It’s Okay, It’s Love: Episode 16 (Final)
by gummimochi
It’s been a long road, but we’ve finally made it to the end for It’s Okay, It’s Love. What awaits us here is the message the show has tout at us all series long: hope. But now it’s time to say our farewells to the characters whose lives we’ve followed for the past two months, from the tears, to the laughs, and to the random tomatoes they throw at us.
No one can argue that this show takes itself seriously all the time, but just think of all the salsa or sauce they could have made with all those tomatoes. And for our final ratings check-in, It’s Okay, it’s Love ended its run with 12.9%.
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FINAL EPISODE RECAP
His feet washed and in new shoes, Kang-woo asks if he shouldn’t come back anymore. At that, Jae-yeol passes on Hae-soo’s gratitude towards Kang-woo, since he could’ve ended up dead much sooner if Kang-woo hadn’t appeared to him three years ago, buried under his massive guilt.
“She says I was actually comforting myself when I comforted you,” Jae-yeol explains. He’s come to realize just how much the abuse he endured from his stepfather and brother scared him, despite putting up a strong front. He realizes how much he hated the powerless and helpless little boy who couldn’t stop his mother from being beaten, and how afraid he was when he ran away, barefoot.
Jae-yeol lowers his head, the tears imminent, and Kang-woo consolingly says that’s all in the past now. Jae-yeol agrees, adding that despite his past, he grew up to be a rather decent adult.
Both of them try their damnedest to keep a smile on their faces, though the tears continue to stream down Jae-yeol’s face. Kang-woo asks Jae-yeol not to acknowledge him in the future, “but if… once in a while, you do miss me, then just look in a mirror. Because you’re me.”
Now it’s really time for goodbyes, and Jae-yeol pulls Kang-woo into a tight embrace while trying to keep his tears at bay. Kang-woo: “Goodbye, Han Kang-woo.” Jae-yeol: “Goodbye, Jang Jae-yeol.”
Slowly, Jae-yeol lets go of Kang-woo as the camera pans down, and when it pans up again, Jae-yeol is left staring at his own sad reflection. Truly alone now, he breaks down in silent sobs, and Hae-soo enters his room to be a literal pillar to cry on. (‘Cause disciplinary board action be damned for love, y’all.)
Sunbae Jo is delighted to hear about Jae-yeol’s breakthrough, and when Soo-kwang beats himself up for experiencing the first episode he’s had in weeks, So-nyeo yells at him for hitting what’s hers (meaning, him).
Sunbae Jo scolds him, saying that he should be proud of himself, only to get pinched and be met with So-nyeo’s icy stare. He does, however, interrupt the couple’s potential Lady and the Tramp moment though by cutting their shared noodle with his chopsticks.
Things seem to get better for Jae-yeol at the hospital, sneaking light hand-holding with Hae-soo and playing peacekeeper about TV rights with his fellow patients. Doctor Lee considers adjusting Jae-yeol’s medication, and it seems Hae-soo’s out of trouble with the disciplinary board now, thanks to Doctor Lee.
When Hae-soo ignores yet another call from Mom, Doctor Lee encourages her to stop avoiding her mother. Not that Hae-soo has much of a choice since Mom comes marching in to collect her daughter moments later. Jae-yeol sees Hae-soo leaving, and so do her friends Yoon-chul and Hye-jin, who are here to see Jae-yeol today.
The expecting couple offers Jae-yeol some encouraging words—sure, there are times when Hye-jin worries how difficult it’d be for her husband if she relapsed. But instead of running away—which would be the easier option—Yoon-chul tells her to love him all the more. So Jae-yeol shouldn’t just worry about Hae-soo, and he has as much right to be happy as anyone.
Jae-yeol calls Hae-soo’s mother (I guess he gets to keep his phone?) and entreats her for a chance to meet Hae-soo, where he’ll convince her to leave overseas. Mom listens before hanging up without a word, and before Hae-soo can explain herself, she sends her daughter back to the hospital.
After sharing about the recent surge of his book sales and an invitation to appear as a guest on his former radio show, Jae-yeol tells Hae-soo to go on that worldwide trip she once told him about. When she asks if that’s why he called her here, Jae-yeol frankly replies yes.
She asks if they’re breaking up again, but Jae-yeol argues that this is being filial to her mother. He’ll keep up his treatment once he’s discharged again, and teaches her more about love: “Love doesn’t mean giving up something for the other person, but it means to achieve something.”
He doesn’t want her to give up on her dreams because of him, and she should feel free to travel as originally planned. She asks if he’s being real, and Jae-yeol tells her to do her best to forget him in the next year. If she can’t by then, they’ll talk about it then.
He won’t pick up her calls and will decline her visits to him from here on out. If she persists by using her authority as a doctor, he’ll move to a different hospital. I wish that option was on the table a lot sooner, but what’s done is done.
“Is it that easy for you to send me away?” Hae-soo asks, tears in her eyes. “It’s hard,” Jae-yeol admits, but this is the only way he can save face with her family. She breaks into a tiny smile and asks what happens if she meets someone, and he laughs that he’ll wish her happiness then.
He won’t back down—just like how Hae-soo helped him with dealing with Kang-woo, he’s sending her away so that she comes back from this trip a stronger and wiser person. Then Jae-yeol draws his hand away, and repeats that no, he won’t be giving in.
He follows up with a kiss and sends her off. She asks if he knows what an awful guy he is, and he returns a tiny smile. Fighting tears, Hae-soo leaves.
Mom is taken aback to be told that Hae-soo will take a leave of absence from work and head out soon afterwards. Hae-soo assures her mother that she and Jae-yeol have really called it quits this time, and that she won’t contact Jae-yeol either because she loves her mother that much.
Mom accepts that answer, but then Hae-soo takes her mother’s hands and asks her to trust her one more time. “Trust that I’m a good doctor who can treat her patients. And whatever misfortune comes my way, that I’m someone who can turn that moment into happiness again.”
Mom starts to ask if she’s hinting about starting over with Jae-yeol in the future, but Hae-soo cuts her off with her farewell, saying that she’ll call often. A tear rolls down Mom’s cheek after Hae-soo leaves.
Hae-soo returns home, where Soo-kwang promises that he won’t let the candle for Jae-yeol go out in her absence. It’s also Soo-kwang’s idea to enlist PD Choi’s help to take her to the airport, and Sunbae Jo gives his short (but snappy) farewell sitting down.
Doctor Lee checks in with Jae-yeol before he leaves for the radio show, asking if he knows that Hae-soo’s leaving today. He does, and is later mobbed by fans at the broadcasting building. He’s momentarily startled when a high schooler asks for his autograph, but breathes again when it’s Not Kang-woo.
He has to tune out their whispers about whether he was pretending to be mentally ill to sell more books, but holds his own during the radio show. It’s nice to see Jae-yeol laughing again, and so does the host, who gives Jae-yeol the floor to speak a few words:
Jae-yeol: “Hello, this is Jang Jae-yeol. I’m sure many of you already know, but I’m suffering from a mental illness. The doctors say my condition is rather common with one out of every hundred suffering from it, and that it’s not terminal, but one where complete recovery is possible. I plan to do my best, believing in those words… because what I can do for those I love is to never give up hope no matter what may come.”
Hae-soo is tuning in on the plane while Mama Ok-ja and Jae-bum listen in at home. Jae-yeol says he’d like to address his usual sign-off to himself; he’d realized that he always asked how his listeners felt and bade them a good night, but never said those things to himself.
So he asks tonight’s listeners to do the same—to ask themselves, “Are you really okay?” and bid themselves goodnight. Staring at his reflection, Jae-yeol signs off, “Good night, Jang Jae-yeol.”
Our characters do the same separately, as Soo-kwang speaks to himself (and smothers himself with kisses), Sunbae Jo speaks to his reflections, and Hae-soo tells herself to sleep well.
An unspecified amount of time passes when we see Jae-yeol again; he’s still at the hospital, but has taken up writing again, and ignores an incoming call. From Hae-soo, perhaps? In any case, Doctor Lee believes Jae-yeol has improved enough to consider discharging him soon. She and Sunbae Jo give each other a high five on their work.
Soo-kwang and Sunbae Jo smile over Hae-soo’s travel photos, and wonder why she chose to go to Mongolia than enjoy herself in Europe. Jae-yeol suggests that it was probably because of cost, and firmly refuses seeing Hae-soo’s photos. Sunbae Jo asks if he and Hae-soo really don’t keep in touch, and Jae-yeol rises from his seat.
Soo-kwang asks if Jae-yeol will need to keep up with treatment even after he’s discharged. Sunbae Jo confirms it, since Jae-yeol will need continuous follow-up treatment.
We skip ahead again to a year after Hae-soo’s departure. Over at Mama Ok-ja’s place, Jae-yeol gives his hyung (who now has a full head of black hair) a hard time about a female prison guard showing interest in him.
Tae-yong adds that Jae-bum even had a small crush on Doctor Lee, and Jae-bum gets upset when Mama Ok-ja gives him a shirt to change into that isn’t Doctor Lee’s favorite color.
Soo-kwang updates Hae-soo (and us) with how everyone is doing lately: Jae-yeol attends group therapy, is writing again, takes his medication once a week, and hasn’t seen Kang-woo in over six months now. Jae-bum attends group therapy to (led by his crush, Doctor Lee), and so do Soo-kwang’s father and Mama Ok-ja.
He writes that Yoon-chul and Hye-jin gave birth to a baby boy (the baby in the picture, however, wears pink), and Soo-kwang, Doctor Lee, Sunbae Jo, and PD Choi all enjoy spending time together at the house with their significant others. He asks if it bothers her that he made slight mention of Jae-yeol, but encourages her to come back to see how Jae-yeol’s doing herself if she’s that curious.
We see Hae-soo back in Okinawa, narrating a message to Jae-yeol. She writes how she spent an entire day by the shore where they spent the night together, along with the other places they visited. She’s heading back to Korea tomorrow, holding onto the minuscule hope that he hasn’t forgotten about her.
