What are we really doing when we are commenting on a post about comments?

It's commentary inception.

Thanks!
I totally agree with Pogo on the being single bit:

"Being paired up for its own sake isn’t going to get you the love you deserve"

Is so true. The best advice I ever received was to not settle simply because "that was the best I would be able to do, probably." I'm not saying I buy into the media 'perfect man' either, but getting together for the sake of it won't give you what you're looking for: real connection and love. Thanks for the post too, it gives me a fast track to some of the more interesting threads throughout the week!

Wow,the first comment surely made me reflect on my emotions lol. Thought I was the only one having a breakdown from a drama..It's one thing having no expectation of someone,but then you see something special like the way deok sun and taek's relationship evolved at the later period on Reply'88.I completely went awestruck over the fact that how much affected I was,watching how Taek took care of Deok Sun.Like those simple and natural waiting by her house,and then pulling her over to keep her away from the cold.Not to mention when he did not tease her at all,when she was stating the fact that she needs to be alone with her studies,unlike the other boys,he respected her privacy and assured her,he just wants to be there beside her...Or those countless times when they dated in those alleys of ssangmundong, or when he was just there beside her,without feeling the necessity to express his feelings for her. Lol,it's one thing to have no expectation,but then to see something like this,really made me sad and I thought this is absolutely stupid to wish over something which is non-existent ,and to know that chances of having something close to this is almost zero,probably,for now..More than anything,or even the family part,it took me a longer time to get over the drama,or should I say to get over the almost too good to be true relationship.

I can't believe I missed out on the 1st comment thread last week!

I saw the comment and I thought someone had hacked into my brain lol!

I am in the same situation – Indian with parents and relatives all concentrating their matchmaking energies on me when I am not even sure if I am ready for that level of commitment.

I have been the Seventh Wheel more times than I can count- and it did hurt. And then it hurt and angered me even more because I was feeling hurt over something so trivial ( i mean I still have so many things to achieve and stuff to do)

Thank you, I've missed so much wisdom from beanies! Double standards and ridiculous age gaps are a curse in the entertainment industry.
But I did catch @Cozybooks's hilarious comment about KBS and SBS' failure rivalry; it's still laugh-out-loud funny!

I'm so lucky that I'm the youngest in both my immediate and extended family (both sides! I'm totally the baby!). This means that my brothers and my 18 cousins are all going to be pressured about the whole marriage and kids thing before they get to me, haha.

I agree, much better to be single than to be with someone you don't really love. You don't want to find yourself getting divorced later on, which would just add on more stress and emotional turmoil. Of course, even couples who think they're totally in love can end up divorced, but it's still best to make sure you end up with someone you truly love and who truly loves you.

A situation just popped in my head

Mom : Don't you think its time for you to settle down
Beanie: chillax mom! Don't disturb me I'm commenting on Db. I can't be left out.
Mom : you are going to be left out of the marriage heaven , then sit mopping outside the gates with your drama obsession....
Beanie : —•—• seriously mom I'll settle after I find someone like Yoo shi jin ^^
Mom: Heh I can totally see you are gonna end up with someone like Maru ><

Andrea really hit the nail on the head with her comment on the older man/younger woman (or girl) casting trend vs. the noona romance trope! It says everything I thought when I saw any iteration of that conversation here.

I feel like I say it every week, but I really do love this feature.

This is Off Topic but I need to vent because my asian mom just threw away a pesto that I'd made, thinking that it was mouldy junk.

