DISCLAIMER: Unorganized thoughts and ramblings ahead. Feel free to share a penny of your thoughts. 😉
5 more months, make that 6, and hopefully I’ll be working a different job. I do believe that there’s a job out there where I can complain about it stressing me out every now and then and yet I’d still be happy to wake up and do it. A job where I can be overworked every now and then but properly compensated. A job where I can grow professionally and personally.
Millennials, as what these working generation is called by society these days tend to jump from one job to another like changing undies, but for me, I honestly think that one doesn’t have to be a *millennial* to do so. It’s just that for my case, I’m looking more for that fulfillment that a job entails wherein you won’t consider it as a job anymore but as a passion that has come to life. And the pay has to be good. Good enough to pay your bills, to be able to stash an emergency fund, to be able to set aside for investment and good enough to fund some leisure activities.
I know this sounds like I’m never gonna find one but I’m still optimistic. Just like those expected happy endings you never get in a kdrama (cue Cheese In The Trap), the search for that one job is part of this ordeal we call life. We may not have that happy ending ending we hoped for but we’ll definitely get that ending we deserve. When the timing is right and when we are ready.
As someone who’s just resigned (been working for almost 4 years in my previous shitty office haha) and currently looking for a job, I can relate to this so much :’)
last week, i attended an interview and they need me to work immediately, but I decided to turn it down since the pay was waaaay below my expectation and I did not like my soon to be supervisor’s attitude.
This happened to me too! Before I ended up in my current job, I was interviewed by a considerably big enough company. I was already considering the job as it was in my line of study even though the pay was so-so and I’m pretty sure I’d be overworked. But the plant manger’s treatment of me back in the interview had put me so down that I didn’t look back after I decided I won’t be taking the job. I have my regrets tho, but it’s the kind of regret that I can live with.
Sorry I gotta to tell you, you’ll never found it. You won’t find fulfillment and your passion until you master your job. Every job has its own downside. You will just start enjoy your job once you have more authority, but it takes time for your employer and people in the industry to trust you. So, build your endurance and work ethic instead of searching a job that fit your passion. Learn skills that will help you to thrive in the industry. Build network. Just be good, if possible make yourself stand out. If you can’t, that’s okay.
My sister was laid off because she took maternity leave twice in a timespan of a year. She’s not standout but she had a good relationship with her clients which one of them was a pretty big company. Fast forward three years later, she got call from her client asking her to replace him because he got promotion and no one in the company fit the requirement. Who would expect a mother in her mid 30s with two kids could get a job in a big company, but it happened for my sister. My sister is not the only one. I can give you more stories like this.
To actually hear (read, in this case) someone say that I will never find it is kind of depressing. But I respect your opinion. We all deal with life in different ways. Some things work, some things don’t. Just as long as we don’t give up fighting, I think there’s a very good chance, albeit how small it is, that we’ll all find what we’re looking for, be it a fulfilling career or otherwise. I’m happy things worked out for your sister tho! 🙂
I’m sorry if I sound too harsh. I had no intention to make you depressed. But it’s a public room. There’s always a chance you’ll find different opinion.
I did actually left my corporate job to become a full time college instructor in 2009. Do you know how much money I got as adjunct lecturer in 2009? Around 20 usd per month. That money was not even transfered to my bank account, I had to take it in a locket like a plant worker in old movies 😂
I pursued my dream, of course I couldn’t expect everything will work out instantly. Money is not the only downside of working in academia, there are many other things. But I was grateful that I had enough money to support myself during the first few years, thanks to the money I’ve made from the corporate job. I bought my first car in 2013, traveled to the holy land in 2016 (it’s very important in my culture) and put down payment for my house just last year. Financially everything worked out for me, but it took longer than my friends who work their ass off in corporate world. I’m also very happy with my job, so I think I made the right decision back in 2009.
I did roll my eyes when I read your post. Maybe because I come from different era (born in 1983, am I a millenial or xgen?). I understand wholeheartedly about the part of finding your passion. I even pursued it. The thing is once you decide it, the world usually wouldn’t allow you to be greed about other things.
But I’m a stranger on the internet who have too much time on my fingers that i spend by spewing my opinion. So don’t be depressed by anything I typed.
