I'm not much fond of human beings so never get much personally involved with them. That's why i have clean profile.
The less you engage with others, the less troubles, issues, problems you face or get involved into. And that's how you get into least of Physical security risk or any physical danger. You don't need to be diplomatic with others, no need to have fake smiles, fake courtesy, fake kindness. No need to lie. All -ve attributes and actions are automatically eliminated.

2019 - We had talk about preparing food and there i had mentioned that i spend hours preparing food and then not even eat it. The best i ever gave to my own prepared dish was a score of 7. yes. If you can be strict with yourself then you can be strict with anyone or anything. Same rules for all. No favouritism.

Hungry > Prepare Food( to acquire 2k calories burned 1k calories) > food is not upto expectations > It lacks that perfection > Trash? that is wastage of resouces ( Born - u r taught resources r limited, never waste food, grow up - geography class - this n that resources - limited, move one business class - resources r limited, Law - resources r limited)

Resources are limited and Proper utilisation of resources. Enough to make you practical. That's where last weeks view comes from.

Now what to do with this prepared food?
Find the one who can consume it > family member > pet > stray animal > neighbour > homeless people.
Most of the time family is there for the rescue.
If not then you just have to find any homeless human being
For a Facemask - wow such kindness, such nice and generous act. Facemasks revel in it and thankfully i don;t engage with such facemasks b/c for these identities even habitual and performative action is Kindess. And then you expect human world to be a better place. As i said earlier even those leaders at top are far better than these Facemasks.

But for me - I know intentions behind the act are malicious, so this isn't a +ve or good act but sheer wastage of resources.
To get 2k i lost 1k+calories+resources and then have to burn more resources to get those required Calories.
Mother Earth has every right to punish me.

washington and oregon got a huge dump of rainfall FINALLY yesterday which should've put out the last of the wildfires... but now worries of mudslides in the scorched areas of forest...

Lots of good news to read finally! YEAH!!! Now have a good time with your sister and best friend.
I highly recommend writing letters. It is nice and doesn't take energy for her to read. Who doesn't like to get letters in the mail anymore?
You deserve some good time to take care of yourself.

Welcome back 🥳🥳

I'm so glad to hear that your friend is on the mend, and that your Dad has gotten the treatment he needs. Congratulations also on finishing the exams and for the boost to your mental health!! I hope everything keeps going well and that db will be a source of comfort if and when you need it!

ALL THE BEST FOR THE JOB HUNT!! I just got a job myself (thank god!) and I understand how tiring the whole process is. Rooting for you! Have an incredible weekend, you deserve it ❤️

@turtuallysarcastic Such wonderful news!

I'm so glad that your loved ones are recovering. People you care about falling ill is something that can deeply affect even the strongest of people.

i am so happy that things are looking up for you :) i hope you have a great time celebrating your mom's birthday with your family and enjoy seeing your family and friends! keep me updated on reply 1988!!

This makes me so happy! Glad you're feeling better and everyone is getting better around you!

Great news! Good luck with the job hunt, and in the meanwhile, have a nice time at Dramaland! 👏👏👏💚

Good news, I see! Have good time with your sister and your best friend!

congrats on your friend! thank goodness for small favors. may she recover swiftly. also happy about your father! sorry that it seems like there's been so much health turmoil.

sounds like things are looking up. tough times, but this is the shit that makes life worth living! hope you get hired, too!!!!!

So glad to hear that things are getting better

SO much good news! Congrats on finishing the exams and your friend being able to feel better. Also Happy Birthday to your mom.

This is a happy post! So glad that it's full of good news! :-)

@choijunu Happy Friday to you as well :)

Wow, that's a lot of work. I actually bought kaya when I was in SG early last year, there's still quite a few left xD

I remember in one of the Episodes of Coffee friends, someone made this jam!

Sometimes making something (even labour intensive) for yourself or your loved ones is worth the effort.

I made it a couple of times using the Pandan extract. Fresh leaves almost impossible to find here in Phoenix. But lots of work as you noted, so now I just buy it from Amazon.

sounds good! and you are so sweet for making it for him!

