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Live Your Own Life: Episodes 42-43 (Drama Highlights)

Hyo-shim and Mi-rim end up back at square one after learning that Dad has moved from his currently listed address. But while Mi-rim seemingly moves on from the search to become the family’s clown, Hyo-shim persists by handing out missing persons posters until someone recognizes Dad’s picture. Looks like there’s still a bit of hope to find him after all. Speaking of dads, the high and mighty Ru-bi is rendered speechless after learning that Hyo-sung took out the loan to pay for her extra classes. She turns over a new leaf and tearfully promises to be less selfish and more understanding of her dad’s sacrifices. Who would have thought the family’s loan shark would be the one to humble Ru-bi?

Back to the chaebols, Tae-min returns home seeking explanations from Sook-hyang, but it’s all excuses and more excuses on her part. Poor Tae-min finally buckles under the weight of all that makjang and ends up sick. Tae-hee also returns home after divorcing Hyo-do, and Sook-hyang takes out her frustration by hitting her daughter repeatedly until Mr. Yeom can no longer stand it. Armed with the knowledge of Tae-min’s birth secret, Tae-hee asks Yeom the million dollar question: “Are you my birth father?” He maintains his silence, but his body language — and subsequent conversation with Sook-hyang — does all the talking. Anyway, Tae-hee manages to pluck out a strand of Mr. Yeom’s hair after getting him drunk. Ain’t nothing like a good ol’ DNA test to get the confirmation she needs.

Chairman Kang keeps up his cry baby act, but he finally admits to killing Tae-ho and Tae-min’s birth parents. He confesses to Tae-min that he went after his brother to commit a murder-suicide that day, but he got scared and changed his mind. Through a flashback, we see that Chairman Kang swerved off the road at the last minute and passed out after crashing into some barricades. But when he regained consciousness, his brother’s car had already rolled off the cliff and caught fire. So if Chairman Kang wasn’t the one who actually crashed into his brother, who did?

 
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Here’s what we did not see: Tae-min racing to the airport to stop his wife from leaving the country. So much for that relationship. Nor did we see Hyo-do deciding that he should reconcile with Tae-hui. The first one reflects a serious lack of imagination (or energy?) by the writer. The second turns out to be a case of Noble Idiocy on the part of Hyo-do (also not too imaginative)- but for once it was a surprise in its own way.

On the other hand, we finally did have a solid explanation for Dragon Lady- her total insecurity as someone who did not have a son for the Kang family (nor really give them even a daughter?) and why she wanted to marry Tae-hui off to another Chaebol family.

So, as Unit notes, Tae-hui plucked a hair from Mr. Yeom’s head to confirm by DNA testing that he is really her biological father. Given that this writer has come to depend upon surprises rather than romance I am going to hazard a possibility the next big birth secret reveal may be that he is not. Writer-nim has not delivered much on the potential secondary romances (even Hyo-jun and Mi-rim are not that romantic) and so has come to depend upon such surprises. Right now, we all think that Mr. Yeom is baby daddy so the big surprise would be if he were not. I am not saying that this will be so- just raising the possibility.

The brightest spot in this week’s episodes has to have been the visit of Ruby and Philip to the Indangsu Loan Shark. It was wonderful to see him teaching Ruby a lesson by proving to her (beyond a reasonable doubt) that he (who was 300th in his class- an academic failure) was actually a very good son to his parents while she has just been draining her parents financially. He calls her a ‘money sucking machine” while in contrast his mom owns over 80 acres in the countryside.

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Loan Shark is turning out to be the best character of the show. 😃
He is often the voice of reason.

Secretary Yeom is probably the father and I'm afraid that he and Dragon Mom are also behind the accident. Afraid, because I want Taehee to be happy.

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Mr. Yeom probably is the father but I wanted to point out that there is another possibility and why our plodding writer might turn to it.

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As many of us presumed, SK was a minor character that was suddenly elevated to a support role in an attempt to boost TM's story line and put an "outside threat" to the company into the plot. But the writer failed to deliver interest and drama between the two so she was quickly dropped from the show.

