These football bets are telling me that many people don’t like LMH. I remember the time when Dramafever used to cash on him a lot and still does. I think his overall popularity has reduced too. Well but yes in your case its entirely subjective. Just surprised that he was once so popular and liked but now doesn’t seem to be the case.
He still has a lot of fangirls out there. It’s slow down a little since he is in military rn, but if his comeback drama is a success, he will gain back his popularity.
I will survive somehow 😩😩😩😄but it is confusing to have different avatar picture 😄😄😄*in a rush to go and find Ji Chang Wook pictures in order to change current avatar picture in 2 days*😁😁😁
awwww you too.. same to me.. LMH most hated actor. I just updated my DB header.
but still contemplating to change DB profile pic or not… LJH is too precious to be removed for mere a bet…*am sobbing to decide*
Karolina, sorry for the late reply, I just opened db today. I know our post is on open thread but it seems this website (on my desktop) only limit to 5 continuous replies, after that the reply button is no longer there.
How do you cope with it? I once thought that nothing can defeat me but what to do when you and your mind can’t find the way to overcome this exhaustion?
For me, right now coping=escaping. Even until now, I still have trouble to accept it and when sometimes it triggers me, I do something to make me forget about it (watching dramas, cooking, cleaning, playing with cats).
I think the only helping tool is time, it sounds cliche, but believe me after some time the stained memories (all the bad things that happened, the toxic people etc) will decrease. It might be not completely gone, but trust me one day you will scoff at the devil for playing with the strong you. You said that you take a break for half a year, it took me more than a year to recover, so you’re doing totally fine, better than me <3. And just like you cheered for Kudo Ran "At least after this the other jobs will be easier for you :)", you too can do the same. n_n
And also, I affirm myself several times that it's not my fault at all. I even say it out loud when the bad memories come bugging me. Try it, it really helps. It's not my fault, it's because I met wrong people. And I learn to accept that there are more bad people than good people in this world, and only by meeting the bad, we can see clearly the true value of the good one.
You stated that your work is toxic, I'm not sure if it's because of the people or the work overload, but either way, it's not your fault at all. I understand the pain of working in toxic environment. For me, it's the people. I can handle work overload (my work was fantastic, I loved it), but when it comes to human toxicity, it really is a mental torture. People will say that I have weak mentality for not being able to cope with them, but hey I love and value myself so much that I don't see why I should continue to work with these terrible people and sacrifice my sanity and health in long-term.
I am trying my best to be strong because I always was the strong one but…
You are strong. Always is. The fact is you were in the wrong place.
And lastly, when I’m totally at the dead end, that when everything is not working out not matter how much I force myself to stop it, I just accept it; all the inner bad dialogues that blame me, all the replay of memories of the bad stuffs that those people did to me, I just sit and sometimes lay down, and hear and remember it all, and I’m like, yeah that’s my fault, I will not do the same way in the future. I don’t dwell so much now because of TIME. Seriously, this will pass. This is nothing like my first month after the resignation, that month is a monster.
Thank you for your reply! Sorry I am late with mine but we just moved to a new place and I was so busy sorting out everything. I agree that time is the best cure it just annoys me that it takes so long. I am not very patient person π My problem was that I overworked my self to the point that my body and mind refused to function. I had very stressful job and then I started my master studies and worked part time at the same place which killed me. I thought I don’t have problems with workload and I was sooo wrong.
As I understand you were more hurt by people and what they did to you. My colleagues were nice to me just unhelpful and selfish. Anyway, dont blame yourself and don’t pay attention to people who are not close to you. Usually people say bad things to you because they dont feel good about themselves. It is their insecurities not yours. You should reflect on yourself and know your weaknesses so when somebody says something unpleasant you can identify if it is a real and reasonable critique or just their insecurities talking. If it is insecurities talking then it is just a noise which is not important to you. I worked with and met so many people who abuse others mentally in order to feel better about themselves. You dont have weak mentality because you can choose which words and opinions are important to you. Additionally, you are right there is no point to be in toxic environment and be with toxic people. I hope you are in a better place and in the future you’ll learn how to avoid and deal with toxic people :)))
Oh no, stressful job + your master studies + part time job, your body definitely took a big toll, gosh. But yeah, the accumulated stress really affect the body, not to mention the burnout. I totally understand.