Her grand return back home is met with practically no fanfare, since her old housemates are busy bickering over a puzzle. Sunbae Jo is in a glum mood because his wife recently returned to the States, and Hae-soo gripes over seeing the house looking like a pigsty.
She helps herself to a glass of water, which gets promptly plucked out of her hand by Jae-yeol… ’cause he lives here again? Wait, does he actually live here again? She’s happy to see him, but he’s still his candid self, and tells her that she’s gotten prettier since they’ve seen each other last.
Hae-soo looks just as confused as I am right now, so she barges into Jae-yeol’s room. He’s hardly surprised, and she asks what he was getting at with his earlier comment. She can’t understand his matter-of-fact tone right now if he hasn’t forgotten about her, and Jae-yeol frankly admits that because he thought of her every day, it feels like he just saw her yesterday.
“I really missed you, Hae-soo,” Jae-yeol tells her, words which trigger happy tears from her. When he asks if he can kiss her, she breaks into a wide smile, and then swoops in for a kiss.
Sunbae Jo and Soo-kwang burst inside just then, and ha, it turns out that puzzle they were working on reads, “Our loving Hae-soo, Jae-yeol has been waiting for you.” They hilariously plop themselves on the bed to watch the ongoing makeout session, only to be shooed out.
We fast forward another year from that moment (so make that three-ish time skips now), and now Jae-yeol’s bathroom bears a painting of a camel leisurely walking in the desert. Hae-soo’s eyes widen at her positive pregnancy test before she joins Jae-yeol back in bed.
She’s in an annoyed mood, which prompts Jae-yeol to shift gears to automatic punishment mode. He groggily asks what’s wrong today, and she hands him the pregnancy test, reminding him of how he persuaded her into having unprotected sex some weeks ago.
Jae-yeol takes the test and walks out, and Hae-soo calls out, “Yeobo!” Omo, are you two married now? The wedding photos in their bedroom confirm it, and I have to admit—the family picture is pretty adorable.
Jae-yeol announces the happy news that he’ll be a father to Sunbae Jo and Soo-kwang, who responds enthusiastically. Hae-soo, on the other hand, isn’t that thrilled, and breaks up their happy party by spraying them with the water hose.
Hae-soo’s parents are over the moon about the pregnancy, and Jae-yeol returns home in time to hear Sunbae Jo’s disapproval over Doctor Lee’s choice of boyfriend. It quickly turns into a shouting match, and Hae-soo has to pull her “I’m pregnant!” card to calm everyone down.
After pointing out each other’s flaws and agreeing to hash things out tomorrow, the party breaks up in a huff. Jae-yeol is told to sleep in Soo-kwang’s room tonight, since Hae-soo is upset that she has to extend her fellowship due to her pregnancy. She changes her mind less than a minute later.
And when Sunbae Jo had suggested they hash things out, he apparently meant physically, because we’re transported to a white room where the entire crew (sans PD Choi and Mi-young, who are together now) throw tomatoes at each other. At one point, Jae-yeol and Hae-soo are targeted, and they scream that Hae-soo’s expecting.
As per usual, Hae-soo and Jae-yeol light a candle that night and lift up a prayer. On Jae-yeol’s radio show, he speaks of an enclosed candle that never goes out: “There’s only one reason why that candle always remains lit. It’s for the sake of those lonely people who live outside that cavern.”
“To those who feel lonely and think that you’re alone, know that someone is always praying for you,” Jae-yeol continues. “Remember that there was never a moment you were alone.”
Jae-yeol and Hae-soo go out for ice cream and a walk afterwards. They get recognized by a group of fangirls, led by an enthusiastic girl who asks for his autograph (cameo by KARA’s Goo Hara). She’s left peeved when he declines, since he’s on a date with his wife right now.
Hae-soo tells him that he’ll lose his fans that way, but all Jae-yeol needs is Hae-soo by his side. They tell each other that they’re exactly each other’s types, and he asks what if they had another kid after their first is born.
She isn’t particularly keen to that idea, but smiles anyway. Jae-yeol plants a kiss on top of her head. “How about three?” Hae-soo tosses back happily. Jae-yeol: “Deal!”
COMMENTS
So we bid farewell to these characters who, from this idyllic ending, will continue leading their lives into a more optimistic future. Given how deeply we went into the source of Jae-yeol’s emotional pain, along with the onset of his schizophrenic symptoms—all of which the show continued to explore up to its finale week—I wouldn’t have been that surprised if It’s Okay didn’t end on a happy note. Not that the happy-go-lucky soundtrack would have allowed a dreary ending, that is.
So even with the heavy emotional content throughout the series, it became evident that the takeaway would always be a message of hope, from Jae-yeol’s condition, to the hospital cases, to Jae-yeol and Hae-soo’s families, and so on. As to Jae-yeol’s confrontation and goodbye with Kang-woo, I looked forward to the moment when Jae-yeol had to face the manifestation of his emotional trauma and fears, to forgive himself for the past and the years of guilt that followed, and finally let go and move on. As touching as that exchange was (and frankly speaking, wonderfully acted by both actors in the scene), once Jae-yeol’s breakthrough to discern between reality vs. imagination arrived, my mind couldn’t wrap around how quickly Jae-yeol could reason and rationalize like a normally functioning adult again.
And it wouldn’t be the first time that such change in a character would leave me puzzled, since Hae-soo’s sexual phobia was handled in a similar way—where one emotional breakthrough would (mostly) free her of those anxiety issues we heard so much about. Jae-yeol was the one to send Hae-soo on her trip, telling her to return as a better person, encouraging her to do the things she wanted, and teaching her to become a more filial daughter. At the same time, her absence allowed him the time to continue his psychological treatment and presumably adjust to a lifestyle of maintenance with his mental illness.
It’s those times when Jae-yeol speaks to what might be best for them, even at the start of his recovery process, that make Hae-soo’s behavior and words seem thoughtless in comparison, like when Hae-soo asks if they’re breaking up again in this hour. Or when she didn’t care about facing disciplinary actions, only to speak light-heartedly about how her supervisor had to beg on her behalf, only to be upset later on that achieving her career goals would be delayed because of her pregnancy.
For a heroine who tried to keep her emotions at arm’s length with Jae-yeol until they were together, she became the one more deeply attached to their relationship, often painted as an infuriating girlfriend and at times, a sillier doctor. Whatever her reasons may have been, I had trouble reconciling with how Hae-soo was persistently hung up over how their breakups would hurt her than Jae-yeol’s need for treatment, and how his improved mental health could only benefit their relationship. Though all of that mattered little by the show’s end, since the time skips brought everyone back to an idealistic square one.
On a larger picture, I didn’t expect It’s Okay to be groundbreaking in regards to handling mental health issues in Korea. I think it’s safe to say that the show has made achievements in painting mental illnesses in a more frank and positive light than before, and shedding light on the stigma that still exists in society today, though I’d be fooling myself if I thought that the execution here was accurate to real-life. So it really is a pity then, that the show falls short of the expectations that PD Kim Kyu-tae built up himself in referring to this show as something the world needs prior to its premiere, which I would agree more with, if only the show chose to explore various psychological issues with great depth than a focus of a Freudian perspective on sexually-related issues, their effects on the subconscious, and their manifestations on a conscious level.
Granted, the show hit more emotional beats that gave us much more insight into our characters in the latter third of its run. Even with the emphasis on the characters that populated this world, I could also see how It’s Okay could have benefitted from allowing us into the story of Jae-yeol and Hae-soo’s pasts sooner so that we could be invested in these characters, rather than giving us tiny morsels of information along the way. By keeping us at arm’s length, it felt like we were watching these characters as if looking into a fishbowl, observing another environment rather than being a part of it. Sometimes, it felt like the production staff acted like protective parents to us as viewers, shielding our eyes from seeing beyond whatever we were told, and placing beautiful people on our screen to entertain our eyes.
Not that you’ll find me complaining about watching pretty people on my screen, mind you. But I think it’s to the show’s benefit that Jo In-sung gave us a hero whose vulnerability was so palpable and raw. His endearment towards his loved ones was simply wonderful to watch, because a character who wears his heart on his sleeve is a much more enjoyable watch than a cold and distant cipher. Another notable performance would be for EXO’s D.O. as well, who gave us an intriguing character in Kang-woo as well. Even if all of the different kinds of relationships didn’t always make sense all the time, they put a sweet smile on my face whenever it did count. And I suppose that it’s okay in the end, even if it isn’t love.
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1 jozie
September 13, 2014 at 8:07 PM
Despite it's flaws, I loved this show. It has become one of my top three kdramas. Thanks for the recaps!
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dramapenchant
September 14, 2014 at 12:16 PM
So sorry to have to piggyback off of your comment....
CALLING ALL IT'S OKAY IT'S LOVE FANS!!!
We are all aware that the IOIL scripts have been released in Korean, but there are so many of us who are English speaking and are thus unable to read them. Therefore, my co-blogger and I started an online petition to request that the powers that be publish English versions of the two script books! I beg of you, sign the petition since there is no harm but will help all the fans that want to buy the scripts have a higher chance of getting them! Please share with everyone you know (twitter, FB)! It is greatly appreciated!! If you are having doubts, please read the 'letter' on the petition...
Link: https://www.change.org/p/sbs-korea-booklog-company-writer-noh-hee-kyung-soompitv-publish-english-version-of-it-s-okay-that-s-love-scripts
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Cavenurse
October 13, 2014 at 4:44 PM
Any update on the petition?
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lolcoolcat123
January 11, 2015 at 6:54 AM
I didn't even notice any flaws in this show and because of this show I haveto make changes in my top drama list! I just loved this show like anything. It rocked from the 1st episode to the last. I loved loved loved it!! I mean the first few minutes in the drama and it was a suspense and I was like woah clutching my heart and banging on my table. I mean who gets almost killed in just a few minutes into the story. Why so awesome show? Sorry stole your dialogue (jb or gf.....I don't know who says this often :P). I cried the most in thi drama. Some people said they did not like this drama at all no some say that they like it but it had some flaws. For me, this show was totally daebak!!!!!!!!