I saw a recipe before to use coconut cream to cut cooking time. (Coffee Friends' impact that's why I search for it too)

it was so good and kept me sweating it til the end! and oh my gosh was their daughter cute and a good little actress!

Enjoy your weekend. Treat yourself with something that makes you happy.

A few in our family have come to the conclusion that masks have helped keep us healthy from colds this summer, another benefit. I always wear it when out. I was very surprised to see a friend's wedding pics and only two people had on masks. Yes, it was outdoors, but the chairs were not distanced and the food was indoors with seating along buffet tables. This morning I am watching RBG memorial on local tv channel and everyone has on masks and chairs are distanced. Very tasteful, very moving. RIP to a great woman.

Dear Unni, I think I would be one of your family members joining the party, if I were part of the family! 😆
I don't know if you could understand me...
I actually am going to France to visit my brother, wife and children for this next two weeks vacations I have. In order to take advantage of the still yet nice weather, and I know I have heard France is again rising their co...d-19 peak... I know the news there are somehow alarming, but Ottokke??? I really miss my family from there, I have been absolutely sad about moving to the suburbs around Koln, and I feel I will die but of solitude.
So... I will travel even within the ongoing pandemic. I will take care of myself the best I can... and that's the much I can do....
Apart from this, how are you doing??? Nice to find you here...
Please, watch Brahms, I think you will love it.... 😅

Rant away. My parents, sister and I are very careful; We haven't seen my sister and her kids in person since March because my sister doesn't want to risk exposing us. The rest of my family, however, thinks it is all a hoax. It caused some drama when we didn't go to a family reunion this summer.

Enjoy your weekend.

I'm with you in the "better safe than sorry" camp!

Churches, and well, every religious place in indonesia were closed since march. Or at least here in jakarta. In its been a whole weeks of easter, two big eids for our moslems friends, and some balinese hindu holidays spent via youtube live.

Take care of yourself. And be safe.

I was not really surprised to listen to your story.

I am listening to very similar stories on my calls with my friends, those who are in India and are living with or near parents and those who live in other countries like me.

Thankfully, my mother is a retired nurse and understand the severity of the situation and both my parents are taking precautions. But most friends are really tired of trying to convince their parents (in majority cases only Dads) to be cautious.

In last month, five of my friend's parent(s) fell sick due to ignoring COVID safety measures. And in all cases, it was the father who refuse to adhere to anything. And puts their kids and wives in danger.

It’s hard when no one else takes it seriously! We don’t have a mask wearing culture here generally and the moment masks were no longer compulsory on public transport nearly everyone stopped wearing them - it’s very hard if you want to take more precautions when you’re the only one doing it and you stand out. So well done on sticking to what you’re doing.

glad you're ALONE. though i hope your fam is going to be ok. i wouldn't take the risk either.

Especially when gatherings such as churches and weddings have been shown to be super-spreader events. One church in Korea had hundreds of infections before they finally arrested the pastor that refused to stop holding them.

Rant away! I think DB is a safe place to express yourself. Sometimes you have to put yourself first. I have cancelled all family events/holidays this year and no one is also allowed to visit our home and honestly I don’t care what my husband’s family thinks. I went ballistic one time when my brother- in-law invited his co-worker without asking for my permission.
We live in an extraordinary time and I think our survival should be put in utmost importance.

I also have a very large extended family, and one side is gathering TWICE en masse for two weddings (my cousins) within a month of each other. Both also require travel for a good portion of the group coming. I told my mom that I really, really didn't like the idea of her and my parents going. She of course insisted they would follow distancing and mask rules, but of course they don't. And I totally get it, I do. We want to spend time with the people we love; we want to be able to hug them, be close to them, celebrate things and dance the night away. But the thought of one of my parents getting sick because of some dumb wedding (sorry) makes me break out into a sweat. I don't know what the answer is, since I'll be traveling back home at the end of the year myself - clearly a risk. I think you are doing it right - making the choice for you and what you feel most comfortable with. Enjoy your weekend and keep listening to yourself so well!