The part when-will-this-get-better thing is very frustrating indeed, which sometimes makes me want to shake my fist to Mr. Time XD.
It’s good to hear that at least your colleagues were nice, but that unhelpful and selfish part, I can relate.
I don’t mind the late reply, we all have our real life π
And also, thank you for your kind talk + advice, I appreciate it.
I know it’s kinda late to wish this but I hope you will get better soon and your body will recover from the burnout.
All the best settling in, I hope everything will be sorted out real soon and you’ll have a good time at the new place. π
Well it is getting better. It is no where as bad as it was during the first months. Kdramas and DB really helped a lot to deal with it and shift my attention. I am very rational person in my life but kdramas allows me to get emotional discharge.
Thank you and I wish for you all the best π I love new place and the main bits are sorted out. I think new environment will help me π and yup Mr. Time is very annoying but it is how it is π
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Karolina π€πΌ
July 5, 2019 at 7:28 AM
They are both ready for the final sacrifice… who is going to die? π€§π€§π€§
deadlybaby
July 5, 2019 at 5:10 PM
either both or none. iβm not settling for anything more/less
Karolina π€πΌ
July 5, 2019 at 6:54 AM
She is fantastic and gorgeous in Angelβs drama. *franticly looking for box of tissues*
Karolina π€πΌ
July 12, 2018 at 10:17 AM
11 July 2018 was officially sleepover day in dramaland 😄😄😄
Karolina π€πΌ
July 12, 2018 at 10:27 AM
I donβt watch Come and hug me but you or me can do part2 post😄😄😄
Karolina π€πΌ
July 10, 2018 at 1:14 PM
Damn you Belgium! As you can guess I lost my bet to lovely Sport Beanies and Lee Min Ho is back! 😢😢😢
bam π’ππ~
July 10, 2018 at 1:17 PM
You look beautiful. XD
Karolina π€πΌ
July 10, 2018 at 1:20 PM
Sure sure…
Karolina π€πΌ
July 10, 2018 at 1:25 PM
I am beautiful no matter what they say… 😄😄😄
bam π’ππ~
July 10, 2018 at 1:28 PM
Of course. π
WishfulToki
July 10, 2018 at 1:19 PM
Have you also lost your name? This betting is getting out of hand😂
Karolina π€πΌ
July 10, 2018 at 1:20 PM
I suggested all in bet because big games – big bets! Be careful what you suggest 😄😄😄
Carolina
July 10, 2018 at 1:21 PM
we are betting avatar, name, post, and header – we are going all in.
WishfulToki
July 10, 2018 at 1:24 PM
You’re confusing the rest of us LOL. I don’t know who I’m talking to anymore.
Carolina
July 10, 2018 at 1:26 PM
LOL. Same, I have to read the comments to figure out which Beanie lost.
KS stuck on π₯° Aegiya KHAAJAπ₯°
July 10, 2018 at 1:21 PM
bigger the match bigger the stake…hehehe
Waadmay
July 10, 2018 at 1:21 PM
You’re missing out on all the fun 😉😉😘😘😘💞💞💞💖💖💖💝💝💝
WishfulToki
July 10, 2018 at 1:23 PM
I bet on France with my friends. I was so stressed. 😂
I won’t be betting tomorrow, just cheering for England.