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2 RoseBlade
September 13, 2014 at 8:16 PM
Kwang Soo was nominated to 2014 Korean Drama Awards as Excellence Actor Category with Kim Wo Bin, Seo In Guk, Park Hae Jin, Choi Jin Hyuk.
Happy for him, but i know that the winner will be Kim Wo Bin.
Please come back the thumb up button
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KDaddict
September 13, 2014 at 9:38 PM
Having seen how hard Kwang Soo tries to get laughs and attn (to the pt of embarrassment) on variety, I wasn't particularly fond of him as a performer. But he has truly outdone himself here.
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3 ilikemangos
September 13, 2014 at 8:17 PM
This was my favorite show of 2014.
Goodnight, It's Okay, It's Love.
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4 dramapenchant
September 13, 2014 at 8:28 PM
A fantastic way to end an amazing show! I personally thought that the cast, writer Noh and director Kim all did an outstanding job! Particularly, Jo In Sung! His acting left me breathless on many occasions. I always thought he was a handsome man, but he's proven that he's also a damn fine actor!
This show was a feel-good show all the way through and in no way skimped on the romance! The love story (be it romantic, familial or platonic love) that was at the heart of this show was really what kept me watching and I'm happy to say that this show is probably one of the best dramas I've seen (and I've seen A LOT of dramas).
Psychological problems can bring about a lot of suffering, and it is definitely more common than one would think, but it is also a source of inspiration; people are strong and in the face of adversity, they can overcome, especially with love and support; not derision and blame. That was the message that this drama was trying to get across to its audience and I’d argue, it did a laudable job. (To read more of my thoughts on the finale, please check out my blog! :D )
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KDaddict
September 13, 2014 at 9:37 PM
I agree w every word.
"Psychological problems can bring a lot of suffering.....":
We don't get to choose our parents, genes, families, or childhoods. We don't get to choose that much that matters. We've to deal w our lot the best we can, psychological problems and all. Some ppl are made of stronger stuff than others. So some have better defence mechanisms, or can recover more quickly. Lucky are those who have a lifeline they can hang onto, in the form of a loved one or a loving, giving person. And if this show succeeds in encouraging some of us who are more fortunate, to be those loving, giving persons who throw out a lifeline, it'd be more than what most KDs ever amount to.
This may be a show that takes itself seriously, becos it deals w serious issues. It may not suit the taste of those who only want a love story and a few good laughs.
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dramapenchant
September 13, 2014 at 11:17 PM
I miss those "like" buttons db use to have...Anyways, I always love reading your thoughts on this show!
And if this show succeeds in encouraging some of us who are more fortunate, to be those loving, giving persons who throw out a lifeline, it’d be more than what most KDs ever amount to.
This show has definitely done quite a great job at trying to tell a story on one hand, and trying to deliver a message on the other. Overall, I thought it balanced the two things really well and helped start get a discussion going about mental health, a topic oft ignored due to the stigma attached to it.
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MostlyAmused
September 14, 2014 at 7:33 AM
I miss the like button too, and hope it is fix-able at some point.
I agree with the sentiments above, and have to mention that I was quite deeply invested in the characters very early on - maybe that is the reason I didn't see them as irritating or inconsistent - because I was so intrigued I noticed clues.
I didn't have problems with Jae-yeol's being rational as often or at the times he was because he had always been high-functioning except in a few defined areas (like not being able to sleep in a bed, or in his delusion/ hallucination of Kang Woo). The dysfunction had begun creeping into his ability to function as a writer - in my mind because fiction writing is about made up things to begin with, so it is an easy creep. As an artist, I know the creative veil is thin anyway. But his dysfunction had always been highly compartmentalized.
I also had no problem with Hae-Soo's shift once she had a very positive, easy and natural sexual encounter within a caring, light context. I have had a similar experience, where I thought I had a serious problem with sex in general for many years due to a very traumatic event, and then had that reinforced when I ventured into those waters under either internal or external pressures. Once I had a good easy experience in a lighter context something similar happened to me - I also suddenly realized that with the right partner in the right circumstances I was fine, functional, and able to relax and connect. Hae-Soo has worked on this problem for a long time with competent help and a strong will to recover. She had already laid the groundwork for health and just needed to take another step within a healthy-for-her context with an attentive, sensitive, and capable partner.
Groundwork for a lot of the issues that felt "off" for some people was IMO well-laid in earlier dialogue or events, sometimes just one or two line that shed light if remembered.
This was of course a drama rather than real life or a documentary, so it didn't cover ever aspect of every issue, but it read, for me, as a believable, funny, touching, gorgeous, gut-churning and uplifting tale, and I loved every episode, every performance, every musical cue, every visual - it's jumped to the top of my "must watch" recommendation list. The theme was always that good, supportive, honest, open and engaged relationship and a willingness to ask for and receive help are important medicine, and the show followed through on that specific stance beginning to end. That was the premise upon which the three initial housemates had decided to live with each other, and it was always the measuring stick within the story.
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dramaddict
September 28, 2014 at 11:02 PM
Just finished watching it hence late to the comments but I agree completely with you! Fantastically explained!
Coming to this point : "where one emotional breakthrough would (mostly) free her of those anxiety issues we heard so much about" - many psychological issues need just THAT; that ONE emotional breakthrough. It's cathartic and for Hae Soo her anxiety wasn't debilitating (or all that serious - she had commitment issues cuz of mom's cheating and her refusal to be intimate was because she never fell in love w/ anyone as seriously as she fell in love with Jae Yeol). As for JJY, HS explained that all he needed to do was recognize that kang woo wasn't real. That's a big breakthrough for schizo patients - so long as sees the distinction bw/ reality and hallucinations he can function relatively well. And he was always relatively high-functioning as mentioned above for. his only issue was the guilt which caused him to see kang woo. also, meeting his hyung and having his hyung tell him albeit in his own violent way that even he wouldn't have sold mom out helped ease his guilt which was his main issue. I think this show was very underrated it's excellently done. its not as in your face as other kdramas, this show didnt take its audience to be stupid and didnt clearly spell everything out. MostlyAmused is correct in saying that a lot of the groundwork was laid out and clues were there all long - they were subtle yes but thats what made this show poignant for me
Itsokaythatsloveshouldbeloved
September 14, 2014 at 3:15 AM
Totally agree with every word. the whole team did an outstanding Job.I personally feel they did Amazing start to finish.
I apologise before hand if I offend anyone this maybe because I'm bias or highly invested in the show but I feel the show isn't being given the credit its due and the remarks are actually taking away from the show,I don't know but I feel it's all carelessly done as in cares less and diminishing the writernim,PD and actors fresh and hard work .wow I'm going to probably regret saying the above because I'm not a Confronter and I'm agonising as I write it because I realise how much effort and hard work the recapper did and she has to have her opinion heard arrgh I should stop ,bianadda.
On another note ,hi,dramapenchant ,I'm a lurker on your blog.
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Itsokaythatsloveshouldbeloved
September 14, 2014 at 3:45 AM
Omo,omo,omoDramabeans please delete my post above and this.I feel I'm offensive to the recapper and I should have stuck to "if you have nothing good to say ,don't say anything".of course if she has already seen this take it as ramblings of unappreciative cray cray person .
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5 Funfair
September 13, 2014 at 8:29 PM
AWARDS!!! AWARDS!!! AWARDS!!!!!
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6 dyogf
September 13, 2014 at 8:45 PM
I really don't take every drama's meaning or message to its viewers seriously.. not until It's Okay, It's Love came along.
It's true that Haesoo and Jaeyeol's change of character was too quick. But I guess it does not matter because it was explained how that happened.
Haesoo, sleeping with Jaeyeol (whom he love.. because this was a different scenario if it was Choiho). And Jaeyeol, realizing that Kangwoo is not real because of Haesoo's explanation regarding Schizo patient's hallucinations. If only Jaeyeol realized earlier that the Kangwoo he knows did not grow old and was always barefooted...
Yes, D.O. gave a notable performance. I couldn't imagine a different idol actor portraying Kangwoo. That role just fits him.
IOIL cast and crew, kamsahamnida!
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dramapenchant
September 13, 2014 at 8:57 PM
I think most kdrama viewers cringe when they hear that an idol has been casted in a show but this time, I think the production made a great decision in casting D.O.
He has a natural charm about him and his acting doesn't feel forced (like so many idol-turned-actors before him)...and in the presence of so many seasoned actors, he managed to hold his own.
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KDaddict
September 13, 2014 at 9:46 PM
True. D.O. has done well on his 1st outing. I think it also helps that the role isn't particularly taxing, except for the final ep when he has to say farewell. I was impressed that he knew how to make his lips quiver and his tears fall w just the right vigour at just the right moment.
Do they teach lip quivering, n tearing on cue? If so, there are a few actresses we know of who can benefit from those lessons.
I've been impressed with some actors' bulging veins in the forehead and pulsating veins in the neck. Always wonder how they do that! ;)
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dramapenchant
September 13, 2014 at 11:27 PM
I always worry when I see the bulging & pulsating veins. Looks like they might have an aneurysm or something.
I was impressed with Jo In Sung and Gong Hyo Jin's subtle acting in this show. There were brief moments, where if you blink, you might miss them.
Just a few examples that come to mind was Jae Yeol’s small smile after Hae Soo kissed him the first time in the hospital scene, when Hae Soo was so close to breaking after Jae Yeol kissed her during the shaving scene or Hae Soo's lip twitch before telling Jae Yeol about how she pushed mom towards that one ajusshi...
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KDaddict
September 14, 2014 at 12:09 AM
It's been a while since I came across a KD that I want to re-watch. This one I'm gonna to, for those subtle moments of acting and the OST.
See u around on another touching show, @dramapenchant! Nice talking to you.
aiellem
September 14, 2014 at 10:20 PM
there were those moments when hae soo and jae yeol aren't even crying on the scene but my tear kept falling out (that moment when they were supposed to meet, after the three phone ring, but jae yeol was intercepted by his angry brother). awww.. at the scene, i said to myself "ah these two, they are such a great actors.."
this is the best drama of 2014 for me. great story, great actors, great crew and great music! thanks drama gods for providing such great drama even once in a while. (hahha.. coz there are many drama nowadays that became so so, those which stared on the right track but end up a mess, i cant even finish watching through the end)
love all the comments! :)
Nessie
September 14, 2014 at 2:18 AM
From what I read, apparently D.O never really had any proper acting class training, so this really is a good performance for him.
