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[2020 Year in Review] Life-affirming drama themes


My Unfamiliar Family

By @jorobertson

I love how K-dramas never tire of teasing out the complexity of being human and dealing with injustice. They seem to get into places that TV and dramas from other places don’t.

Some of the notable dramas this year dealt with serious themes in life-affirming ways, whether it was facing up to your fears and your damaged past in It’s Okay to Not Be Okay, or learning to understand others in My Unfamiliar Family.

Other dramas explored the role of individuals in society as a whole — especially where prejudice and power were involved. A drama like Forest of Secrets 2 explored this by setting the personal integrity of a few against pervasive institutional corruption.

Here are a few of my favorite 2020 dramas and the themes that spoke to me.


It’s Okay to Not Be Okay

Theme #1: Be at home with yourself
Being at home with yourself was central to It’s Okay Not to Be Okay. When Go Moon-young goes to her frightening cobweb-infested childhood home and sleeps there, she faces the terrifying nightmare of her past. But she does not run away from the horror of her childhood. She fights back. She’s brave, and in the morning the house seems less of the nightmarish, cobwebby mess that it was the night before.

Go Moon-young also makes Moon Kang-tae face himself when she calls him a hypocrite. She speaks to the little boy in him who wants to be loved, and her book acknowledges how he feels about being his brother’s keeper. Together they defeat the “wicked witch” in each of their pasts, and learn how to be at home with themselves.


My Unfamiliar Family

Theme #2: Work to understand others
In My Unfamiliar Family, all of the characters learn how little they know or understand about those with whom they share the closest bonds. Husband and wife, parents and children, siblings, long-time friends — they all get big surprises.

The most interesting of these are the sisters who “know” exactly what the other is going to say, but who still seem to know so little about each other. “Knowing” in My Unfamiliar Family seems to be about projecting your own issues onto others while missing what’s really at hand.

Additionally, Sang-shik’s story was so sad and typical of many men of that generation who have low esteem and are generally inarticulate in situations of conflict. While the relationships between the women and their individual stories were fantastic, this drama also looked at men who are not able to talk about their issues/desires/fears — Kim Sang-shik, Kim Ji-woo, and Park Chan-hyuk.

I also liked when one of the characters said that in families we can hurt each other the most, but that we can also forgive the quickest. My Unfamiliar Family definitely explored family and relationships in an honest and refreshing way.


Start-Up

Theme #3: Learn where true value lies
Overall all, Start-Up explored where we get our value from. In-jae wanted to be valued for herself. Ji-pyeong wanted to repay a debt that could not be repaid with money. Do-san wanted to be valued by Dal-mi for his own worth, not for borrowed attributes. Like Seo Chung-myung, the boys of Samsan Tech had to discover how to make money out of good ideas.

Start-Up also looked at the difference between the value that comes with money, and the intangible and intrinsic value that money can’t. Interestingly, the drama “produces” two start-ups that had no commercial value: the image recognition app for blind people, and the one for mentoring orphans.


The Good Detective

Theme #4: The power of forgiveness
In The Good Detective, we see forgiveness and persuasion in action. Kang Do-chang realizes his terrible error and not only ensures that justice is redressed, but also brings along with him some of his corrupt and obdurate colleagues simply by reasoning with them.

Theme #5: Give yourself time and space to heal
In A Piece of Your Mind, Seo-woo’s family tragedy in the forest fire and her struggle to rise above the loss gives us a hint of the similar struggles for our other characters, who had to come to terms with what happened in Norway. Ha Won tries to develop a technology to mediate grief, but discovers it’s the human touch that he tries to replicate in his technology that is most powerful.


A Piece of Your Mind

Theme #6: Integrity matters
Forest of Secrets 2 showed the efforts of people of integrity (like Shi-mok and Yeo-jin) against individual and systemic corruption that works in its own self-interest. The drama explored the social system, with its foundations in Confucianism, that preferences whoever is senior in age, social status, and professional status. This system of respect and obligation is often exploited in order to conceal the unlawful actions of individuals or institutions. As a result, injustice breeds retaliation and feeds further retaliation. The combined actions of the police and prosecutors expose the perpetrators, but at the same time reinforce the structures that perpetuate the same injustice and inequities.

These are only a few of the remarkable dramas in 2020 that confront big themes in therapeutic ways. Thank you, Dramabeans, for providing a forum to share the experience of watching them with astute Beanies.


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Of all in your list, I have watched only two: "It's ok not to be ok" and "My unfamiliar family".
I really want to watch "start up" and "a piece of your mind"... I just haven't had time.
Thank you for contributing to the year's review.
2020 with crazy lock downs and bad news and so many changes in the system has been a weird and somehow bad year for millions.
If we are alive and relatively healthy and are able to be here commenting about what we learned in dramas, we are very lucky.
As usual, drama-wise, 2020 is not a waste. At least two, three or five dramas were great.
For me, personally, even though I didn't watched them all, My unfamiliar family stands up.
Greetings to everybody here!!!!!🙂😇🙋

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*If we are alive and relatively healthy and are able to be here commenting about what we learned in dramas, we are very lucky.* So true. We are privileged. I hope you get to see the others. You'll laugh at SU, and maybe even cry a little at APOYM. It was like a whole symphony on loss and grieving with so different variations, and yet it didn't drag me down. Apart from the leads, whom I loved, Lee Jung-eun as Kim Min-jung added a whole other deeply poignant story. Then with MUF I can't rhapsodize enough. It continues to mystify me that I find these dramas so satisfying.