You did not make me depressed. Haha! It was more of the way you said that I will NEVER find that one job that’s depressing. But it’s okay, it’s how you see things and I respect that. 😉
And you can roll your eyes all you want. I’ll do the same! HAHAHAHAHA. Rest assured that I am, by any means, not offended by what you’ve said. I appreciate the fact that actually read my post and shared a penny (well, in your case, maybe a dollar 😂😂😂) of your thoughts.
I empathize with this a lot, I have that same dream, of working hard at a job that doesn’t make break down everyday when I come home (just some days is fine). I’m currently torn between just taking a job, or holding out for the area I want even though I have no guarantee to get it…
There’s this saying I’ve read somewhere that goes “Don’t hold on for too long, don’t let go too soon”. I think that embodies what you’re currently going through right now and I hope it somehow helps. As for my case, I took this job because it offers a quiet easy-to-navigate schedule as I’m still preparing for my licensure exam, at the same time I was hoping it would actually help me grow in some ways. Alas! As always, our expectations always lead to disappointments. But I’m not saying that my current situation is really all that bad, it’s not. I think today’s just one of those days where you feel you’re lost..
Thanks for the advice, I’ll have to think about it more before I know if it’s helpful. 🙂 I’m also preparing for my licensure exam, and am moving states to be closer to my family, so I currently have no job, which is very frustrating… Since I cannot start working at a new job until I have my license, I feel better about holding out right now. I do relate highly to characters like Seol in Cheese in the Trap right now… Searching for a job, unsure about what my path should be, rethinking everything…
One thing that has been getting me through these days has been the Se-hee’s words in the first episode of Because This Life is Our First, when he says that it’s okay not to be sure because this is everyone’s first life.
That’s a nugget of wisdom right there that I have completely forgotten! Thanks for the reminder! Indeed, it’s okay. It’s more than okay, really! 😊😊
BTLIOF was really good while it lasted with all it’s slice-of-life advices every now and then. I guess its time for us to channel JH’s resilience, SH’s giving everyone and everything a chance attitude, SJ’s badass lady boss demeanor, HR’s love for love, SG’s loyalty and never-ending support, and WS’s courage to let HR go and get her back..
Let’s go be heroes of our own dramas! May our hours of drama inspire us, and give us courage and wisdom to face the future! Because this is our first life, we just need to live it as best we can!
… I feel like I started channeling an inspiring monologue said by the class clown during graduation or some school assembly in a youth drama… 😅
Last Friday was my last day (have taken days off to finish earlier) of a 4 month fixed term contract : shady company, no real management, as junior I had to do a lot and didn’t feel any support from the superiors , they proposed a prolongation that I refused right away, I’m going back to unemployment period not knowing what’ll I do next, if I move out to another city and many other questions, add my anxiety to that.
I feel you I don’t have a passion for work but I like simple things , want a job that pay not too much but not too bad (cause I have studied for it), a job where I can grow professionally and personally, hwaiting chingu 🙂 aja aja
OH MY GOD! That was how I felt towards my company. Glad you made the decision quickly. It was okay for me the first two years, then I felt like my third and fourth year was like hell. Everyone and everything slowly began to reveal its true colours and I felt like could not properly grow if I stayed. I’m trying to burry my resentment and forget what was happened in 2017 (the worst year).
Apologize for the long rant, but I always said to everyone who experienced the same things as me “just move on and quit”.
sad to hear that you had such experience , hwaiting Chingu , wishing you all the best from now on, good company and nice coworkers 🙂 , let’s rejoice with dramas for the time being ^^’ hahaha 🙂
@kudoran I admire you for having the courage to quit, chinguya! Fighting! Live in your own pace and no else’s and you’ll be fine. This is just one of the many road blocks we have to overcome in this life. And don’t ever think you are alone because you are not! 😊
thank you 🙂 , but it’s not really that I quit because from the beginning it was a replacement contract, so it was normal that it ends this month, but then they proposed a prolongation of a few months (also nothing like permanent contract) and that is what I’ve turned down…so yes in some way I quit. Don’t know if I’ll be able to post for the OT today I’ll talk about this shady company, check it later on if you want some real drama office *sigh at least I can talk about it in the past now*. Anyway hwaiting chingu 🙂 , it’ll take time but one day we’ll be able to genuinely say “I’m okay”….well I sincerely hope so 🙂
that’s so my thoughts. i am in my current job for more than 10 years now, i loved it enjoyed to the fullest. it taught me so many things and turned me into whatever i am today. and now i feel i need a better place to challenge me, to compensate me what i really deserve and at same time i should not feel like i am stuck in my comfort zone.
in short i am also looking for a job just as you described above.