He debuted like two years after training in SM? And he even admitted that he never had any proper acting training, so he really regrets not giving it his best in the drama. But I agree like everyone else, he did pretty well even if the role was small.
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soprection
September 14, 2014 at 8:00 AM
He actually debuted after only one year so although it's fairly common for SM's idols to receive some form of acting training prior to debut, it's unlikely that he would have had the time for that, especially since they had to fast-track his vocal/dance training so he could be ready to debut with the group.
mysterious
September 14, 2014 at 1:51 AM
Yes D.O. was the perfect choice for Kang-woo. Kang-woo was my favorite character. I felt for him like I would a flesh-and-blood person. When he left it really felt like someone had died. I knew he had to leave for Jae-yeol to get better but I was still so sad. D.O. did an excellent job and I hope to see more of him in the future. He does have that naturalness about him and just shined in this role.
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7 Mia
September 13, 2014 at 8:52 PM
Thanks gummi for the wonderful recap! Loved the show, but I agree that it wasn't amazing. I hope that there are more shows out there that adress mental illness in a positive light in the future!
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8 Ji Hyun
September 13, 2014 at 8:54 PM
I personally thought the ending was a bit low than I was expecting. I hope the PDs would give a proper ending to all the characters. I'm curious of Soo Kwang's relationship. And did PD Choi and Jae Yeol made amends?
I'm personally affected by this drama at the beginning of it when the story revolves around mental illness. I'm diagnosed with schizophrenia for a few years and although this story is fictional to some, it was definitely not for me.
I hope this drama would raise awareness to everyone that mental illness are not something to be made fun of but instead to help them to recover by not isolating them and help with all your might.
In total I love this drama and how the PDs manage to revolve the story slow and steady. Goodbye to all the characters, especially Jae Yeol and So Kwang. This drama really encouraged me to continue healing myself mentally. Goodbye!
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anne
September 14, 2014 at 1:25 AM
The drama has the same effect on me and I understand where you are coming from.
Working as a counselor and at the same time having a friend who was diagnosed with schizophrenia, I was a bit hesitant to watch this drama. I had my reservations. The writer was not able to present schizophrenia accurately as I believe the symptoms of Jae Yul are that of Dissociative Identity Disorder. In schizophrenia, you may have auditory or visual hallucinations but those do not have an independent identity (a person) whom you can interact with, unlike in DID. However, the drama has a beautiful message that people struggling and battling with mental disorder can relate to---you are not alone and you can live a happy and fulfilling life.
My friend suffering from schizophrenia, during the time he was confined in the hospital wrote poems with the same message for himself: You are not alone and these all will come to pass.
I would not have known he was suffering from schizophrenia if he had not spoken openly about it so people will be more understanding. I met him, two years after he was diagnosed and discharged from the hospital. He enrolled in our school under a paramedical program.He was a very charming gentleman, who dresses up well. He was very active in sports and music. In addition, he helps out with the community through volunteer works. One day he came to my office and invited me to attend a certain activity. We became good friends. Later, I found out from his professor that he was diagnosed with schizophrenia two years before he enrolled in our school. And even as a counselor, I did not detect anything that would show his struggles, all I saw in him was a talented young man with a sincere heart. That is until he decided to be more open about it, speaking openly about his struggles and writing about his experiences. Although schizophrenia may not be curable, the same with some other mental disorders, he proved us that with love, understanding, support and the will to live a fulfilling life, you can achieve all your goals and functional well.
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anne
September 14, 2014 at 1:29 AM
*function well
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Lakeshore
October 25, 2014 at 6:43 PM
I enjoyed you comments as I also did not agree with his diagnosis. Your take is more accurate, from the information given. Either way great story and it does begin to show that people can live good lives with a mental illness (and apparently be super sexy too)!
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KDaddict
September 14, 2014 at 2:19 AM
Thank you for sharing this experience re your school friend.
During the run of this drama, I was wondering about the label of schizophrenia attached to JY's condition. It didn't seem like schizophrenia to me, based on the little that I knew of it. I kept searching my brain for a more fitting name. But the writer said 'visual hallucinations' and 'schizophrenia', so those labels keep bouncing around.
Thanks for offering DID (Dissociative Identitiy Disorder) as an alternative diagnosis. I think it is closer to the truth. Of course I'm no expert, but it makes more sense.
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KDaddict
September 14, 2014 at 2:28 AM
P.S. If the writer had called it DID instead, it'd have done away with all the objections that this depiction of schizophrenia/ mental illness was unrealistic, which distracted from the enjoyment of the show. Too bad her label was inaccurate, even if the depiction was good (for DID).
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MostlyAmused
September 14, 2014 at 7:56 AM
That would be my one qualm with the show. I think the schizophrenia diagnosis was used in an old-fashioned way, as a generic catchall for every psychosis. Even the statistic Jae-yeol quoted on the radio is accurate for all psychosis, but not for specific schizophrenia - an estimated 1 in 100 people is affected by psychosis.
Is it possible that this is a translation issue?
anne
September 15, 2014 at 12:37 AM
It was a k-drama with a heart and a relevant message to boot and I guess for those reasons, we have decided to cut the writer and researchers some slack :). Like you, I noticed some errors with diagnosis. Not just with JY but with some of the other characters in the drama (i.e. HS suffering from Avoidant Personality Disorder when I think it's more of Anxiety and Panic Disorder). Viewers are more forgiving of the show though knowing that even among clinicians, diagnosis of a disorder is difficult. They even argue with each other about the accuracy of some of the listed disorders. There can be an overlap with symptoms as in the case with schizophrenia, borderline personality disorder, bipolar personality disorder, DID. There is no one specific test. Unlike in physiological illnesses wherein you can use laboratory tests, clinicians have to rely on their experiences, the client's account and overt symptoms and the norm of a society etc. However, being able to view the world of JY, I would like to believe that most clinicians will agree that it's DID more than schizophrenia. I am no clinician however and as a counselor and a psychometrist, I usually just provide for the initial assessment and psychological testing. And my opinion on a case can be invalidated by a psychiatrist. And if I might add, I love their portrayal about the flaws and imperfections of the doctors especially in the case of HS whom I find relatable. Because even if your profession hinges on providing guidance and awareness, clinicians are not immune to their emotions and they too make decisions they are not usually very proud of. All in all, it was a heartwarming show, which reminds us that we are living in a world full of broken people and we fall for a broken person because we ourselves are.
dramaddict
September 28, 2014 at 11:25 PM
I will have to disagree on this point. I am a psychologist as well and I think the diagnosis was fine. Obviously, the drama has taken some liberties which are allowed I think (it wasn't a strictly medical show after all). JJY was def quite high functioning for a schizo patient but I had no issues w/ this diagnosis. The way that I understand DID (from a DSM-IV reference point) is very different. Kang Woo was a visual hallucination - and yes he was a manifestation of JJY's guilt and his younger self but Kang Woo was clearly a separate entity from JJY. DID is essentially multiple or split personality, which doesn't involve hallucinations. Kang Woo was def a hallucination because JJY didn't BECOME Kang Woo or have memory loss associated with Kang Woo - he remembered everything that happened that was associated w/ Kang Woo. DID is when a person experiences different states of THEMSELVES - so in this case JJY would BE kang woo not SEE kang woo. Of course, DID/schizo/BPD are highly inconclusive diagnosis to make since the symptoms overlap a lot but I personally think it was very well done.
AJ
September 14, 2014 at 10:13 AM
Maybe this is something as simple as a difference in nomenclature between the DSM IV used in the U.S. and whatever the Korean version of their psychiatric diagnostic manual is called?
In the U.S. JY would more likely have been diagnosed with a PTSD dissociative disorder I think, rather than schizophrenia, although both disorders characteristically include hallucinations among their symptoms.
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clandestine00
December 30, 2017 at 9:43 AM
I don't think your diagnosis of Jae Yul having Dissociative Identity Disorder is right. Dissociative Identity Disorder means having multiple split personalities, not hallucinations. In most cases, people with DID have segregated memories for each personality and may not even know the other personality exists. The personalities usually don't interact with each other at all as it is impossible for both personalities to emerge at the same time. If you're confused, you can watch "Kill Me, Heal Me". While it might not be the most accurate potrayal, it will definitely help you get a better insight on DID. In this case, Jae Yul is schizophrenic as he suffers from severe hallucinations that she can converse with like Susan in "Women In Mind". Of course, Jae Yul's symptoms may be different from your friend diagnosed with schizophrenia simply because people with the same illness may have slightly different symptoms.
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alua
September 14, 2014 at 3:13 AM
Thanks Ji Hyun and also anne for sharing your own experiences here.
And good luck with continuing with your healing, Ji Hyun. I hope you have a wonderful support system as Jae-yeol did.
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Ji Hyun
September 14, 2014 at 7:45 AM
Thank you alua for your wishes. Yes. DID is an exact or better term describing Jae Yeol's condition. I think the writer used schizophrenia as it's a term more common to others.
People would get confused when I say have DID and explaining to them would be much more difficult. I will just tell that I'm attached to an imaginary friend which is much easier for most to understand.
I'm not asking for sympathy but DID/schizophrenia cases happens as a result of trauma. So if any of you has any acquaintance suffering from trauma or such, do lend them a helping hand. I did not ask for help soon enough resulting to the condition I have now. Most of us are normal just like the character portrayed, we don't even realise we need help because we're afraid to say so in the beginning
So people, lend a hand to others around you. You can change their life entirely. A small act of kindness or notice would not hurt. I wish everyone who are like me are able to heal slowly and safely.
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MostlyAmused
September 14, 2014 at 7:58 AM
Thanks, Ji Hyun, for speaking out.