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Thank you! I have few days off right in this month, and since I am alone and even if I were not, I don't celebrate Christmas or end of the year (however the case, with the lock down would be difficult), and since I am not only an immigrant but new in the city I live now and I don't know almost anybody.... guess what?? I will do a couple of binge watching😅😀😂😂😂😂😂😂
Binge watching binge watching,
Before the year is gone 🙋

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Happy bingeing. I know what it's like to be by yourself in a strange and new place. I hope you also get to make some friends soon too, although it is difficult to break into a new place.

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I counted at least ten outstanding dramas this year- some of them mentioned here.

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Tell me those that didn't

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STOVE LEAGUE- It also demonstrated the power of Integrity but also of the value of passion in what one does.

MYSTIC POP-UP BAR- The power of storytelling itself and the enduring power of family.

I'LL MEET YOU ON A BEAUTIFUL DAY- The healing power of love but also about the bonds of family- including the downside- which can lead to pain as well as joy.

DO YOU LIKE BRAHMS? Love is wonderful but it is also something that you have to fight for, and in the end one has to except the pain that comes with it.

HOSPITAL PLAYLIST- Friends matter.

INTO THE RING- The lesson? Not so much a lesson as a demonstration of what love between two people should become- an ideal that most of us will fall short of but which can stand as a kind of role model.

TALE OF THE NINE TAILED- great story telling but also in the end about the power of selflessness and sacrifice.

So guess I miscounted- it was a total of nine rather than ten.

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Great review @jorobertson!

APOYM is the only drama that I could not finish in this list, and I've been reading various reviews about it so I might pick it up someday. I could not get past what happened in ep4 when the ex-gf went to Norway and called CSB's character then something happened to her.

MUF is such a gem. I related to it more than I expected esp the dynamics of the family.

Shi-mok & Yeo-jin's passion towards their work is what I aspire to be.

2020 without dramas would be empty but 2020 without DB/Beanies would be a disaster. Who else will I be able to share this love for dramas and everything in between?

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I agree, without DB/Beanies I would be a voice howling in the wilderness with no one to share the experience of what I'd watched. The wide range of responses on DB opens my eyes to things I hadn't considered. Sure I don't always agree (often I really, really do), and then there are the truly funny moments. The more experienced beanies have a wealth of information that has made me more savvy too. APOYM is worth the watch. It is traumatic in an unbelievably slow way that brings its own healing vibe with it (if that makes any sense).

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Agree agree!

Traumatic and healing in one sentence, I'll put APOYM to the top list of dramas I should go back. xD

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DB has been a safe place where I can spend hours reading and interacting and having some nice discussion with other beanies about important and non important things: dramas have been my pill of joy in this strange year. Thank you all for being here.

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Except for some random bots and then sudden rise of new accounts who's here to fight xD Thank you also Eazal!

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The Zombie Kid was a story/theme in the drama (IOTNBO) which I could really relate too.

Ko Mun Yeong calling Gang Tae a hypocrite was one of my favorite Kdrama moments ever. Her voice makes everything better and his eyes make it more intense.

P.S. lots of love to Sang Tae as well

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Oh Jung-se as Moon Sang-tae was stand-out amazing for me. I want to see Oh Jung-se get all the accolades that he got for Camellia and more this year. His character in IOTNBO had a brilliant arc, especially as he was increasingly and incrementally freed from Gang-tae's protection. I loved that he came into his own so strongly.

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Character development was something that really made IOTNBO standout. He freed Gang Tae and freed himself from Gang Tae as well!

*Crying*

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He did. Towards the end, he was the one who seemed strongest in the simplest and most beautiful way.

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Thank you @jorobertson for your wonderful essay. I watched two of ‘your’ dramas: THE GOOD DETECTIVE and FOREST OF SECRETS 2. I enjoyed FOS2 but loved TGD.

Re: TGD. Son Hyun-joo and Jang Seung-jo were so good together. Both their characters had serious issues from the past to deal with and resolve. The writing was wonderful. SHJ was wonderful in both of his dramas in 2020. He played Park Seo-joon’s father in ITAEWON CLASS and the scenes in episode one where the fathers affirms the dignity of his son were my favorite in the drama especially when the father taught his son the proper way of serving and drinking soju. A wonderful father/son moment.
Re: FOS2. It probably sound strange to many but one of the lines of dialogue that I remember is when Shi-mok got a “great job” over the phone from Chief Prosecutor Kang Won-cheol. For me it was such a sign of respect from Senior to Junior.
That is a great pic from the ending of FOS2.

