touch stubborness and pride as myself. And a good heart and good moral values, of course, that are deeply hidden under the defensive jerk facade.
Whereas having my own harem of obedient and needy men I find it mentally boring. There is no challenge to it, they just roll over and wait to be patted. For that I have puppies. Never needed the interest of more men to boost my confidence or ego and never liked to play or use people and their feelings. A good one is all I ever needed.

Multiple men = More stress (No thank you)
I'd rather have just one man to deal with, even if he started out as an enemy.