I have a friend who doesn’t understand my love of kdramas. She doesn’t believe that anyone intelligent could possibly enjoy them. (Meanwhile, I often feel I’m not clever or emotionally astute enough to keep up with the discussions on here!) But I no longer try to explain it and I think she accepts it as one of my idiosyncrasies.
I don’t believe it’s actually possible to explain my love for kdramas in a way that would make sense to her. Why does anyone like the colours or the flavours that they like? I could list a number of reasons, some more compelling than others, but reasons are almost the afterthought – the love came first, and the reasons why only followed because somehow, a justification was required.
Kdramas came into my life at a time when I needed comfort and support in a way that could not be provided by anyone or anything else. I needed to live and feel through stories because my real life was too hard. I rewatch some of the first dramas I discovered much like I would snuggle under an old blanket. These shows created an invisible fortress that kept me warm and allowed me to grow strong again when I was chilled and vulnerable. Are these dramas critically acclaimed or objective masterpieces? No, and sometimes, I find myself explaining why I think a particular show is good when, like my love for dramas, the love came first. The reasons? They’re just the words I use to try and explain something almost too intimately personal about myself.
Call me shallow or whatnot but calling me UNINTELLIGENT….
Yeah well I agree on that point
But maybe to your friend kdramas are lowbrow (some of my friends also don’t get my unabashed love) but to call all kdramas stupid is like saying every drama or series from every country is stupid. And if they don’t like or watch TV at all….fair enough can’t argue with that..it’s like debating with a vegan (and I fully respect and support our wonderful vegans who are doing the lord’s work to stop climate change, just can’t do it myself)
But I’ll stick with my lowbrow entertainment thanks, and I’ll be there with you enjoying our sweet sweet P-R-E-E-T-Y kdramas
I learned to stop justifying my love of dramas (or anything, really) a while ago. But more than that, people should be allowed to love what they love. It has nothing to do with intelligence (though, when people try to make this argument to me about dramas, I point out that there are many intelligent, well written, beautifully made dramas that could give western shows a run for their money).
I also found drama when I needed comfort and support, and I’m always grateful to that. It doesn’t matter to me why I love them, just that I do. Just like you said, what really determines what makes us love something?
You are not alone in having “the look” when talking about dramas. Only when people watch one and actually like it, understand why you are hooked. But I usually get the: the names are strange, I never know who they are talking about, or… it’s not dubbed into Spanish.
So by now I just smile and nod and don’t try to justify anything. I have a coworker that always recommends me tv shows. I’ve told him many times that right now I only watch dramas, but he keeps on. So whenever he asks me: have you seen this or that, I just tell him: not yet, but it’s on my watch list.
Same goes with my love for kpop. How can an adult woman love those kids that are all the same. Yes, yes. I nod. I don’t even want to explain why I love my idols and how I’m planning a trip to attend a concert in Korea because 2PM has announced they would have concerts this year.
I just smile and nod. I am happy, that is all that matters.
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dramadillo
February 11, 2023 at 12:11 AM
Love February
I have a friend who doesn’t understand my love of kdramas. She doesn’t believe that anyone intelligent could possibly enjoy them. (Meanwhile, I often feel I’m not clever or emotionally astute enough to keep up with the discussions on here!) But I no longer try to explain it and I think she accepts it as one of my idiosyncrasies.
I don’t believe it’s actually possible to explain my love for kdramas in a way that would make sense to her. Why does anyone like the colours or the flavours that they like? I could list a number of reasons, some more compelling than others, but reasons are almost the afterthought – the love came first, and the reasons why only followed because somehow, a justification was required.
Kdramas came into my life at a time when I needed comfort and support in a way that could not be provided by anyone or anything else. I needed to live and feel through stories because my real life was too hard. I rewatch some of the first dramas I discovered much like I would snuggle under an old blanket. These shows created an invisible fortress that kept me warm and allowed me to grow strong again when I was chilled and vulnerable. Are these dramas critically acclaimed or objective masterpieces? No, and sometimes, I find myself explaining why I think a particular show is good when, like my love for dramas, the love came first. The reasons? They’re just the words I use to try and explain something almost too intimately personal about myself.
Linarrick
February 11, 2023 at 1:00 AM
Just go with the typical kdrama line
Why you like this or that person?
Just because…
Why do I like kdramas?
Just because…
And I think that answer is more than enough 😊
Linarrick
February 11, 2023 at 1:25 AM
Or use another infamous kdrama line
Why do you like this or that person?
Because they are pretty!
Why do I like kdramas?
Because they are pretty!
And boi are they P-R-E-E-T-Y!
Call me shallow or whatnot but calling me UNINTELLIGENT….
Yeah well I agree on that point
But maybe to your friend kdramas are lowbrow (some of my friends also don’t get my unabashed love) but to call all kdramas stupid is like saying every drama or series from every country is stupid. And if they don’t like or watch TV at all….fair enough can’t argue with that..it’s like debating with a vegan (and I fully respect and support our wonderful vegans who are doing the lord’s work to stop climate change, just can’t do it myself)
But I’ll stick with my lowbrow entertainment thanks, and I’ll be there with you enjoying our sweet sweet P-R-E-E-T-Y kdramas
SnarkyJellyfish
February 11, 2023 at 8:51 AM
I learned to stop justifying my love of dramas (or anything, really) a while ago. But more than that, people should be allowed to love what they love. It has nothing to do with intelligence (though, when people try to make this argument to me about dramas, I point out that there are many intelligent, well written, beautifully made dramas that could give western shows a run for their money).
I also found drama when I needed comfort and support, and I’m always grateful to that. It doesn’t matter to me why I love them, just that I do. Just like you said, what really determines what makes us love something?
Eazal
February 12, 2023 at 1:41 AM
You are not alone in having “the look” when talking about dramas. Only when people watch one and actually like it, understand why you are hooked. But I usually get the: the names are strange, I never know who they are talking about, or… it’s not dubbed into Spanish.
So by now I just smile and nod and don’t try to justify anything. I have a coworker that always recommends me tv shows. I’ve told him many times that right now I only watch dramas, but he keeps on. So whenever he asks me: have you seen this or that, I just tell him: not yet, but it’s on my watch list.
Same goes with my love for kpop. How can an adult woman love those kids that are all the same. Yes, yes. I nod. I don’t even want to explain why I love my idols and how I’m planning a trip to attend a concert in Korea because 2PM has announced they would have concerts this year.
I just smile and nod. I am happy, that is all that matters.