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Son Hyun-joo was pretty amazingly good in both and I'll be looking for him in other dramas from now on. He certainly plays a fatherly role with memorable sincerity. He left such a lasting impression from IT that it made Park Sae-ro-yi's strength of character even more convincing. In FOS the relationship between Shi-mok and KWC was just one of the fabulous touches in a fabulous drama. I was so frustrated that KWC retired. I wanted him to go in and fight against the forces that trapped him. In the next season, I hope he still figures in the drama.

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I knew It's Okay to Not Be Okay delivered a very poignant message about self-identity, but I couldn't exactly pinpoint what made that message so special in words. Thank you for describing it as "Be at home with yourself" - it's perfect! Home is where you feel safe and at peace; it's where you want to run to when things get tough. So often, Kdramas illustrate a romantic interest as that "home", but it was beautiful for Moon-young and Kang-tae to find their homes in themselves first.

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Yes!! *So often, Kdramas illustrate a romantic interest as that "home"* Thank you. I hadn't recognised that before.

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There is definately a lot to find out about this subject.

I love all the points you've made.

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Thank you.

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First of all, congratulations for being published and thanks for sharing your thoughts with us all. I’m specially happy to see your reference about The Good Detective here, you know I love this drama and what it means to me!

I’ve also watched all the other dramas you’ve mentioned and love them all but Start Up, not that I don’t like it, but I was disappointed about the missing opportunity of something bigger and better, but I totally agree with you about the lesson it teaches us.

Thanks for sharing this beautiful thoughts with us. We should apply this lessons in our everyday life.

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Thank you so much and thank you without end for your great ideas and thought-provoking comments. You are a v bright beanie, 😊😊😊 and you've added so much value to my interactions with DB. Start-Up made me laugh more than anything else I watched this year, so I forgive it its shortcomings.

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This year was a good one in Kdramas.

Forest of Secrets 2 : I really loved this season, it was slower but more realistic. The theme of integrity was really well written and touching.

My Unfamiliar Family : It was so good. For me, the main theme was communication. The parents failed to communicate and it carried over to their children.

A Piece of Your Mind : I need the missing episodes >_<

The Good Detective : I really liked the team, they worked well together. But the investigation wasn't really interesting and there were weird choices.

It's Okay : I loved the brothers together and how they healed and grew up. For the FL, I wished she worked on her trauma. And the mother's plot was so disapointing.

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Thank you. With APOYM, I was furious that we were going to miss two episodes. I wanted to see more of the leads together, but if it had gone to 16 episodes, I would have been frustrated if their being together had been more drawn out. I wonder what it would have been like if they had let it go to 16?

THGD ran counter to the usual pattern, and @eazal has written a good critique/appreciation of it. If you haven't seen it already, she might give us the link again.

With IONTBO the mother was robbed of her power once they faced up to her (and their horrible, traumatic past). I laughed out loud when she was hit on the head with the book of fairytales. For me that was the perfect ending to her - she only had power in their childhood imaginings. For me, her being a big fizzle was just right.

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Oh, I missed this tag 😕
I thought it had been solved, but it seems it haven’t.
Anyway, here’s the link to my post on the wall: https://www.dramabeans.com/members/eazal/activity/1122116/
Just some random thoughts that could have been better written (and without typos... 🙄😑😆)

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My issue with the mum was the writting. She didn't have to exist, her "ghost" was enough. The fact the actress didn't know that she was the mum showed that the writer never had a clear path for this character.

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I had the same issue with the mum, she was needless to me, but at the end it was solved good enough for me to still love the drama.

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I thought the same; the idea that we aren't helpless children anymore and the evil isn't as scary once we muster up the courage to face it.

Cinematically maybe could be done a little bit better?

The message was clear nonetheless. I was screaming when Sang Tae hit the witch with the book!

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I meant writing wise not cinematically

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"I love how K-dramas never tire of teasing out the complexity of being human and dealing with injustice. They seem to get into places that TV and dramas from other places don’t." This is really true of KDramas. Although we did get the occasional drama with one-dimensional characters, many dramas had characters that felt like real people. Few dramas also had the method of story telling by showing the same event from the point of view of multiple characters. KDramas also show the same themes in different manners for eg. the theme of bullying, or even making use of a trope like amnesia. You write really well @jorobertson! :D

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Thank you! I loved the way you knitted your review together and made it about what we have all been going through. I like your writing too.

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Thanks a lot! :)

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I watched A Piece of Your Mind because of your review and I loved it. Thank you for pointing out its theme because I don't think I would known what a heartfelt story this drama had to offer otherwise!

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Thank you. It took me a while to get it, but when I did it was exactly that, "heartfelt".

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I love your description of the lessons from MY UNFAMILIAR FAMILY. It rang so true.

And I really your take on START UP. You really have a very good point about what motivated the characters. Start up had so much depth to it- it inspired many comments for a reason .

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