*hope that you get it sooner* *fighting*
@kdramaswimmer Wow! To actually stay in one job for that long that’s just amazing, chingu! Some of my coworkers have been with my current company since the beginning and it’s been 18 years or so that this company was founded. I actually admire them for staying that long. I just can’t see myself staying far longer than a year or so because I can’t see any growth for me here. I hope my next job would be better tho.
I hope we all end up with something better in the future! Fighting! 😊😊
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TheTravellingBookworm
February 21, 2018 at 5:57 PM
DISCLAIMER: Unorganized thoughts and ramblings ahead. Feel free to share a penny of your thoughts. 😉
5 more months, make that 6, and hopefully I’ll be working a different job. I do believe that there’s a job out there where I can complain about it stressing me out every now and then and yet I’d still be happy to wake up and do it. A job where I can be overworked every now and then but properly compensated. A job where I can grow professionally and personally.
Millennials, as what these working generation is called by society these days tend to jump from one job to another like changing undies, but for me, I honestly think that one doesn’t have to be a *millennial* to do so. It’s just that for my case, I’m looking more for that fulfillment that a job entails wherein you won’t consider it as a job anymore but as a passion that has come to life. And the pay has to be good. Good enough to pay your bills, to be able to stash an emergency fund, to be able to set aside for investment and good enough to fund some leisure activities.
I know this sounds like I’m never gonna find one but I’m still optimistic. Just like those expected happy endings you never get in a kdrama (cue Cheese In The Trap), the search for that one job is part of this ordeal we call life. We may not have that happy ending ending we hoped for but we’ll definitely get that ending we deserve. When the timing is right and when we are ready.
sarassi
February 21, 2018 at 6:40 PM
As someone who’s just resigned (been working for almost 4 years in my previous shitty office haha) and currently looking for a job, I can relate to this so much :’)
last week, i attended an interview and they need me to work immediately, but I decided to turn it down since the pay was waaaay below my expectation and I did not like my soon to be supervisor’s attitude.
TheTravellingBookworm
February 21, 2018 at 7:03 PM
This happened to me too! Before I ended up in my current job, I was interviewed by a considerably big enough company. I was already considering the job as it was in my line of study even though the pay was so-so and I’m pretty sure I’d be overworked. But the plant manger’s treatment of me back in the interview had put me so down that I didn’t look back after I decided I won’t be taking the job. I have my regrets tho, but it’s the kind of regret that I can live with.
I hope you find a job soon! 😘😘 Fighting!
mano
February 21, 2018 at 6:46 PM
Sorry I gotta to tell you, you’ll never found it. You won’t find fulfillment and your passion until you master your job. Every job has its own downside. You will just start enjoy your job once you have more authority, but it takes time for your employer and people in the industry to trust you. So, build your endurance and work ethic instead of searching a job that fit your passion. Learn skills that will help you to thrive in the industry. Build network. Just be good, if possible make yourself stand out. If you can’t, that’s okay.
My sister was laid off because she took maternity leave twice in a timespan of a year. She’s not standout but she had a good relationship with her clients which one of them was a pretty big company. Fast forward three years later, she got call from her client asking her to replace him because he got promotion and no one in the company fit the requirement. Who would expect a mother in her mid 30s with two kids could get a job in a big company, but it happened for my sister. My sister is not the only one. I can give you more stories like this.
TheTravellingBookworm
February 21, 2018 at 7:07 PM
To actually hear (read, in this case) someone say that I will never find it is kind of depressing. But I respect your opinion. We all deal with life in different ways. Some things work, some things don’t. Just as long as we don’t give up fighting, I think there’s a very good chance, albeit how small it is, that we’ll all find what we’re looking for, be it a fulfilling career or otherwise. I’m happy things worked out for your sister tho! 🙂
mano
February 21, 2018 at 9:39 PM
I’m sorry if I sound too harsh. I had no intention to make you depressed. But it’s a public room. There’s always a chance you’ll find different opinion.