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alua
September 14, 2014 at 3:38 PM
Thanks Ji-hyun.
You may be right the writer opted for schizophrenia because it's a term people have at least heard. I'm not familiar with disassociation identity order specifically, although I do know someone with dissociative amnesia after extended trauma in childhood. I don't know much of the medical side of these things, but (as I mentioned on threads for earlier episodes) I do have two dear friends who were abused and I saw the outcome of this. This is why I appreciate this drama bringing these topics into the open, showing that these things can happen to anyone, regardless of how 'normal' (or even 'successful/confident/strong') they might seem on the outside, and showing, that even if for some things there may be no 100% cure, help is available.
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anne
September 15, 2014 at 12:53 AM
You are included in my prayers Ji Hyun.
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KDaddict
September 15, 2014 at 4:08 AM
Thank you, Ji Hyun, for sharing, and for reminding us that small acts of kindness can make a difference. I hope you are well on your way to recovery, and like JY will be back to your old self one day soon.
Best wishes!
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9 liz
September 13, 2014 at 9:00 PM
I confess this drama made me realize Ji Sung shines when he picks the right pd to help him. Sometimes he overacts and it bothers me a lot, I thought he overacted in That Winter and frozen flower.
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j2hr
September 13, 2014 at 9:44 PM
doesnt this drama share the same PD as That Winter?
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ShinRaeMi07
September 13, 2014 at 10:28 PM
Yes. It has the same PD. Song Hye Kyo even visited the set to see JIS and the PD.
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liz
September 14, 2014 at 11:46 PM
omg lol my bad! Then I must say Ji sung calmed down and didn't overacts as he did in that winter. His acting in that's okay was much better
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ps
September 15, 2014 at 6:29 AM
Sorry to correct you, the male lead actor is Jo In Sung, not Ji Sung.
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Cavenurse
October 7, 2014 at 11:33 AM
I thaought his acting was really good in this show. I say that because as I watched him, I forgot the actor and identified with the character. The acting in That Winter was a Melo and everyone way so dramatic and unbelievable, which makes watching that a hoot.
In Frozen Flower, he was mid 20's, a relative newbie and carried most of the movie. Look at how few models can do that? So, I see good potential for his acting career. I liked the way this drama was filmed, the music worked quite well to support and propel the storyline. The complaints of it not being "real" enough or "wrapped up" enough. I watch shows to get away from reality for awhile. I have a pretty good imagination on creating endlines for characters. I love to think of the characters in this show and say: "What if?' and let the story in my head play on.
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10 callie
September 13, 2014 at 9:01 PM
Thank you writer, production, and cast----it is a drama that needs to be shown.
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11 Carinne
September 13, 2014 at 9:05 PM
Better than FTLY finale, that's for sure.
This show needs to win best soundtrack of the year.
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dramapenchant
September 13, 2014 at 9:08 PM
It really was a great soundtrack! Very unique and always fitting! There were also so many great songs so we weren't stuck with having to listen to the same 3 or so songs for the entire show! *coughmarriagenotdatingcough*
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KDaddict
September 13, 2014 at 9:47 PM
I was too busy looking at their facial expressions to pay rapt attn to the music the 1st time around. Now I've to go back and listen to it.
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dramapenchant
September 13, 2014 at 11:10 PM
LOL what a perfect excuse to re-watch the show! :P
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ShinRaeMi07
September 13, 2014 at 10:29 PM
Even though MND doesn't have good OSTs, I still enjoy watching it (enough not to mind the music playing on the background).
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Anduril
September 14, 2014 at 5:43 AM
New drinking game: 1 shot every time gummimochi or a commentator mentions the OST.
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12 Min
September 13, 2014 at 9:08 PM
I was really happy with the ending, yeah it wasn't 100% accurate, and yeah there is a lot of suspension of disbelief on my part BUT we go into dramas knowing that it's a fantasy world, it doesn't exist in our real time so we'll always have to forgive it's use of shorthand. I'm just glad that it was a super happy ending.
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13 loveprevail
September 13, 2014 at 9:23 PM
Oh dear, I do understand them. Their choices, decisions, actions and responses are not really puzzling to me throughout the drama. Maybe I'm just as crazy as they are. :-P
Loved the ending though albeit the many time jumps. For me, it worked. I'm satisfied. Made me feel all happy, warm, fuzzy and optimistic. :) One of the best endings so far this year.
Amazing casts, crew, writer, director and everyone involved. Well done.
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14 maknaee
September 13, 2014 at 9:26 PM
I love this drama so much!
OST, the casts, the story, and team are irreplaceable.
One word that comes to mind first about IOIL; fresh!
I learned a lot~~ and I'll say 'goodnight' to myself everyday :3
Blessed SBS Wed-Thu. Welcome, She's So Lovable ^^ (Besides Rain's dramaland comeback, I anticipate Krystal so much~ can't get enough of her after watching Heirs and High Kick 3).
And soon, welcome, Pinocchio^^ (Though I'm a bit traumatic with PSH's act in Heirs, I'm glad to see LJS on small screen~ I love LYB and KYK too. Kkk)
Goodbye and Goodnight, It's Okay It's Love <3
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15 Diane
September 13, 2014 at 9:29 PM
As much as I loved this drama, I was disappointed with the "enforced separation" trope at the end. How did traipsing around the world spending her sister's savings prove her love for her mother? And instead of filial responsibility, how about parental responsibility? What right did mom have to make those demands on her daughter when she was an independent professional with her own income and living quarters already, and trying to pay back for her mother's sacrifices? Haesoo should have said "sorry mom..he's the man I love and am going to marry. I'd rather do it with your blessing, but if need be I'll do without it." Now THAT would be a break-through ending.........
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dramapenchant
September 13, 2014 at 9:43 PM
Here's my take. First off, we really don't know if she ended up using her sister's or her own savings...but I agree that it's annoying when parents think they are entitled to make decisions for their children. Argh! But part of the message of the show was the importance of family, so what would it be like if Hae Soo just disregarded her mom's feelings? Jae Yeol definitely wouldn't want her to do that because of him.
About the separation. I didn't think of Hae Soo going to travel the world as a break-up. Jae Yeol just wants Hae Soo to carry on with her life plans as she had intended before she found out that he has schizophrenia. He loves her too much to prevent her from achieving her dreams. He knows she loves him, and would be willing to postpone that part of her life plans indefinitely for him, but he doesn’t want her to.
He makes it clear that long as they still love each other after a year, than this separation is in no way final. If he doesn’t force her to go, he would forever live with the thought that he held her back from achieving her potential and that he's a burden to her.
It’s actually rather quite smart too. Hae Soo gets to travel the world alone for a year, just like she has always dreamt of, and Jae Yeol can focus solely on getting better. It also gave Jae Yeol time to overcome his inferiority complex when it comes to his mental disorder so that he can truly be happy with Hae Soo and face her family. This also gave them the legitimation in the face of Hae Soo’s mom and sister, that he did try his best to push Hae Soo away. This makes it so that Hae Soo wouldn’t be forced to choose between him and her family, since she was willing to cut off ties with mom if mom forced her to leave Jae Yeol.
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KDaddict
September 13, 2014 at 9:55 PM
HS has told JY before that she has been saving up for a trip around the world, that it's her life's wish. So think of it as 4 or 5 birds w 1 stone: fulfilling that wish, thinking over whether she really wants to be w JY for the long run, letting her mother see the effort they make, giving JY the time to recover under profession treatment, and thinking about her Ph.D. dissertation proposal!
The time jump at the end of KDs has almost become de rigueur, such that it has lost much of its meaning. But here, at least we can rationalise it.
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alua
September 13, 2014 at 9:57 PM
I agree.
Love the drama, and this episode does nothing to change that for me, but in many ways this episode was the laziest one and the only one where writer Noh followed the typical k-drama formula.
I would have been much, much more interested in seeing more of Jae-yeol's recovery process, with Hae-soo sticking around, and also seeing how Hae-soo's family changed their mind about him and started accepting him again.
Time jumps and sabbaticals... those are easy solution magical buttons for writers.
While they tried to 'explain' the sabbatical, I don't find it compelling. People who are in debt and poor don't just go on a year-long trip. There are many things about this kind of trip that just don't make it particularly convincing, I can only see it as a 'narrative device'. And what's with the "one year without contact" in the internet age? I've not liked this sort of thing in any drama, it's overly dramatic and I suppose makes their reunion more 'romantic' and 'fated', but it's hard enough to maintain a relationship (or even close friendship) WITH contact over distance, it's really not needed.
Having HS's mom and sister go from "He's crazy! You have to break up!" and slapping HS to cooing over Jae-yeol as he informs them of the pregnancy... there's too much of a gap. Both feel like flat character characters to me, the sister in particular. They were mostly devices to create narrative conflict, and not fleshed out like many other characters. This is particularly true for the sister, who from the moment she suddenly tried to push marriage on Hae-soo was just there as a narrative device.
Anyhow, still love this drama and am happy there was a happy ending (though I didn't need all ends to be tied – just them being happy together and Jae-yeol managing his illness would have been enough), but I think writer Noh must have felt a little low on energy in this last episode.
Also want to say that I loved Hae-soo's character from beginning to end, I didn't have problems relating to her or find her "whiny", "frustrating" or whatever else some people have said.
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xfantasiix
September 14, 2014 at 3:05 AM
"I would have been much, much more interested in seeing more of Jae-yeol’s recovery process, with Hae-soo sticking around, and also seeing how Hae-soo’s family changed their mind about him and started accepting him again."
I would've loved that too...and I think that may be the only place the show fell flat for me...Although granted - given only one more episode-2 if you count Wednesday... then I can at least understand why the time-skip device was used. Had the writer had another week to play with...I definitely wouldn't have forgiven time skipping...but overall I loved it. This is one drama that STUCK ^_^
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alua
September 14, 2014 at 2:53 PM
I would have liked to see that, because in reality that's something people will need to deal with. I would have liked to see 'nuances', for example, maybe the mom coming around more quickly and the sister maybe never accepting it (or the other way around) or maybe allowing the sister's husband to be a bit more than a puppet parroting his wife's beliefs only. Because that's how these things are in real life: a little (or very) complicated, with every single person feeling slightly different about the same issue. One refusing to face the issue at all and never changing their mind. Another struggling profoundly but maybe deep inside having some understanding. Another not needing all that much to be swayed. I think for people faced with this kind of challenge in real life, this could have been encouraging, much more so than seeing a "magical button instant-solution" on the screen.