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Which was really stupid on the part of the writer. There was absolutely no need for that phantom (and impossible) outside threat to the company while the alternative reason why Chairman Choi might want to marry his daughter to Tae-min (and why Grandma was appalled) was more than plausible but quite dramatically logical.

The real problem is not that writer-nim did not deliver interest but that our writer did not even try. Having set up a perfect enemies to lovers romance (with grandma against it) the writer simply dropped the ball, apparently so that we could have more time watching Hyo-shim's mom lying down and her children fussing over her.

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Still holding on to the few crumbs thrown our way regarding Su-kyung. In Episode 43, we discover that although the wedding photos are gone, everything else that SK brought to the house is still there - including the bed linens that Tae in snuggled into. The lamps, artwork, feminine items on the dresser, the small turquoise bench. I'm not sure what the writer/set designer are trying to communicate, but many of the items would have been easy to simply remove and others easily switched back to original.

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It would be nice if there was more to the story but what may be happening is that no one has bothered to change the set beyond removing the wedding photos. It is a pity.

Why anyone would think that the audience would like to see HS pulled back in by her mother's insane histrionics is beyond me. If she is so interested in having Hyo-jun pass the bar exam, why is she doing so much to distract him and his live in coach? But this is the story we are being fed instead of exploring the relationship of SK and Tae-min or seeing Hyo-do grow up, for that matter.

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Re: Tae Hee. I could not figure out why she was featured in the very end of Ep. 44 with Tae Min and Jin Bum. It looks as if she got instant DNA results and that's why she was somberly walking into the house. But why peak into the Chairman's office? And at that very critical moment?

One of the more sad parts this weekend was when Tae Hee said that Tae Min would kick her out of the house if he discovered they weren't related - Tae Min would never do that, of course. Somehow, I think Dragon Mom led Yeom to believe that he was Tae Hee's father - and that's how she kept him on her leash all these years. Whether it's true or not, we shall see - Mr. Yeom has now become a sympathetic character because of his willingness to sacrifice for the one life he values - Tae Hee.

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That's an interesting theory - that Yeom is NOT the bio dad, but believes he is.

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I'm here for the bromance of Taemin and Taeho. 😍
Taeho is now full of admiration for his Hyung 🙂 and ready to fight for him... and Taemin needs someone who will support him wholeheartedly.
And perhaps Taehee will join them?

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You and me both, sister! I do find I’m watching way more of the scenes (even those—gasp!—without the Kang brothers) than I was 15 episodes ago though…

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Me too. I wish to see more of that. Bored with pretty much all of the others

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Don't they look good together? 😁 Despite its flaws, this series has really kept me hooked every weekend, especially since ep 25. The bromance is making it even better.

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Yes, @unit , Mirim the Top Lawyer serves now as a comic relief. 🤦‍♀️ Why? 왜??

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I found that scene so horrible, I started questioning my choices in life! But then I found myself thinking that there must be someone else in this world who really does find this funny, or they wouldn’t be doing this!

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The writer? I don’t think anyone with half a brain would find it amusing.

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They decided to give “finding the dad” to Hyo Shim though MiRim started it. I guess this was all that was left for Mi Rim

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I have been led to believe that the main audience for weekend dramas are Korean middle aged (or older) women. I presume that is why main leads of popular weekend dramas often talk about getting free banchan (side dishes) when they go to food stalls or get recognised by all the market storekeepers (I've seen a hilarious clip of all the old ladies in a market following Ji Hyun Woo around after they recognised him as the "Chairman" from YLAG), as that's their main audience. So I guess all the scenes we find unfunny must be funny to Korean ajummas! Mind you, I never found any of the Shakespearean comic relief scenes funny either, and can only conclude that they must have been funny to people in England in the 1500-1600s. Humour must be a very subjective thing.

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Thank you for this explanation. The only truly comic scene in this show as the cameo of our trot singer as the salesman at the furniture gallery who is following and reporting on our lead characters.

Maybe you are right about the target audience, and they do find it amusing.

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I was really disappointed in those scenes. Mi-rim is too smart for this, and it is past time that Hyo-jun confronted his mother over her treatment of his wife. At least he has been pulling Mi-rim out of these scenes.

