Finished EP 4 of What Comes After Love. I have 2 points I want to talk about.

1. As an introvert who doesn’t really talk about myself or feelings much, I can relate to Jungo. But I know how important communication is in relationships. & you really have to put in effort & speak to your partner about things, even if it’s hard & uncomfortable. & I also want to state that I’m also someone that puts in alot of time & effort into my career, and you can definitely look at alot of the emotional things in relationships as a waste of time because you’re busy working on things. But you really have to actively fight those thoughts & feelings. It’s not easy, but it’s important.

2. 2nd point I wanted to talk about is that Hong really shows why I think it’s important to have things outside of your relationship. Your whole day & life shouldn’t revolve around your partner. I understand that she’s in a foreign country, but that’s even more of a reason to put in effort into developing your own group of social circles. I personally can’t be in a relationship with someone who’s whole life is our relationship. I need you to have friends, a career and hobbies. Alot of times I feel like people look at their partners as a form of entertainment.

I think everyone in this show just needs to break everything off. Jungo & Hong shouldn’t get back together, just get some closure. & the 2nd leads get passed their one sided love & move on. But it’s a Kdrama so I know that love beats all & they’ll end up back together. But it is a Japanese co-production, so who knows.

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    Wholeheartedly agree with both points you mentioned.
    By everything you said, it seems right up my alley as a slice-of-life drama, but I think I need the right mood for it.

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    Your points and observations are spot on!
    For viewers who have gripes and concerns about the direction of the drama, I think it’s because they are watching in hopes of progress and also getting closure, but I suspect the ending may not be such a simple one, and I’m okay with that. This drama takes the slice-of-life drama but turns it on its head from the usual slice-of-life we see and adds in all of the truly slice-of-life stuff pragmatic elements which we actually have to consider irl— even when it’s not pretty— and the drama lays it all out for all to see, from the characters to the viewer. I know what a typical Kdrama viewer would want as an ending— all the conflicts resolved, pretty bows tied, everything to be pristine and proper— but we may not get that here (as with the Japanese style of writing in their dramas and literature), but I’m okay with that. Imho, it gives more breathing room for the viewer to think and hope beyond what the drama has to offer

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    This second point is what confuses me she went to Japan as a single person and yes she had a friend to cut costs on accommodation but she was there to study. So getting a live in boyfriend was an added bonus to the life she planned so I am not sure how she came to give up being an independent woman and became a needy clingy person. Is that what she would have been like with her friend if she had never met this man?

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      I remember Hong saying that she went there trying to find herself. Her mom has always guided her, so she didn’t know what she wanted or who she is.

      But that self discovery journey can be really scary and hard to start. I feel like she didn’t really know what to do with herself. She was lost. But this relationship made her feel like she got at least one thing right.. Until it didn’t.
      And now she’s living the life others planned for her again.

      I feel like she never found herself and that’s her real problem (what has her so sad in the present timeline).

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