Episode 13 had me seething. Partly because of the way Ha Kyung seemingly brought Si Soo’s dad with her to “heal their relationship” (oh no, lady, you are too damn old not to know that was a hot stove), partly because of the utter lack of professionalism on behalf of BOTH Ha Kyung and the typhoon center director, and as a cherry on top just the total absurdity of risking everyone’s life going out on a boat during a storm only to ignore the finding (why?!) and issue an excessive forecast.

I can’t explain the whole Ha Kyung/typhoon director spat, it was that stupid. You don’t walk in swinging like that, you don’t put co-leaders on the spot, you don’t do ANY of it in front of underlings. Every single minute in the typhoon center had me seething because that’s just not how female bosses interact, at all, even in competing space. And ESPECIALLY since Ha Kyung was clearly not the boss there! At one point I yelled “WHAT are you DOING?!?” at the screen in frustration.

The only thing that helped as watching that boat plunge around as, in the interior, the occupants stood with their arms crossed. Enjoy the head wounds as you careen into sharp objects inside that ship, kids! And puke all over the place. When you’re on high seas like that, you cling on for dear life.

I really do hate this show more every single week. Never set a show in a weather center again, and keep this writer away from any professional context that’s meant to be taken seriously. It’s a penguin. Just say “is it public-facing? No? Then I’ll handle it, thanks.”

The ending I want:

Everyone is at the wedding of the PENGUIN COUPLE.

ML and FL are friends, but not dating. They really don't belong together. Everyone else gets a divorce (ok that's a bit drastic).

"We also get more of her backstory, and how she wanted to make a family of her own, since she felt like she no longer had one. Aww."

Unimpressed. She cheated on his previous boyfriend with someone that was in a 10 year relationship and was about to marry, just because he was the one that proposed to marry her.

"Unfortunately, Yoo-jin hints around to Ki-joon that an abortion is the better idea for them — colored by her fears of what will happen to her career, the clear bias at work (jerks!), and the less-than-desirable character of her husband. I can understand all of that, but I also wanted to reach into my screen and shake some sense into her. Girl, keep taking your iron supplements. Become a mother. This will heal more problems in your life and marriage than it creates, I promise. It’s literally what your heart has wanted all along; you just told us so."

I don't think I can imagine anything more repulsive than the two of them reproducing. In any case, I think this is all hogwash. He is a man-child unfit to be a parent (or even a lover, considering how he treated his last ex). Then again, that's what marrying the first person that proposes to you, despite knowing that they are willing to two time someone they had known for a decade, gets you. Filth that deserves each other. I think that if there is anything I agree with is that she most definitely *shouldn't* bring a child into the world only because she want one. Are they in a position to handle this? No, they are a mess, and a kid added to the situation won't make hem more stable in any imaginable world.

" colored by her fears of what will happen to her career, the clear bias at work (jerks!), and the less-than-desirable character of her husband. "

All things considered, her husband was someone that was willing to sleep with his mistress in the house and on the bed he shared with his partner of a decade, who he was about to marry. Having sex in front of said partner, I might add. Despite having the choice to call of the wedding and leave (like he then did). This is what she knew he was capable of at the time (not that she had any right to question him, given that she was the same, though of course the show basically takes mostly him to task, while she does not acknowledge, apologize for or even seem to feel guilt about her own actions... again, she did not part amicably, despite this being fully within her powers, she cheated on her long time partner and is apparently completely unrepentant about this -mistreating him instead, just because he had a different point of view that he was always upfront about... she should have left when she understood he would not marry her, certainly before sleeping with a man in a decade long relationship with a woman he was planning to marry, and frankly, she should have reconsidered marrying him because he was the first one to propose to her as well-).

This is all to say that she should not really be surprised if he treats her this way, or does to her in the future what he and her were willing to do to his decade long partner. This is the kind of person she knew he was: someone that would betray their long term partner so horrifically and disgustingly (apparently not realizing what he is saying when he keeps reminding her).