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“How much money in gifts did you squander” just when I thought Hyo Shims mom couldn’t get any worse. lol
With episode 42 I lost a lot of respect for Mi Rim. More specifically the writer who wrote her scenes. Not that there was a lot to start off with. But seriously wth?
Finding HS’s father doesn’t seem like a big deal to me. Is it just me? I mean it’s good they find him, but there is nothing nail biting about it

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Mirim.... a big disappointment.

(Mom is at least consistent 😆).

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Yay to the awkward TM/TH bromance scenes. They make a formidable team. Tae Min was trained to run the company so has the experience, but lacks any emotional intelligence or empathy. In his own words, he was not able to see things objectively at all. Tae Ho has all the emotional intelligence and empathy and kindness that Tae Min lacks, but was not trained to run the company and does not have any real power within the company the way Tae Min does. Have the two working together at last and we have an A team, as each has what the other lacks. Tae Min can finally appear on screen without annoying the hell out of me now that he is no longer a blind puppet to his parents etc. etc. He has also very finally apologised to Tae Ho, who bless him, holds no grudges now and is just happy to have a hyung.

Like most, I suspect there was more to the accident than what Tae Min's "dad" recalls, as he was passed out for a bit. Nevertheless, he did drive head on towards them with every intention of killing them all, is convinced that he did cause their deaths and yet lied about it over and over again. No wonder he is a guilty mess. The way he drove at them, even if he swerved at the last minute, could very well have caused their deaths. Therefore, even if ultimately someone else was involved while he was passed out, he is still culpable for the intention to murder, carrying out the act (albeit swerving at the last minute), running away from the scene and then lying about it over and over again. He is still not at all innocent and Tae Min v.1 was still wrong to protect him at all cost while throwing everybody else under a bus. Tae Min v.2 will do the right thing and allow a proper investigation.

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I hope and expect that you are right. Even if someone else is involved Attempted Murder is extremely serious in and of itself. But perhaps there is something else to this accident, as you said.

And the two brothers working together has been the nicest thing in these last episodes and as you point out they make a great team.

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From the mid-point of the show, I've always had a different take on the accident.

Former Detective: “We examined the tire tracks on the road and found out there was another car that caused the accident”. Meaning – another car that either rammed into or hit Jun Bum’s car. “It was in a remote area. . . .so no cameras". (at that point? Of Course there was another car!)

Tae Min knows about the tire tracks - that's why he, the intelligent man that he is, knows that there was a 3rd car.

Jin Bum didn’t hit his brother’s car. He swerved and crashed into the mountain. That’s why he kept telling TM that “I didn’t kill them”. However, Jin Bum believes he indirectly caused the accident – so he feels guilty.

sometimes it isn’t just what you DO see on the screen – sometimes it is what you DON’T see. Prior episodes have shown the car going over the cliff and rolling down the hillside. We didn’t see that in Episode 43 – and it would have been easy to insert those scenes. Nope. We now know that Jin Bum was unconscious - and it would have been easy for the writer to keep him conscious if indeed the car immediately went over the cliff.

I may be wrong of course, but I believe we will see more scenes with Mom and Dad, stopped on the edge of the cliff and then another car comes and rams into them.

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The all-nighter bro-bonding to meticulously solve all the pressing legal and public relations disasters was as expected as TH appears to finally have some respect for TM. It leads to women’s fan service sauna time (TM pending). And to further show the awkward paradox between the two - -- they order a bottle of breakfast soju to go with their hangover soup!

As Mirim and HS wander the neighborhood for Lost Dad, my eye was drawn to a mural of legendary Korean major league pitcher Ryu Hyun-jin but with his head covered by a flyer. (No TV appearance fee for you!) Their detective work leads to many dead ends, including the realtor not recognizing the CGI picture of Lost Dad, who is using agents to buy and sell his residences.

HS’ mom continues to be a one-note money-on-the-mind cardboard character. But she seems more reasonable than Hyo Joo and Mirim’s juvenile fighting. (How is this supposed to endure them to the audience?) The writer/director have made a huge mistake by turning Mirim into an obnoxious cartoon character who for weeks has not gone back to her law office. Meanwhile, the mature couple, Hyo Sung’s family, is teetering on an anger meltdown as distracted Rubi decides revenge on Taesan.