KS stuck on π₯° Aegiya KHAAJAπ₯°
July 10, 2018 at 1:22 PM
so sorry for the LMH Avatar n Header… as i hate him too i can understand your situation… but all the best for next bet..
wapz
July 10, 2018 at 3:15 PM
These football bets are telling me that many people don’t like LMH. I remember the time when Dramafever used to cash on him a lot and still does. I think his overall popularity has reduced too. Well but yes in your case its entirely subjective. Just surprised that he was once so popular and liked but now doesn’t seem to be the case.
β Sera The Ms Temper β
July 10, 2018 at 4:33 PM
He still has a lot of fangirls out there. It’s slow down a little since he is in military rn, but if his comeback drama is a success, he will gain back his popularity.
WishfulToki
July 10, 2018 at 5:38 PM
I like him (says in Lina Lamont voice)
wakimary
July 11, 2018 at 9:43 PM
I haven’t seen any LMH drama, for some reason
Karolina π€πΌ
June 30, 2018 at 4:51 PM
Ok I lost my bet for one game out of two therefore as punishment my profile picture is this horrible person Yoochun. Better luck for me next time 😩
bam π’ππ~
June 30, 2018 at 5:04 PM
oof.
Karolina π€πΌ
June 28, 2018 at 4:11 PM
Iβve lost my bet so I am LMH – the actor who I hate…😢 buuuut by changing my profile picture and header I noticed that I levelled up!
bam π’ππ~
June 28, 2018 at 4:19 PM
Blessing in disguise? Congrats, Karo! And hee, thankfully it’s only for 2 days? You can totally pay me back.
Karolina π€πΌ
June 28, 2018 at 5:47 PM
I will survive somehow 😩😩😩😄but it is confusing to have different avatar picture 😄😄😄*in a rush to go and find Ji Chang Wook pictures in order to change current avatar picture in 2 days*😁😁😁
bam π’ππ~
June 28, 2018 at 6:46 PM
XD
Waadmay
June 28, 2018 at 4:20 PM
Congrats karo 🎉🎉🎊🎊
Karolina π€πΌ
June 28, 2018 at 5:44 PM
Thank you 😊😊😊🎉
egads aka Dame Maggie
June 28, 2018 at 4:27 PM
We can do gifs for the header? How?
egads aka Dame Maggie
June 28, 2018 at 4:29 PM
Also, congrats on leveling up, and sympathies for the LMH, the most popular but utterly meh actor in Korea.
Karolina π€πΌ
June 28, 2018 at 5:42 PM
Thank you! And it turns out you can have gifs for the header 😊 I just uploaded as normal picture and it worked 😊
Karolina π€πΌ
June 28, 2018 at 5:43 PM
His popularity is a mistery to me… I just canβt watch anything with him 😩
mindy
June 28, 2018 at 4:28 PM
Congrats on leveling up! 💖
outofthisworld δΈζ§ζ―ζ π
June 28, 2018 at 8:37 PM
Congrats on your leveling up and I feel sorry about you losing the bet – I was wondering who is this Ahjumma with a bowtie?
KS stuck on π₯° Aegiya KHAAJAπ₯°
June 28, 2018 at 8:45 PM
awwww you too.. same to me.. LMH most hated actor. I just updated my DB header.
but still contemplating to change DB profile pic or not… LJH is too precious to be removed for mere a bet…*am sobbing to decide*
korfan
June 29, 2018 at 12:22 AM
Congrats!
Karolina π€πΌ
October 2, 2017 at 10:26 AM
Iβve just cried my eyes out whilst watching Live Up To Your Name last episodes. It was such a great drama!
πnoobitaπ
March 1, 2018 at 11:19 AM
Karolina, sorry for the late reply, I just opened db today. I know our post is on open thread but it seems this website (on my desktop) only limit to 5 continuous replies, after that the reply button is no longer there.
For me, right now coping=escaping. Even until now, I still have trouble to accept it and when sometimes it triggers me, I do something to make me forget about it (watching dramas, cooking, cleaning, playing with cats).
