Beanies to the rescue:
I’m going to reject a dear friend tomorrow, wish me luck🤦🏻♀️🥺
I can’t talk about it to anyone in my family, because they know him, and I don’t want them to see him as the guy whom our sister rejected.
He is very good to me and really kind and really fun to be around, but we are like Seo Dan Ah and Lee Young Hwa 🥺
You have all the right to reject him and if he cares for you, even if it hurts, he will understand and respect your decision. I know this doesn’t help right now because you’re going to say no to a dear friend. Sending you lots of beanie support!!
Thank you for the support❤🌺🌿
Right now I really need this, to overcome the inner voices who go: “You Heart Breaker”
But you are completely right, if he cares for me like he says, he should respect my decision
As one who has done the breaking up every time, FIGHTING! If he’s not for you, he’s not for you. I hope you can remain good friends though (says the person who has agreed to be her ex-boyfriend’s daughter’s surrogate mother while she’s in college—huh?). 😉
He sounds sweet to me, but the heart wants what it wants. Love is a tricky thing so I hope you and him find peace in the end. Not being a couple doesn’t mean you guys can’t be friends right? If it’s not today or anytime soon, one day it may come. You gotta give him time though. Mending a broken heart needs a lot of time 💗
Thank you for your insightful comment.❤🌸❤🌸
Yes he really is sweet. Actually he confessed his feelings about three months ago in a very heartfelt letter, and he said that if I was to refuse I must promise that I don’t change how I am around him. And of course I said no and naturally we were awkward around each other for a couple of days, but after that we tried to get things back to normal and things were kind of good again, but after two months I realized that something is changing in his texts and he is not completely over that.
So I think as you said I must give him more time, but I don’t know how, should I keep a distance? Should I try to get thing back to normal? ….
I think I’m such a baby when it comes to love.. I think everyone is different, and the amount of time, the way to heal needed are different from a person to a person. When I was much younger, I thought being direct was the best thing I could do to prevent someone from thinking that I thought of him more than a friend so I told a person that. He couldn’t take it and instead told others that I had been using him. 😅
I came to a conclusion much later on that it wasn’t my fault. Pls take into account that every person is different, but if you ask me what I would want to be told if I was him, I would probably want a friendly confirmation that even though you don’t think of me that way, you still like me very much as a friend. I might be angry at you though (my feeling isn’t reciprocated and I’m just that childish) but I’ll come around in the end when things die down. Sincerity and consideration play the most important role in relationships for me.
Thank you. This really helps🤗❤
As far as know him, he wouldn’t get angry at me, instead he would get angry at himself and cupid and probably the whole universe😅(making lame jokes always makes me calm down when I’m nervous)🙈😅
After some time (like a long time), I came to a conclusion that when our feelings aren’t reciprocated, it isn’t anybody’s fault. It has nothing to do with our value as a person or how good/bad we are, it’s just love and hence love is a tricky thing. It’s out of control. So I believe, if he can see that after sometime, he’ll learn one of the most difficult and valuable lessons here.
Hi there
February 17, 2021 at 10:37 AM
Beanies to the rescue:
I’m going to reject a dear friend tomorrow, wish me luck🤦🏻♀️🥺
I can’t talk about it to anyone in my family, because they know him, and I don’t want them to see him as the guy whom our sister rejected.
He is very good to me and really kind and really fun to be around, but we are like Seo Dan Ah and Lee Young Hwa 🥺
Eazal
February 17, 2021 at 12:38 PM
You have all the right to reject him and if he cares for you, even if it hurts, he will understand and respect your decision. I know this doesn’t help right now because you’re going to say no to a dear friend. Sending you lots of beanie support!!
Hi there
February 17, 2021 at 8:11 PM
Thank you for the support❤🌺🌿
Right now I really need this, to overcome the inner voices who go: “You Heart Breaker”
But you are completely right, if he cares for me like he says, he should respect my decision
Ally
February 17, 2021 at 5:14 PM
As one who has done the breaking up every time, FIGHTING! If he’s not for you, he’s not for you. I hope you can remain good friends though (says the person who has agreed to be her ex-boyfriend’s daughter’s surrogate mother while she’s in college—huh?). 😉
Hi there
February 17, 2021 at 8:16 PM
Thanks for the comfort.🌸❤🌺
I just wish he takes it well, because he is a really sensitive guy (although he wants to show the opposite)
mmmmm
February 17, 2021 at 10:45 PM
He sounds sweet to me, but the heart wants what it wants. Love is a tricky thing so I hope you and him find peace in the end. Not being a couple doesn’t mean you guys can’t be friends right? If it’s not today or anytime soon, one day it may come. You gotta give him time though. Mending a broken heart needs a lot of time 💗
Hi there
February 17, 2021 at 11:47 PM
Thank you for your insightful comment.❤🌸❤🌸
Yes he really is sweet. Actually he confessed his feelings about three months ago in a very heartfelt letter, and he said that if I was to refuse I must promise that I don’t change how I am around him. And of course I said no and naturally we were awkward around each other for a couple of days, but after that we tried to get things back to normal and things were kind of good again, but after two months I realized that something is changing in his texts and he is not completely over that.
So I think as you said I must give him more time, but I don’t know how, should I keep a distance? Should I try to get thing back to normal? ….
mmmmm
February 18, 2021 at 12:13 AM
I think I’m such a baby when it comes to love.. I think everyone is different, and the amount of time, the way to heal needed are different from a person to a person. When I was much younger, I thought being direct was the best thing I could do to prevent someone from thinking that I thought of him more than a friend so I told a person that. He couldn’t take it and instead told others that I had been using him. 😅
I came to a conclusion much later on that it wasn’t my fault. Pls take into account that every person is different, but if you ask me what I would want to be told if I was him, I would probably want a friendly confirmation that even though you don’t think of me that way, you still like me very much as a friend. I might be angry at you though (my feeling isn’t reciprocated and I’m just that childish) but I’ll come around in the end when things die down. Sincerity and consideration play the most important role in relationships for me.
Hi there
February 18, 2021 at 1:19 AM
Thank you. This really helps🤗❤
As far as know him, he wouldn’t get angry at me, instead he would get angry at himself and cupid and probably the whole universe😅(making lame jokes always makes me calm down when I’m nervous)🙈😅
mmmmm
February 18, 2021 at 1:24 AM
After some time (like a long time), I came to a conclusion that when our feelings aren’t reciprocated, it isn’t anybody’s fault. It has nothing to do with our value as a person or how good/bad we are, it’s just love and hence love is a tricky thing. It’s out of control. So I believe, if he can see that after sometime, he’ll learn one of the most difficult and valuable lessons here.
Hi there
February 18, 2021 at 1:37 AM
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Hi there
February 18, 2021 at 1:42 AM
@mmmmm
Thank you for sharing this educational experience with me.
And your conclusion is absolutely correct 👌🏻👏🏻