I did actually left my corporate job to become a full time college instructor in 2009. Do you know how much money I got as adjunct lecturer in 2009? Around 20 usd per month. That money was not even transfered to my bank account, I had to take it in a locket like a plant worker in old movies 😂
I pursued my dream, of course I couldn’t expect everything will work out instantly. Money is not the only downside of working in academia, there are many other things. But I was grateful that I had enough money to support myself during the first few years, thanks to the money I’ve made from the corporate job. I bought my first car in 2013, traveled to the holy land in 2016 (it’s very important in my culture) and put down payment for my house just last year. Financially everything worked out for me, but it took longer than my friends who work their ass off in corporate world. I’m also very happy with my job, so I think I made the right decision back in 2009.
I did roll my eyes when I read your post. Maybe because I come from different era (born in 1983, am I a millenial or xgen?). I understand wholeheartedly about the part of finding your passion. I even pursued it. The thing is once you decide it, the world usually wouldn’t allow you to be greed about other things.
But I’m a stranger on the internet who have too much time on my fingers that i spend by spewing my opinion. So don’t be depressed by anything I typed.
TheTravellingBookworm
February 21, 2018 at 10:22 PM
You did not make me depressed. Haha! It was more of the way you said that I will NEVER find that one job that’s depressing. But it’s okay, it’s how you see things and I respect that. 😉
And you can roll your eyes all you want. I’ll do the same! HAHAHAHAHA. Rest assured that I am, by any means, not offended by what you’ve said. I appreciate the fact that actually read my post and shared a penny (well, in your case, maybe a dollar 😂😂😂) of your thoughts.
By traveling to the holy land, do you mean hajj?
mano
February 21, 2018 at 10:54 PM
I’m glad to hear that. I hope you will find the job and workplace that suit you.
Yes, it’s hajj.
Cocoa, The Fake Poet of February
February 21, 2018 at 6:49 PM
I empathize with this a lot, I have that same dream, of working hard at a job that doesn’t make break down everyday when I come home (just some days is fine). I’m currently torn between just taking a job, or holding out for the area I want even though I have no guarantee to get it…
TheTravellingBookworm
February 21, 2018 at 7:13 PM
There’s this saying I’ve read somewhere that goes “Don’t hold on for too long, don’t let go too soon”. I think that embodies what you’re currently going through right now and I hope it somehow helps. As for my case, I took this job because it offers a quiet easy-to-navigate schedule as I’m still preparing for my licensure exam, at the same time I was hoping it would actually help me grow in some ways. Alas! As always, our expectations always lead to disappointments. But I’m not saying that my current situation is really all that bad, it’s not. I think today’s just one of those days where you feel you’re lost..
Cocoa, The Fake Poet of February
February 21, 2018 at 7:25 PM
Thanks for the advice, I’ll have to think about it more before I know if it’s helpful. 🙂 I’m also preparing for my licensure exam, and am moving states to be closer to my family, so I currently have no job, which is very frustrating… Since I cannot start working at a new job until I have my license, I feel better about holding out right now. I do relate highly to characters like Seol in Cheese in the Trap right now… Searching for a job, unsure about what my path should be, rethinking everything…
One thing that has been getting me through these days has been the Se-hee’s words in the first episode of Because This Life is Our First, when he says that it’s okay not to be sure because this is everyone’s first life.
TheTravellingBookworm
February 21, 2018 at 7:37 PM
That’s a nugget of wisdom right there that I have completely forgotten! Thanks for the reminder! Indeed, it’s okay. It’s more than okay, really! 😊😊
BTLIOF was really good while it lasted with all it’s slice-of-life advices every now and then. I guess its time for us to channel JH’s resilience, SH’s giving everyone and everything a chance attitude, SJ’s badass lady boss demeanor, HR’s love for love, SG’s loyalty and never-ending support, and WS’s courage to let HR go and get her back..
Cocoa, The Fake Poet of February
February 21, 2018 at 7:48 PM
Let’s go be heroes of our own dramas! May our hours of drama inspire us, and give us courage and wisdom to face the future! Because this is our first life, we just need to live it as best we can!