I think the only helping tool is time, it sounds cliche, but believe me after some time the stained memories (all the bad things that happened, the toxic people etc) will decrease. It might be not completely gone, but trust me one day you will scoff at the devil for playing with the strong you. You said that you take a break for half a year, it took me more than a year to recover, so you’re doing totally fine, better than me <3. And just like you cheered for Kudo Ran "At least after this the other jobs will be easier for you :)", you too can do the same. n_n
And also, I affirm myself several times that it's not my fault at all. I even say it out loud when the bad memories come bugging me. Try it, it really helps. It's not my fault, it's because I met wrong people. And I learn to accept that there are more bad people than good people in this world, and only by meeting the bad, we can see clearly the true value of the good one.
You stated that your work is toxic, I'm not sure if it's because of the people or the work overload, but either way, it's not your fault at all. I understand the pain of working in toxic environment. For me, it's the people. I can handle work overload (my work was fantastic, I loved it), but when it comes to human toxicity, it really is a mental torture. People will say that I have weak mentality for not being able to cope with them, but hey I love and value myself so much that I don't see why I should continue to work with these terrible people and sacrifice my sanity and health in long-term.
You are strong. Always is. The fact is you were in the wrong place.
And lastly, when I’m totally at the dead end, that when everything is not working out not matter how much I force myself to stop it, I just accept it; all the inner bad dialogues that blame me, all the replay of memories of the bad stuffs that those people did to me, I just sit and sometimes lay down, and hear and remember it all, and I’m like, yeah that’s my fault, I will not do the same way in the future. I don’t dwell so much now because of TIME. Seriously, this will pass. This is nothing like my first month after the resignation, that month is a monster.
Karolina π€πΌ
March 8, 2018 at 5:00 AM
Thank you for your reply! Sorry I am late with mine but we just moved to a new place and I was so busy sorting out everything. I agree that time is the best cure it just annoys me that it takes so long. I am not very patient person π My problem was that I overworked my self to the point that my body and mind refused to function. I had very stressful job and then I started my master studies and worked part time at the same place which killed me. I thought I don’t have problems with workload and I was sooo wrong.
As I understand you were more hurt by people and what they did to you. My colleagues were nice to me just unhelpful and selfish. Anyway, dont blame yourself and don’t pay attention to people who are not close to you. Usually people say bad things to you because they dont feel good about themselves. It is their insecurities not yours. You should reflect on yourself and know your weaknesses so when somebody says something unpleasant you can identify if it is a real and reasonable critique or just their insecurities talking. If it is insecurities talking then it is just a noise which is not important to you. I worked with and met so many people who abuse others mentally in order to feel better about themselves. You dont have weak mentality because you can choose which words and opinions are important to you. Additionally, you are right there is no point to be in toxic environment and be with toxic people. I hope you are in a better place and in the future you’ll learn how to avoid and deal with toxic people :)))
πnoobitaπ
March 9, 2018 at 11:34 AM
Oh no, stressful job + your master studies + part time job, your body definitely took a big toll, gosh. But yeah, the accumulated stress really affect the body, not to mention the burnout. I totally understand.
The part when-will-this-get-better thing is very frustrating indeed, which sometimes makes me want to shake my fist to Mr. Time XD.
It’s good to hear that at least your colleagues were nice, but that unhelpful and selfish part, I can relate.
I don’t mind the late reply, we all have our real life π
And also, thank you for your kind talk + advice, I appreciate it.
I know it’s kinda late to wish this but I hope you will get better soon and your body will recover from the burnout.
All the best settling in, I hope everything will be sorted out real soon and you’ll have a good time at the new place. π
Karolina π€πΌ
March 15, 2018 at 9:46 AM
Well it is getting better. It is no where as bad as it was during the first months. Kdramas and DB really helped a lot to deal with it and shift my attention. I am very rational person in my life but kdramas allows me to get emotional discharge.
Thank you and I wish for you all the best π I love new place and the main bits are sorted out. I think new environment will help me π and yup Mr. Time is very annoying but it is how it is π