Keep doing what you're doing, strong relationships will survive.

I really feel you! I hope you enjoy your weekend and take care of yourself!

I'm sorry about the tough week. Keep taking care of yourself, and don't mind the rest of it. You're doing your part, and that's what counts. Hoping the weekend is better for you.

I believe in taking good care of myself so I'm not a burden to others. Wearing face masks is a must. It just isn't about myself, this is the way I tell others that I'm being considerate of them.

You've made the correct decision.

I've been lucky that my extended family and friends think masks aren't optional. I've had to dodge a few neighbors though when I walk or get the mail.

I feel for you!!!

Thankfully my parents are being sensible but we are worried for my in-laws. And we are considered weirdos for wearing masks.

A friend's 70+ year old Dad refused to sanitize his hands and wear mask saying he needs to build immunity for it is now in hospital and worse part is his wife who did follow all the process fell sick due to living in the same house.

And yes, I need The School Nurse Files to unwind too.

Look after yourself! And enjoy The School Nurse Files. I’m thinking of starting it but I really need to finish something else first.

you first! it sucks that this shit has been a debate and fucked up people's rships but of course you're right. we live in a country where we are 4% of the globe's population but have about 1/3 of the death. like....it speaks to a selfishness of others and if they don't get you and the way you feel well then. i had to yell at my best friend for being reckless bc i was furious. fuck that and take care of yourself and maybe care about the world and other ppl!!!!

i'm glad ur liking nurse files im abt to watch heh. you take care too! and i am eating an acai bowl >:)

I'm so sorry certain parts of your family insist on endangering themselves and others. Take heart that you did the right thing even if some others won't agree.

I feel you! Your well-being should be the top priority during these times.
Have a great weekend.

I won't even let anyone inside my house, I've even forbidden my grandson from visiting me. He's young and carefree--one of those that don't think anything will happen to them. I'm 76 and hope to see 80!

IU's episode of Sketchbook was INCREDIBLE! She just keeps getting better and better, truly in awe of her talent.

I meant to say a pretty kiss scene
That’s How leaving out one letter can change meaning so much!

😂 l concur wholeheartedly with your recap of Brahms, but I will continue watching. Last episode I actually said out loud to the screen, “if you’re going to walk away, WALK already🤦🏼‍♀️” because all anyone does in this show is drag themselves around. Ay-yay-yay, you kids are never going to get ANYWHERE, both literally and also in a competitive business, if you don’t start showing some forward momentum. It gets three 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️from me but it’s the only thing I’m watching now. Slumpola ☹️

Quotes from your boss about coworkers who hate you? Who does that???

Well, damn. I wish I had a magic wand to wave to make everything better. I guess do the interview because at this point maybe it's just worth a shot to see if this might be the thing?

How does he consistently out a**hat himself? And what kind of organization would employ this "manager"?

What state is the other job in?

You have been working in a toxic environment I guess.

I was like that once too. Trust me, not every working place is a horrible place.

Your boss is awpoeihft [0qw83 oqihefp0as 9y8rfvon wiryh pwae8tyoavw y35!!!!!

So my manager friends and I think you should consider visiting HR . You have proof of his terrible "management style" ( who is stupid enough to send an email like this?) and he needs a wake up call. If you think your job is really in danger, you might not have anything to lose. Maybe the perfect job is right there, where you already are, with a humane and respectful manager at a different branch.

That is so super unprofessional of him, not to mention needlessly cruel! That makes me really angry. I hope you can find a way forward soon and better things to come.

you're not doing anything wrong. life's tough. if it helps you why not try? but also weigh the pros and cons. anything you do will be okay and if you want to go back then you can.

Best thing that ever happened to me was to get fired from a job I hated. Finally forced me to wake up and figure out what I really wanted to do beside just survive.

I'm speechless, Isa. It's all so horrible. Maybe a new job on the other side of the country would be a good thing?