It was a slight surprise that Tae Hee signed the divorce papers and left the restaurant to fail under Hyo Do’s lack of competence. Yeah, he will know he screwed up big time. Tae Hee returning home to her blubbering, victim crying mother was hard to see. They both blame each other for the divorce. But as bad as Evil Mom’s conniving plans have been, the idea that she conceived to get a “real” son that turned out to be a hated daughter is beyond reproach. (The scene further confirms Yeom as Dad.)

TM finally has serious talk with Evil Mom and asks the serious question: why did you hide the secret for so long? Her reply that she “adopted” him as her son (not in a legal way) because of Grandma. But then she says she had a hard time raising him by blaming his real parents for taking an interest in TM. TM cuts off her rant to ask why she ruined Taesan. She blames her incompetent husband to make sure all his projects would be successful so she had to have a slush fund. (Could not a huge corporation hire competent managers to help him?) Evil Mom spoke a lot of truth in their talk, but TM plays his worn martyr card once again to say TH will take over cleaning up the company. The final question was about locking up Grandma where she states the reason was that her husband killed his birth father and Grandma knew all about it. With his outside breakdown, will TM’s cathartic moment change him?

Yeom getting Tae Hee fried chicken from her divorced husband’s place was insensitive (probably because Yeom lacks empathy and sympathy due to his 40 years as being the family fixer/enforcer.) Tae Hee figured out the first birth secret when TM was crying outside her room then asks for confirmation of her own parents.

The cliffhanger is a man who remembers Lost...

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... Dad, who we assume is playing “Chopsticks” at a music school.

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That sauna fan service™ worked. There's a gif on the Fan Wall for those persistent enough to find it 😂

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The soju between brothers is a very important and symbolic scene. The ritual of family acceptance between hyung and dongsaeng.

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...as emphasized by the fact that "all too late" (in the elevator afterwards) Tae-min leaned in a bit too close to Tae-ho to say, "Do I smell like booze? I probably shouldn't have had that drink now that I'm heading into work."

I was with Tae-ho, mystified a bit...but realized that what was being revealed was that Tae-min drank with his brother for the bonding, placing his relationship with brother above his work obligations. It was really sweet. Indeed, perhaps it was even how he reciprocated Tae-ho's chatterbox-y/overwhelming, "I want to get to know you really bad, hyung!!" banter in the sauna. 🥺

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Those two are the most adorable couple in the drama.

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Episode 43 opens with Hyo Joo suddenly being the super caring boyfriend to Mirim. Their relationship is too out-of-whack to be invested in. And speaking of being too invested, HS drops everything to go 25 miles north of Seoul to meet the man who knows Lost Dad. But the cliffhanger was another misdirection; Dad is long gone. (Are we going to have a game of hide and seek until the conclusion of the series?)

Tae Hee continues to remark that her family is a mess; and jabs Yeom that he could have blackmailed the family to own his own company and live in luxury. She then speculates that Evil Mom and Yeom really wanted to take over Seojin Group (the same size as Taesan?). Tae Hee tells Yeom the nuclear bomb truth: once TM finds out that she is not his sister, everyone, including herself, will be booted to the streets.

Evil Mom side-blames TH for the family mess since he failed to get his doctorate degree and become a California university professor. TH does put a little arrogant spin on his statement Evil Aunt’s reign of Taesan is over, but she is right that if she goes down so does TH (as I mentioned last week, TH confessed to his own embezzlement to the prosecutor). Then, Evil Mom blames Yeom for all her problems. That is a tiresome whine. She then shocks him with compensation if he takes the fall for everything! So much for 40 years of loyal personal service to the queen.

Rubi’s hot-headed misbehavior has her going to the loan shark for no apparent reason. A crying Pilip and defiant Rubi entrance was bad, makjang bad. Once again, it is the loan shark that brings common sense and truth to the people he talks to (he is the unsung hero of the series so lacking in common sense.) HS gets her extra daily steps running to the loan shark’s office.

After hours, Yeom goes to TH to “confess” to all the Taesan crimes. Of course, TH knows better. Afterward, Yeom looks like he knows this plan will not work so the alternative solution that comes to mind is to get rid of TH. But a play date with Tae Hee puts him off track and out-of-character, including drunken bonding time with his daughter --- her plan to get a DNA sample.