I never thought that getting upset could have such strong physical repercussions but I know how Dokko Jin feels now. ㅠ.ㅠ

Also, to BrownGoldenEyes, you just be strong in your singledom. If anyone says that you'll be an old maid, you just go "oh, really?" In the most monotonous and idaf way. If anyone says you're gonna die old, just say, "there's no guarantee that a husband won't die young". If someone says that marriage is happiness, you just say, "and yours?"
If worst comes to worst, hold your head up high and say, "Men. What do I need such useless things for?" (Try not to be viscious when you say that though) (And you shouldn't need them. You should want the guy you end up loving) (The 'I can't live without you' lines never made sense to me if it meant that he'll drop dead if she leaves him. It only made sense if he meant "live" as an existance that feels all human emotions and desires)

I cannot with people who pester others to get married like it's their business. I just deflect everything with my idaf idiot excuses (because it is my motto that idiot requests/demand require idiot answers/reactions) and let them drive themselves into a snit. That's what I do with my no-ability-to-recognise-heavenly-pasta-sauces mom anyway.

As always, great comments guys!

Just wanted to pop in and say that.

I can relate to that first comment so much. Also recently, my father has been giving me a lot of talks about my singledom (singlehood?) When he starts talking, I keep my silence. He likes to tell me that he worries that when I grow old, I'll be all alone if I have no kids to take care of me. He says I can't always depend on my brothers and sisters forever if they started having their own families. It's a reasonable concern for a parent. I don't like it when he starts expressing his concern, but I get it. So I listen and stay quiet.

To browngoldeyes,

I totally get you. I'm completely Indian and I don't have a dirth clucking aunties behind me, even though I'm just 22 and not even done with my education.

it has led to this absolutely ironical feeling of sadness that I feel at happy endings in kdramas. The first thought is, I'm never getting a man, then, I'm never getting men as good as these and then, what am I doing worrying about what kind of a man I'll get at 22!

I think it's just how the whole system has turned on us, and that's how we cope.

Wow! I love this discussion.
As someone who loves the romance more than anything, I understand the trouble of accepting real life in contrast to dramas.

Let's not forget, though, what less shiny realities of real life writers, directors have been able showcase.

I don't only mean the disproportionately high instances of inherited parental debt, violence from loan sharks, interfering in-laws (even before talk of marriage), jealous scheming childhood boyfriends/girlfriends, and hospitals switching infants at birth...

Alcoholism, unrealistic academic pressures, overworked and underpaid employees, favoritism in the workplace because of connections, the pressure to be thin and fashionable at all costs, the expense parents put on themselves to make sure their children have a good education, fancy weddings and even post-wedding homes, the gulf between the haves and have-nots, family violence, the importance of blood ties and the cultural opposition to adopting, the problems of the idol system in K-entertainment, ALL of that has been presented regularly, sometimes blatantly, sometimes subtlety. If the writers want to give their heroine a younger man to soothe her, I am fine with that!

Thanks for choosing my comment! :) (Though I thought you would take something from the Seo In Guk thread which had absolutely hilarious comments about SIG and his sexiness!)

I too can't believe that I missed the comment section last week.. I too am an Indian and I am really happily surprised to see so many Indians on Dramabeans.. I have not yet suffered from the "get married" syndrome but I can sense that it is just around the corner.

And yes, watching kdramas gives me immense happiness, but the immediate feeling after a romantic show ends is that of existentialism. That's because i just know that I can't find these amazing heroes in my life. But then I still haven't lost hope. I still believe that fairy-tale romances can happen in real life- after all there must be a real life inspiration behind the story- however removed from reality it is (thrice?).

Just want to mention on Taec’s casting in Bring It On. I read they changed the script to make the lead college student (I guess they heard enough complaints).

Andrea's comment was spot on. This year has been a year to cast super young women with middle-aged men. Seems like almost every drama coming this year has a huge age gap and it's very disconcerting. It's even worse when the main actress is still not of legal age, and being courted in the show by a man 10+ years older then her.

Personally, I have no problem with how big of an age gap there is but I draw the line when the actor is underage because then it's just wrong. I also wouldn't mind if a show here and there had this huge age disparity but considering there is this huge influx of shows like that this year, it is worrying. Especially since there are SO many older talented actresses out there that are getting overlooked for teenagers.