Why does Na Hee Do’s mum do everything in her power to make their relationship even more sour? She’s the adult and she should be the one to extend an olive branch. Instead of the constant criticism, one word of appreciation or acknowledgment would go a long way. It must be pride. NHD can be immature, yes but she’s the kid. The way she talks to her daughter can be so terrible and hurtful.
You can’t continue to bank on your good intentions when your actions don’t reflect it. We, as the audience, are aware that she loves her daughter. But of what use is the knowledge if the recipient doesn’t feel it? Especially when NHD has expressed how lonely she’s felt and how much of her mother’s approval she craves? Do you know how sad it is to feel like the world is against you and not have any safe haven to run to? Even worse, your home is the last place you want to be when you feel alienated.
She’s probably banking on some understanding when NHD gets older. And maybe she will understand her mum better but it won’t erase the years of loneliness and the feeling of abandonment. NHD’s mother does love her but in some ways, she’s failed as a parent, IMO.
Its IMF.. people have lost jobs, lost money.. she is a single mother in a partriachal society.. she has to raise her daughter all on her own while paying for her expensive sports interest..
compare to YR… she actually wins and yet sees her family struggle to support her sports interest..
When has HD shown even a bit of maturity compared to girls her age – gold medalist and YR .. both excel at something, both support their parents despite parents being unable to give them everything..
Is mom not to blame.. no, mom needs to be more warm towards HD.. but then some people have their personalities.. if HD gets a way out for how she behaves, mom gets a way out too.. both of them need to understand each other and come closer.. both have lost someone precious (supportive dad Vs supportive husband in a patriarchal society)
Thing is HD is the child and should be taught by the mum. But the way mum communicates is constant criticism so is it any wonder HD gets defensive. How is she suppose to support Mum when she never talks to HD properly? She doesn’t even bother to wish HD well before the comp or call to congratulate or check on her post-comp. Then she has the gall to act like she’s taking the moral high ground by being impartial on the news. I was actually quite pissed by the convo btw grandma n Min Chae abt the news.
also, mother in ths case , i think is like dads in other dramas..
they do things behind the back but struggle with emoting..is that good, no.. it is a two way street..for both ladies to walk on.. HD is also quite rude to her at all times
HD doesn’t fail at all as a child in my book. She strikes me as a child trying to survive a selfish narcissistic parent and succeeding greatly in spite of that. She’s introspective, motivated (to succeed in fencing), and able to keep a sweet innocent part of herself safe in spite of being on her own so much of the time. She shows great maturity in some ways.
I felt the same frustration. She wasn’t even asking for her time. All Hee Do wanted to hear was “You did well. Congratulations”
Even if she had no choice but to read the news, Coach Yang already gave her an olive branch. She failed that simple task.
That’s where Yi Jin got it right. Even though he scolded her, she saw he was on her side through his actions.
Action, they say, speaks louder than words. If you don’t put your feelings into actions, it won’t reach anyone, mum.
It’s really baffling. I would think as a parent, one of the worst feelings would be finding out your child felt that they couldn’t come to you with their problems. After Hee-do said as much in the first episode I thought her mom would put at least a little effort into mending their relationship
Because she’s of the generation that doesn’t say “I love you,” or you did great or anything supportive to their children. Ask me how I know. I was raised by a mom just like that and I find myself sometimes being overly critical of my own kids.
IamPilgrim
March 6, 2022 at 8:44 AM
Why does Na Hee Do’s mum do everything in her power to make their relationship even more sour? She’s the adult and she should be the one to extend an olive branch. Instead of the constant criticism, one word of appreciation or acknowledgment would go a long way. It must be pride. NHD can be immature, yes but she’s the kid. The way she talks to her daughter can be so terrible and hurtful.
You can’t continue to bank on your good intentions when your actions don’t reflect it. We, as the audience, are aware that she loves her daughter. But of what use is the knowledge if the recipient doesn’t feel it? Especially when NHD has expressed how lonely she’s felt and how much of her mother’s approval she craves? Do you know how sad it is to feel like the world is against you and not have any safe haven to run to? Even worse, your home is the last place you want to be when you feel alienated.
She’s probably banking on some understanding when NHD gets older. And maybe she will understand her mum better but it won’t erase the years of loneliness and the feeling of abandonment. NHD’s mother does love her but in some ways, she’s failed as a parent, IMO.
alasecond
March 6, 2022 at 9:21 AM
But HD fails as a child too..
Its IMF.. people have lost jobs, lost money.. she is a single mother in a partriachal society.. she has to raise her daughter all on her own while paying for her expensive sports interest..
compare to YR… she actually wins and yet sees her family struggle to support her sports interest..
When has HD shown even a bit of maturity compared to girls her age – gold medalist and YR .. both excel at something, both support their parents despite parents being unable to give them everything..
Is mom not to blame.. no, mom needs to be more warm towards HD.. but then some people have their personalities.. if HD gets a way out for how she behaves, mom gets a way out too.. both of them need to understand each other and come closer.. both have lost someone precious (supportive dad Vs supportive husband in a patriarchal society)
parkchuna 🍉
March 6, 2022 at 9:11 PM
Thing is HD is the child and should be taught by the mum. But the way mum communicates is constant criticism so is it any wonder HD gets defensive. How is she suppose to support Mum when she never talks to HD properly? She doesn’t even bother to wish HD well before the comp or call to congratulate or check on her post-comp. Then she has the gall to act like she’s taking the moral high ground by being impartial on the news. I was actually quite pissed by the convo btw grandma n Min Chae abt the news.
alasecond
March 7, 2022 at 12:22 AM
but we don’t know the beginnings.. so can’t form opinion..
When the story starts.. HD is already a bad student, focusing on fencing but clearly not going anywhere with it
alasecond
March 7, 2022 at 12:24 AM
also, mother in ths case , i think is like dads in other dramas..
they do things behind the back but struggle with emoting..is that good, no.. it is a two way street..for both ladies to walk on.. HD is also quite rude to her at all times
mugyuljoie is preciousss
March 7, 2022 at 3:52 AM
HD doesn’t fail at all as a child in my book. She strikes me as a child trying to survive a selfish narcissistic parent and succeeding greatly in spite of that. She’s introspective, motivated (to succeed in fencing), and able to keep a sweet innocent part of herself safe in spite of being on her own so much of the time. She shows great maturity in some ways.
zitless
March 6, 2022 at 9:43 AM
I felt the same frustration. She wasn’t even asking for her time. All Hee Do wanted to hear was “You did well. Congratulations”
Even if she had no choice but to read the news, Coach Yang already gave her an olive branch. She failed that simple task.
That’s where Yi Jin got it right. Even though he scolded her, she saw he was on her side through his actions.
Action, they say, speaks louder than words. If you don’t put your feelings into actions, it won’t reach anyone, mum.
Cori
March 6, 2022 at 5:25 PM
It’s really baffling. I would think as a parent, one of the worst feelings would be finding out your child felt that they couldn’t come to you with their problems. After Hee-do said as much in the first episode I thought her mom would put at least a little effort into mending their relationship
Ally
March 6, 2022 at 6:35 PM
Because she’s of the generation that doesn’t say “I love you,” or you did great or anything supportive to their children. Ask me how I know. I was raised by a mom just like that and I find myself sometimes being overly critical of my own kids.
alasecond
March 7, 2022 at 12:25 AM
yes to that..
generations and society views on a lot of soft skills can vary drastically