Did Hyo Do ever say he loved Tae Hee to her face? At least he is starting to realize that being a leech can hurt other people. And Pilip took the loan shark’s words to heart and tries to give up golf lessons to save the family money. Good for him. Rubi did make an excellent point: where was TH when Dad lost his job and got beat up by company men? Rubi calls her dad great which is another daughter-dad bonding moment (something that HS clearly needs, too.) She also takes the loan shark’s words to heart to cut back on academy costs for the sake of the family.

TM has his own character reversal happening as he is now repulsed and detests Evil Mom. Chairman Kang has given up and is ready for full doom to punish him. TM presses him with the details of the Pass accident. He says he planned to kill them in a murder-suicide event...

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He drove his car right at them, swerved into a barrier and passed out. (The set design for the accident scene was also too flawed to mention.) TM’s ending question “then who killed my birth parents?” seems odd when Chairman confessed to causing the accident. Tae Hee overhearing the confession and birth secret puts the cherry on the top of her “family’s” mess.

This week there was some attempted clarity but it is difficult to see through the months of pond scum. All the mothers continue to be horrible human beings. Their children are oscillating emotional wrecks. This week I am also seeing more overacting by the cast.

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You have done a wonderful job of nailing so many things down perfectly. I applaud your clarity and agree with all of it.

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I do wonder which way they will go though? After they clean up the company together and send the baddies away, will they a) have them continuing to work as a team, b) have Tae Min step down and run an art gallery as his heart desires and hand the company to Tae Ho, or c) Tae Min becomes chairman as intended and Tae Ho is just happy to be little brother and take a step back. I am rooting for (a) mainly because the brothers look very good together......

It could go either way though as Tae Min may want to take a break after the shock of his life and finally do something he likes, Tae Ho never really wanted to be chairman and was only really doing it because he did not want his evil aunt to get what she was after an destroy the company as a result.

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I think that Tae-min becomes Chairman and Tae-ho becomes Vice-chairman as they do not want the company to fail- but I also think that both of them may work at having a better work-life balance by delegating much of that work to competent people like Hyo-shim's older brother- who will finally be paid what he is really worth.

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I also hope that Taemin will have a better work-life balance... starts smiling more... and makes his wardrobe a bit more colourful (even if he looks smexy in black 😁).

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Tae-min told Evil Mom flat-out that he thinks Tae-ho would be a better chairman than he would be...and I think that's what they've been trying to tell us everytime the two of them come into the office and Tae-min just storms by the workers, but Tae-ho stops and greets them and wishes them well.

Besides, I want TM to run his mom's art gallery, find someone to love, and for us to see some of his artwork!!!

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Wow, I saw that office scene totally different than you!

Tae Min - the leader of Taesan Group did not "storm" into the office - he was in a good mood after a successful night and early wake-up regimen with Tae Ho. He return-bowed to the employees and said "Hello" - just as he always has.

Tae Ho, on the other hand, did NOT return-bow to the employees but he gave his cheery greeting and told them to "get to work" - which they were already doing. At which point, he realized that he was slightly drunk and noticed Tae Min already at work.

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@kathryn51 I'm happy to continue to differ, but to clarify, I feel that this is the way that these two men have been characterized as they walked into the office for the entire drama, not solely on the morning after the great hyung-donsaeng soju exchange!!! 😂

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Tae Min and Tae Ho's way of walking into the office has been consistent throughout the drama. Tae Min is more formal and Tae Ho more informal and personable. Neither are good or bad, they just have different personalities.

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And, also beyond greeting staff nicely, actually run the business ethically and not using corporate and other kind of thugs. Systemic changes across the board are clearly necessary in Taesan.