… I feel like I started channeling an inspiring monologue said by the class clown during graduation or some school assembly in a youth drama… 😅
TheTravellingBookworm
February 21, 2018 at 8:50 PM
가자, 친구. FIGHTING!!
sarassi
February 21, 2018 at 8:07 PM
@hotcocoagirl @TheTravellingBookworm
Sending you all virtual hugs! Reading what others have been through make me feel like I’m not really alone facing my problems! :’)
TheTravellingBookworm
February 21, 2018 at 8:51 PM
Sending virtual dark chocolates as well to lift up our gloomy moods. 😉
Cocoa, The Fake Poet of February
February 22, 2018 at 5:20 AM
Oooh, hugs and dark chocolates are my favorites! I’m sending virtual stuffed animals, that we can all squeeze tightly in our stress
TheTravellingBookworm
February 22, 2018 at 4:32 PM
@hotcocoagirl Goblin plushies please! 😊😊 All plushies from kdramaland, that is. 😊😊
Cocoa, The Fake Poet of February
February 22, 2018 at 6:06 PM
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Cocoa, The Fake Poet of February
February 22, 2018 at 6:13 PM
it’s yours ~ virtually, of course, for now. When I become a rich person I’ll buy plushies for all!!
Kudo Ran
February 22, 2018 at 12:06 AM
Last Friday was my last day (have taken days off to finish earlier) of a 4 month fixed term contract : shady company, no real management, as junior I had to do a lot and didn’t feel any support from the superiors , they proposed a prolongation that I refused right away, I’m going back to unemployment period not knowing what’ll I do next, if I move out to another city and many other questions, add my anxiety to that.
I feel you I don’t have a passion for work but I like simple things , want a job that pay not too much but not too bad (cause I have studied for it), a job where I can grow professionally and personally, hwaiting chingu 🙂 aja aja
sarassi
February 22, 2018 at 5:33 AM
OH MY GOD! That was how I felt towards my company. Glad you made the decision quickly. It was okay for me the first two years, then I felt like my third and fourth year was like hell. Everyone and everything slowly began to reveal its true colours and I felt like could not properly grow if I stayed. I’m trying to burry my resentment and forget what was happened in 2017 (the worst year).
Apologize for the long rant, but I always said to everyone who experienced the same things as me “just move on and quit”.
Kudo Ran
February 22, 2018 at 6:25 AM
sad to hear that you had such experience , hwaiting Chingu , wishing you all the best from now on, good company and nice coworkers 🙂 , let’s rejoice with dramas for the time being ^^’ hahaha 🙂
TheTravellingBookworm
February 22, 2018 at 4:35 PM
@kudoran I admire you for having the courage to quit, chinguya! Fighting! Live in your own pace and no else’s and you’ll be fine. This is just one of the many road blocks we have to overcome in this life. And don’t ever think you are alone because you are not! 😊
Kudo Ran
February 22, 2018 at 10:30 PM
thank you 🙂 , but it’s not really that I quit because from the beginning it was a replacement contract, so it was normal that it ends this month, but then they proposed a prolongation of a few months (also nothing like permanent contract) and that is what I’ve turned down…so yes in some way I quit. Don’t know if I’ll be able to post for the OT today I’ll talk about this shady company, check it later on if you want some real drama office *sigh at least I can talk about it in the past now*. Anyway hwaiting chingu 🙂 , it’ll take time but one day we’ll be able to genuinely say “I’m okay”….well I sincerely hope so 🙂
KS stuck on 🥰 Aegiya KHAAJA🥰
February 22, 2018 at 3:05 AM
that’s so my thoughts. i am in my current job for more than 10 years now, i loved it enjoyed to the fullest. it taught me so many things and turned me into whatever i am today. and now i feel i need a better place to challenge me, to compensate me what i really deserve and at same time i should not feel like i am stuck in my comfort zone.
in short i am also looking for a job just as you described above.
*hope that you get it sooner* *fighting*
TheTravellingBookworm
February 22, 2018 at 4:41 PM
@kdramaswimmer Wow! To actually stay in one job for that long that’s just amazing, chingu! Some of my coworkers have been with my current company since the beginning and it’s been 18 years or so that this company was founded. I actually admire them for staying that long. I just can’t see myself staying far longer than a year or so because I can’t see any growth for me here. I hope my next job would be better tho.
I hope we all end up with something better in the future! Fighting! 😊😊