On a more general note vis a vis the career thing, it's pretty useless to make a ham fisted attempt at social criticism, when you have turned the powerful FL's character from a self assured, no bs woman in the first episodes, to someone with no self respect, that would self gaslight. The solution to cat calling is not to tell the victim to dress more conservatively. Whether The dress is appropriate is wholly besides the point. Enter FL and the man-child with bruised male ego that betrayed her physically/emotionally/financially, stalked her, pretended she continued to help him with his own job while gaslighting her, etc. (same for ML and his gf or father... they are not the problem, those abusing or betraying them are).

To be clear, not being perfect != you don't deserve to be loved. Unhappy != horrific betrayal/abuse != parting amicably. She paid for most of their stuff, he had a problem with her career taking up time (though she apologized), but we know how he thinks his male ego is more important than his wife's career, and how after having sex in front of his long time partner with his mistress -who was in a relationship with another guy-, in their own home and bed, he dares to be jealous of his wife having lived with someone else or his ex-gf dating someone.

Instead...

I find the notion that they would calmly discuss such personal matters with people that had just recently utterly betrayed their trust ludicrous and unrealistic. Furthermore, she walked in when he was having sex with his mistress in their own home and bed, for what she knows she might have had front row seats on the baby's conception. This thing traumatized and humiliated her so much that she had trust issues in her next relationship (curiously, ML's doesn't seem to have them, despite having been through the same betrayal, but then again (contrary to her ex) his ex never addresses it, or gets taken to task for it (not even by FL whose 10 year bf she slept with in front of her), on shows any guilt or remorse. None of them show any remorse or apologizes for the damage caused to their lover's long term partners, despite having casually and pointlessly hurt them when they had never done anything wrong to them (I feel the idea of him, or her, calmly sitting down and talking with the man/woman who cuckolded them ludicrous).

I still can't help but find infuriating the way they make the exes interact with their victims. They wounded them emotionally, to the point where their relationships were affected. And now they talk about very intimate topics together. The second female lead is the most problematic, since I liked her so, so much when she put her ex in her place when he tried to mess with her regarding the house, and now she is treating something that wrecked her whole life and impacted her following relationship as if it was a mere inconvenience. They are not respecting the severity and delicateness of their trauma. This is bad writing. She flagellates herself and rationalizes/lies to herself about the past, as if she had no self esteem, no self respect and was in denial.

Her ex's whole problem boiled down to her having a career. So she had to attend to some unavoidable tasks for work when they were working on the house or had to meet his classmates. She warned in advance when she knew, and apologized. This would have *clearly* not been a problem for him if the roles were reversed (see above paragraphs). Despite that, they become chummy, praises him (his current wife disagrees with him being a good husband and father, and for objectively good reasons) and self flagellate (really, being a perfectionist earned her the trauma he inflicted on her? As if he didn't have his defects -see above-, plus the cheating, which kind of overshadows everything: this is like saying that Hannibal Lecter is a good person, except for his tendency to eat your liver, or that a wife beating drunk started out good and fixed the sink... yes, but the physical abuse is kinda of the dominant factor her (emotional in her case): a wife beating drunk with a sob story is still a wife beating drunk. In general, I didn't like how emotionally traumatic events that had life altering (wrecking) consequences on their lives are suddenly brushed aside and minimized as minor inconveniences, when they had concrete impacts on their successive relationships. Her walking in on her husband having sex with his mistress, his father's life long abuse... "I am sorry" and it becomes water under the bridge? No, it's not realistic, it insults the viewer's intelligence. Furthermore, getting past trauma does not mean lying to yourself about the life altering impact and severity of the emotional wound you suffered. Nor does it does it mean trusting or wanting back in your life the people that victimized you (why would they want them in their lives in the first place?). This is poor writing that did not respect or treat seriously their trauma.