The two eps were of course not a lot to work with, but for my part I didn't need to see everyone being 100% accepting of a JY/HS and them hitched and expecting a baby, just the beginning of their journey to a happier (and healthier) life would have sufficed. The writer could have still finished on a hopeful, positive note by doing that – showing a bit of how acceptance came about and that a (generally) happy future lies head for JY/HS. I'm sure we would have all been able to imagine that they eventually got married and sorted out the kids issue once we get a glimpse of e.g. Mom starting to come around.
Of course, alternatively, the big reveal could have happened a little earlier also – I imagine some of the pacing would have been better if this was a 100% pre-written and pre-filmed drama. Maybe one day we can get that in the kdrama world.
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Mary
September 14, 2014 at 7:49 AM
I have similar feelings about the last episode. I think it's good enough but could have been better for the reasons you have already stated above. I can see the rationale for the sabbatical but to have no contact, I don't think that was necessary. HS was no longer a threat to his mental health after he realized KW was in fact a hallucination. I believe she could have remained a support person while traveling.
I also think that the episode was both slow and fast at the same time. It's like a lot of things happened but at the same time with so many lapses in time it felt too...disconnected for me. Story lines were just wrapped up a bit too nicely without much explanation on the process. I don't want to fill in the time lapses on my own with assumptions.
For me personally, I would have preferred that there was less emphasis on HS' family's disapproval and more focus on JY's family's recovery. Rather than just having one scene where JB lashed out on JY after finding out the truth, a scene where the mother explained the river scene, and some short scenes showing everyone in therapy...I think spending more time on exploring how JB forgave both JY and his mother would have been more interesting. It would have been nice if both JB, the mother, and HS all helped JY. JB should have played a bigger part in JY's recovery as JY's guilt over JB's sentence played a big part in his guilt. And the mother is like the glue that holds both brother's together so seeing her involvement in both of her son's resilience would make sense. And then add HS, the professional who can help provide guidance for JY like she did over the phone.
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alua
September 14, 2014 at 2:58 PM
<but to have no contact, I don’t think that was necessary
They do this so often in dramas, and I always think writers who write these scenarios have never been in long distance relationships. Not in ones with contact, not in ones with little or no contact. Distance is hard, even for the most stable, long-time couple, even if, in days of Skype, you can call and see each other daily.
Yeah, I didn't even think about Jae-bum, but you're right, see in his part in the recovery process would have been very interesting too.
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16 YNS
September 13, 2014 at 9:41 PM
I just loved this show, all of it, flaws included. To me, Show, you're perfect in every way.
HS was such a complex heroine, it pains me that a lot of people seem to be annoyed with her, but what can I do - to each their own. I'll love her more to compensate hahaha. Anyway, everyone was great <3
I'll miss it, my weekly ray of sunshine.
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Melleit
September 13, 2014 at 10:10 PM
Ditto. Lol!
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dramapenchant
September 13, 2014 at 10:10 PM
I agree. I loved Ji Hae Soo and found her to be endearing and complex. Not the formulaic kdrama heroine that we typically get.
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soad
September 13, 2014 at 11:39 PM
Totally agree with everything you've said.
And I can relate so much with HS' character, it's like I'm watching myself...I must be annoying too.
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readlead
September 14, 2014 at 3:01 AM
"I must be annoying too."
LOL. then same with me, probably I'm annoying person too :DDD
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JC
September 14, 2014 at 5:09 AM
Me too! Only annoying people understand each other. keke...
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candyjkt
September 18, 2014 at 7:30 PM
hahaha totally agree... i also find so much HS in myself.. my annoying self ..haha...
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lilinana91
September 14, 2014 at 5:01 AM
I also feel like I can totally relate to HS's decision and way of thinking. I think a lot of her ways of seeing love and relationships are just similar to mine, which makes me care a lot for HS. And I am also aware that it might be annoying to some people ? because I think personally that I myself is qute annoying haha..
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alua
September 14, 2014 at 3:42 PM
Count me among those to who found HS a complex, but wonderful heroine, not a frustrating, unrelatable one.
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jozie
September 14, 2014 at 5:39 PM
This! :)
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canxi
September 15, 2014 at 9:04 AM
I agree, too! To all this comment.
I binge-watched the show and am scratching my head at what people found frustrating about Hae Soo. I liked her a lot.
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juvy
September 16, 2014 at 5:47 AM
same here, what annoys me is reading how others hated Hae Soo's character, i really do not understands. I find HS real.
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17 1203am
September 13, 2014 at 9:43 PM
Amazing from beginning to end. I'm torn between this drama and You Who Came From the Stars as my 2014 favorite.
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ShinRaeMi07
September 13, 2014 at 10:32 PM
Me, I'm torn between who's better leading man for GHJ..So Ji Sub or Jo In Sung?
I remember, these two guys acted together in What HAppened in Bali with Ha Ji Won.
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Riya
September 13, 2014 at 10:52 PM
Oh, that traumatizing affair that put me off JIS and SJS for soo long! I was too young when I watched that. And too naive. And I still have scars :/
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dramapenchant
September 13, 2014 at 11:09 PM
Haha same! That show was traumatizing indeed! I don't even want to talk about it...
@jessa Hmm I do like So Ji Sub but I feel like he's a very old-school kind of actor....so I prefer Jo In Sung more as an actor and as the leading man for Gong Hyo Jin! :D Just my 2 cents!
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juvy
September 16, 2014 at 5:59 AM
i felt the same. Im a super SoGong fan from the master's sun, i even made a vow dat i will always be'. but i couldnt help myself but fall inlove with the couple. maybe their just too effective actors. GHY and JIS no doubt are great actors.. (sorry SJS) JIS stole my heart haha. but above all Im always loving Gong Hyo Jin who ever she's with.
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18 PL
September 13, 2014 at 9:47 PM
Mm...Are phones supposed to be confiscated from mental health patients? Even when they are compulsorily detained, they aren't prisoners.
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KDaddict
September 14, 2014 at 12:19 AM
I think so.
Whether one presents oneself to such a hospital or is committed by closest relatives, once inside the doors, all rights of free will or free choice are removed, in the name of patient protection. And they are treated more or less 'like prisoners'. That's why more than one KD have used this plot pt in stories that involve scheming over inheritance.
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Aneleh
September 14, 2014 at 2:18 AM
Actually no. It may depend on a specific case, but phones should generally be allowed.
One of my loved ones was hospitalized for psychosis (several times) and they were allowed to keep their phone so that they could communicate with us. Of course, the phone was kept in a locker during the night and they had access to it for a certain time during the day. If a patient is in severe psychosis then maybe yes, they are not allowed to use their phone, but Jae Yeol definitely was well enough to have access to his phone without anyone supervising him.
And no. Even if the patient is hospitalized against their will, I wouldn't say that they're prisoners.
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KDaddict
September 14, 2014 at 2:25 AM
"Of course the phone was kept in a locker during the night and they had access to it for a certain time during the day", i.e. the phone was taken from them.
"They are treated more or less "like prisoners"", in the sense that they have limited freedom.
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Aneleh
September 14, 2014 at 4:25 AM
Well, the fact that they had to put it back to the locker for the night does not mean that they weren't allowed to use their phones at all. I think that's what the OP asked: whether the patient has access to their phone. And I told from my experience that they do.
As for the prisoner-comparison, I agree that hospitalized patients have limited freedom. But since the word has such a negative connotation, I wouldn't personally want to use it. Besides, depending on the particular patient and the severity of their mental illness, some of them have more freedom than others.
19 marie
September 13, 2014 at 9:54 PM
I laughed and I cried but loved every minute of this show.
Best drama of the year and as for JIS and GHJ best chemistry ever. Hope they win awards as best couple.
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20 meimei
September 13, 2014 at 10:24 PM
I loved this show so much! It seems to have become a thing this year for dramas to start of fantastic then just fall apart at the middle. It's okay, stayed strong throughout the whole series. Definetly my favourite drama of 2014 so far!! Also I really like where they went with mental illness's. I was worried they would make it more light-hearted, so im very happy they portrayed it in a more realistic way then I expected. Especially since mental-illness in Korea is a very taboo topic. Its something you just dont talk about. Many people pretend its not there. So im glad to see some awareness being brought to the topic. The acting was amazing, and the overall cast was strong. I was pleasantly surprised with D.O's acting. Admittedly I cringed at the thought of an idol starring, but he was far above my expectations. Anyway, thank you for the recaps! And of course, Thank you to all the staff, writers, actors, etc.. who made this happen!
Good bye, its okay, it's Love. Thansk for the ride.
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21 GossipGirl
September 13, 2014 at 10:24 PM
Liked the show(overall).
On a side note, I can't be the only one to hope that they get the male actors to wear less lipstick? Kang-woo and Soo-kwang deserve a special mention here ?
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KDaddict
September 13, 2014 at 10:40 PM
All the k actors are wearing so much lipstick, to match the brightly coloured shirts or jackets they are wearing. Eric Moon had an orange shirt on, and his lipstick was bright orange in the latest ep of DoR. It was truly distracting.
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GossipGirl
September 13, 2014 at 11:17 PM
I know! When Kang-woo was crying(the good-bye scene), I found his bright red lipstick VERY distracting. Why is everyone wearing a BRIGHT RED lipstick? Even the patient Jae-yeol couldn't escape the pinkish red lipstick thrust upon him. :/
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Jacek
September 13, 2014 at 11:46 PM
It might be due to the color/graphic settings of the cameras
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Nessie
September 14, 2014 at 2:22 AM
I always find JIS's man lipstick very very distracting, especially on the close ups haha. Sometimes it appear subtle, but sometimes it just really jumps out at you.