Wow..I’m speechless. You don’t deserve that. Well if you ever thought of moving across the country, our muni has an opened position (I’m assuming you work in a library??)

http://agency.governmentjobs.com/moa/default.cfm?action=viewJob&jobID=2847407&hit_count=yes&headerFooter=1&promo=0&transfer=0&WDDXJobSearchParams=%3CwddxPacket%20version%3D%271%2E0%27%3E%3Cheader%2F%3E%3Cdata%3E%3Cstruct%3E%3Cvar%20name%3D%27TRANSFER%27%3E%3Cstring%3E0%3C%2Fstring%3E%3C%2Fvar%3E%3Cvar%20name%3D%27CATEGORYID%27%3E%3Cstring%3E%2D1%3C%2Fstring%3E%3C%2Fvar%3E%3Cvar%20name%3D%27FIND%5FKEYWORD%27%3E%3Cstring%3E%3C%2Fstring%3E%3C%2Fvar%3E%3Cvar%20name%3D%27PROMOTIONALJOBS%27%3E%3Cstring%3E0%3C%2Fstring%3E%3C%2Fvar%3E%3C%2Fstruct%3E%3C%2Fdata%3E%3C%2FwddxPacket%3E

Other side of the country ... is 16 per hour enough to more than cover the difference in cost of living? If the interview is remote, why not go for it?

Like Egads, wish I could do something to help, to make things better!

I read your other post and I would like to say GET OUT OF THERE!! No one deserves to work in a toxic environment or work with toxic people. I was in a very toxic work environment last year and although I was not directly involved in the main problem, the people that were, created lots of small issues for those of us on the sidelines. Being surrounded by that stressful setting took a big toll on me and my close colleagues. We each had our own breakdowns and it was scary witnessing how much stress can effect us. I remember video calling my family and they were all so concerned with how worn down I was. And that was just me being on the sidelines, so I can't imagine how hard it is for you to be on the actual receiving end of all this. Although being fired might not be the best option, I would take it as a blessing in disguise, because honestly, you deserve better. Also you haven't been living your life wrongly. Life is just prepping you for something better along the way. Trust yourself. No one ever knows what the future has in store for them. You may never know what will happen at a new place too. It could be the same, it could be better. But ultimately, you must remember that you deserve to be happy and therefore, you deserve to be treated better. You got this!! We're all here for you.

Oh no, I'm sorry to hear about the college stress, Mani-chan :(

Maybe I can share my own experience for a little comfort/solidarity? After I was done with IB, I had all these big plans about going to college with my best friend in London. I was inspired by one of my cousins who went down a similar path and thrived, so I thought, wow, that's what I want for myself too! So I went ahead with the application process and long story cut short, there were some admin issues with it and I basically ended up not getting into any of my 5 choices, even though my grades were far above the minimum cut-off score. I was totally devastated at the thought of having to give up on that dream and also stay in my own city. All my close friends ended up going overseas, and it felt like I was all alone. It wasn't what I wanted, and sometimes I still wonder if I should've waited or tried to find some other route and make it to London. But I think no matter where you go, always remember that it doesn't have to be the be all and end all!

My college experience ended up being a pretty good one. I met good friends and a wonderful professor who really believed in me, so much so that he offered me work experience positions, off of which I was able to secure a really good job. Even if the situation may not be ideal from the beginning, sometimes good opportunities can still arise. I know it's all very scary right now, but remember to take a breath and not be so hard on yourself. Also, don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it! I really hope wherever you go, you'll be in a good and safe environment that works for you ❤️

Also, re: the friend. Have you tried perhaps asking her to explain why she feels/reacts that way about make-up/skincare/stuff that she considers "girly"? Sometimes, articulating thoughts out loud is a good way to see that they are not quite right/fair.

I guess I'm more than 10 years older than you. When I was much younger, everything needed to happen according to my plan in order of me to be happy. I struggled a lot when things didn't happen as I had originally planned. However, I learned this much later on.

You do things that:
1. make you happy;
2. you don't struggle doing them;
3. are beneficial both to yourself and to others.