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HOW LYOL SHOULD/COULD/WOULD END:

Tae Ho convicted of embezzlement by directing Park to send money to his account.
Madam Jang convicted of conspiracy to embezzle funds with Yeom.
Yeom convicted of conspiracy to embezzle funds with Jang as well as security/accounting fraud.
Chairman Kang found mentally incompetent to stand trial so he is sent to mental hospital for life.
Hyo Sim does not marry TH because mother objects to a criminal son-in-law in her family. HS moves out of Seoul to start an independent life on her own. But she runs into Lost Dad who is having a happy outing with his “second family.” She does not introduce herself to him.
Tae Min is appointed chairman but after a year he leaves the company after divesting all his shares to move to a temple retreat to find himself.
Hyo Sung is not reinstated at Taesan so he joins Hyo Do to run the chicken restaurant.
Hyo Joon and Mirim break up after HJ fails the law exam.
Grandma buys the apartment villa from Kkeut-Soon who takes the money and moves to the US.
Sun-Soon closes her cafe after KKeut-Soon leaves since she has no one to boss around.
Park becomes Ga-On’s stage manager until her career ends when her voice changes during puberty.
Taesan, the alleged SK corporate whale, gets beached and broken up by financial regulators into its separate corporate pieces.
Tae-Hee and the Loan Shark reunite to form a highly profitable, legitimate, consumer loan company.

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This seems a little too real for our writer

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Imaginative.

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While I am enjoying the brothers’ bonding, I am having a hard time with what caused it. Nothing changed aside from the fact that they’re not cousins, they’re biological brothers. So TH is willing to overlook everything for a brother but not a cousin?

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With Hyo Shim firmly under her mothers thumb again, I think this show should be called “Live your own life, cos we sure won’t”

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😂😂
I was also thinking Why is Hyoshim constantly making some porridge?? 🙄😁

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Why is Hyo-shim constantly making some porridge??

Why is Hyo-shim no longer making curry??

Why is Landlady constantly blending grains in the cafe's sitting area and not in the kitchen??

Why do they never eat at the Kang family home?

Wh

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Hyo Shim’s character could’ve been so much better. This writer really dropped quite a few balls

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This is the best qn ever. And, an existential one! Thanks for making me laugh!

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He is not overlooking anything.
What changed is that they started communicating.
And that Taemin finally stopped being blindly filial and sees the true colours of his adopted parents. (I hope.)

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Tae Min's rose-colored glasses came off several weeks ago before the "big" reveal. But he still tried to protect them (filial piety, after all). But when he found out that Dragon Mom wasn't his real mother, he suddenly realized that she never loved him and had been using him all these years. That's what that major series of flashbacks meant.

As for his father - he still loves him and it doesn't matter if he isn't the bio dad. He also knows his true colors - a kind and loving man, also an alcoholic and incompetent at work.

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So painful for Taemin.
And Dragon Mom is still trying to use her serpent tongue on him... I hope Taemin stays firm.

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Well i was talking about how they were butter enemies with TH planning to run against him and making all kinds of threats. They all just disappeared as soon as grandma said “you’re bio brothers

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Because Tae Min is now no longer on the side of evil aunt and no longer trying to cover up her tracks. So there is no longer any need to go against him. They now both have the same aim, which is to save the company.

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Actually, they were very close when they were younger- before Grandma sent TH away. In fact, the only possible reason she would have done that is because she was afraid that these 'cousins' who were acting like brothers would realize that they were in fact brothers and as long as her husband was alive that would be a disaster.

Of course, the whole hand the child over to the older son was idiotic and utterly implausible but I am just going with the 'logic' offered by writer-nim here.

Remember that from the very first time we see TH and TM together TH is always addressing TM as 'hyung'- even when he is mad at him. That is a habit from childhood.

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Deconstructing the Tae Min/Tae Ho scenes in Ep. 42/43.

Since I’m planning a trip to South Korea sometime in the future, it was important – critical, dare I say – that I learn the intricacies of Soju Etiquette. But I went down a rabbit hole when it comes to business/elder/ chaebol etiquette. If others have a different take (especially the soju etiquette part), I would enjoy hearing it.