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soad
September 14, 2014 at 4:31 AM
Looking back at JIS previous photos (especially when he is in the army) JIS' lip colour is naturally pink/red. I just noticed one instance in this episode that they tone down the natural colour of his lips and it looks glossy to me (the one when he was mobbed by fans when he guested in a show).
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22 Fun-Lugha
September 13, 2014 at 11:07 PM
Kwang Soo-Soo Kwang well done on a bbbrrrrilliant performance ;)
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Ethalina
September 14, 2014 at 6:18 AM
I love his character as well, except for the whole relationship with So Nyeo. Like how many times did he 'break up' with her when they don't really have a relationship in the first place?
But he keeps getting better and better.
He had a lot of great scenes, didn't he? Although I'd have to say the scene where he made out with himself almost made me fall off my chair laughing.
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23 ...
September 13, 2014 at 11:16 PM
Best show of the year for me & I know the 'sticking factor' is strong with this one. Yes, it's happy ending for everyone but it's fitting. With all the bad news in SK this year, hope & rays of lights are welcome for its people. We need to see the good sides of humanity from time to time...
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24 soad
September 13, 2014 at 11:32 PM
Thanks for the recap, highly appreciate it!
"An unspecified amount of time passes when we see Jae-yeol again; he’s still at the hospital, but has taken up writing again, and ignores an incoming call. From Hae-soo, perhaps? "
I take this scene as the drama is showing that JY will still be experiencing hallucinations, auditory or visual ( i think no one is calling him) but he can ignore it if he is aware that those are just hallucinations. Hallucinations in schizophrenia is debilitating when your activities of daily living are affected. The main goal of managing schizophrenia patients is for them to continue living as normal as possible and able to do ADLs. In this scene, he still sometimes experience hallucinations but is aware/ having insight of that and he knows how to ignore it exists. Thus, he can still continue writing even if there are distractions.
and yes, goodnight IOTL! till next time...
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Chaerin
September 14, 2014 at 4:31 AM
I actually just thought the phone call was an alarm he'd set to remind him to finish up with his writing, or take a break. Before, he was so focused on his writing that he never took breaks, he didn't sleep, he didn't eat. But now, he can manage it better.
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soad
September 14, 2014 at 4:41 AM
you made me go back to the scene, and I think you are right...at first I thought he imagined someone calling him. I think I'm over thinking things, biane, thank you for noticing it.
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25 dogfish
September 14, 2014 at 12:59 AM
Thanks for the recap!
Oh man, so sad that this drama ended so soon D:
At first, I didn't really like the drama because it didn't seem too interesting of a plot, but I absolutely don't regret having stuck to watching all the episodes. Almost every single actor/actress did an exceptional job in expressing their character (I seriously loved watched Sung Dong Il and Jin Kyung's fights), which is pretty rare to see!
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26 Kitty
September 14, 2014 at 2:13 AM
Woohoo! So, I confess that I often read your recap to see how a show ends. And I am super super happy that this show has a happy ending. I stopped at episode 11 and while I've been looking forward to it, I dreaded how it may possibly end. So now, I can truly enjoy the show and not stress over it. i know, it's cheating, but there are enough :( in the world, I want the :) in dramas. I've loved everything about this show and I may restart it again just so that I can appreciate it all again.
Thank you!!
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27 Nessie
September 14, 2014 at 2:40 AM
Is anyone gonna comment on the amazing reunion kiss between HS & JY? Because DAYUM that is probably one of the best kissing I've seen in kdramas so far. I mean GHJ even wrapped one of her leg around JIS!
I hope Kwang Soo wins the award! He really deserves it, he really shined in the last two episodes two. I've come to really adore him and So Nyeo.
The ending was everything and more than I could hope for. To see everyone come a full circle, yes there were quite a few hiccups along the way. Like some of the concerns others have said, how HS just suddenly went on her trip, and her relationship with her mother just stopped for her trip, and all is happy once she is back.
I was feeling pretty down when I first started this show, but while continuing to wait for new episodes. The experiences of the characters really moved me. It made me really appreciate what I have and to also have hope for the future regardless of whether you have a illness or not. Everyone stumbles and falls, but in the end its your personal effort that really makes the difference.
This will go down as one of my favourite dramas all time. I want to thank dramabean team for all the recaps, and all the beanies for the wonderful discussion we've had so far. I've had a really great time chatting with everyone.
One last thing...it must be the gonglovely effect but I really really liked how GHJ rocked her fringe...so I ended up getting a fringe to have hair like hers HAHA The side effects of watching too much kdrama I guess haha.
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crickes
September 14, 2014 at 8:50 AM
Hahahahaha I was waiting for a comment on the kiss scene! It really is one of the best in kdramaland!
To be honest beforehand I was worried about the relationship between GHJ and JIS because watching some of the BTS, they don't seem to have a connection off camera. Not like how GHJ was with So Ji Sub or JIS with Song Hye Kyo. Although a part of me knows it's none of my business because when on camera, their chemistry is spot-on and explosive!
I think the complexity of the characters they were playing weighed a lot on the actors' shoulders and that's why they weren't very playful. Like with Master's Sun or TWTWB NGs you see GHJ and JIS laughing but not so much with IOIL NGs. Even when they make funny mistakes they're still in character. I headdesk-ed when I saw that nobody but Kwang Soo received a nom for the Korean Drama Awards but whatevs. Everybody on this cast and crew deserves all the awards and any viewer of this drama knows it.
Also, totes agree! Sometimes I look at GHJ and think, huh she doesn't at all fit into the mould of the standard "stunning Korean actress" like Kim Tae Hee or Song Hye Kyo. But she does it for me the way KTH or SHK never does. She's got charm, style, and charisma and her level of 'beauty' is exactly IT for me.
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Nessie
September 14, 2014 at 2:09 PM
Yea I kinda get what you mean now that I've seen majority of the BTS scenes. They were always pretty serious, though there were some funny moments.
Though the chemistry in the drama made up for it teehe. I was reading on soompi some people were saying how there wasn't a couple shot of JIS & GHJ together after the drama shooting wrapped up. People were speculating maybe they wanted to keep it professional because they could've been so into character it "might've" affected them a little? Who knows, I REAAALLLYY wanna be a delusional fangirl and ship them, but I understand they have their own private lives.
Yes! I was looking at the list and only Kwang Soo appeared I was like wtf. As long as the audience knows and cares for the drama I guess that's all the IOIL team can hope for.
Yea in a sense she kinda reminds me of Kim Hee Min, not typical beauty, but has a certain charm or charisma to her.
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Sweet Potato Days
September 15, 2014 at 7:25 PM
People were speculating maybe they wanted to keep it professional because they could’ve been so into character it “might’ve” affected them a little?
^Definitely professional also because both Jo In Sung and Gong Hyo Jin dating other people irl if I'm not mistaken.
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juvy
September 16, 2014 at 6:07 AM
and also maybe because JIS's girl is GHJ's close friend. So its kinda awkward.
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jozie
September 14, 2014 at 5:43 PM
Can we name it the, "It must be nice" kiss? I love that scene!
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28 Ofl
September 14, 2014 at 3:11 AM
Love this show <3
Somehow it reminds me of the American series " Friends". They bickering but caring each other. Even if sometimes their friend has a strange behavior, still they accepted it just the way they are... ?
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29 tata
September 14, 2014 at 3:57 AM
Farewells are always sad, gonna miss every character. One of those few dramas that you'll feel you're a part of. Still wishing we had few more episodes though. Its so hard to let goooo.
Everyone deserves an award after this. Omg!!
Sorry for spazzing, I just can't get over it. Haha
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juvy
September 16, 2014 at 6:12 AM
i agree with "you will feel part of the drama" indeed, esp.Hae Soo for me being consistently unpredictable, her temper, everything about her end me up blurting "uhh that is just me" because she portrayed a character that exist in reality.
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30 hanny
September 14, 2014 at 4:06 AM
MY BEST DRAMA EVER!!!!
I love all about this drama... The cast is perfect! The romance is more mature... And it was so heartbreaking but I the message is delivered well...
Thanks For recapping... Thanks drama..
GOod Night, It's Okay It's Love!!
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31 ccut
September 14, 2014 at 4:13 AM
Prior to this series, I was not a fan of the writer. Thus I entered IOIL with little expectation and was mostly in it because of the great cast. 16 episodes later, I can confidently say that the writer did a wonderful job. Perfect or not, her story sits right with me. Her characterizations in this series remained consistent and there was much effort in justifying their actions and feelings (especially in episodes 14 & 15). The story seems well-thought out in the sense that there was not any loose end at the finale. And what I probably appreciate the most is the prevailing theme of hope, just as gummimochi pointed out.
"It's Okay, It's Love" has the right ingredients of a series for me: excellent cast, endearing characters, story with a heart, great directing, not-your-typical kdrama romance, and a catchy OST. Heartfelt thanks to everyone behind IOIL for an incredibly satisfying journey! I’ve been watching Asian series (KDrama, JDrama, and TWDrama) for a long time, but this is the first drama that incited me to comment online, all the way to the end of the series, because I think this show deserves the support/appreciation. Thanks also to the recappers and those who shared insight/opinions---you truly added to the viewing pleasure. :)
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32 Marge
September 14, 2014 at 4:45 AM
Whatever happened to the like option on Dramabeans?
Anyway, despite my busy ass schedule. I'm glad I was able to watch this from beginning to end. It is such a lovely show, I would say this is my favorite (As it competes with TvN's King of Savvy in my heart)
BUT the difference is that I was really happy about the ending. I'm well content with how they ended the series, i felt like there was some kind of closure and though I want to see more of this drama- i know each tv series has to end at some point.
Thank you to the creators, actors and the rest of the team.
:) I actually learned so much from this show, and it was a heartfelt and genuine story with fantastic actors.
=)
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Nessie
September 14, 2014 at 2:10 PM
Apparently the like button plugin was causing the site to crash during the new updates, or something like that :/ Hopefully it will be back in the future!