I struggled to navigate my life to make it fit my pre-planned plan. As the result, it turned out so badly. That was when I knew that sometimes, when something didn't happen, it wasn't because you were not good enough, or the destiny was treating you badly. It might be because that was REALLY a better plan for you. Everything doesn't have to be perfect, dear. It just has to be good enough.

If the universities you have been aiming for are YOUR things, you'll get into one of them easily. Maybe this is just not the right time. If you still want to get into one of those unis next year, do so. But I'd encourage you to try going to the uni that accepted you at the moment. You might like it more than you expected.

hopefully this doesn't sound patronizing so if it does ignore me / i am sorry. but woo college. first o fall, this is unprecedented time-wise and if you couldn't wait then you couldn't wait. not only that but your teachers are right re: cost. it may not be what you want but it's also horrible that things are proceeding in uncertain times and things are that expensive. if you have a good home life it will be good to be closer.

that being said, if you do not like the school then you can always change later. it may be a difficult process and to start anew but what you want is worth chasing. however, you are not stuck and a cost efficient option is an incredibly smart decision. i am 28 and in like 280k of debt because of grad school. and why would your school limit your career options? college is what you make of it (and sometimes college is just college. a place to learn. i went it a "good" one and it was just...fine but came with a lot of debt for my parents.)

i ended up changing what i want. i always had a goal in mind but i pursued what i wanted to after. it's your life and you're young. you can do literally anything within your circumstances. try not to fear time and place as much. don't fear a future you haven't seen. just live in the moment. your'e growing and things change. and although i do not want all this debt i don't regret doing what i want. i wish i knew this when i was younger but it's helped me learn. you deserve everything. fear is just that. you live and you see what happens but you shouldn't feel left out, losing out, left behind when in the end it can be very arbitrary. money and name don't mean shit if you're unhappy.

and evaluate your personalities and the way you function in that relationship. if you're a more forceful person maybe joke about it or be bossier about what sheh thinks (idk how to word this lol i just pretty bossy and i'm like "no.") but if she says something and you don't like it—say so! and then you can explain why. i always have knowledge on hand to pull from so i can be factual if i bring up sth like this.

i'm glad you are writing!!! good luck to you! growing up sucks and is hard but as much as you can try to go with the flow; i didn't and i wish i was 1/10th as relaxed as i am now lmao

I'm sorry to hear that you don't get to go to your first choice school, but I'm going to chime in with some advice too: college is what you make of it. I know that a lot of opportunities can be had by attending certain schools and making certain connections, and I'm not going to trivialize you for wanting those things. But truthfully, in the end a good career comes from the work you put into what you pursue as much as anything else.

More than that the best way to go into college is to know what you want out of it - are you willing to try new subjects, or are you dead set on a major? Even if you know for sure where you want to go with your career, be flexible, and try new things. Make sure to try everything that interests you even a little bit at least once. My biggest regrets with my undergrad is that I didn't start branching out more until my later years. I went to uni knowing what I wanted to study, but no idea about much else (I had vague notions, but nothing concrete). I ended up keeping my major but also doing a minor and taking lots of courses on subjects that interested me (like Russian history, the crusades, media and pop culture). It allowed me to expose myself to a wider variety of ideas and to think more broadly.

That's the real goal of undergraduate education in my opinion - where you are does matter, but it is much less important than what you do while you're there. And as, others have mentioned - there is always opportunity to transfer or change schools if you truly do not like where you are. There are also always chances to study abroad, take courses at other schools or over the summer. There's no hard and fast rule in life about how to do any of this. Best of luck with everything! Remember, you still have your whole life to figure things out, and life is full of unexpected opportunities no matter where you are at.

it's a cute but boring story. surprisingly it's pretty progressive on its look about getting older and marriage and stuff. i watched it for seul gi. it's nothing special but you can watch it at your leisure or just skip around. also they are both very hot so there's that.

I'm sure there are hundreds of people who would marry Gong Yoo tomorrow if asked. So if polyamory is a legal thing in S. Korea, I'd totally move my family there and marry him. My husband has already voiced his support years ago! LOL.