1. Office: After an all-nighter and expression of gratitude by TM, TM tells TH to get some rest – this is his only chance. When asked, TM says he is “getting a shower”. TH follows (like the cute puppy that he is.)
2. Sauna: Tae Ho is fidgeting (like a puppy!) and TM tells him he’s making him dizzy/nervous (Kocowa/Viki). Tae Ho begins to blabber about. . . nothing and TM lets him. Add a bit of mentoring: he doesn’t really like saunas, but it helps him after an all-nighter. When he’s done, he’s done. And again, Tae Ho follows. Tae Ho is behaving like the “junior”.
3. Breakfast: TH learns that TM frequently has all-nighters with the directors and that’s why he has “hangover soup”. TM suggests a bottle of Soju and TH shouts the order. And here is where it got interesting to this Westerner. Tai Min grabs the bottle and begins to pour both glasses and says “It’s okay”, meaning, (I think?) TH didn’t need to treat him as his senior or elder.
4. The Elevator: again, I might be wrong, but I believe the normal practice (at least based on my kdrama viewing) is that the junior would press the floor button. But TM didn’t stand on protocol – they are equals.
5. Finally, when the two men entered the office. Everyone stood up and bowed for TM (perfectly normal) and he also slightly bowed and said “hello”. Tae Ho? Hahaha, the guy waltzes in, no bows, gives his cheerful puppy greeting and tells them to get to work, which they are already doing.

Writer-nim makes it clear that Tae Min is THE Leader of Taesan Group. Tae Ho can’t do it on his own and he knows it and there is no way he will let Tae Min walk away. Of course, if he really wants to be the good brother, he should tell TM to fly to the USA and bring Su-kyung back!

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I differ a bit about what the show is saying about the brothers' different leadership capabilities (see above), but not in any important way. I think they're showing that Tae-ho would be a more caring boss than Tae-min has been...and Tae-min has said outright that he thinks that his brother's approach is the better one. But frankly, what's really going on is that Tae-min has a more authoritative style--perhaps we could consider that "old-fashioned?"--and Tae-ho a more touch-feely one--perhaps more "21st-century?"

Now, for the booze. I'm not Korean, but I do watch a lot of Korean people drink, and I watch them drink A LOT :). Here are my two-cents'-worth on the soju etiquette, since you asked for more input!

Yes, the two of them were negotiating seniority. Tae-min was behaving as a caring older brother insisting that he pour the drinks when it is not the done thing for the senior to pour their own drinks or the drinks of his junior. But that's part of the etiquette--he wasn't breaking etiquette. When a senior makes this effort, the junior still needs to make the hand gestures you saw Tae-ho making, sort of like he was emphasizing the drink in his own hand when his brother poured it, but then also pointing with his full hand towards his brother's glass when Tae-min poured his own drink. Also, Tae-ho turned his head fully to the side when drinking in front of his hyung, which is a requirement of a junior in the full etiquette.

So, in sum, yes, Tae-min was showing that he cared for his brother by pouring the drinks, but he was not leaving the etiquette at all. The next time they drink together, they might go back to doing it "right" where Tae-ho alone handles the soju bottles.

But, IMO, the real act of caring was that Tae-min suggested drinking at breakfast so that the two of them could do this little ritual, as @dorotka also pointed out above!!

PS: Soju gives me the WORST headaches, but I really quite like it a lot (unfortunately).

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Very interesting view (junior pours first) on the soju . I was relying on this article - which says it's the senior who pours the first drink. https://www.tripzilla.com/soju-drinking-etiquette/115797

Tae Min will be the chairman/chief executive officer. He's the public face of the corporation - in the USA, the CEO is the one who speaks for the company and interfaces with the outside world. In a crisis, it was Tae Min who knew how to deal with each issue. The Chief Operating Office ("vice-chairman") is the one who deals with the internal running of a company - that's why Tae Ho's friendly demeanor is a strength.

Perfect fit for each man.

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Seon-ha, seniors do pour the first drink (hard liquor) for their juniors as it is within the drinking etiquette.

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To add to what @attiton wrote, Korean sauna, 찜질방, is a bit different from western saunas, it is a complex of showers, hot pools and saunas (gender divided) and resting areas and it is something what, again, brothers would do together.

I visited 찜질방 during my stay in Korea (after our Hallasan trek in Jeju) and I quite liked it, very refreshing... and of course very educative for a kdrama viewer 😄 Just... the clothes one gets are not as fancy as in dramas. 😆

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Thanks! I knew I was missing out on the significance of the sauna and soju drinking etiquette, so it's great to have you and others fill us in.

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