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33 Rigby
September 14, 2014 at 4:55 AM
Thank you for the recap guimimochi! Appreciate much all your hard work recapping and commenting!
I love this show so much...it inspired me to at least pray for one soul wherever they are on a daily basis, I hope by doing so, it will make a difference...It moved me as well to be considerate to everyone no matter who they are! This show has given us its viewers so many lessons, more than anything, it gives us hopes (as what guimimochi said)
On a lighter note, i love GHJ and JIS, i could never think of anyone other than this couple to portray HS and JY. They are the best, they should win an award!
I love everything about this show, all the cast, the plot, (veering away with bratty chaebol, love triangle, noble idiocy, suffocating in-laws, amnesia, etc, etc..). The OST are just perfect, I even downloaded them and now i am playing in the car on my way to the office :)
Congratulations to SBS and thank you for giving us this masterpiece!
Goodnight It's OK, it's love!!!
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34 houstontwin
September 14, 2014 at 6:30 AM
Gummimochi,
Thank you for your perceptive and well written recaps and comments! I haven't shared much in the comments this time but enjoyed reading your remarks after each episode.
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35 Giegie
September 14, 2014 at 7:25 AM
One of the two Kdramas that didn't end up on my dropped-drama list and definitely my favorite drama of 2014. I love you IOIL!
Thank you gumimmochi and HeadsNo2 for the awesome recaps. ^^
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36 cynthia
September 14, 2014 at 7:46 AM
Dis drama was on point
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37 jomo143
September 14, 2014 at 10:21 AM
Thanks for the recaps, gummi and Heads! It was fun reading along with your exasperation and admiration all mixed in.
The show did achieve what I think was the main goal - to depict mental illness as just another in a long list of treatable diseases, nothing to be particularly ashamed of. It never made it look easy even if they simplified the healing process and shortened the time for dramatic purposes. Neither of our heros could have gotten better that fast, but covering all the two steps forward, one step back aspects would take too long. It was better to get the shorthand version - healing does happen.
You have to imagine there are more than a few SK viewers who recognized their reality on the screen. Whether they were victims of abuse, or dealt with unmanageable phobias causing them to lead miserable lives. And ashamed to go for help.
The casting of Yang Ik Joon is hugely important, as he himself wrote, directed and starred in his own film Breathless, about domestic violence. It was scary and sad, and YIJ gave it his heart and soul.
But as with most taboo subjects, things won't change overnight which this drama also showed. I was most hurt by the passing comments of folks who suggested JY "faked" it to sell more books. Since, of course, he looks normal, how could he be mentally ill? It is an interesting myth that they have to keep disproving. Shows like this are a good start.
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38 Thandy
September 14, 2014 at 11:13 AM
I loved this drama , it wasn't perfect, it had it's flaws, some medical info was inaccurate, but in the end the drama moved me,it left me with a good feeling. I loved how everything came together, it had hooked me from the start and carried me on to the end. I loved that this drama was able to shed some positive light on mental illness, because there are many people in the world that still put a big negative sign on mental illness. I'm so happy that this drama was made, it gave me great feels. Plus my fav actress GHJ , was awesome as usual and her chemistry with JIS was great. From the first episode to the last, I have enjoyed this drama.
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39 Jenniec
September 14, 2014 at 11:26 AM
My favorite drama of this year! It was absolutely amazing with great casts (I swear I love this ensemble) and great acting. I'm going to miss this drama so much because this couple is so awesome, they're so real. <3
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40 owl 🦉 🫰
September 14, 2014 at 11:57 AM
The shoes as a gift - at some point, did JY tell HS that KW always appeared barefoot? I like the significance of that, and even if HS didn't know one of the inconsistencies of KW's existence was that he was barefoot, shoes could still mean "it's time to depart."
The time apart was okay with me because HS needed to 1)follow through with a sabbatical for herself in many ways (professionally, emotionally, a time of leisure, growth) 2) get a grip on what their relationship looks like and might look like in the future 3) stabilize 4) be true to herself. In this story, it worked that she left ans wasn't a time jump at the ending just to wrap up.
Although JY had his own stabilizing to do, unlike HS, he was truer to himself even if his perception of reality was unstable. He also had to learn to love himself and be okay even though the past and its ramifications weren't okay. That his career could move forward was a healthy aspect of his treatment and maintenance. Yoon chul Hye jin storyline was important - just enough to show the struggles and facing them in a relationship with ups and downs - JY needed to see that. Like this couple, he and HS could plan for a family - won't that baby be beautiful!
The ending - thanks dramaland for the panning camera on all the couples in the show, still exhibiting their flawed traits, but working through it. *clapping and grinning* I really liked this drama a lot.
You ca check out my kdrama fan art D.O. as Kang-woo for a final good-bye to the character on my blog "click" owl.
Thanks gummicochi for the great recaps as always!
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juvy
September 16, 2014 at 6:16 AM
the shoe gift from HS i find it clever even provoke me to study psychiatry haha.
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41 Jainab
September 14, 2014 at 3:37 PM
To Gummi - Thanks for the wonderful well written recap. I found myself nodding with just about every sentence. Just about, because I think my drama eye is less discerning than yours as a lot of the negative aspects you mentioned I just didn't notice, or didn't want to. That is a testament to how much I loved this drama. Initially I liked it, but didn't love it, but as the show delved deeper into each character's personalities and background, the more I found myself invested and rooting for each of them. Very few shows draw tears from me, but this one had me bawling. The emotional pain, hope, love and all the other good stuff that the writer, PD and actors managed to portray is a gift to us as viewers and I am extremely grateful as it made me feel more than many other shows. By feel, I mean at that gut level where you feel every tear, every hug, every smile. Wow, I loved this show and every single character. An amazing job by everyone on staff. Thank you Dramabeans for once again being the voice to my kdrama roller coaster of enjoyment.
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42 Aria
September 14, 2014 at 5:35 PM
This has got to be my favorite drama of 2014.
I love that its storyline has depth but at the same time it's refreshing to watch.
I highly recommend it to anyone who loves to watch meaningful dramas and not just those dramas with love triangles, cliches and just laughs.
Kudos to the whole IOTL team! Congratulations everyone!
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43 Rachel2
September 14, 2014 at 7:10 PM
I really loved this drama. Despite its flaws, it's just in whole different league from most kdramas. I like that even though the writer had a message to convey, it never felt like an after-school special. It was full of messy, complicated, and often downright unlikeable characters. I know so many people who have struggled with mental illness, including many close friends and family members. The writer really gets something essential about mental illness. At times I felt like things were wrapped up a little too neatly, but I can't argue with the message of love, hope and acceptance.
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44 Karisima
September 14, 2014 at 7:13 PM
Pink has been a popular color for baby/toddler boys in Korea for the past few years.
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45 Sweet Potato Days
September 15, 2014 at 7:18 PM
I loved this drama and just finished it today after several days of marathoning it, it makes me miss this summer. The attire and whole milieu of this drama makes me nostalgic for summer 2014 again.
I really enjoyed another spin of placing psychological issues on the conventional rom-com. This really adds another dimension to the drama. I was mainly invested in Jae Yul's storyline and his schizophrenia. I was first really intrigued because of D.O. (Kyungsoo) but I soon became entrenched in it all because it was such a neat storyline and I love anything that has the theme of the representation of the past life. Kang Woo and Jae Yul's interactions together was one of the most enjoyable parts of the show for me.
Jo In Sung's acting in this was phenomenal the way he showcased his pain and vulnerability. Before I never got the hype of Jo In Sung but in this time, he definitely sold me. Just wondering now if I should watch TWTWB... :p
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ybsad
December 18, 2014 at 11:36 PM
go watch TWTWB. jo in-sung was very good in that, too.
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46 juvy
September 16, 2014 at 6:20 AM
If I have not mistaken they had 21 kissing scenes? and on top is the "MUST BE NICE" kiss.
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mashimomo
September 16, 2014 at 8:03 AM
Yes, this so much! While I'm a fan of Will they or will they not end together romcoms, it's always refreshing to see a more realistic take on relationships and get the skinship going in the middle and not towards the end, especially on Kdramas :-) everyone that I loved on this drama had been said already, but I also want to say how much I love this pairing so MUCH, and cannot imagine any other leads portraying them. On top of that, a tight script and terrific casting and a rocking OST makes this one of my favorites.
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47 sixtyeightmonkey
September 19, 2014 at 9:27 PM
Even if the drama may have floundered in a few places, I'm still so impressed that the writers clearly knew exactly how the drama would end from the very start. I love how progressive it was in addressing a topic normally taboo for a television drama -- mental illness in people from all walks of life.
Cheers to the writers, actors, director, and producers. Well done.
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48 i❤GongHyoJin
September 29, 2014 at 11:15 PM
I am really a certified GHJ fan. Tnx for the recap. I know its not everyone cup of tea but since i can relate to medical topics in this show, i absolutely enjoy it. It so wonderful to watch GHJ becoz her acting is so much compelling. Thank God it will be aired in Philippine television. Though i am not so happy that GMA7 didn't get the rights of the show, ABS CBN got it. Anyway i will still watch it to support GHJ. Kudos to SBS, writer, PD, actors and actresses, and Gummi!
Godbless?❤
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49 lala
October 9, 2014 at 7:05 PM
Ah that was FRIGGIN AMAZING DRAMA <3 <3 as a psych major and someone who wants to pursue a doctoral degree, I think this drama does a great job of showing the crazy, dramatic, can't-believe-this-is-real-life moments I've experienced doing counseling. While watching this, I sometimes felt as if Hae Soo's story (esp her anxiety) was my own.
Admitting and revealing our flaws/painful stories are not a sign of weakness, but rather one of strength. And it takes courage to ask for help when we truly need it because we can be our very worst enemies in this life (because of societal norms, expectations, defense mechanisms, etc.) when, in reality, we should embrace the uniqueness we have as individuals and try to understand ourselves and grow a bit more every day.
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50 Floriineee
October 16, 2014 at 4:43 AM
I WILL MISS THIS SHOW SO MUCH.
I'm now searching for other good drama's but can't feel the chemistry like this two:(
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